thebaroness
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Yes. That is way worse. It leads you to believe the guy really isn't into you and makes everything painfully awkward.
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Yes. That is way worse. It leads you to believe the guy really isn't into you and makes everything painfully awkward.
Devolution
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Clubs are hookup venues as well. School and unis are a way to get to know people and have a conversation that doesn't involve yelling over music.
Uh, yeah, that's the type of problems I was talking about. On the other hand:
This is also known to me - Features associated with gay men are usually desirable. There's a fine line here.
Thanks a lot LadyGAF
Vigilant Walrus
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LadyGAF, is chemistry bullshit? In the dating scheme. Do you feel personally, that if there is a connection, that it always hits home for you?
Or have you tried feeling like you had a great connection with someone, but then the guy just left, found someone else, nothing happened, he didn't make a move or something like that?
Or have you tried feeling like you had a great connection with someone, but then the guy just left, found someone else, nothing happened, he didn't make a move or something like that?
BladeWorker
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My experience would suggest that chemistry is not BS. I would further posit that timing has an impact on chemistry, too.
thebaroness
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NotTheGuyYouKill
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I don't think chemistry is bullshit (I'm not a lady though, maybe I'm self-delusional). That said, I don't really recall the last time I had chemistry-chemistry with a girl. Oddly enough, I've had bromantic chemistry with other dudes. But not in a gay way, in just an awesome way, kinda like Shaun and Gus from Psych.
See, this is why I like you. Boiling down the heart of the matter.
I own like thirty ties. I don't like them cause they make me look rich, cause... they don't. I just... like them.
I dunno why.
See, this is why I like you. Boiling down the heart of the matter.
I own like thirty ties. I don't like them cause they make me look rich, cause... they don't. I just... like them.
I dunno why.
Vigilant Walrus
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Nope, never that's never happened to me....
hehe. Do you have any idea why?
FO-totality
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True story. I constantly feel the bromantic chemistry between us. Trust me, I'm a chemist.
Hey, I just call them like I sniff them.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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BladeWorker
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Well done folks I just puked a little in my mouth...
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CountAntonius
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Starting to feel like popGAF in here.
Lmao, dancing? I can picture it now:
guy: Can I take you out sometime?
girl: Depends, how many spins can you do?
I'm probably the worst dancer on the planet and I have never had problems with women. You just gotta have something important to say; something they need to know...
guy: Can I take you out sometime?
girl: Depends, how many spins can you do?
I'm probably the worst dancer on the planet and I have never had problems with women. You just gotta have something important to say; something they need to know...
NotTheGuyYouKill
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I dance on my own when no one's watching. God, if I danced in front of a girl I liked, the embarrassment.
How so?
How so?
CountAntonius
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Those gifs.
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I physically cannot dance, end of story. I hurt people.
Don't you dare compare us to those heathens.
Don't you dare compare us to those heathens.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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You're one of us now. Bet you didn't see that coming!
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thebaroness
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Been trying to work that one out for years.
Devolution
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Indeed.
Kitsunebaby
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I know there's this stereotype of women liking a guy who dances but I honestly couldn't care less about it. Is it sexy? Yes, but it's far from important.
I enjoy going dancing from time to time but when I get tired of dancing, I like to find a quiet table or corner somewhere to just sit and talk to whoever I'm with. Conversational skills are much more important than dancing skills to me.
Devolution
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Dancing is another way though of showing confidence and giving no fucks about how others see you and that you're ready, willing and able to have fun.
Kitsunebaby
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Oh, definitely. But for guys worrying about technique, it's really not that big a deal.
User 100115
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This. I've been told I dance like a stripper and I still dance whenever I feel the need. I've danced with guys literally just flailing their arms about and had a blast. As long as you are having fun, it doesn't matter if you are good or not.
Edit: Can you sway back and forth to a beat? Then you can dance. Give no fucks, and just dance
Devolution
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Yeah it isn't.
CountAntonius
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Noooooooooooooo!
FO-totality
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But what if you are the real-life dancing incarnate of Commander Shepard?
Honestly, I just really dislike it and I'm bad at it. I know it's all "Hey, show that you don't care!" but there are other ways I can show that without subjecting myself to something I loathe.
Honestly, I just really dislike it and I'm bad at it. I know it's all "Hey, show that you don't care!" but there are other ways I can show that without subjecting myself to something I loathe.
Bam Bam Baklava
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I don't know why you guys keep complaining about being ugly. Some of you are ugly and some of you just think you are but you're all focusing on something you can't even do anything about. Just gotta accept it eventually.
CountAntonius
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I need a few drinks to loosen up. Rare is the time I dance sober. I just can't turn my fucking brain off without drowning it in alcohol.
User 100115
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Seriously, even if you are Angel bad, I will still dance with you.
Really? I've had girls definitely tell me the opposite.
edit: As in, every girl loves a good lead, right?
Also, some guys think they're "too ugly to ever get a girl" because they're ignoring the girls around them who are also not conventionally attractive. If you want people to overlook your flaws but you're not willing to overlook their flaws, you're going to have a tough life.
Kitsunebaby
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If you're going to do partner dancing I guess.
I'm not really into grinding so usually if I'm dancing with someone we aren't really touching and their technique or sense of rhythm don't really impact me.
but i'm just TOO beautiful. na mean?
I understand that, but it doesn't make the pill any easier to swallow. The only girls that have ever been interested me (besides the one I mentioned earlier who only saw my in person once anyway) have been what I would call unattractive, at least to me.
Bam Bam Baklava
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I know man. How am I supposed to talk to girls when they immediately burst into tears of joy after they see me?
Us beautiful men and our woes. It's not our fault we can only look down.
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ladygaf please, please.. advise me..
thebaroness
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Ugh, Grinding. That's all I have to say.
I went swing dancing with a friend once (his insistence) and it was pretty fun. Not something I'd do again, but it was nice. I should also mention neither of us had any interest romantically in the other, so dancing really isn't a big thing for me. Unless of course you can do the Carlton mmmmmmmmmm:
Ah, I have a more practical question for lady-gaf...
Since I am trying to take some of the advice given, I wanted to talk to this girl I used to know from back in school, but I realized that I don't have her number anymore (I think it's in a past, long-gone phone) and she doesn't have a Facebook. I find myself at a crossroads and am not sure what to do.
Since I am trying to take some of the advice given, I wanted to talk to this girl I used to know from back in school, but I realized that I don't have her number anymore (I think it's in a past, long-gone phone) and she doesn't have a Facebook. I find myself at a crossroads and am not sure what to do.
Hmm LadyGAF I need your input/deciphering skills/whatever. Got a date this Wednesday, I text her earlier today to setup the details for it and say we'll grab dinner before the show. She responds that she doesn't get off of work until an hour before the show so there isnt time for dinner but that we'll figure something out. I tell her that sounds great and that I know some places that'll be open after so it's no big deal. No response after that... I should just assume all is good and text her on Wednesday asking her to let me know when she's ready and to shoot me her address so I can pick her up?
I'v been out of the game for a while and forgot how incredibly awkward the first text conversation is, wasn't really expecting a full blown conversation but it did all seem a little abrupt. I know she's interested as we both have kind of been flirting with each other for a month and a half or so before I asked her out so I don't think that's the issue. Guess I'm just out of practice.
I'v been out of the game for a while and forgot how incredibly awkward the first text conversation is, wasn't really expecting a full blown conversation but it did all seem a little abrupt. I know she's interested as we both have kind of been flirting with each other for a month and a half or so before I asked her out so I don't think that's the issue. Guess I'm just out of practice.
shanshan310
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I've met so many guys like this. "No girl will date me!" "But x liked you a lot" "nah man that's bottom of the barrel shit". I mean, on one hand don't date someone if you can't stand them, but date someone similar to you. Not necessarily in looks but personality, interests etc. If you keep aiming for models you're probably not gonna have much in common. Thus why joining a club seems like a good way to meet women.
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I think texting her tomorrow to be sure would be a good idea.
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