For about the 6th time this year I am experiencing the cold shoulder after meeting up with a girl from a dating site. It's so annoying, the dates always go great, whoever I meet up with is laughing, smiling, there's never ANY awkward silences or anything like that, just good chat and conversation. It's not that I'm being 'friend-zoned' because they disappear pretty much. I met a girl Friday night and today, for the first time since getting talking to her, we have had no contact at all. I messaged her with no reply back. I'm damned if I'm sending another one, I'm not risking coming over all weird and desperate, so whatever. Ironically, on the date she was actually moaning about guys who this very thing - disappearing after meeting. so anyway, all I can really think it must be is my looks. I'm incredibly paranoid about my appearance being crap. I'm not fat or have anything particularly weird going on, I'm just not naturally good looking. I look like an extra from a zombie set half the time, like a generally unwell vibe going on, its horrible. I've had it all my life, but now I'm in my late 20's, I obviously don't have that natural youthfulness to overcome it.
So here's my question, what is the best strategy when it comes to ugly blokes and dating site pics. Do I carry on with my current method which is use my very best photos, to attract attention in the first place, but then appear to be a bit on the ugly side when we actually meet up.. OR should I use just average pics were I look a bit rough, which would lower my already low chances of getting chatting to girls but at least when we meet it shouldn't put them off that I don't look as good as my pics..?
Realistically even if you were ugly, in theory, they'd probably be kind enough to reply to you / make excuses / so forth. The no reply stuff is just being nasty, and it's a personality fault of them... So I'm inclined to believe it's not your looks that's causing that particular problem. I've met a lot of girls that weren't really interested but they at least communicated that in one way or another (usually in a shitty, indirect way, but whatever).
I'd say use the best possible pictures and then work on your personality (humor, charm, wit, whatever) and win them over with that. Picture in your mind a rather ugly dude, to make it easy don't even picture yourself, even if you are ugly, but picture that dude and imagine he's the biggest charmer in the world. Imagine he's some french dude with a huge nose, or some really funny fat guy, whatever. He will win those girls over because of his personality. That's how you do it.
Everyone needs a last ditch contingency. If I can't land a girlfriend in the next 4 years I'm going to learn Chinese and move to China. Will be set then.
I have no friends that like to go on the dating scene. I have only two friends, one lives in Missisippi, the other I think is asexual or something. He has no interest in dating.
I'm not comfortable going to bars or clubs alone...
Yeah, even my one single super local male friend doesn't ever want to hit bars or do anything cool. Bars I can do alone, and hey I have a 100% pickup ratio (1/1 times I've ever gone to a bar by myself) but I hate alcohol. Clubs alone? Ugh.
Anyways, as for myself, have another first date set Monday. Still unsure when I should talk to that girl that broke up about 'should we date?' thanks a lot there NeoGAF (sarcastic anger full of undeserved spite, sorry).
Does anyone have any ideas for meeting just lots of Asian chicks that aren't old? I'm literally thinking of just hanging around an Asian market for bullshittish reasons (OK, I could think of valid reasons), moving into a more Asian populated area, all sorts of BS. At this point I feel it's a straight numbers game, and dating site populations are sparser than I'd like. I see more Asian girls outdoors on the typical day than are listed in a 25 mile radius on dating sites.
I don't know if it's that I instinctively turn on my charm with Asian girls or what but my ratio of success with them is way higher than with other races and since Asians are what I want, it works out. It's just a matter of supply.
But she led them over to me and she clawed my chest right through the tshirt (my precious planeflyingintosunset.jpg shirt), actually trying to get three guys to grind her at the same time :lol That's just fucked up. Her now two female friends actually went up and hit my arm several times, almost looking angry over the fact that I wasn't chasing their friend like everybody else... NO thank you, ladies :lol
I was sort of interested at first but it dropped pretty fast when she started toying with my friend. And she absolutely killed it when the real skank behavior came out. Somehow I think she was going for the opposite effect :lol
