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SirIgbyCeaser
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It's over. It was romantic once. Now i'm damaged because of it. But it's my story damn it.
I had a whole other life. And yeah I do think she was testing me. The way she dressed, the tests i've had before with her.
Assuming that this isn't just an elaborate troll (I think we're being Denko'd, personally), I'd say she probably knows. She most likely receives loving missives a few hundred times a day.
Whoa whoa whoa. So you're still not over her even though she's over you?
You are in the wrong. When she said to stop contacting you the relationship was OVER. Maybe you thought it wasn't in your mind, but to her it was OVER. You kept harassing her thinking that you were together but you weren't. It was harassment plain and simple. Accept it and move on. You are sounding creepy to me and this is over the damn internet.
Are you contending that even after breaking up she never told you to go away or stop calling or emailing her? That you were suddenly arrested one day without any suspicion as to why?
Moral Panic
Member
I don't know why everyone is beating on this guy so hard. I still have sympathy, if the things he is saying are true.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
She already deported me. I'm not in the country. I don't write her anymore. I'm just suffering for what she did to me.
You guys read my writing, call me creep. Call my psycho.
I'm telling my story. And i'm human. Not some subject.
Hydranockz
Member
This is like every 'dangerous' thread topic on Gaf rolling into one..
Mengy
wishes it were bannable to say mean things about Marvel
It takes two to fix a busted relationship. Two. You can't do it yourself, you can't force it, and when she asked you to stop contacting her you should have stopped contacting her and let her come back to you. If she wanted to. But most times they don't, and you simply have to let go and move on. That's life, that's love, that's relationships.
Change is the only real constant in life. Learn to embrace it instead of fight against it.
Now it's time for you to let her go. Cut off all contact, ALL contact. If she emails you, ignore it. If she calls you, hang up. She deported you for God's sake, go your own way and never, EVER, have anything to do with her again.
Oh, and seek some therapy. You have some serious social problems there, and if you don't change your ways this will not be your last brush with the law or angry women.
Yep, you should be locked up and evaluated.
I'm so glad you're a part of this message board.
ChiTownBuffalo
Either I made up lies about the Boston Bomber or I fell for someone else's crap. Either way, I have absolutely no credibility and you should never pay any attention to anything I say, no matter what the context. Perm me if I claim to be an insider
If you didn't go willingly, it would have ended up much worse.
SquiddyCracker
Banned
You're a human, but also a stalker that doesn't respect personal space.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
The night before the police visited me in my home. Saw the phone call she tried to make to me. I told them, she asked me to leave so I left. That was the truth.
It was civil. Things wouldn't have been worse. I would have left her alone until she contacted me again.
Because yeah I know to slow it down, once the police gets to your house. That's a warning.
But i didn't get to continue living with a warning. They gave her a chance to make a testimony against me. And a lot of it wasn't true. I stopped loving her that second. I did. I wanted me life back. I wanted to go home.
Instead they treated me like shit, and she got away with some unfair shit.
You already said that she said for you to stop contacting her, yet you continued to for a month. That's ample warning and you didn't heed it. In fact, you dared her to call the cops for harassing her so much. I don't know how you don't see the error in your ways.
A guy showed up on 2chan (a Japanese text forum ala 4chan, but sans images) and talked about his "girlfriend" and how she was sending him mixed signals. It very quickly became apparent that she was sending very clear signals for him to get lost. He...he didn't get lost. The girl was nicknamed "Denko".
http://vgperson.tumblr.com/post/21533650696/help-the-girl-i-like-wont-respond-to-my-emails
She asked you to leave but did she want you there in the first place, especially after you had been harassing her for a month after she didn't want contact from you? How long did it take before you left? Think about what you did rationally man. Please. Before you do something like this again thinking that it's completely justifiable and in no way wrong.
NinjaBoiX
Member
It's not because you loved her, that's perfectly natural. It's that you "aren't giving up on her". For your sake, her sake, and our sake, you've got to let it go man. I really don't think it's going to happen. I mean, the law, her apparently strict parents and the whole situation at large would suggest so.
nVidiot_Whore
Banned
Pro tip: When gathering evidence in a domestic dispute case the Police will very often act nonchalant, which gets you to supply them with all the evidence they need.
Hey no big deal, just let them look at your phone, right?
If you are in an argument with someone, and it causes the Police to get called.. be very careful what you say and do.
And no, I've never been involved in anything like that myself.. but I know people who have, and it's a general rule of thumb: Be extremely careful talking to the Police.. even if you think you are the victim of something, it's not their goal to do anything but gather evidence and treat every single person they talk to like a potential arrest.
However, OP sounds.. off.. so not really advice for him.. pro tip for you OP: spill your guys to the Police every time they question you. For the good of the rest of us.
Hey no big deal, just let them look at your phone, right?
If you are in an argument with someone, and it causes the Police to get called.. be very careful what you say and do.
And no, I've never been involved in anything like that myself.. but I know people who have, and it's a general rule of thumb: Be extremely careful talking to the Police.. even if you think you are the victim of something, it's not their goal to do anything but gather evidence and treat every single person they talk to like a potential arrest.
However, OP sounds.. off.. so not really advice for him.. pro tip for you OP: spill your guys to the Police every time they question you. For the good of the rest of us.
Featheredkitten
Banned
uh oh. Here we go.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
It should be stressed, she was never in any fucking danger. And never will be from me.
I know i'm leaving myself entirely to be criticised and misjudged. Calling me a creep and stalker.
But I know ethically, I didn't deserve this. And I know from 4 months, of day to day with her. That she did what she did, in rage on me and use me as a scapegoat. From how her family treated her. For how things went down between her and I.
And I hate her a lot. But I still wouldn't hurt at all.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
2 weeks after the break up, I get a text from her asking if i'm school.
She dressed up as if we were going to prom. She didn't speak. She just never looked so pretty to meet me.
And I was depressed and I wanted distance from her. I should have said I loved her than. Because that seemed like a chance to get back together. And I think what she wanted was intimacy and for me to tell her how beautiful she is to me.
Instead I kinda bullied her that day. I got issues, but she did too. Now I have worse. She was a psycho. Complicated. Compulsive lying. But when I caught her, she wanted to be spanked, rough sex. It wasn't easy, but i loved her.
And in the type of relationship I had. Where her actions were also messed up, and not healthy. I swear. The last thing I needed was the law. Or others to judge it.
betty swollocks
Banned
LOL!
Excellent.
As an aside, I take more issue with his awful writing style than I do the things he did to this girl.
Featheredkitten
Banned
Hey dude, maybe she had another date and dressed up for someone else. Maybe she didn't want you to be in school because you'd assume.....all the stuff you assumed. maybe it wasn't about you.
Moral Panic
Member
OP can you do us a timeline? I think some of the more offensive posts are from people who have gotten mixed up on the time line of things.
You met.
You dated 3 months
She broke it off
You thought you still had a chance so you emailed and met with her a few times for about 1 month
She called the police
You were charged with Criminal harassment, pled guilty
Got 1 year suspended sentence
Got held until your flight
Got sent back to Uruguay
Now 4 months later
You live with your dad in Vienna
You're still bitter that you lost your life in Canada
You met.
You dated 3 months
She broke it off
You thought you still had a chance so you emailed and met with her a few times for about 1 month
She called the police
You were charged with Criminal harassment, pled guilty
Got 1 year suspended sentence
Got held until your flight
Got sent back to Uruguay
Now 4 months later
You live with your dad in Vienna
You're still bitter that you lost your life in Canada
It's suddenly saying things like this that make you seem a bit worrying. You've previously said she never felt in any danger at all from you. But wouldn't bullying make her feel worried?
Kano on the Phone
Member
This is the sort of thing the police find scrawled in the journal of someone who's just been found wearing human skin.
You really have to stop stewing over it. Listen to some rap or C. Lo's 'Fuck You' and move on with your life. If you keep this thread up it will (likely) end up banning you from GAF as well.
You said it yourself she had issues meaning the relationship was doomed to tank. Work out some of your own personal issues. Find another girl and move on.
You said it yourself she had issues meaning the relationship was doomed to tank. Work out some of your own personal issues. Find another girl and move on.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
No she met me. Asked if I was in school. I told her where I was. And she came to meet me.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
Lets add seeking psychological help, from the truama of losing said life, and being put in jail. At the end.
Yeah. Today I woke up crying. So i made a topic about it.
Featheredkitten
Banned
I feel there's some missing information here. Maybe she was tired of the emails and had other plans that day? If she never dressed up that nicely for you when you guys were dating, why do you think the intention was to er....make you confess your love? or whatever?
And then you guys had rough sex?
SquiddyCracker
Banned
You need psychological help, that I agree with.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
There's body language you know. There's how long she stayed with me. If I could have that day again.
That was it, we spent an hour together. But I ended up leaving because I was busy. Its stuff like this. That was there, and was real to me.
That's like impossible to explain to the police. Or your lawyer, or anyone. It was just her and I. and damn it. I'm not idiot. But I didn't deserve to get my life robbed.
Hydranockz
Member
Explaining to police how you were being bullied by your partner isn't as impossible to do, clearly.
Chun-Li On A Bike
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If the story is true, and well I stopped at page 5 of this thread.. I think you guys are being a little too hard on the OP. He sent emails to her, I mean so what they are emails.
It isn't like she has to read them and I am sure she could have blocked his email if she wanted.
There is a chance she is just a crazy chick that wanted to hurt him. It is also possible that maybe she felt afraid of him because he kept saying I love you with all my heart, I need you and I won't stop till I have you.
Either way, I don't think sending emails to someone should constitute what he went through.
Now if he is following her around and trying to make her talk to him every chance he can see her. Then he should learn to stop.
At the end of the day, I don't see why someone would try so hard to be with someone that doesn't want them. Seems a person would want to be with someone that actually wants to be with them... makes too much sense to me though, I guess.
It isn't like she has to read them and I am sure she could have blocked his email if she wanted.
There is a chance she is just a crazy chick that wanted to hurt him. It is also possible that maybe she felt afraid of him because he kept saying I love you with all my heart, I need you and I won't stop till I have you.
Either way, I don't think sending emails to someone should constitute what he went through.
Now if he is following her around and trying to make her talk to him every chance he can see her. Then he should learn to stop.
At the end of the day, I don't see why someone would try so hard to be with someone that doesn't want them. Seems a person would want to be with someone that actually wants to be with them... makes too much sense to me though, I guess.
Featheredkitten
Banned
okay, then. well, i'm out. That's enough for me. Please continue your therapy you're currently (?) receiving.
Not sure if this is a troll post but please continue reading...
nVidiot_Whore
Banned
This is great if you read it like you are narrating a film noir story about yourself.
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
I gotta go, I got a poke game tonight.
Thanks for reading along with clinically depressed me.
Thanks for reading along with clinically depressed me.
I'm confused here. So you guys met up and had sex? Or is that just what you imagined would happen?
answer the above before plz.
You are goddamn insane.
NinjaBoiX
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We aren't sure of the content of these emails. But from this thread, I'd wager they were more, "I can't believe you ruined my life, you're mine! How dare you leave me!" than, "hey, it's been a while since we caught up. Fancy a coffee?"
SirIgbyCeaser
Banned
We met up, knowing her for 4 months. I knew she wanted sex. But I wanted to try be friends and I wanted distance, to feel sorry for myself. And work on a film project.
Hoping we could do that another day.
Later I realize, it was a tuesday, she had no classes. She made her hair straight, make up and all this at like 10:30 in the morning. Shirt with her breast showing, wearing my favourite bra.
But I was just like. No not now. I can't deal with you now. Buy me food. I was such an idiot. I didn't get a chance like that from her again. Another thing she said while we were broken up, is we can be back together in the summer.
But the police got involved and she said her story. And I couldn't fight it. And it was all fucked up once the law got involved.
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