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TheSeks said:
Because it costs other people like $150/yr and you get to go for free. I'm sure you'll probably waste it
just like the people that pay $150/yr
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$150/yr? Pff. Try $40 per month or $400 per year, because that's the price for a gym membership here. D:
 
Mystic Theurge said:
Absolutely

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I could watch this gif all day.
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So that's who that was. Yea he is attractive and he probably knows it.
 
Mr_Zombie said:
May I ask why are you turning them down?
And don't be afraid of calling them. I can understand that you might feel uncomfortable letting them down, but if you have a valid reason, then you should just do it. Just be polite and try to explain yourself, so you won't burn your bridges behind you.
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I wasn't really too excited about the job to begin with. I've been freelancing (I'm a graphic designer) for about a year after being burned out at an agency.
They called me because a friend quit, so she contacted me. I initially told her that I couldn't do it because I'm in the middle of a big project right now (working on the Miss Venezuela pageant) but they kind of insisted so I politely agreed to go and talk to the boss.

So they told me they could wait for me until I finished this project near the end of the month. The pay seems to be "OK" so I just thought "what the hell, let's give it a try. Worst thing, if I don't like it I'll just quit" and I agreed.

As a freelance designer I've worked sporadically with a girl from the USA for about a year. She had mentioned to me that she'd like for me to move there and work with her in the future. She also mentioned a project in September but I just didn't fully believe her until now. She contacted me a few days ago and told me she wants me to go and work in this project with her, in September. I think it will be for a month or so (that's what she told me a while ago).

I live in Venezuela and have wanted to leave this shithole for a while. So even if this is not really a permanent offer, I'd like to go and continue to develop this work relationship that could open some doors in the future and lead to finding a permanent job.

Again, I wasn't really looking for a job here, I just kind of agreed because I didn't think I'll be doing anything important after finishing my work for the Miss Venezuela. But there's no way I'd put a (probably) crappy job here to traveling and trying new things. I think they'll understand, this is kind of a big opportunity for me.
 
Sagitario said:
So, if I get this straight (pun intended):

You never had homosexual feelings or thoughts until you started playing and having conversations with <redacted>, who is a gay or bi gaffer.
In those sessions, he compliments you, he speaks sweet to you... and you like it.

Is all that correct?
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No. I think I've had these feelings before now. It's always been appreciating attractive men from a distance but not going any further. Feelings lead to fantasies, etc.

It just took being braver and admitting that I cared for him very much, something that I hadn't done before. Plus we had interesting talks on interesting subjects prior, mainly in fetish/bdsm.

Sagitario said:
If I may... how old are you?
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23.

Sagitario said:
Are you confused about your sexuality (which is perfectly normal, btw) or are you sure you are bi? Is all this because of <redacted>?

Some people require a trigger for waking up those thoughts/feelings consciously (consciously being the key word here).
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No. I am fluid in my sexuality and have been for a long time. After friendzonings at uni I had given up in actively seeking love, now letting it happen naturally I found him and that's who I love. Had to be someone good for that, eh?

Sagitario said:
Do you consciously see yourself in a relationship beyond friendship with <redacted> or any other person of the same sex? You know... beyond the bromance.
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Oh absolutely. Just need a green card - and even now I care that much. How else am I gonna tie him up? :D
 
victormartin said:
I wasn't really too excited about the job to begin with. I've been freelancing (I'm a graphic designer) for about a year after being burned out at an agency.
They called me because a friend quit, so she contacted me. I initially told her that I couldn't do it because I'm in the middle of a big project right now (working on the Miss Venezuela pageant) but they kind of insisted so I politely agreed to go and talk to the boss.

So they told me they could wait for me until I finished this project near the end of the month. The pay seems to be "OK" so I just thought "what the hell, let's give it a try. Worst thing, if I don't like it I'll just quit" and I agreed.

As a freelance designer I've worked sporadically with a girl from the USA for about a year. She had mentioned to me that she'd like for me to move there and work with her in the future. She also mentioned a project in September but I just didn't fully believe her until now. She contacted me a few days ago and told me she wants me to go and work in this project with her, in September. I think it will be for a month or so (that's what she told me a while ago).

I live in Venezuela and have wanted to leave this shithole for a while. So even if this is not really a permanent offer, I'd like to go and continue to develop this work relationship that could open some doors in the future and lead to finding a permanent job.

Again, I wasn't really looking for a job here, I just kind of agreed because I didn't think I'll be doing anything important after finishing my work for the Miss Venezuela. But there's no way I'd put a (probably) crappy job here to traveling and trying new things. I think they'll understand, this is kind of a big opportunity for me.
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Then you should definitely go for it. Your career and dreams are more important. And they will have to understand that (it's a better offer after all).

At least you will give them time to find someone else. A friend of mine, on his first day in a new company, received a message from Google that they want to hire him. He didn't even blinked an eye and simply said goodbye ;). A slightly dickish move, but you can't blame him - it's Google.
 
DMPrince said:
pfft. just go to a local park / kids playground and use those to exercise. lulz.
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I'm doing that when there's a good weather ;)

Near where I live there's a park with running paths, horizontal bars, dip bars, benches for crunches, benches you can jump/step on, logs that you can leap over etc. It's perfect for body weight trainings.
 
Songbird said:
No. I think I've had these feelings before now. It's always been appreciating attractive men from a distance but not going any further. Feelings lead to fantasies, etc.
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No. I am fluid in my sexuality and have been for a long time. After friendzonings at uni I had given up in actively seeking love, now letting it happen naturally I found him and that's who I love. Had to be someone good for that, eh?
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So, you have been fluid for a long time... the "just realized" comment threw me off.
But now you are talking about love and fetishes and BDSM. If that doesn't say "romantic", I don't know what does...

Mr_Zombie said:
... He didn't even blinked an eye and simply said goodbye ;). A slightly dickish move, but you can't blame him - it's Google.
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Freaking Google making people look like dicks!
 
I need a new haircut/style. I've been sporting this Man Men, '50's style slick back for about a year. But I have no idea what to do with my hair now.

Suggestions?
 
I think I need to come out. Things like the Chik-Fil-A issue are just bringing out the worst in my friends and I'd rather just be able to let it out and tell whoever cares to go fuck themselves. Problem is I'm very afraid and I'm pretty sure my parents aren't going to take it well at all. Everytime they come to see me in the city they talk about "the gays" and how gross they are.

Ugh...
 
sruckus said:
I think I need to come out. Things like the Chik-Fil-A issue are just bringing out the worst in my friends and I'd rather just be able to let it out and tell whoever cares to go fuck themselves. Problem is I'm very afraid and I'm pretty sure my parents aren't going to take it well at all. Everytime they come to see me in the city they talk about "the gays" and how gross they are.

Ugh...
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Shitty dude. Where do you live?

Do you think their opinions might change if they know someone gay (you)?
 
SpaceBridge said:
I need a new haircut/style. I've been sporting this Man Men, '50's style slick back for about a year. But I have no idea what to do with my hair now.

Suggestions?
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You look really good with it, though.

I would say 'shave it', but only because that's what I want to do with mine :P
 
RoadieTMA said:
Shitty dude. Where do you live?

Do you think their opinions might change if they know someone gay (you)?
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Midwest. Hometown is more rural, I am in a big university city now. I'm the oldest and my siblings call me the favorite child so who knows. They used to be crazy conservative (socially...could care less about politics except "voting for the christian"), but have leveled out after my sisters had so much premarital sex and other teen angst stuff. And my other sister is pregnant from a druggie haha. But still, sadly, me being gay might still be something they probably would consider worse.

I could just start with friends and everyone else I suppose, but I'm pretty sure it would probably get back to them.
 
sruckus said:
Midwest. Hometown is more rural, I am in a big university city now. I'm the oldest and my siblings call me the favorite child so who knows. They used to be crazy conservative (socially...could care less about politics except "voting for the christian"), but have leveled out after my sisters had so much premarital sex and other teen angst stuff. And my other sister is pregnant from a druggie haha. But still, sadly, me being gay might still be something they probably would consider worse.

I could just start with friends and everyone else I suppose, but I'm pretty sure it would probably get back to them.
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Ugh, politics and religion is never a good mix. And especially when the only politics they care about is social issues. Important stuff that doesnt affect them.

Ya maybe just start out with some people/friends who might react 'OK'.

I've never really dealt with anyone who reacted negatively but I can understand where you're coming from if keeping it to yourself is eating you up inside when the world & people around you are being total fucktards for no reason. Its great and liberating to not give a fuck what people think and to be completely open.
 
RoadieTMA said:
I've never really dealt with anyone who reacted negatively but I can understand where you're coming from if keeping it to yourself is eating you up inside when the world & people around you are being total fucktards for no reason. Its great and liberating to not give a fuck what people think and to be completely open.
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Eh I have told a couple close friends, but none of my guy friends, the hard part. The way my one friend took it was she pretty much was trying to get me to come out and admit I was gay for like a year...always thinking I was and acting like I am so transparent. I think she's a bit crazy because I'm almost positive if I came out at work people would be surprised for some reason. Not that i'm trying to hide anything at work, but I don't want to be that guy who acts like me being gay is something special and everyone must know...I just want it to sort of come out naturally in conversation or whatever...no lies.
 
sruckus said:
Midwest. Hometown is more rural, I am in a big university city now. I'm the oldest and my siblings call me the favorite child so who knows. They used to be crazy conservative (socially...could care less about politics except "voting for the christian"), but have leveled out after my sisters had so much premarital sex and other teen angst stuff. And my other sister is pregnant from a druggie haha. But still, sadly, me being gay might still be something they probably would consider worse.

I could just start with friends and everyone else I suppose, but I'm pretty sure it would probably get back to them.
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College cities are generally more liberal and accepting than not. Also maybe your university has a gay group and that would allow you to make friends or even a boyfriend. How do you think your friends would take it?
 
Most of my friends are back home in the rural area. Always had a real hard time making friends here. Shy at first so don't approach people, only see them for a class or two. I wasted four years of college life, but that's another story.
 
SpaceBridge said:
I need a new haircut/style. I've been sporting this Man Men, '50's style slick back for about a year. But I have no idea what to do with my hair now.

Suggestions?
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Nothing. You need to make me Curry and have some Beer ready for a shotgun wedding. :( Because you look good with that hair. :|
 
SpaceBridge said:
I dont think Id shave it. Would prefer short though, for sure.

Here's two pics for reference to what I have now.

http://i828.photobucket.com/albums/zz209/TransformersHater/c1c4103c.jpg

http://i828.photobucket.com/albums/zz209/TransformersHater/557f217b.jpg
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I honestly think you look good with it and you shouldn't touch it. If anything, perhaps shorter on top... but that's it (maybe just comb it a little different).

With how short you have it on the sides right now (seems like a buzz cut?), the next thing from what you have would be something faux/mohawk-ish, but I won't vote for that.
 
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