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SpaceBridge
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Me too. I havent worked out since last week. I feel "soft". ugh.
Well, I just had to come out to a relatively new friend of mine. Is not something I hide or deny, but neither talk openly about it (as in "Hi! I'm gay, pleasure ot meet you!")...and we work together and hang out and stuff and lets just say he has been having fun trying to match me with other girls since he "doesnt' want me alone".
Had to do it through a long-ass Facebook message, since it coudn't wait anymore.
Not expecting "good things" out of it (don't know why.. :/) ..but well, I'm used to rejection I had a "friend" punch me every time I looked at him after coming out to him. XD (well, I laugh now..though is not like I cried before.
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(and he just replied back)
Seems he took it well...better than expected.
He just replied saying he doesn't mind as he has another gay friend and that... is not like he's going to be bottoming.
And that I should tell everyone.
Had to do it through a long-ass Facebook message, since it coudn't wait anymore.
Not expecting "good things" out of it (don't know why.. :/) ..but well, I'm used to rejection I had a "friend" punch me every time I looked at him after coming out to him. XD (well, I laugh now..though is not like I cried before.
)EDIT:
(and he just replied back)
Seems he took it well...better than expected.
He just replied saying he doesn't mind as he has another gay friend and that... is not like he's going to be bottoming.
And that I should tell everyone.
Well, I just had to come out to a relatively new friend of mine. Is not something I hide or deny, but neither talk openly about it (as in "Hi! I'm gay, pleasure ot meet you!")...and we work together and hang out and stuff and lets just say he has been having fun trying to match me with other girls since he "doesnt' want me alone".
Had to do it through a long-ass Facebook message, since it coudn't wait anymore.
Not expecting "good things" out of it (don't know why.. :/) ..but well, I'm used to rejection I had a "friend" punch me every time I looked at him after coming out to him. XD (well, I laugh now..though is not like I cried before.
Isn't a long Facebook message a bit dramatic? Couldn't you just say you're gay and that's it? Should have told him the first time he tried to match you with a girl.
And that "friend" who punched you every time you looked at him was a shitty friend. Why the hell did you put up with that?
Yeha, that's why said "friend". He...was, after that I just stopped talking to him. He moved out to the US so it made things easier too.
Was a long-ass message , sicne I was explaining many things around work too, not just "that".
(and he just replied back, and adding this as an edit too)
Seems he took it well...better than expected.
He just replied saying he doens't mind as he has another gay friend and that... is not like he's going to be bottoming (I had a snarky response ready about if that meant he was going to be the top..but decided not to).
And that I should tell everyone.
Yeha, that's why said "friend". He...was, after that I just stopped talking to him. He moved out to the US so it made things easier too.
Was a long-ass message , sicne I was explaining many things around work too, not just "that".
(and he just replied back, and adding this as an edit too)
Seems he took it well...better than expected.
He just replied saying he doens't mind as he has another gay friend and that... is not like he's going to be bottoming (I had a snarky response ready about if that meant he was going to be the top..but decided not to).
And that I should tell everyone.
That's what a good friend would say, so good for you!
And he's right about everything. Tell everyone.
I sometimes wish coming outs would be more dramatic, but they actually very rarely are. The worst is when they reject you in that very subtle, slow pace, like you start hearing from them less and less, when they were all over you before knowing. Then one day you can't remember the last time you talk to them.
totally. It'll be nice to get a run in.
Just finished my summer class, I took physics. I totally had a crush on my prof, he is hysterical, he actually has a comedy show on today, Tuesday and a group of us are going. It's going to be rad.
SpaceBridge
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MyAbsolution
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I feel like a bum times 10. Havent worked out since early July.
Was doing P90X for a good month and a half, got really really sick for a few days, as I have Menieres disease (inner ear fuckshit). So that messed with my sleep and routine... never got back into it.
NEED TO GET HARDCORE AGAIN.
GasProblem
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Cooked for 40 people yesterday at a local gay bar, along with two others. Doing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen took sooo long. Feels good when everyone says they liked it.
And while I really like it there, the people are nice, atmosphere is great, it kind of sucks I'm the only bear-ish type of guy there.
And while I really like it there, the people are nice, atmosphere is great, it kind of sucks I'm the only bear-ish type of guy there.
Mystic Theurge
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Sounds awesome, GasProblem. Are you a professional chef?
kitchenmotors
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Looks like I'm going to have to go for the bald look. Noticed in the shower that my hair is kinda coming out now because of the chemo. 
I'm going to look so bad bald, I love my hair. Maybe I'll hold off on shaving it, since I have a lot of hair and maybe it will just thin out.
Not to mention all of this has made me an emotional wreck. I feel like a teenager again, sigh.
I'm going to look so bad bald, I love my hair. Maybe I'll hold off on shaving it, since I have a lot of hair and maybe it will just thin out.Not to mention all of this has made me an emotional wreck. I feel like a teenager again, sigh.
Why do that when I have your face as a target, Space? :I WHAT IS A HOMOSEXUAL? A FABULOUS PILE OF SECRETS. BUT ENOUGH TALK, HAVE AT YOU SPACE! *throws wine glass at your head*
Looks like I'm going to have to go for the bald look. Noticed in the shower that my hair is kinda coming out now because of the chemo.
Nah, man, get a skull cap or something and go totally punk or biker gang look like Kanji. I'm sure you'd make it work.
...Speaking of which, I've been seriously considering getting a mohawk at the behest of a co-worker. :/ Not sure I'd be able to own it though.
Bel Marduk
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Looks like I'm going to have to go for the bald look. Noticed in the shower that my hair is kinda coming out now because of the chemo.
Not to mention all of this has made me an emotional wreck. I feel like a teenager again, sigh.
Alex, that really sucks but every time it gets you down, you just have to remind yourself that all of this is temporary and is necessary to prevent a larger problem. You've already pretty much beaten cancer and you have a whole lot to look forward to in life.
If you want to talk, PM me of course.
For you, of course it's the first.
Course, I was always under the impression things would only go well or poorly immediately. The slow, agonizing issues were a bit of a surprise. Can't say I'm a fan.
Seems fairly clear cut to me. Either go with the flow and just have fun with him. Or if you're looking for something deeper and more serious, then you already know he's not the one. Figure out what you want, then take the appropriate action.
Dead Prince
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Gayromeo is starting to get very frustrating. I don't get what's so off-putting about me that every good looking guy ignores me
Don't you ignore certain types of people too?
Yes, so I can understand that a lot of people ignore me but what I really don't understand is that every single guy I'm interested in ignores me.
Looks like I'm going to have to go for the bald look. Noticed in the shower that my hair is kinda coming out now because of the chemo.
Not to mention all of this has made me an emotional wreck. I feel like a teenager again, sigh.
20$ says you'll look f'n awesome bald.
i recently saw a study about the positive perception effects of someone being bald. it was quite interesting. people saw them as more commanding and such.
the plight of the gay man
what do you typically write to them?
Most of them are students like me so I ask them what studies they do, if they've enjoyed their vacation so far, what they enjoy doing, etc. Don't really get far because they either reply only to my first message or the conversation keeps going and they just answer with a single word and don't ask me a single question, so it's pretty obvious they're not interested at all.
what's in your profile?
have you tried starting with a compliment of some sort. 'nice taste in music'?
maybe you need more shirtless pics
Hello guys. Just got back from my trip to california. I actually had a okcupid hit while I was there the last day and met up with the guy. We had a nice conversation in his hotel room then parted ways. I'll keep in contact with him and hope he liked me. He was really cute though and shy and it was so adorable.
what's in your profile?
have you tried starting with a compliment of some sort. 'nice taste in music'?
maybe you need more shirtless pics
Some face pics and all the info you can fill in, but I haven't written anything in my profile.
Yeah I don't look good shirtless. I have a pretty face but I still only attract ugly and feminine guys. This one guy I'm talking with now is pretty attractive though but he's not quite my type.
maybe your standards are too high? also a common thing for many guys.
attractiveness aside, it sounds like you're looking for a very specific type of person.
There's been quite a lot of guys I was interested in despite sometimes very different interests. I'm just not interested in people with certain interests that a lot of gay people seem to have in common. That's also the reason I'm much more often attracted to straight guys, it's a bit of a curse.
it's a really common thing among younger gays. _very common_
in your case, though, it seems like it's somewhat related to your self-image and how you think about yourself.
in my experience, it tends to be less of an issue after a few years
I don't quite understand. You're interested in people who don't share certain interests with you, but at the same time, there are people with a certain set of interests who you aren't attracted to specifically because of those interests? I would understand if you weren't attracted to people because they didn't share the same interests as you, but as it is, it sounds like you have a double standard. I can only assume you're writing off people with certain interests (by which I imagine you mean pop music, karaoke, fashion, and all of the things you've mentioned in the past) because you expect the people who enjoy those things to be flamboyant, which isn't your (or my, for that matter) type, but that's not necessarily true. I realize it's a dating site, so you're going off limited information, but you shouldn't pigeonhole people into a certain stereotype solely on their interests. I'd like to think that if I made a dating profile and listed Madonna as one of my favorite musical artists that passers-by wouldn't assume my personality type off that piece of information alone (although they'd be correct, because I'm a raging queen, darling).
You're obviously entitled to your own preferences; I just think you should be more open-minded, as I imagine you'd like the same courtesy to be extended to yourself.
it's a really common thing among younger gays. _very common_
in your case, though, it seems like it's somewhat related to your self-image and how you think about yourself.
in my experience, it tends to be less of an issue after a few years
How is it related to my self-image? Maybe you're on to something there...
And it was already less of an issue for me until I joined Gayromeo. I should just bail out.
I've actually met many people with those certain interests and they weren't all flamboyant but they sure as hell were shallow. I'm afraid it's near impossible to get rid of that prejudice with the experience I've had. Also in all the time I've spend in the gay scene I have never had a crush on anyone while I constantly get crushes on straight guys.
wow, exactly me, I had to pass on working out for 5 days and I hate the softness feeling, like deflated >_< fortunately I got back 2 days ago, I hope I get more solid as days go by,
a couple of tips: gay men tend to follow their own kind, sadly. So, if you like "rough" or "manly" men, then go for that look yourself, either grow a beard or have pics where you look badass, I haven't seen your pics there but if you look like a student then probably the men you like think of you as a geek, think about it and work on your looks so they convey what you are looking for yourself. Have any sexy part of your body or you work out? show it. Have a cock over 18 cm? put "XL" on the dick size, this one is key (yep, EXTREMELY superficial, but the world is like that unfortunately)
all dating sites suck bigtime.. so don't expect anything big out of them.
That sounds like a problem with the people rather than their interests. What is it about straight men in particular that you're attracted to?
If Stabbie considers a lot of gay men to be shallow, I don't think winning dates from his cock size is going to do much to change his mind.
those were tips to avoid rejection and get replies in general.
- Everything about their behavior.
- They're less sensitive than gay guys
- I can make insensitive jokes and remarks about other people and they don't give a shit
- They can be into superficial things but at least they're manly superficial things
- They can not shave or shower for several days and not give a fuck
etc.
Bel Marduk
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I know lots and lots of gay people who fit ALL of these criteria, except maybe the not showering thing. Why would you even want that? Is it some sort of fetish?
Well you do but I don't and I'm not finding them.
And I just can't stand people who are obsessed about showering every day.
Aren't those simply... stereotypes of a "manly straight man"?
Not every straight guy is like that, and not every gay guy isn't like that.
Not manly straight man but average straight man.
I'm assuming so much about you right now.
I've found okcupid to be alright so far. To be fair, though, I'm more laid-back when it comes to actually talking or meeting with people. But I've found lots of guys interested in traveling. Though, to be fair, I can't tell you what most of them listen to because, for me, their musical interests are pretty unimportant to me.
I know most of them won't like metal so it's a lost battle anyway. You pick your battles.
SpaceBridge
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Lunch is awesome. He likes comic books too. If he was older Id be all over him.
edit: I havent shaved in a week and showered in two days. Wanna hang out Stabbie?
edit: I havent shaved in a week and showered in two days. Wanna hang out Stabbie?
Moving aside from the showering comment...what are manly superficial things?
Madonna is one of the reasons I can get plenty of success elsewhere, so back off.
Oh man, top five favorite comics, now.
SpaceBridge
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Series or miniseries or graphic novels?
Separate lists for series and graphic novels.
Madonna vs hiphop
Musicals vs action movies
Celebrities vs cars and sports
Gossip Girl vs family guy
I don't even know why I had to clarify...
oh god dany m and i stayed up late last night beating all of mirror's edge
woke up feeling sick
noooooo what have i donnnneee :'(
Come over after you shave and Dany and I will give you your hair back ala Calvin & Hobbes (
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Just get a hat, man. Hats are rad.
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lmao i can't
woke up feeling sick
noooooo what have i donnnneee :'(
Looks like I'm going to have to go for the bald look. Noticed in the shower that my hair is kinda coming out now because of the chemo.
Not to mention all of this has made me an emotional wreck. I feel like a teenager again, sigh.
Come over after you shave and Dany and I will give you your hair back ala Calvin & Hobbes (
draw it back on, in a different color, with magic marker
Just get a hat, man. Hats are rad.
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lmao i can't
SpaceBridge
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Ill just do my top 5 in general:
1)Grant Morrisons New Xmen
2) Frank Millers The Dark Knight Returns
3) Abnett & Lanning;s The Legion
4) Warren Ellis The Authority
5) Bendis' House of M
When you said superficial things I assumed you were referring to things like collections; I don't classify tastes in media as being superficial. I'm positive you aren't the only gay person out there with those same interests, and if they're superficial by your own admission, why does it matter? If I were to go down the list myself, I equally enjoy Madonna and hip-hop, musicals and action movies, I dislike both celebrities and cars, but am neutral to sports, and I don't like anything past the first season of Gossip Girl nor any of Family Guy.
Naturally, I haven't read anything on that list.
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