Gay and Bisexual thread |OT2|Bears and Twinks and Otters. Oh My!
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RatskyWatsky
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He walks around in skimpy underwear in front of his young daughter?
try not being in your early twenties ok
kitchenmotors
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SpaceBridge
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Very difficult to appreciate it with a little girl in the shot .
thats just creepy
I have basically found not a single ripped guy with good legs, at least where I live, it does get pretty ridiculous at some points, you wonder how they stay straight without falling.
hehe pretty much what I wanted to say, if anything I doubt anyone is (or was) prepared for a serious "mature" relationship at 21.
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? I honestly don't understand.
Only if you sexualize underwear.
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I'm 21.
Well get older, damn it! You're not allowed that nonsense until you're at least middle age (read: 24).
PowderedToast
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my ex has a date
now i need a date or i lose the battle
hook me up gay gaf !!!!
now i need a date or i lose the battle
hook me up gay gaf !!!!
DR2K
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I thought gay death was 30. Or was it 25?
His date could easily give him herpes. There's always hope.
His date could easily give him herpes. There's always hope.
Escape Goat
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Why do you need a date?
Necromanti
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This is so true. I guess I'd consider myself an exception (not in that I'm super mature or anything) because I would rather be involved in something serious than just having a fuck buddy, although I wouldn't mind that, obviously.PowderedToast
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i don't really think i need one, although it does make you assess where you are somewhat
i'm not hurting/jealous or anything, just wish i was more active and effective at meeting new people and potential interests. without work or education, that has become increasingly difficult
it's a she btw, and we're on good terms so i hope she doesn't contract herpes for all our sakes :¬)
Fine, but I want something spicy tonight. Preferably Indian.
Escape Goat
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I'd suggest joining an activities group if you're into that stuff. I dont like doing stuff in winter so I'm not even sure if they operate all year. *shrug*
PowderedToast
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hmm, i might actually. no harm in checking out my area. thanks for the suggestion
i can afford fish and chips *-*
Bel Marduk
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You're not an anomaly at all. Old stereotypes of the way gay people ought to be just don't fit you.
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About my age? Yes?
SpaceBridge
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I've said the same thing here before and had the flames sear my opinion to silence. Perhaps I need to be more eloquent
Speaking of age difference, my current guy is in his 40's, and I'm 34. Nice to connect with someone in a similar place in life with experiences to relate to.
PowderedToast
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heh, hontou arigatou gozaimasu, and no, I live in the US, very far from him unfortunately, but like I said, there's a possibility he's going to come study here in the US as an exchange student! I hope he does
Hey me too. Im basically the same age as you and SO the same age. And for the record I'm more a top than a bottom, although he provides most of the income in the household.
I've generally gone for older people though. Many times 10 years older than me. I've never understood why people clock to 21 year olds. I guess people on an established career path attract me. I was in pretty dire financial straights until recently so financial stability was also attractive.
Prob the thing I like most though is that he genuinely cares about me. Even when I get sick of him and think 4 years of this has been enough, the idea of not having someone to care about me unconditionally essentially keeps me here.
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Just to clarify something here, I wasn't talking about gay stereotypes.
umop_3pisdn
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I agree with you, I'm kind of surprised this is controversial. People in their early twenties aren't really in the position to know who they are yet. They may have a very good idea but just the amount of experience that has so far been available to them in combination with the opportunities opening up to them makes that kind of unrealistic, and it isn't really a criticism because the opposite situation could probably be considered self-limiting in most situations. A person can maybe have a serious relationship at a younger age but then the meaning of a serious relationship probably means something a little different than it would to an older person.
If you find someone willing to buy expensive kitchen appliances for sexual favours, let me know. I too want a good mixer (i'm in a bread-making obsession right now and a dough hook would make my life so much easier) but they're so expensive.
Am I the only gay person who finds the "gay scene" fucking disgusting? My brother was telling me about it in detail and it's sounds really gross. He kept telling me about all these hook ups he had (which surprised me a bit because he's obese). I told him that sounds really gross and probably not safe. He called me a loner and homophobic when I called out him out on that fact that he seems sleazy.
Bel Marduk
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There are lots of different gay scenes. If you're talking about the bar scene in most cities, then most likely yes.
kitchenmotors
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Yeah we're both gay. I can't tell him though because he'll threaten to tell my father and use the information to his advantage. My dad has many times now stated his hatred for gay people and he'd without a doubt kick me out if he found out. My brother's living with his "boyfriend" (open relationship clearly) most of the time so if need be he could just move out instantly. I'm poor and still in school (I will be soon at least) so I can't afford to live on my own.
Mystic Theurge
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What made it disgusting? Was he not using protection or something?
Also random hook ups isn't exclusive to gay people.
Going to bars and hooking up with people isn't the gay scene. Straight people do it too. And you don't have to go to gay bars/clubs and hook up. You can go, have a drink, dance, and generally have a lovely time. There are different kinds of bars and if you don't go to the one with the backroom then it doesn't have to be gross and disgusting.
kitchenmotors
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My issue has always been the atmosphere and the type of people that go there. If I go with a group of friends on occasion, I don't mind. I would rather go to a concert or show and drink with that type or crowd. That's more my scene.
I wouldn't call it disgusting, but the potential for drama (after having had more than my share in younger years) makes me weary. After certain events, I tend to not trust gay/bi men.
Thankfully, we've found two good bars within walking distance of where we live, both of which show sports (football and soccer especially), serve damn good po-boys, aren't too smoky, have a really mixed/liberal crowd, etc. One's better suited for a more quiet eat-at-the-bar/watch-the-game visit, while the other one is more suited for rowdy/raucous/rollicking sports viewing, like Sunday/Monday Night Football, World Cup, etc.
Assuming we never move from this area, we're set on bars. Thank god.
Thankfully, we've found two good bars within walking distance of where we live, both of which show sports (football and soccer especially), serve damn good po-boys, aren't too smoky, have a really mixed/liberal crowd, etc. One's better suited for a more quiet eat-at-the-bar/watch-the-game visit, while the other one is more suited for rowdy/raucous/rollicking sports viewing, like Sunday/Monday Night Football, World Cup, etc.
Assuming we never move from this area, we're set on bars. Thank god.
I'm more of a pub person. Course, I'm not a fan of the music played at clubs, find large crowds obnoxious, hate second hand smoke and was never a fan of the type of people that congregate at those places in the first place.
But yeah, flings/hook-ups is most definitely not an exclusively "gay" thing. It's a bar thing. I've only ever gone to non-gay bars and it's always a bunch of people on the prowl.
Padawan of Windu
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Definitely not! I've been with my boyfriend for 11 years, and we started dating when i had just turned 17. We were just so god damned similar in so many ways and interests that we've always stuck toether through everything. (Though we certainly have some differences, which is important.)
Recently I've been struggling with how to address something else kind of related to this. While I've always been out and never ashamed of who I am, sometimes I'm a little unclear of how to answer certain questions at work when it comes to kids. (I work with children.) Every once in a while I get the "do you have a girlfriend?" question and laugh and say no. If they press any further I say I have a partner, though I hate that term and it's generic, clinical soundingness. Sometimes I think they just don't understand what i mean, and I feel a disservice is being done to them when I should be educating. It's weird for me to feel this nervousness, probably due to it being related to my job. I have nothing to fear about it, as I live in Mass and we have anti-LGBT discrimination laws, but what is stopping me from just saying I'm gay, or have a boyfriend? Is there some weird middle school fear of telling people my sexuality coming into play here? The other day an older kid asked, and I flat out said that I was gay and lived with my boyfriend, so I guess that's progress. Does anyone else here have similar experiences or advice on handling it?
I have the same hesitation here in Louisiana after a long time, especially with older patients/colleagues. I'll say I'm married and speak of in-laws, but avoid the topic just because I'm too damn lazy to deal with it. My boss and co-workers all know, so it isn't a fear of job loss issue.. more just not wanting to bother with it. *shrug*
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