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So it's a pretty good second date that ends with the guy buying you breakfast, right?

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This is it. The best I've ever clicked with anyone in my life. It's only happened twice before, and both times, nowhere near as strongly as this.

Thanks to those that shot some advice my way this week! Things are going very well. :)

Hell yeah! Glad to hear that it worked out well!

Speaking of feeling old: HylianGreg & I went on our first date 16 years ago today.

Our second date was very, umm.., "adventurous", and ended with a very flirtatious breakfast at Waffle House around 5AM. Those "ending with breakfast" dates were always the most fun. :)
 
I don't know what you guys are expecting from gay bars or which gay bar you go to but gay bars are just that: bars with gay people in it.
You drink, talk to people and don't have to hook up. I haven't gone home with anyone from the bar in the last 6 months and I've been going out every weekend or so.

Of course if you go to the Cock or the Eagle, that might be a different story.
 
so i'm planning to tell my parents i'm bi before christmas. a lot of friends who know about me are coming home and i don't want to be two different people over the holidays, really stresses me. plus i will have the physical support of my ex if i do it when she's here, soo

any advice? my parents are very socialist/liberal, but im still a bag of nerves
 
Well now I'm envious. Congrats on finding such a great guy Magnus.

Unless you're like me, in that turning 19 was like any other year :O
I don't really drink.



Glad to hear it all went well, seeing him again soon?

Hell yeah! Glad to hear that it worked out well!

Speaking of feeling old: HylianGreg & I went on our first date 16 years ago today.

Our second date was very, umm.., "adventurous", and ended with a very flirtatious breakfast at Waffle House around 5AM. Those "ending with breakfast" dates were always the most fun. :)

Thanks dudes! It's way early. I shouldn't get ahead of myself, much as I want to.

Yeah, plans for a movie this week. I may finally see Skyfall. lol.

Oh. And breakfast was in the morning after a nap. Haha.

And wow, 16 years!! Congrats!
 
Ah the gay bar, I was talking about this with my straight friends.

You know, they have the advantage of meeting everywhere other straight people, at work, at school, at college. We unfortunately don't, yes there are gay people everywhere and you might meet them elsewhere, but chances are you are not, the gay bar is our meeting place, and as Alcoori said you don't have to get hammered and hook up, and is not a bad thing if you do either.

I honestly sometimes go just to be surrounded by other gay people, I can not talk to anyone and call it a good night anyway.
 
Hey guys, are there any videos of gay marriage being approved on election night in Maryland and Maine? There probably are few of Washington since it was later, but I wanted a pick-me-up.
 
idk if this is better suited for transgaf but, anyone on gaygaf crossdress? either for fun or just experimenting or w/e

it helps that i had access to my gfs wardrobe initially, but i find it really fun mixing and matching male and female dress in particular

i actually worked some eye makeup into my socialising outfits due to this. its really fun and i recommend anyone inclined to try it

okthxbye
 
idk if this is better suited for transgaf but, anyone on gaygaf crossdress? either for fun or just experimenting or w/e

it helps that i had access to my gfs wardrobe initially, but i find it really fun mixing and matching male and female dress in particular

i actually worked some eye makeup into my socialising outfits due to this. its really fun and i recommend anyone inclined to try it

okthxbye

I crossdressed when I was 8, I was terrified of anyone finding out, I locked my self in the hotel room (We were in a trip with my parents and extended family). It felt exhilarating back then, but now it seems boring, and so much work. I don't know how women and cross dressers put up with the whole thing, the make up, the clothes... it is just exhausting.
 
I went to a drag party a month or two ago dressed up in a (gorgeous) green dress that a friend lent me, a girls'-fitted shirt, and knee high socks :p I looked pretty good, I think! It was an interesting experience. I don't think I would do it regularly, but it was fun!
 
I personally don't get the appeal. Is it just like cosplaying? Because I also don't like that, lol, I was the weird kid that hated dressing up for Halloween (but still wanted the candy).
 
So, as a bit of an update on the depression-age I posted a couple of months back:

I'm feeling a bit better. I've both started to move through some things, while simultaneously finding some things that I thought I had moved past, but had not. I've been doing group therapy every week with 6 other folks, and it's been tremendously helpful. Interestingly, I've felt 'bad' more often since I started this group, but that's only because I'm moving through a lot of emotions which leave kind of a emotional residue on me that lasts a while.

Overall, I am doing better, and think everything will be okay eventually. 2013 will hopefully be a good year.
 
I personally don't get the appeal. Is it just like cosplaying? Because I also don't like that, lol, I was the weird kid that hated dressing up for Halloween (but still wanted the candy).

It's a little like cosplaying, I guess, at least for me. I know it's much more of a sexual thing for some people, but I just kinda liked the way the clothes looked, and I'm actually kinda jealous of all the different things girls can wear. If I could get away with it, I'd probably include a dress in my rotation of pants :p
 
and I'm actually kinda jealous of all the different things girls can wear.

I know! Girls have a ton of options, clothes and makeup, that's something that's always bugged me. I don't understand the lack of variety in male clothing. BUT I would never crossdress. That's just not me. I don't like cosplays or costumes, I think they're ridiculous.

But what I really need is some makeup to cover these horrible dark circles under my eyes...
 
Every time I read an American write 'St. Patty's Day' I die a little inside.

And people call me Patty. So it's another excuse to be fabulous ole' me.

I personally don't get the appeal. Is it just like cosplaying? Because I also don't like that, lol, I was the weird kid that hated dressing up for Halloween (but still wanted the candy).

Nonsense, I love doing it. Give me any chance to dress up and I'm there. I volunteer to work in a maid cafee' even. Electrifying.

As for girls, fuck them. A girl complaining about nothing to wear is the rich kid complaining about not having enough money. They get variety, colours, etc. They can get tops that are barely nothing to like a fur pimp coat. In like any colour they want.

I go to a store. Guys clothing is like the same T-Shirt 10000 times in a row. 75% neutral colour. I work in as much make up, female clothing, and in general flare I can to my outfits when I can.
 
So, how quick after a pretty solid second date (with bonus sleepover) do I make plans for the third? All we got now is a tentative 'lets do this this week some time'. Wanna strike the balance between initiative and crazy-person. Help me, I don't know how to do this. #datinginept

I wanna let the guy breathe but still let him know I'm eager to see him again soon.
 
It's a little like cosplaying, I guess, at least for me. I know it's much more of a sexual thing for some people, but I just kinda liked the way the clothes looked, and I'm actually kinda jealous of all the different things girls can wear. If I could get away with it, I'd probably include a dress in my rotation of pants :p
Lol. I've always though, if I had been a girl I'd like having short hair, no make-up and wearing t-shirts and jeans - pretty much just how I am as a guy.
 
I know! Girls have a ton of options, clothes and makeup, that's something that's always bugged me. I don't understand the lack of variety in male clothing. BUT I would never crossdress. That's just not me. I don't like cosplays or costumes, I think they're ridiculous.

But what I really need is some makeup to cover this horrible dark circles under my eyes...

might be worth looking into some foundation for that. it would take some experimenting with tones and application tho

i've worn light foundation out before. it's pretty incredible for those days when your skin doesn't want to be consistent. but like anything it can be abused

not sure whether you consider that crossdressing, man-makeup is becoming more accepting as the years go by
 
might be worth looking into some foundation for that. it would take some experimenting with tones and application tho

i've worn light foundation out before. it's pretty incredible for those days when your skin doesn't want to be consistent. but like anything it can be abused

not sure whether you consider that crossdressing, man-makeup is becoming more accepting as the years go by

I don't know a shit about makeup, foundation, concealer, all this stuff is completely new to me, but I'm seriously considering it. My skin is see through pale so I need to find the lightest tone available, right? I'm assuming foundation works like paint.

And man-makeup becoming more acceptable... this was an interesting read:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20522028
 
I don't know a shit about makeup, foundation, concealer, all this stuff is completely new to me, but I'm seriously considering it. My skin is see through pale so I need to find the lightest tone available, right? I'm assuming foundation works like paint.

And man-makeup becoming more acceptable... this was an interesting read:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20522028

foundation is typically used as a base before any other makeup is applied as a way to even out your skin tone, whereas concealer is a lot stronger and usually applied to more specific and severe areas of your face, like spots

in my experience as a boy, foundation takes the place of concealer as a way to cover up specific areas. there's no need to use something heavier than foundation if you haven't applied foundation to your entire face, you know? it's all relative. that said, applying and blending foundation to specific areas still takes quite a bit of practice and skill. i was fortunate enough to have help from my ex, so if you can get anyone (a female in particular) to help you out and give you a second opinion that would be good

the lightest skin tone for the uk is porcelain, i'm not sure if the terminology is different for other places in the world. it's quite expensive (around £10 here for average supermarket brand) so it'd help if you could test your tone somehow first. shops have samples but obviously it's not an ideal environment for most as it's in public :)
 
Damnit, why are all the cute guys straight? I just never seem to able to meet any nice, interesting gay guys.

I went on a mini vacation with some freinds this weekend, and there was this friend of a friend on the trip who would have been perfect boyfriend material, except for the minor obstacle of him being very straight. Really cute; fun and easy to talk to; interested in gaming; simliar taste in a lot of areas; and he works as a programmer. If I'd ever meet a gay guy with half of those qualities I'd be over the moon.

It's always like that; whenever I try to meet gay guys we have nothing in common, and it's also really hard to find gay guys I find attractive, but there's a whole bunch of my straight friends and acquaintances that I'd definitely be interested in. Living in a small town also makes it a lot harder, but I'm not particularly keen on moving, and even when I try more exotic hunting grounds I have very little luck.
 
I don't know a shit about makeup, foundation, concealer, all this stuff is completely new to me, but I'm seriously considering it. My skin is see through pale so I need to find the lightest tone available, right? I'm assuming foundation works like paint.

This was me to years ago. You'd be surprised how many guys (especially actors) wear the "natural" looking makeup. Or maybe you wouldn't I dunno.

I don't wear it "just cause" when going out and about, but I love cosplaying as some of my WoW and other videogame characters so I had to learn and the foundation and stuff is the same. It's a steep learning curve, but it's doable (way easier if someone else applies it though). I dunno how people deal with it on a regular basis though. I'll don the stuff 3-5 times a year max, and I always feel like I got a late start when I do.
 
So, as a bit of an update on the depression-age I posted a couple of months back:

I'm feeling a bit better. I've both started to move through some things, while simultaneously finding some things that I thought I had moved past, but had not. I've been doing group therapy every week with 6 other folks, and it's been tremendously helpful. Interestingly, I've felt 'bad' more often since I started this group, but that's only because I'm moving through a lot of emotions which leave kind of a emotional residue on me that lasts a while.

Overall, I am doing better, and think everything will be okay eventually. 2013 will hopefully be a good year.
Good to see you are doing much better. Therapy groups do help a lot. It helped me as well.
 
Damnit, why are all the cute guys straight? I just never seem to able to meet any nice, interesting gay guys.

I went on a mini vacation with some freinds this weekend, and there was this friend of a friend on the trip who would have been perfect boyfriend material, except for the minor obstacle of him being very straight. Really cute; fun and easy to talk to; interested in gaming; simliar taste in a lot of areas; and he works as a programmer. If I'd ever meet a gay guy with half of those qualities I'd be over the moon.

It's always like that; whenever I try to meet gay guys we have nothing in common, and it's also really hard to find gay guys I find attractive, but there's a whole bunch of my straight friends and acquaintances that I'd definitely be interested in. Living in a small town also makes it a lot harder, but I'm not particularly keen on moving, and even when I try more exotic hunting grounds I have very little luck.

well. there's a cure for straight.
 
I'm in love with Hugh Jackman again.

Here's a hot Brazilian dude in a speedo checking his junk at a beach in Rio
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Damnit, why are all the cute guys straight? I just never seem to able to meet any nice, interesting gay guys.

I went on a mini vacation with some freinds this weekend, and there was this friend of a friend on the trip who would have been perfect boyfriend material, except for the minor obstacle of him being very straight. Really cute; fun and easy to talk to; interested in gaming; simliar taste in a lot of areas; and he works as a programmer. If I'd ever meet a gay guy with half of those qualities I'd be over the moon.

It's always like that; whenever I try to meet gay guys we have nothing in common, and it's also really hard to find gay guys I find attractive, but there's a whole bunch of my straight friends and acquaintances that I'd definitely be interested in. Living in a small town also makes it a lot harder, but I'm not particularly keen on moving, and even when I try more exotic hunting grounds I have very little luck.

From time to time, I meet up with gay guys I have quite a bit in common with. Doesn't seem to help :/
 
Can I just say I hate this time of year?

Also Space don't send me no pictures. :|
 
From time to time, I meet up with gay guys I have quite a bit in common with. Doesn't seem to help :/

Maybe not. But it would be nice if at least some of the cute guys I meet under normal circumstances would be gay and single. Instead of always having to try hook up with strangers online or at gayclubs (which there are none where I live)
 
I wish every week felt like this. Ever since I hit it off with this guy, people who don't even know about it are telling me I look like a new man, radiating happy/positive energy. I seem to have attracted the flirtatious attention of another guy now. Where was he two months ago?! lol

When it rains...
 
I'm in love with Hugh Jackman again.

Here's a hot Brazilian dude in a speedo checking his junk at a beach in Rio

I see these guys on a daily basis.

I hate/love my life, but tonight I got freaking tired of Copacabana, is expensive as hell and I still have to behave like a fucking mummy, I'm the best neighbor you can ever have, quiet, invisible for intent and purposes, and even then, theses stupid old women around me think a pin dropping "disrupts their sleep", and no, I'm not even joking..


Fuck them, stupid old alone people, their bubble will soon burst and they''ll realize they cant basically scam all of us foreigners, it might take a while, but im fucking out of here, bastards cunts, they are ruining their own businesses, and pissing me off, but this is it, I'm out of here. I still have a three month contract but I will get out of it in seconds, with J_Lo or anything, fucking stupid whores I hope they'll rote in hell. Good luck trying to sue me or anything while Im basically non existent in this shitty country known as Brazil.


Yeah maybe Im little pissed off because of recent events, but everyone has its limits...
 
From time to time, I meet up with gay guys I have quite a bit in common with. Doesn't seem to help :/
I feel like my love life is a Venn diagram divided into "men I'm attracted to" and "men who are attracted to me". Maybe the two groups will intersect at a person one day! But I ain't even mad.

Actually, two really cute, tall guys started talking to me at bus stops at two separate occasions, asking me who I was, if I worked nearby, etc. Of course, with one of them, my bus comes soon after as I'm in the middle of talking. Fuck. With the other, we were standing at a bus stop in the middle of the rain, me and a girl (who had previously offered her umbrella - chivalry is not dead!). After 30 minutes or so, he starts talking to me. Of course, as soon as the bus comes, we both get on...and I remember that my best friend is on it since we were going to the mall, so I sit next to her. Self-cock block. :(

I guess the biggest thing for me is learning to not compare myself to others, and not get jealous. (Especially when everyone else seems to be getting laid, whether true or not.)
 
I see these guys on a daily basis.

I hate/love my life, but tonight I got freaking tired of Copacabana, is expensive as hell and I still have to behave like a fucking mummy, I'm the best neighbor you can ever have, quiet, invisible for intent and purposes, and even then, theses stupid old women around me think a pin dropping "disrupts their sleep", and no, I'm not even joking..


Fuck them, stupid old alone people, their bubble will soon burst and they''ll realize they cant basically scam all of us foreigners, it might take a while, but im fucking out of here, bastards cunts, they are ruining their own businesses, and pissing me off, but this is it, I'm out of here. I still have a three month contract but I will get out of it in seconds, with J_Lo or anything, fucking stupid whores I hope they'll rote in hell. Good luck trying to sue me or anything while Im basically non existent in this shitty country known as Brazil.


Yeah maybe Im little pissed off because of recent events, but everyone has its limits...

Tell us how you really feel.
 
Tell us how you really feel.

Basically, exactly like that, what the hell is wrong with these people, a little Rammstein dont let them sleep? (and is not even that loud).


I really feel like I want to live on my own and leave these old ladies rot themselves to the core, they are sick, horrible selfish people, I'm hearing my music THROUGH HEADPHONES FOR CRYING OUT LOUD, AND IS NOT EVEN THAT LOUD, but it might take a while, for now I'll stick to the pain for new year's eve and carnaval, and then,... they are fucked, they'll die of gangrene if I'm lucky. They deserve it.

EDIT: I think I owe an explanation to GAF, I live in a room, expensive as hell (Rio is more expensive than freaking Switzerland where I live, with a minimum wage of $500 reales, that is less than $200 dollars, that is how fucked up it is here) and I have to stand my land lady complain about music "too loud", trust me, I only listen to metal, what I was listening to is hardly even that loud...

Fuck her, she is basically crippled, as everyone here, somehow they think they are entitled to the world and beyond when if it wasn't for us stupid foreigners that pay the most expensive rent in latinamerica, they'll be begging on the street, I'm done being nice to them, I've been too freaking nice, fuck them...


Sorry guys, I just needed somewhere to vent this out.....
 
Maybe not. But it would be nice if at least some of the cute guys I meet under normal circumstances would be gay and single. Instead of always having to try hook up with strangers online or at gayclubs (which there are none where I live)

Man this is my life so much.
 
Maybe not. But it would be nice if at least some of the cute guys I meet under normal circumstances would be gay and single. Instead of always having to try hook up with strangers online or at gayclubs (which there are none where I live)
I hate how you have to embrace clubs/bars or random people online if you want to meet guys. Seriously, it's beyond crappy. I despise clubbing and bars (alcohol, smoke, awful music - nope) and online gets you... very mixed results.
 
I hate how you have to embrace clubs/bars or random people online if you want to meet guys. Seriously, it's beyond crappy. I despise clubbing and bars (alcohol, smoke, awful music - nope) and online gets you... very mixed results.

Join a club (sports, hobby, etc).
 
I hate how you have to embrace clubs/bars or random people online if you want to meet guys. Seriously, it's beyond crappy. I despise clubbing and bars (alcohol, smoke, awful music - nope) and online gets you... very mixed results.

Well even if they are not online the people you'll meet will be random. I would give online dating more of a chance.
 
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