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Yeah well, you should fucking know what it's like. To be sleeping with someone one month, and be in jail from her and her parents the next.

No man. I don't think anyone here can walk a mile in those shoes.

How old are you Igby? Because, maybe some years under the belt can change your out look on love.

You aren't amassing a fortune and planning to return as a count, are you?

Wasn't sentenced, remember?
 
I should have never been arrested in the first place. I understand that because i was in the damn system I had nothing better to get.

But it was bullshit from start to finish. And no body could see who she was to me. Nobody knows how she was a psycho, and how I was in love with her anyway.

It was not warranted. I myself know ethically, I didn't commit a felony. Just writing in a law book says I did.

I know who she was, I didn't know what she'd say though. I know her parents would have made her life worse if she ended up helping me and they found out.

I'm not here for sympathy i'm here to write, and be heard. The law had no right, to get in-between me and her.

Pro-tip: if a woman ever asks you to stop contacting her, stop contacting her. Period. And don't ever think you are above the law, because you will lose. Learn to abide by the laws of the land you live in or suffer the consequences. What you did was foolish and I hope you learn from it and never repeat your mistakes again.

Because the next time you might not get off so easily.

But you've already emailed her since being deported, so I still don't think you understand a damn thing. That's a shame.
 
Igby, you're 23?

Man, you got lots of time.

Just take it easy, listen to Bob Marely's 3 Birds, and just enjoy non-incarcerated life.
 
Let's just clear one thing up, you were not deported because of "who you choose to fall in love with" you were deported because you committed a series of acts that is considered a felony in the country you were in at that time. Love is not to blame here, your own actions are.
 
I never threatened her, I never shouted at her, I never hurt her.

I didn't leave her alone, and she called the authorities and made up some stories. I put my faith in a lawyer, who than plead guilty not in my best interest.

The police lied about evidence, my while life I suddenly became a subject.

I'm a beat poet now, I wasn't before. It just happens to you.

Supposedly it's against the law to write unwanted emails. It's "stalking", I was hurt. I wanted to stay and not lose her because I loved her.

She gets me banned from school by telling the security there she fears for her "safety", which was complete bullshit because a month before we were still sleeping together. I was dating a very stupid bitch. Who thought it was ok to lie to hurt me.

On the phone, I dared her to call the police. Because I knew i didn't do anything criminal. They came to my house that night, saw my phone, saw that she tried to call me, heard my side of the story, they left asking me only not to waste their time. Next day, I get a call from a family detective, saying I should come in to a station for questioning. They arrested me there, with all my school supplies, And once you're in a system like that you never get out. The police threatened while I was in jail. Saying if i beat this case they'll break my jaw or plant drugs me.
as if I was going to murder her or something. When the last time we saw each other and had a fight, she hit me, punching me. She said stuff like "I can get you deported" "I will break you" , she had motive and used the law against me.


I'm in vienna, austria now. But they deported me to my home country in Uruguay. When you're found guilty of something you lose your student visa.

And guess what. If you don't have family or can't contact your real friends to get bail and assurity(someone to be with you 24/7) You're left in jail awaiting the day they buy your ticket out.
FYI you can get banned for stuff like that. I did when referring to a friend who dicked me around. Might want to edit that and anything else like it. Use 'not a nice person' instead.
 
Yeah well, you should fucking know what it's like. To be sleeping with someone one month, and be in jail from her and her parents the next.

And yet you conveniently forget that there was a month in which you knowingly harassed her and dared her to call the cops on you for doing so.
 
Honestly after hearing more and more of this story and finding more and more about the personality of this topic creator. Canada effed up.

They should have kept his ass in prison way longer and send him to a psych ward cause letting this creep loose into the world is dangerous.

After all this time for a short relationship. He's still doesn't even understand what he did was wrong. He understands what he did but he refuse to think it was wrong. He seriously doesn't know right from wrong.

He's literally the perfect persona of one of those fictional characters who kidnaps his ex-gf and keeps her locked in a basement with him so he could continue "loving" her.
 
And yet you conveniently forget that there was a month in which you knowingly harassed her and dared her to call the cops on you for doing so.

That was my mistake. Now was it fair, that I got my life and my visa robbed because of that.

I'm not going to describe my relationship. We met on campus, we knew off each other before. She was in a really dark place before she met me. I decided, lets wait a month before we start to have sex. We used to be on the phone for hours. We would talk about marriage often. How if we would make it year, we really should. And I did this to show her mother at the time that I wasn't just with her, to try get a canadian citizenship.

I don't want to talk about her. She's so gone, i'll never see her again. She ruined my life, for being angry at me, for her parents threatening to kick her out of the house because of me. I'm not making up the love we had for each other. It wasn't a healthy relationship, but she was mine, and she was perfect me, and we were so happy with one another. All I have is photos of her smiling. her posing for me. I don't look at them anymore. I even showed them to the police when they arrested me.

I was not some felon. I was a guy in a complicated relationship. And break ups happen, but people also get back together. That option taken from me, for my mistake of daring her.
 
What are you doing in Vienna? I doubt you're there legally?

Why would you say that? I'm here legally living with my dad.

Is it fair that after someone tells you stop bothering them that you send them 15 emails?



Really? I believe this thread shows otherwise.

In this thread I talked about me, and what happend to me.

And i'm not the first guy to fall in love with a stupid b#&##*. I won't be the last.
 
That was my mistake. Now was it fair, that I got my life and my visa robbed because of that.

I'm not going to describe my relationship. We met on campus, we knew off each other before. She was in a really dark place before she met me. I decided, lets wait a month before we start to have sex. We used to be on the phone for hours. We would talk about marriage often. How if we would make it year, we really should. And I did this to show her mother at the time that I wasn't just with her, to try get a canadian citizenship.

I don't want to talk about her. She's so gone, i'll never see her again. She ruined my life, for being angry at me, for her parents threatening to kick her out of the house because of me. I'm not making up the love we had for each other. It wasn't a healthy relationship, but she was mine, and she was perfect me, and we were so happy with one another. All I have is photos of her smiling. her posing for me. I don't look at them anymore. I even showed them to the police when they arrested me.

I was not some felon. I was a guy in a complicated relationship. And break ups happen, but people also get back together. That option taken from me, for my mistake of daring her.

Uh, yeah? That's what happens when you harass someone.
 
That was my mistake. Now was it fair, that I got my life and my visa robbed because of that.

I'm not going to describe my relationship. We met on campus, we knew off each other before. She was in a really dark place before she met me. I decided, lets wait a month before we start to have sex. We used to be on the phone for hours. We would talk about marriage often. How if we would make it year, we really should. And I did this to show her mother at the time that I wasn't just with her, to try get a canadian citizenship.

I don't want to talk about her. She's so gone, i'll never see her again. She ruined my life, for being angry at me, for her parents threatening to kick her out of the house because of me. I'm not making up the love we had for each other. It wasn't a healthy relationship, but she was mine, and she was perfect me, and we were so happy with one another. All I have is photos of her smiling. her posing for me. I don't look at them anymore. I even showed them to the police when they arrested me.

I was not some felon. I was a guy in a complicated relationship. And break ups happen, but people also get back together. That option taken from me, for my mistake of daring her.

She didn't ruin your life buddy you did by being a creep and unless you get over yourself I imagine the next time you turn into a creep with some girl it won't end well for you.
 
Why would you say that? I'm here legally living with my dad.



In this thread I talked about me, and what happend to me.

And i'm not the first guy to fall in love with a stupid b#&##*. I won't be the last.
and if you don't understand what you did wrong, this won't be your last one either
 
Why are you people enabling this clearly disturbed person? It borders on abuse.

who's enabling?


I don't want to talk about her. She's so gone, i'll never see her again. She ruined my life, for being angry at me, for her parents threatening to kick her out of the house because of me. I'm not making up the love we had for each other. It wasn't a healthy relationship, but she was mine, and she was perfect me, and we were so happy with one another. All I have is photos of her smiling. her posing for me. I don't look at them anymore. I even showed them to the police when they arrested me.

then why did you create this thread? i think you're just sad no one is agreeing with you.

Anyone else read: I Know You Really Love Me: A Psychiatrist's Account of Stalking and Obsessive Love? there's a few, uh, parallels.
 
So you don't think harassment should be a punishable offense? I mean you yourself said in this thread you harassed her for a month.

I don't. Not in my case. Not when people used to have sex with each other. It's a domestic issue between the partners. Especially when they're this young.
 
I don't. Not in my case. Not when people used to have sex with each other. It's a domestic issue between the partners. Especially when they're this young.

You're a nut job. Alternatively, you're as mad as a box of turtles.

I love the thread though, really entertaining read.
 
I don't. Not in my case. Not when people used to have sex with each other. It's a domestic issue between the partners. Especially when they're this young.

Having sex with a girl is not your free pass to do what you want in order to have a relationship wit someone. Neither is bein young a free pass to do whatever you please.
 
I don't. Not in my case. Not when people used to have sex with each other. It's a domestic issue between the partners. Especially when they're this young.

Game-changer. We need new laws. Feel free to harass someone as much as you want as long as you've had sex with them at some point in the past. If you're young, ratchet that harassment up a few notches while you're at it.
 
I don't. Not in my case. Not when people used to have sex with each other. It's a domestic issue between the partners. Especially when they're this young.

And this is where you are wrong. You need to re-examine what you believe there, because it is flat out wrong.
 
I don't. Not in my case. Not when people used to have sex with each other. It's a domestic issue between the partners. Especially when they're this young.

Dude, you are seriously destroying whatever little bit of sympathy people have for you.
That, right there, is crazy talk.

That's pretty much how abusive relationships starts, that girl is lucky she managed to get you deported.

It wasn't a healthy relationship, but she was mine,

Dude.
 
Game-changer. We need new laws. Feel free to harass someone as much as you want as long as you've had sex with them at some point in the past. If you're young, ratchet that harassment up a few notches while you're at it.

Who's to say I couldn't have fix things eventually. Who's to say should wouldn't have forgiven me naturally ?
 
Dude, you are seriously destroying whatever little bit of sympathy people have for you.
That, right there, is crazy talk.

That's pretty much how abusive relationships starts, that girl is lucky she managed to get you deported.

I didn't threatened her, I didn't shout her, I didn't do anything but write to much. and be hey. I'm not giving up on us. I'm not going anywhere because you want me too.
 
Who's to say I couldn't have fix things eventually. Who's to say should wouldn't have forgiven me naturally ?

Substitute other situations for yours and see if they still make any sense to you.

"I drunkenly ran this guy over, but I'm pretty sure his leg is going to heal without me going to jail"

"Yeah I stole money, but I was probably going to pay it back"

etc

I didn't threatened her, I didn't shout her, I didn't do anything but write to much. and be hey. I'm not giving up on us. I'm not going anywhere because you want me too.

Oh shit.
 
Who's to say I couldn't have fix things eventually. Who's to say should wouldn't have forgiven me naturally ?

Its not uncommon for two people to break up and get back together. But given that you were convicted and deported for harassment, I don't think a second go around was ever in the cards for you two.
 
OP, you dated another girl since. Do you plan on telling 'your womyn' about this? Beause believe it or not, it's not just her actions which can influece a relationship.
 
"the law will not interfere with my love!!" lololol. sounds like some psycho shit. sorry op. good luck man. lessons learned..
 
I didn't threatened her, I didn't shout her, I didn't do anything but write to much. and be hey. I'm not giving up on us. I'm not going anywhere because you want me too.

To be fair, Igby, the Canadians did and it worked out for them.
 
Who's to say I couldn't have fix things eventually. Who's to say should wouldn't have forgiven me naturally ?

A woman does not require your permission to dump you. She is not required to keep entertaining your psychosis until you are satisfied. When someone says "leave me alone or I will call the authorities" best to listen.
 
I didn't threatened her, I didn't shout her, I didn't do anything but write to much. and be hey. I'm not giving up on us. I'm not going anywhere because you want me too.

But she didn't want you. She was and is still being nice to you by meeting you in person and responding to your emails even after you were deported.

The fact is, she didn't want you back and if she ever did, you made her realize that you're too fucked up to even try. You need to work on yourself before you analyze anyone else.
 
I didn't threatened her, I didn't shout her, I didn't do anything but write to much. and be hey. I'm not giving up on us. I'm not going anywhere because you want me too.

But look at this from her perspective. Please answer this, just for my curiosity:

What could she have done to stop those emails? Was there anything that she could have done to prevent you emailing her any further?
 
I didn't threatened her, I didn't shout her, I didn't do anything but write to much. and be hey. I'm not giving up on us. I'm not going anywhere because you want me too.

You think she was just testing you huh? That maybe she was just doing this because she wanted to see how much you loved her and everything got a bit out of hand. Now you've been deported and have to find more creative means to try and return to her loving embrace. It's all very romantic isn't it? Shakespearean even.

Except none of that is true. You're a dangerous human being.

She's exceptionally lucky that you are an ocean away from her and cannot ever get back into Canada.

But please, tell us more about how it isn't over.
 
But look at this from her perspective. Please answer this, just for my curiosity:

What could she have done to stop those emails? Was there anything that she could have done to prevent you emailing her any further?

She could have told me what was going on. She could have told me it upset her. She could have stayed with me, and not lied messing with my head.
 
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