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I got off meds that did that to me and it made me feel like I was having a heart attack as well.

It's only because they added a new medication to my antidepressant. I got over the sexual side effects after a while with my first medicine. Now it's just getting past the second one's side effects.
 
I find myself hitting random channels on Sirius XM constantly. There's so much music out there of all sorts of varieties.
 
I find myself hitting random channels on Sirius XM constantly. There's so much music out there of all sorts of varieties.

Yeah. And for example the internet and technology make so many things possible now that weren't before. There are always outliers, like for example most wouldn't argue that Bach was a genius, but if we're judging music as a whole or the creative landscape in general I don't think that there was a better time than what we have now.
 
It's only because they added a new medication to my antidepressant. I got over the sexual side effects after a while with my first medicine. Now it's just getting past the second one's side effects.

I wish i could get off meds and therapy and be a normal person.
 
I wish i could get off meds and therapy and be a normal person.

The meds I am fine with... I've been in therapy almost 3 years now, and I still haven't gotten to the root of my problems to fix them. =/ I just want to not be so shitty when it comes to men and flirting/dating/etc.
 
If I was normal, I wouldn't look this bitchin' in a skirt.

Pro-Anti-Normal.

Normal is different for everyone. right now i feel so faraway normal i would not even know it if i was.

The meds I am fine with... I've been in therapy almost 3 years now, and I still haven't gotten to the root of my problems to fix them. =/ I just want to not be so shitty when it comes to men and flirting/dating/etc.

Same here, but i am also fat and ugly so that right there is part of my problem.
 
I am the same as well. i cannot even carry a conversation and i have no interests, talents or hobbies.
This isn't something you're just slapped with a gene for. Select some possibilities and dive in, sooner or later you'll find something to pique your interest and passion. Everything to gain in the pursuit.

Don't let a "won't" become a "can't".
 
I find that I have an extremely difficult time expressing any feeling to another person that would make me feel vulnerable. I would really like to be able to just forget myself and experience the complete collapse of self-erected interpersonal barriers, but it practically wouldn't be an exaggeration to say that that never happens. This applies for friends and family as well, it's like I'm incredibly sensitive on a feeling level but when it comes to other people actually seeing that I would just prefer that they didn't. Over time it can feel pretty non-functional being so emotionally sequestered but at the same time it's almost like it's an involuntary reaction.
 
I find that I have an extremely difficult time expressing any feeling to another person that would make me feel vulnerable. I would really like to be able to just forget myself and experience the complete collapse of self-erected interpersonal barriers, but it practically wouldn't be an exaggeration to say that that never happens. This applies for friends and family as well, it's like I'm incredibly sensitive on a feeling level but when it comes to other people actually seeing that I would just prefer that they didn't. Over time it can feel pretty non-functional being so emotionally sequestered but at the same time it's almost like it's an involuntary reaction.

I have a hard time lowering my guard for certain people. I have little trust for guys, and it really sucks. People could be honest with me, and I'd still believe what they were telling me was bullshit...

So, I just sort of stay in a shell, and it takes a while for me to let someone in. Or even meet them face to face.
 
So I went out to the bars alone last night to ease my sorrows, and it was amazing. I was never once having an awkward moment. People approached me constantly, and I got to meet so many people. Going out alone, for me, was a million times better than going out with a group of friends.
 
I have a hard time lowering my guard for certain people. I have little trust for guys, and it really sucks. People could be honest with me, and I'd still believe what they were telling me was bullshit...

So, I just sort of stay in a shell, and it takes a while for me to let someone in. Or even meet them face to face.

It sucks to not trust people, but I think my tendencies might be more extreme in that I don't even have a perception of lowering my guard, it's just this thing that's always there unless I'm alone, which is perhaps why I usually prefer to be alone. Sometimes I might reveal something about myself that could be considered candid, but it doesn't even count towards what I'm talking about because it's never something that makes me feel legitimately exposed. I actually find it easy to trust people because I generally get strong impressions from people relating to that, but my perception is so skewed that it doesn't actually make a difference. Perhaps it's more that I don't trust myself. It's the only thing I can think of in my life where it's just like there's this mental block, it even applies to those that I'm closest to which makes me feel like an inadequate or incomplete person.
 
Maybe it's just me but some of you put a ton of importance on your relationship status and attribute a big chunk of your personal well-being and happiness to it. Just let stuff happen naturally, I don't think there's a correct "age" to get into your "main" relationship in life (assuming that's even an important part of your life plan) - and even then, it's not guaranteed to last forever. My parents got separated in 2010 and I don't ever recall seeing them so happy in recent memory. My best friend also just broke up with his girlfriend (of almost 4 years), and other than him feeling like crap because she wouldn't stop crying, he says he feels incredibly free and relaxed at the moment.

It probably doesn't mean a lot for someone who really wants a relationship, but I think it's good learning to enjoy single-ness. You never know when it'll end, lol.
 
I have a small question. Would you invite a guy over to your house to meet them? Or do you stick to the tried and true "meet in public place"?
 
I have a small question. Would you invite a guy over to your house to meet them? Or do you stick to the tried and true "meet in public place"?

meet somewhere else to screen...

if he's f'n crazy, the last thing you want is for him to know where you live...
 
I find that I have an extremely difficult time expressing any feeling to another person that would make me feel vulnerable. I would really like to be able to just forget myself and experience the complete collapse of self-erected interpersonal barriers, but it practically wouldn't be an exaggeration to say that that never happens. This applies for friends and family as well, it's like I'm incredibly sensitive on a feeling level but when it comes to other people actually seeing that I would just prefer that they didn't. Over time it can feel pretty non-functional being so emotionally sequestered but at the same time it's almost like it's an involuntary reaction.

the real question is why you don't want others to see how sensitive you are. Do you see this as a negative quality? Are you afraid of what they'd think of you?
 
I have a small question. Would you invite a guy over to your house to meet them? Or do you stick to the tried and true "meet in public place"?

If I was meeting some for the first time, I would only invite them over, or go over to their place, if we were going to have sex. Otherwise in public.
 
So I went out to the bars alone last night to ease my sorrows, and it was amazing. I was never once having an awkward moment. People approached me constantly, and I got to meet so many people. Going out alone, for me, was a million times better than going out with a group of friends.

but didn't you just have a date? did it go wrong? nice to see you had a nice time with no typical loner awkward moment :)

and by the way, I had a date with one of your kind, a big muscle guy I met at the gym. We had the typical " can I use here? is this free? " exchange of words once at the gym but then found each other in the dating site so we decided to go for a drink....

so that's that :)
 
the real question is why you don't want others to see how sensitive you are. Do you see this as a negative quality? Are you afraid of what they'd think of you?

It's odd, I wouldn't necessarily consider it a negative beyond the fact that it introduces additional difficulty into my life. While it can often be useful in, for example, perceiving the needs of others, more often than not it just seems like an impractical trait to have. Like as a kid before I really developed coping mechanisms it basically lead to me developing an inferiority complex because even a simple offhand comment from someone would make me go "oh god what is wrong with me?" and it would basically shatter my self-confidence. And as much as life makes a person grow that is one thing about me that hasn't really changed that much. So while I can often value it because it adds an additional wealth of perceptions that can enrich my life it can also be debilitating or almost paralyzing because it can make me call into doubt so many of the things that I do, even those that are insignificant. It's just not practical to be so fragile and I don't really want to bother anyone else with it because then I have to deal with those feelings too, and yeah also because on an intellectual level it often seems absurd.
 
So I went out to the bars alone last night to ease my sorrows, and it was amazing. I was never once having an awkward moment. People approached me constantly, and I got to meet so many people. Going out alone, for me, was a million times better than going out with a group of friends.

what shirt did you wear?

Not even games?

Well not anymore. not buying the next playstation or xbox and considering selling my dreamcast games and ps2 games. i have way too much junk.
 
Hey.. Gay/Detective GAF, I need help identifying a model.

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I'm.. I'm weak-kneed here..
 
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