Hey, since he's banned, I'll keep this thing going
See, in my case, you're right that I don't love the idea of being associated with the community. I'm not sure if has to do with masculinity, but it seems to me carnavalesque, silly and just
not me. This is not something I "built", I'm genuinely not interested in this kind of "atmospheres", masculine, feminine or otherwise. It's true that from a quick look at a profile you can get this particular "feel" from someone, and it's not that it's negative, but I think it's perfectly okay to look for people that have more things in common with you. I've been online-rejected for not drinking and not clubbing, so it swings both ways and I'm okay with that. Still, I've been pretty open minded in the past, and I can tell from experience the best dates are with people who are more similar to you. I have more fun talking about games and animals than talking about fashion or Lady Gaga - again, because I'm not naturally in love with fashion or Lady Gaga. Nothing to do with those thing being feminine, since I'm into cooking and diabetes-inducing J-Pop.