Did I miss something? I thought Kyon was asking about dating sites, not tech blogs.
yeah thats what i thought lol
Did I miss something? I thought Kyon was asking about dating sites, not tech blogs.
Just wondering but wouldn't it usually just be the same people over and over again making new accounts at "new" sites?
Trying to find 'that' person?
I have used POF, and only found assholes so I assume the same assholes are on the other sites.
hey gay gaf, I had a question to ask, any help or opinion on what to do would be welcome.
So, I have this "friend" I`ve known for more than a year. We are classmates, he is 8 years younger than me. I`ve sort of had a crush on him. He is really cute, nice and attractive. We had never really been close, but these last few weeks we`ve been texting. He is sort of a dirty minded guy, he likes to talk a lot about sex and stuff but doesn`t necessarily mention girls (every so often he will, but it`s not the focus). I don`t know, most guys here talk like that.
Well, where I live gay is still really taboo and looked down upon. I`m still in the closet. I wanna tell him something, but I don`t know if I should (or what to say even). I don`t wanna say something stupid and be outed. I have some friends who are classmates with him in other courses (courses I`m not taking) that have said they think he is gay. These friends don`t know I`m gay, if they do they hide it well because they are really homophobic
I think he is teasing me!!!! he is driving nuts trying to figure him out.
he even says things that make me think other things like he says, how r u doing boy? thank you boy (it just sounds weird) and stuff like that. and lately he is texting even without an aparent reason. I mean, he usually texts to ask about something.
What do you guys think!!!!?
Yep. I'm sure everybody's had friends who act the same way, so I wouldn't take it as some sort of secret desire on his part. Especially if you're in a place where being openly gay is potentially dangerous, I don't think you should make any advances until you have a great degree of certainty.First, that sucks you live in a closeted environment.
And about that guy... its a bit light on the content (maybe there is more you havent mentioned). But maybe he is just a flirty person? I have known plenty of guys who are straight and talk dirty to me, before AND after they knew I was gay. Some guys just love to tease and are flirty. Doesn't necessarily equal being gay.
His interest in you is something suspect though. I once had a straight guy constantly ask about my sex life in a joking manner before, but it was because he was interested in me (i guess he was curious to experiment). Is he ever asking about you or does the sex talk involve you somehow. The "boy" talk seems kinda harmless and playful, but like I said not enough to go by if hes gay.
Really not much to go on... and like you said its too risky right now to get outed due to your peers being homophobes. So my advice it to keep playing along and see if he goes any further in his interests/hints before deciding whether to confide in him that you are gay or asking him if he is bi/gay/whatever.
First, that sucks you live in a closeted environment.
And about that guy... its a bit light on the content (maybe there is more you havent mentioned). But maybe he is just a flirty person? I have known plenty of guys who are straight and talk dirty to me, before AND after they knew I was gay. Some guys just love to tease and are flirty. Doesn't necessarily equal being gay.
His interest in you is something suspect though. I once had a straight guy constantly ask about my sex life in a joking manner before, but it was because he was interested in me (it was his way of trying to experiment with me, hoping i would ask). Is he ever asking about you or does the sex talk involve you somehow. The "boy" talk seems kinda harmless and playful, but like I said not enough to go by if hes gay.
Really not much to go on... and like you said its too risky right now to get outed due to your peers being homophobes. So my advice it to keep playing along and see if he goes any further in his interests/hints before deciding whether to confide in him that you are gay or asking him if he is bi/gay/whatever.
yeah thats what i thought lol
Yep. I'm sure everybody's had friends who act the same way, so I wouldn't take it as some sort of secret desire on his part. Especially if you're in a place where being openly gay is potentially dangerous, I don't think you should make any advances until you have a great degree of certainty.
My cellphone is in a drawer turned off, so the idea of people texting for hours in general is odd.Yes, thanks for the advice, I guess I`ll just wait to see where things head out.
He is torturing me though cause I really like him and have a have crush (not that I show it openly)
Christ!!! this is driving me nuts. I can`t figure him out.
Don`t you guys find it a bit odd that we text for hours if there`s nothing there?
Just got back from hanging out with Enrique. He's such a sweetheart, he wanted me to stay the night but he was uncomfortable with the fact that his sister might walk in on us awake in bed in the morning. Unlike the trip to San Antonio where we were automatically in the same bed...
I still really enjoy spending time with him and getting to know him. I wanted to stay the night as well, not just for sex but because I enjoy sleeping and cuddling with him as well.
My cellphone is in a drawer turned off, so the idea of people texting for hours in general is odd.
Well I am too fat to go to Provincetown.![]()
I'm gonna just toss this out again and poll y'all about this, since I forgot the responses last time.
Couple dates and hangouts with one guy (nothing intimate beyond a few kisses) = what kind of assumed (unspoken) exclusivity?
I have my own answer for this but I'm curious what everyone else's is. I'm thinking my answer leans in one direction too much and I'm out of touch with what's expected out there.
My cellphone is in a drawer turned off, so the idea of people texting for hours in general is odd.
Well, where I live gay is still really taboo and looked down upon. I`m still in the closet. I wanna tell him something, but I don`t know if I should (or what to say even). I don`t wanna say something stupid and be outed. I have some friends who are classmates with him in other courses (courses I`m not taking) that have said they think he is gay. These friends don`t know I`m gay, if they do they hide it well because they are really homophobic
His head is so tiny compared to the rest of him.
it's hilarious that I only now realised that he was wearing giant weird hands
Yep. Roided up men do nothing for me.
...whoa I just noticed it now that I read your post.
I know I saw this film at one of the LGBT nights back at Uni, but I can't for the life of me remember most of what happens. Colin Farrell is pretty cute in it from what I do remember though. I'll have to give the book a read so, thanks!I'm torn between loving and hating the film and book evenly.
Thanks for these Cupric! My Uni library only has Cold Commands. Looking up some reviews I came upon the following quote:If you're looking for gay protagonists and enjoy fantasy try the Steel Remains and the Cold Commands by Richard K. Morgan. The plot isn't the greatest, but the writing style to be extraordinary.
Also there are explicit sex scenes (both straight and gay). If you like that kind of thing.
Colour me intrigued.The commentary of Morgans books is designed to twist the tenants of epic fantasy back on themselves with a gruesome realism, to deconstruct the wish-fulfillment fantasy common to the genre, and at the same time to critique his own use of brutality and extreme violence as something that should not be read as titillating.
I think you just won Real Pic July.Maybe I'm weird but the huge hands were the first things I noticed...
why'd you have to go thereThe idea of playing on easy and failing is odd to me too.
zing
His profile states that he lives in Costa Rica.If you don't mind me asking, where do you live? It sounds like this school is a pretty hostile environment if you can't find anyone that's an ally.
If you're in the US, starting this should be pretty easy given how Obama brought gay marriage to the forefront of discourse not to long ago.
Has any of you guys been circumcised as an adult?
I've always had this thing that bothered me on my penis. Today the doctor confirmed me that it's a sebaceous cyst, it's under the head and not really too ugly but it still bothers me. He suggested circumcision as the solution. Obviously the thought of someone butchering my foreskin after 26 years terrifies me.
I thought maybe the doctor would be able to remove the cyst without having to remove all my foreskin but maybe it's just the best way to do it. Or maybe I should just leave it as it is?
I just googled "sebaceous cyst" and saw it defined as a "closed sac under the skin filled with a cheese-like or oily material." Cheese-like? That sounds disgusting, and I'd let them circumcise me four times over to get rid of it.Has any of you guys been circumcised as an adult?
I've always had this thing that bothered me on my penis. Today the doctor confirmed me that it's a sebaceous cyst, it's under the head and not really too ugly but it still bothers me. He suggested circumcision as the solution. Obviously the thought of someone butchering my foreskin after 26 years terrifies me.
I thought maybe the doctor would be able to remove the cyst without having to remove all my foreskin but maybe it's just the best way to do it. Or maybe I should just leave it as it is?
I think you just won Real Pic July.![]()
go on. just leave it. probably will turn into something cute.
Where'd you take the picture?But I don't have a historically inaccurate viking hat.![]()
yeah I think I'll just get it done. Next time I go to the doctor I'll ask him if there is a less radical option, he told me to come back in September anyway because he's going on holidays. So it's not like I have to make a decision right now.I just googled "sebaceous cyst" and saw it defined as a "closed sac under the skin filled with a cheese-like or oily material." Cheese-like? That sounds disgusting, and I'd let them circumcise me four times over to get rid of it.
EDIT: Honestly, if the doctor needs to remove your entire foreskin, it sounds bad. If it's just a small bump, it doesn't sound like you have to worry about it, although it could be unpleasant for all parties involved. If it's anything like the results I received when I did a Google Image search for penile sebaceous cyst though, I'd remove it. Some of these things look like tumors.
I didn't even read the part where you said you'd had it for a while. In that case, if it's not bothering anybody else except you, I wouldn't worry about it. I imagine that the surgery's probably not cheap, and if they were able to find a way to remove it without circumcision, it would be purely cosmetic.yeah I think I'll just get it done. Next time I go to the doctor I'll ask him if there is a less radical option, he told me to come back in September anyway because he's going on holidays. So it's not like I have to make a decision right now.
I've seen the google pictures and yes some of them are terrifying. I can assure mine is not too bad, in fact none of my lovers ever said anything about it (though I've only had 2, one of them being my ex-boyfriend of 5 years). That's probably why I didn't have anything done before but now I'm single again and I'm sure people can freak out about weird stuff on other people's penises![]()
Where'd you take the picture?
yeah I think I'll just get it done. Next time I go to the doctor I'll ask him if there is a less radical option, he told me to come back in September anyway because he's going on holidays. So it's not like I have to make a decision right now.
Googled some pictures and it looks beautiful, and I'm now extremely jealous. I was going to say that the town behind you looked nice, but at the size I wasn't sure if they were actually buildings or just rocks.Cinque Terre in Italy. Place was hotter than hell but rather beautiful.
google says:Cinque Terre in Italy. Place was hotter than hell but rather beautiful.
Can they grow? I would google this but I'm not sure I want to see pictures.
Sebaceous cysts are not dangerous and can usually be ignored
If the cyst becomes swollen, tender, or large, your doctor may drain it or perform surgery to remove it.
The cysts may return after they are surgically removed.
Lets be honest. it'll add more to sex. dat bubbly feeling you get.
you're not helping!!!!
I CAN'T DO THAT TO MY PRECIOUS PENIS... and it could get infected and worstJust take a hot clean needle to it. Drain it out on paper. Wear gloves.
I CAN'T DO THAT TO MY PRECIOUS PENIS... and it could get infected and worst
It could become Mara.I CAN'T DO THAT TO MY PRECIOUS PENIS... and it could get infected and worst
Googled some pictures and it looks beautiful, and I'm now extremely jealous. I was going to say that the town behind you looked nice, but at the size I wasn't sure if they were actually buildings or just rocks.
not doing anything about it might do that anyways. LOL ;P just go in. lets go with the myth of getting yourself cut will make it look bigger.
It could become Mara.
Be a man. Get some guy to bite it off.I CAN'T DO THAT TO MY PRECIOUS PENIS... and it could get infected and worst
It could become Mara.
I CAN'T DO THAT TO MY PRECIOUS PENIS... and it could get infected and worst
Be a man. Get some guy to bite it off.
No. Not without proper compensation.Are you offering to him to do it yourself?
I am curious to see what this cyst looks like but there is no way I will be doing it right now since I am at work.
Are you offering to him to do it yourself?
I am curious to see what this cyst looks like but there is no way I will be doing it right now since I am at work.
No. Not without proper compensation.
It looks like a lump under the skin, for lack of a better description. You better Google it as soon as you get home.
Has any of you guys been circumcised as an adult?
I've always had this thing that bothered me on my penis. Today the doctor confirmed me that it's a sebaceous cyst, it's under the head and not really too ugly but it still bothers me. He suggested circumcision as the solution. Obviously the thought of someone butchering my foreskin after 26 years terrifies me.
I thought maybe the doctor would be able to remove the cyst without having to remove all my foreskin but maybe it's just the best way to do it. Or maybe I should just leave it as it is?
Thanks for making me throw up. I was just going to eat too.lunch
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Thanks for making me throw up. I was just going to eat too.![]()
No. Not without proper compensation.
It looks like a lump under the skin, for lack of a better description. You better Google it as soon as you get home.
are you trying to get a picture of my dick?![]()