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shanshan310 said:
I've met so many guys like this. "No girl will date me!" "But x liked you a lot" "nah man that's bottom of the barrel shit". I mean, on one hand don't date someone if you can't stand them, but date someone similar to you. Not necessarily in looks but personality, interests etc. If you keep aiming for models you're probably not gonna have much in common. Thus why joining a club seems like a good way to meet women.
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I think the people who do that aren't aiming for "models" though. I think they're talking about not being able to attract anyone except for people who are overweight or just very unattractive, face-wise.
 
Izick said:
Ah, I have a more practical question for lady-gaf...

Since I am trying to take some of the advice given, I wanted to talk to this girl I used to know from back in school, but I realized that I don't have her number anymore (I think it's in a past, long-gone phone) and she doesn't have a Facebook. I find myself at a crossroads and am not sure what to do.
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Have anyway to contact her? An E-mail perhaps? Shoot her a message and ask her out for coffee just to catch up on old times. Talking with someone about old times is usually a good ice breaker.
 
shanshan310 said:
I've met so many guys like this. "No girl will date me!" "But x liked you a lot" "nah man that's bottom of the barrel shit". I mean, on one hand don't date someone if you can't stand them, but date someone similar to you. Not necessarily in looks but personality, interests etc. If you keep aiming for models you're probably not gonna have much in common. Thus why joining a club seems like a good way to meet women.
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I've a friend who was exactly like this. She always talked about how no man could ever be interested in her, but then when I reminded her of guys who had been interested in her, she would insist that "they don't count." She had very high standards with her ideal being uh... Gackt. *cough*

Then at 28 she started dating someone seriously for the first time and they were married two months later. *shrug* I won't go into the details of that in this thread.
 
Lissar said:
I've a friend who was exactly like this. She always talked about how no man could ever be interested in her, but then when I reminded her of guys who had been interested in her, she would insist that "they don't count." She had very high standards with her ideal being uh... Gackt. *cough*

Then at 28 she started dating someone seriously for the first time and they were married two months later. *shrug* I won't go into the details of that in this thread.
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Hahah her ideal was Gackt? The fuck do we have the same friends?
 
Pastry said:
Hmm LadyGAF I need your input/deciphering skills/whatever. Got a date this Wednesday, I text her earlier today to setup the details for it and say we'll grab dinner before the show. She responds that she doesn't get off of work until right before the show but that we'll figure something out. I tell her that sounds great and that I know some places that'll be open after so it's no big deal. No response after that... I should just assume all is good and text her on Wednesday asking her to let me know when she's ready and to shoot me her address so I can pick her up?

I'v been out of the game for a while and forgot how incredibly awkward the first text conversation is, wasn't really expecting a full blown conversation but it did all seem a little abrupt. I know she's interested as we both have kind of been flirting with each other for a month and a half or so before I asked her out so I don't think that's the issue. Guess I'm just out of practice.
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She probably thought all was said that needed to be said. I wouldn't read into it at all.

Personally,I absolutely loathe texting and do as little of it as possible. I'd much rather converse face to face, and use texting solely as a means of making plans to meet up.
 
thebaroness said:
Have anyway to contact her? An E-mail perhaps? Shoot her a message and ask her out for coffee just to catch up on old times. Talking with someone about old times is usually a good ice breaker.
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No, no email. And I don't think she'd be into coffee very much as she's younger. Don't worry, she's in high school (I'm in college), but I don't think that would be up her alley. I think I know a friend of her on Facebook, but...I don't really care for the friend though...Eh, I think I'm just gonna give up on this one.
 
Lissar said:
I've actually known a few people who have him as their ideal.

I can't say I understand it at all. D:
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Not my ideal (I might have too varied taste to even have an ideal) but I get the appeal of pretty boys. Plus it's no secret that I enjoy men in women's clothes and he's fulfilled that for me many a time.
 
shanshan310 said:
I've met so many guys like this. "No girl will date me!" "But x liked you a lot" "nah man that's bottom of the barrel shit". I mean, on one hand don't date someone if you can't stand them, but date someone similar to you. Not necessarily in looks but personality, interests etc. If you keep aiming for models you're probably not gonna have much in common. Thus why joining a club seems like a good way to meet women.
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Speaking honestly, I really did wish I could get some sort of rating on myself. I've always heard mixed opinions and it messes with ya. On the negative side, I've heard I'm ugly, weird, creepy, etc. Middle of the road is a lot of, You'll clean up well, need to put on more weight, etc. And on the positive side, I get cute a lot. Seldom hot, though I think that has to deal with my personality more so.

It just messes with your head. You'll hear a negative comment and it just fucks with you for a bit. Someone said I looked creepy and for the next few days, It just sat in the back of my mind, like a constant poke. Then someone says you look good and it feels wonderful. Like you're indestructible afterwards. Its funny how it works. Where I'd rather just have a quantifiable number rather than an abstract dealing. I think that would help, though its a fuck up perspective anyways.
 
Ew Gackt. Although it makes sense if you're into games and anime. About a million characters are based on him, included every Square character Nomura has ever drawn.
 
shintoki said:
Speaking honestly, I really did wish I could get some sort of rating on myself. I've always heard mixed opinions and it messes with ya. On the negative side, I've heard I'm ugly, weird, creepy, etc. Middle of the road is a lot of, You'll clean up well, need to put on more weight, etc. And on the positive side, I get cute a lot. Seldom hot, though I think that has to deal with my personality more so.

It just messes with your head. You'll hear a negative comment and it just fucks with you for a bit. Someone said I looked creepy and for the next few days, It just sat in the back of my mind, like a constant poke. Then someone says you look good and it feels wonderful. Like you're indestructible afterwards. Its funny how it works.
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Do you have any idea how many more negative comments you get as a woman? You post one picture of yourself, and you get called fat, whore, ugly, sharp knees, hot, I want to cum in her face, tits or GTFO, etc, etc. Sorry dude, but I find it hard to feel sympathy because someone called you creepy :p
 
thebaroness said:
Do you have any idea how many more negative comments you get as a woman? You post one picture of yourself, and you get called fat, whore, ugly, sharp knees, hot, I want to cum in her face, tits or GTFO, etc, etc. Sorry dude, but I find it hard to feel sympathy because someone called you creepy :p
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You have quite a strange collection of Facebook friends.
 
shintoki said:
Speaking honestly, I really did wish I could get some sort of rating on myself. I've always heard mixed opinions and it messes with ya. On the negative side, I've heard I'm ugly, weird, creepy, etc. Middle of the road is a lot of, You'll clean up well, need to put on more weight, etc. And on the positive side, I get cute a lot. Seldom hot, though I think that has to deal with my personality more so.

It just messes with your head. You'll hear a negative comment and it just fucks with you for a bit. Someone said I looked creepy and for the next few days, It just sat in the back of my mind, like a constant poke. Then someone says you look good and it feels wonderful. Like you're indestructible afterwards. Its funny how it works. Where I'd rather just have a quantifiable number rather than an abstract dealing. I think that would help, though its a fuck up perspective anyways.
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You can't get much more proof than this for 'it's all subjective'. Who I find hot Devo won't find hot. Or we might agree on some guys. It's all a matter of taste.

thebaroness said:
Do you have any idea how many more negative comments you get as a woman? You post one picture of yourself, and you get called fat, whore, ugly, sharp knees, hot, I want to cum in her face, tits or GTFO, etc, etc. Sorry dude, but I find it hard to feel sympathy because someone called you creepy :p
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I was once told I looked like my avatar. I couldn't decide if I was flattered (cause I find him hot) or insulted (cause he's a dude)
 
Kitsunebaby said:
She probably thought all was said that needed to be said. I wouldn't read into it at all.

Personally,I absolutely loathe texting and do as little of it as possible. I'd much rather converse face to face, and use texting solely as a means of making plans to meet up.
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Gotcha. I hate talking on the phone so I chose texting as the better route to setup details. Well that and my sister insisted I should probably text to set it up rather than call.
 
Hmmm she is on another social networking site but I'd feel like a sleezeball if I just made a profile for that. I don't think I can cross that line. Too grimy.
 
thebaroness said:
Do you have any idea how many more negative comments you get as a woman? You post one picture of yourself, and you get called fat, whore, ugly, sharp knees, hot, I want to cum in her face, tits or GTFO, etc, etc. Sorry dude, but I find it hard to feel sympathy because someone called you creepy :p
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Its bad to call you hot?
 
thebaroness said:
Do you have any idea how many more negative comments you get as a woman? You post one picture of yourself, and you get called fat, whore, ugly, sharp knees, hot, I want to cum in her face, tits or GTFO, etc, etc. Sorry dude, but I find it hard to feel sympathy because someone called you creepy :p
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Okay... I'm kind of confused how you got this from my post.

Fiction said:
You can't get much more proof than this for 'it's all subjective'. Who I find hot Devo won't find hot. Or we might agree on some guys. It's all a matter of taste.
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No I understand it. Everyone has their own tastes, me included. Its just me commenting on why I think it messes with your head. Because it is subjective. Some people can rationalize it better than others.
 
thebaroness said:
When your pictures get posted in a forum where the purpose is to cum on print outs, yes.
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Fiction said:
You can't get much more proof than this for 'it's all subjective'. Who I find hot Devo won't find hot. Or we might agree on some guys. It's all a matter of taste.



I was once told I looked like my avatar. I couldn't decide if I was flattered (cause I find him hot) or insulted (cause he's a dude)
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Yeah our tastes in men definitely differ.


Izick said:
See, that's why I would never post pics outside of Facebook.
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Haters gonna hate, wutchu gonna do.
 
I mean people are just naturally cruel and cold towards others on the internet for the most part. It's the whole anonymity thing, for example I mean look at how Midnights quoted my post, leaving out all the parts surrounding it as to shame me and paint me in a negative way.

People are going to be cold, cruel and just terrible. I refuse to post pictures of myself because of this, and if I were a woman, I would be especially worried about other problems that arise when doing so.

NotTheGuyYouKill said:
I think if a person's just wasting their time ridiculing your photo on a splinter-forum, then you have already won the war.
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You have a point. I still would rather not give them anything to ridicule. I guess that's my whole life in a nutshell though; I'd rather not know than face some sort of judgement or rejection.

NotTheGuyYouKill said:
I've yet to see your face, Izick.

The hell, man.
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I'm sorry, but it's probably for the best.
 
Izick said:
I mean people are just naturally cruel and cold towards others on the internet for the most part. It's the whole anonymity thing, for example I mean look at how Midnights quoted my post, leaving out all the parts surrounding it as to shame me and paint me in a negative way.

People are going to be cold, cruel and just terrible. I refuse to post pictures of myself because of this, and if I were a woman, I would be especially worried about other problems that arise when doing so.



You have a point. I still would rather not give them anything to ridicule. I guess that's my whole life in a nutshell though; I'd rather not know than face some sort of judgement or rejection.



I'm sorry, but it's probably for the best.
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At some point you have to accept that some people are just going to be shits. I'd rather be hated for who I am than be scared or put on a facade.
 
Izick said:
I mean people are just naturally cruel and cold towards others on the internet for the most part. It's the whole anonymity thing, for example I mean look at how Midnights quoted my post, leaving out all the parts surrounding it as to shame me and point me in a negative way.

People are going to be cold, cruel and just terrible. I refuse to post pictures of myself because of this, and if I were a woman, I would be especially worried about other problems that arise when doing so.



You have a point. I still would rather not give them anything to ridicule. I guess that's my whole life in a nutshell though; I'd rather not know than face some sort of judgement or rejection.



I'm sorry, but it's probably for the best.
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I should shout at you.

But I'd feel hypocritical cause I haven't posted my photo either. One day.

If somebody does make fun of you though, you must immediately crush them with the fury of a thousand suns.
 
Devolution said:
At some point you have to accept that some people are just going to be shits. I'd rather be hated for who I am than be scared or put on a facade.
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I get that, I just don't have that kind of confidence I guess. I don't need someone to tell me I look bad.

thebaroness said:
I don't have to post my photos for them to show up places.
It's a little impossible to hid my face away with my work and my hobby.
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Well, then I don't know what to say. I mean it's really just one of those things that I have never had to experience so I can't give any meaningful input on. I really am sorry for the people who have made you feel this way and I hope that it doesn't get to you.

NotTheGuyYouKill said:
I should shout at you.

But I'd feel hypocritical cause I haven't posted my photo either. One day.

If somebody does make fun of you though, you must immediately crush them with the fury of a thousand suns.
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Why do you want to shout at me?
 
pigeon said:
Also, some guys think they're "too ugly to ever get a girl" because they're ignoring the girls around them who are also not conventionally attractive. If you want people to overlook your flaws but you're not willing to overlook their flaws, you're going to have a tough life.
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Is it a bad thing that I just wouldn't give bbw/overweight a chance at all D:
 
Izick said:
I get that, I just don't have that kind of confidence I guess. I don't need someone to tell me I look bad.



Well, then I don't know what to say. I mean it's really just one of those things that I have never had to experience so I can't give any meaningful input on. I really am sorry for the people who have made you feel this way and I hope that it doesn't get to you.



Why do you want to shout at me?
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I dunno, I think it's, you know, our thing at this point.
 
Izick said:
Well, then I don't know what to say. I mean it's really just one of those things that I have never had to experience so I can't give any meaningful input on. I really am sorry for the people who have made you feel this way and I hope that it doesn't get to you.
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Lol it doesn't make me feel bad, it's just something I've come to accept. If I got upset over every fat comment I got, I'd be a wreck. You have to grow a really thick skin.
 
thebaroness said:
Lol it doesn't make me feel bad, it's just something I've come to accept. If I got upset over every fat comment I get, I'd be a wreck. You have to grow a really thick skin.
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Well I'm glad that you are good then.

I just wish sometimes we all just took a minute and think about what we say about other people when online. It's just kind of so...detached these days. Kids are so detached from everything. It's just kind of weird and sad.
 
Anyway, so yeah, creating an account on another social network site pretty much just for a number (I lost) is a "no-no", right? It just kind of feels dirty to me.
 
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