Girl-Age assemble: she dumped me, then baked me a pie, but then dumped me again...

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I don't know why, but I've had three people email me in the last week or two asking me how this thread of mine turned out. Figured I'd give it a small update just for completionist's sake.

The short version is this: all the GAF'ers in here who told me to distance myself from her, stop talking to her, and move on were 100% spot on correct.

As soon as I did that (and meant it) I met someone new who I've now been with for the past year and a half. And I'm happier than ever. Things are fucking great actually. Ironically enough, I am still friends with my ex who this thread is about. Even my new gf gets along with her. But that only happened after some time, and in order to get there I had to walk away and ignore her first.

Looking back over this thread now, two years later, and seeing the things I posted, it makes me laugh out loud. I acted so pathetic! It's true, as a man you sometimes just simply need to stand up for yourself and hold your head high no matter how hurt you are. Make you own self respect and happiness a priority, and walk away from people who treat you wrongly. If they care about you they will come back in some fashion down the road. If not, to hell with them.

Oh, and the new Harley now has over 20,000 miles on it and has been coast to coast. So glad I took that ring back, LOL!

All dating age threads need 2 years later updates
 
I don't know why, but I've had three people email me in the last week or two asking me how this thread of mine turned out. Figured I'd give it a small update just for completionist's sake.

The short version is this: all the GAF'ers in here who told me to distance myself from her, stop talking to her, and move on were 100% spot on correct.

As soon as I did that (and meant it) I met someone new who I've now been with for the past year and a half. And I'm happier than ever. Things are fucking great actually. Ironically enough, I am still friends with my ex who this thread is about. Even my new gf gets along with her. But that only happened after some time, and in order to get there I had to walk away and ignore her first.

Looking back over this thread now, two years later, and seeing the things I posted, it makes me laugh out loud. I acted so pathetic! It's true, as a man you sometimes just simply need to stand up for yourself and hold your head high no matter how hurt you are. Make you own self respect and happiness a priority, and walk away from people who treat you wrongly. If they care about you they will come back in some fashion down the road. If not, to hell with them.

Oh, and the new Harley now has over 20,000 miles on it and has been coast to coast. So glad I took that ring back, LOL!

Good on you Mengy, I don't even like -remembering- the shit I've said 2 years ago, reading it back would make me cringe so hard.
 
how did i miss this thread?

and how the fuck was that pie not apple? oh..wait..apple means forever. Raspberry Rhubarb simply denotes effort and care, it isn't comforting like apple pie would be.

I dunno man. Seems like you could change her mind, but should you? "If we were supposed to marry it would have already happened by now." Seems like she wants to move on and see if she can get something better. You could fight for your place, but honestly, I'd probably be a bit insulted. If I loved her, and she wanted to put me on the shelf so she could try and find a better man to be in her life and the life of her child, PLUS she still wanted me to be around, which wouldn't be so bad, except for her kind of totally disregarding the possibility of me having a life of my own...since she would probably expect me to be there when she called like I was before, except we're not like we were before, etc...

Plus people who feel like you need to 'fight' in your relationship as a sign that you still 'care' annoy me. She thinks she can do better? Let her. You go do better. Go. DO. BETTER./rage

edit: oh..why didn't I look at the date/year?
 
op have you become alpha than ever?

I'll tell you what, I learned a lot from the whole ordeal. And yeah, I'm much more confident and sure of myself now than I was two years ago.

Love can do strange things to a man, but the worst is that it makes us forget how to act like a man. It's really not the end of the world when a woman dumps us, it's just change. Life goes on, there are still places to go, things to do. It's both humbling and enlightening to realize that you don't need that woman to complete your life, you should complete your life on your own whether you are with someone or not. Sometimes it's just nice to have someone along for the ride, but it should never be mandatory.

And, when you are happy in life on your own, standing tall and strong despite the world, that's when you truly have something incredible to offer a woman.

Great relationships don't blossom out of a need for someone, they bloom out of a desire to share a good life with someone else.

Since you are friends with her, has she baked you and your girlfriend any more pie?

No, but I did get her to teach my new gf how to make her baked tofu dish that I love so much. LOL!
 
I'll tell you what, I learned a lot from the whole ordeal. And yeah, I'm much more confident and sure of myself now than I was two years ago.

Love can do strange things to a man, but the worst is that it makes us forget how to act like a man. It's really not the end of the world when a woman dumps us, it's just change. Life goes on, there are still places to go, things to do. It's both humbling and enlightening to realize that you don't need that woman to complete your life, you should complete your life on your own whether you are with someone or not. Sometimes it's just nice to have someone along for the ride, but it should never be mandatory.

And, when you are happy in life on your own, standing tall and strong despite the world, that's when you truly have something incredible to offer a woman.

Great relationships don't blossom out of a need for someone, they bloom out of a desire to share a good life with someone else.

Well shit, I'll be forever alone then.
 
Great relationships don't blossom out of a need for someone, they bloom out of a desire to share a good life with someone else.

No, but I did get her to teach my new gf how to make her baked tofu dish that I love so much. LOL!

1) Great line, will probably quote it in the future (fuck, there's someone in Dating-Age who needs it right now)
2) Best of both worlds - that's how you win, folks.
 
Well shit, I'll be forever alone then.

Don't have that attitude. In fact, don't even care about whether or not you are alone forever.

Are you happy with yourself right now, with who you are and what your life is? If not, work to improve and change that. You need to have priorities in your life, and "having a girlfriend" should not be your top priority, ever. Hold yourself in higher regard than that.

At least, that's IMHO.
 
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