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Relationships are what you make of them. You don't have to change your whole life to be in a relationship with someone else. I don't really understand the question.
 
So guys I have a problem.

I went out yesterday and again they robbed me, this time was worst, this asshole invited me to spend the night with him and I did, like a complete idiot, then he said he was going to get me something for my hiccups,(I hiccup like mad for some reason sometimes), and never returned, so I felt asleep and everything. Then I wake up and go to pay for the room, and bam, credit card is gone. Then I checked and the guy spend around $500 before I could report the robbery. I feel like such an idiot, and I think I'll never go out again, this happens to often and I just have no one to go with me, being alone makes me a painfully easy target for these bastards. All I got was his underwear and a telephone number I won't even care to check because its so obviously fake.

Wanting to be with someone has made me do things I would have never imagine to do, but for what? for this? I'm sick and tired of this shit, the gay scene can go and die in a corner for all I care.
 
I think I am starting to like flamboyant gay guys. Last night I was watching Locked up raw on msnbc and they did a segment on Orange County jail and in it was the cutest guy Marcus Cash. It's a bit weird seeing so many gay men in jail but Marcus is just too cute.

http://youtu.be/FpFTwAM3r2M
 
So guys I have a problem.

I went out yesterday and again they robbed me, this time was worst, this asshole invited me to spend the night with him and I did, like a complete idiot, then he said he was going to get me something for my hiccups,(I hiccup like mad for some reason sometimes), and never returned, so I felt asleep and everything. Then I wake up and go to pay for the room, and bam, credit card is gone. Then I checked and the guy spend around $500 before I could report the robbery. I feel like such an idiot, and I think I'll never go out again, this happens to often and I just have no one to go with me, being alone makes me a painfully easy target for these bastards. All I got was his underwear and a telephone number I won't even care to check because its so obviously fake.

Wanting to be with someone has made me do things I would have never imagine to do, but for what? for this? I'm sick and tired of this shit, the gay scene can go and die in a corner for all I care.

Sorry to hear this. Things like these make it easy to loose faith in people. :/
You should never bring anything valuable (especially credit cards) when you go and meet new people.

Are you sure you don't have any means to find the guy? Maybe there was a monitoring in the hotel you were staying in.
 
So guys I have a problem.

I went out yesterday and again they robbed me, this time was worst, this asshole invited me to spend the night with him and I did, like a complete idiot, then he said he was going to get me something for my hiccups,(I hiccup like mad for some reason sometimes), and never returned, so I felt asleep and everything. Then I wake up and go to pay for the room, and bam, credit card is gone. Then I checked and the guy spend around $500 before I could report the robbery. I feel like such an idiot, and I think I'll never go out again, this happens to often and I just have no one to go with me, being alone makes me a painfully easy target for these bastards. All I got was his underwear and a telephone number I won't even care to check because its so obviously fake.

Wanting to be with someone has made me do things I would have never imagine to do, but for what? for this? I'm sick and tired of this shit, the gay scene can go and die in a corner for all I care.
That sucks. Some people out there are just scumbags. What are your options now? Are those five hundred dollars gone for good?
 
So guys I have a problem.

I went out yesterday and again they robbed me, this time was worst, this asshole invited me to spend the night with him and I did, like a complete idiot, then he said he was going to get me something for my hiccups,(I hiccup like mad for some reason sometimes), and never returned, so I felt asleep and everything. Then I wake up and go to pay for the room, and bam, credit card is gone. Then I checked and the guy spend around $500 before I could report the robbery. I feel like such an idiot, and I think I'll never go out again, this happens to often and I just have no one to go with me, being alone makes me a painfully easy target for these bastards. All I got was his underwear and a telephone number I won't even care to check because its so obviously fake.

Wanting to be with someone has made me do things I would have never imagine to do, but for what? for this? I'm sick and tired of this shit, the gay scene can go and die in a corner for all I care.

Wow, sorry to hear. Take out a hit on the little shit.

I think I am starting to like flamboyant gay guys. Last night I was watching Locked up raw on msnbc and they did a segment on Orange County jail and in it was the cutest guy Marcus Cash. It's a bit weird seeing so many gay men in jail but Marcus is just too cute.

http://youtu.be/FpFTwAM3r2M

#MESS. I closed the tab after 5 seconds haha.
 
Back in September, I linked to three pictures of myself in this thread asking people their honest opinions regarding my looks. I wasn't very confident, and was deep within my shell. I hadn't dated men before then, and had just created an online dating profile to rectify that. Since that time, I've gained more self-esteem, came out to my mother and friends, and I fell insanely in love. Despite being scared out of my mind at first, it was all worth it and I'm glad I put myself out there. When I have more time, I'll post the full story for those interested. Here's to what I hope is the best year of my adult life so far.
Darn, I missed your post back then...somehow:
Hello all,

I decided to step out of my cocoon and try my hand at online dating this week. I created a profile (which I posted in the okcupid thread for feedback but went unnoticed), and truth be told, I don't know the first thing on how to go about it (been single most of my life; I'm bi, but more in the men direction I'd say). May I ask for your merciless judgement on the pictures I used for the profile? I don't consider myself particularly good looking, so I'm hoping the impression I make with the written word sells, though I'd still like the pictures to try and do the job.

Bah, I'll just post them:

One: http://goo.gl/VCy0A
Two: http://goo.gl/KlbFX
Three: http://goo.gl/Jfj6b (I fucking love muffins, ok?)

Critique away.
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I gave up on online dating. I just couldn't get them to respond. Most of them are looking for model-looking pips. Relationships don't matter anymore
 
Online dating mostly sucks, but I don't really have any other alternative. Plus my city being crappy and boring is a pretty big factor :P

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I think I am starting to like flamboyant gay guys. Last night I was watching Locked up raw on msnbc and they did a segment on Orange County jail and in it was the cutest guy Marcus Cash. It's a bit weird seeing so many gay men in jail but Marcus is just too cute.

http://youtu.be/FpFTwAM3r2M
Side note, that show generally has a... bad idea about what being gay is. As in, "transgender people = same thing as gay people" and "it's a lifestyle choice" bad. Somehow I still keep coming back to watch it, though...

Marcus is transgender.
 
Sorry to hear this. Things like these make it easy to loose faith in people. :/
You should never bring anything valuable (especially credit cards) when you go and meet new people.

Are you sure you don't have any means to find the guy? Maybe there was a monitoring in the hotel you were staying in.

yeah usually I leave everything, including money when I go out, but I need the card to buy stuff if I leave money, unfortunately the guy probably saw my password, otherwise he wouldn't have been able to use the card.

That sucks. Some people out there are just scumbags. What are your options now? Are those five hundred dollars gone for good?

Yeah more than likely yes, I need to go to the bank and the police to see if I have any options but I'm not holding my breath.

Maybe this is Mantidor's guy.

hehe I live in Brazil so is not likely.
 
Left the wax outta my handlebar moustache today, and tried my hand at the Tombstone cowboy face spanner lip beast.

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Got tons of attention, so I'm adding it to my repertoire. LOL
 
I gave up on online dating. I just couldn't get them to respond. Most of them are looking for model-looking pips. Relationships don't matter anymore
Ain't that the truth. I get more responses when I put a good looking guy's photo on my online dating profile rather than my own.
 
Ain't that the truth. I get more responses when I put a good looking guy's photo on my online dating profile rather than my own.

That doesn't mean people aren't interested in relationships.

It just means that physical attraction is important to people. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing.
 
Guys pretending to want a friendship (or relationship) but actually wanting instant sex are pretty bad too. Honestly, it's okay to look for whatever you want, but if a profile says --FRIENDS ONLY-- then maybe it means something.
 
Guys pretending to want a friendship (or relationship) but actually wanting instant sex are pretty bad too. Honestly, it's okay to look for whatever you want, but if a profile says --FRIENDS ONLY-- then maybe it means something.

Yeah, why do some people do that?
 
Do you guys ever use Meetup.com to meet a bunch of guys at once for like bowling, biking, rugby, whatever? Or if you're lucky enough to have a LGBT community center local, the outings scheduled from there?

I found that it's less pressure, way less online weirdos, and more op to organically hook up with the good ones. And you know you already like something in common. I hate that so many of you are hitting so many dating walls. :(
 
Yeah, why do some people do that?

maybe they generally want one thing, but on rare occasion they want something else?

it's no different than meeting someone in real life. they may generally be interested in a relationship, but still hook up.
 
And they get pissed off when it turns out you ARE looking for friends. Honestly, it's hard to not punch them in the face.

There was this guy who supposedly was into languages, so there I was leading the most one-sided conversation ever about how I like the sound of languages with simple vowel systems and stuff, then I realize he doesn't care because he's touching my knee and grinning like an idiot. My face automatically and strongly entered a state of "do not want" that pretty much ended the date, it was hilarious.
 
And they get pissed off when it turns out you ARE looking for friends. Honestly, it's hard to not punch them in the face.

There was this guy who supposedly was into languages, so there I was leading the most one-sided conversation ever about how I like the sound of languages with simple vowel systems and stuff, then I realize he doesn't care because he's touching my knee and grinning like an idiot. My face automatically and strongly entered a state of "do not want" that pretty much ended the date, it was hilarious.

sounds like the date was over well before that ;)
 
the profiles I dislike the most are those that have in them

" I found the love of my life so don't bother me with your indecent proposals"

I'd like to write to them:

"then what the fuck are you doing in an online DATING site? have friends here? bring them over to facebook, this isn't a place to be looking for friends, most of us are single and hoping to find love, sex or both. If you can't offer either, why waste everyone's time? go and enjoy your love"

dunno, maybe is an overreaction but I just don't like the mindset.

EDIT: before you all kill me, I mean that when a guy is partnered, everyone else can look for friends and see what goes on from there.
 
the profiles I dislike the most are those that have in them

" I found the love of my life so don't bother me with your indecent proposals"

I'd like to write to them:

"then what the fuck are you doing in an online DATING site? have friends here? bring them over to facebook, this isn't a place to be looking for friends, most of us are single and hoping to find love, sex or both. If you can't offer either, why waste everyone's time? go and enjoy your love"

dunno, maybe is an overreaction but I just don't like the mindset.

they aren't wasting anyones time because they've clearly stated what they're expecting in their profile. No need to get your panties in a bunch over it.
 
the profiles I dislike the most are those that have in them

" I found the love of my life so don't bother me with your indecent proposals"

I'd like to write to them:

"then what the fuck are you doing in an online DATING site? have friends here? bring them over to facebook, this isn't a place to be looking for friends, most of us are single and hoping to find love, sex or both. If you can't offer either, why waste everyone's time? go and enjoy your love"

dunno, maybe is an overreaction but I just don't like the mindset.

EDIT: before you all kill me, I mean that when a guy is partnered, everyone else can look for friends and see what goes on from there.

I'm not so bothered by his being partnered on a dating site as his wording of it. It makes it sound like he's gloating, and that everyone else is a lowly peon. I dunno, just seemed arrogant.

Do you guys ever use Meetup.com to meet a bunch of guys at once for like bowling, biking, rugby, whatever? Or if you're lucky enough to have a LGBT community center local, the outings scheduled from there?

I found that it's less pressure, way less online weirdos, and more op to organically hook up with the good ones. And you know you already like something in common. I hate that so many of you are hitting so many dating walls. :(

Also, I think this is a damned good idea! That and I'm with Krypto about the dating walls. :(
 
Do you guys ever use Meetup.com to meet a bunch of guys at once for like bowling, biking, rugby, whatever? Or if you're lucky enough to have a LGBT community center local, the outings scheduled from there?

I found that it's less pressure, way less online weirdos, and more op to organically hook up with the good ones. And you know you already like something in common. I hate that so many of you are hitting so many dating walls. :(

I've tried something like that once and they were the most boring group of people I've ever met. Most interesting people don't do stuff like that because they already have plenty of friends.
 
Do you guys ever use Meetup.com to meet a bunch of guys at once for like bowling, biking, rugby, whatever? Or if you're lucky enough to have a LGBT community center local, the outings scheduled from there?

I found that it's less pressure, way less online weirdos, and more op to organically hook up with the good ones. And you know you already like something in common. I hate that so many of you are hitting so many dating walls. :(

I'm a member of a gay biker group, it helped me a lot to know more people.
 
There are no LGBT groups in Boring City in the middle of 3rd World Country :P Plus, while I'd probably try it, I don't join regular sports group so I'm really not itching to join a homo one.
 
I joined an adventurer group once and met a ton of cool guys. Mostly career oriented/professional guys interested in biking/kayaking/hiking/etc. It could get pricey depending where they decided to go, but I was living paycheck to paycheck that summer. A lot of them also played softball on the gay league which is also a great way to expand your social network.
 
I've tried something like that once and they were the most boring group of people I've ever met. Most interesting people don't do stuff like that because they already have plenty of friends.

This is so not true. You're closing yourself off from an excellent avenue. I mean that's ridiculous. Maybe you don't know what Meetup.com is. I have a slough of friends, but not all of them like all the stuff I like.




I'm a member of a gay biker group, it helped me a lot to know more people.

That sounds excellent. I've met some fellow gay bikers down here organically, but it would be cool to run around with a group.
 
I joined an adventurer group once and met a ton of cool guys. Mostly career oriented/professional guys interested in biking/kayaking/hiking/etc. It could get pricey depending where they decided to go, but I was living paycheck to paycheck that summer. A lot of them also played softball on the gay league which is also a great way to expand your social network.

Exactly, and you can expect some of the members to match you with their friends. Anyone looking to create a videogame club in Montréal? It would keep me out of trouble.
 
In regards to guys who have profiles that say "Friends Only" and then are looking for sex:

My experience is that many don't want to be judged by other people (including their other gay friends) that they are actually, in fact, looking for sex (or else they might be called a slut or something). Many gay guys use the same websites and can easily recognize when they see someone they know on them. Therefore, they just state publicly that they are looking for friends only.

Granted, there are people out there who ARE actually looking for just friends, but I find those are rare (at least in Calgary). I personally don't have any profiles anywhere (with the exception of Facebook and LinkedIn), so I'm not sure if this is still true or not.

I find that I've met a lot of good quality people just by networking, and through friends of friends. Volunteering also helps. I got to meet a lot of people here when I was helping out with my employer's LGBT network, and then subsequently, helping out at the gay pride parade.

There's a lot of amazing people out there that won't be found on the internet.
 
I've tried something like that once and they were the most boring group of people I've ever met. Most interesting people don't do stuff like that because they already have plenty of friends.

it depends on the interests, a friend of mine just got into a gay group where the main topic is the 3DS, they play online and collect streetpasses and whatnot. He is very happy with it.

but I think I understand what you mean, random groups of people with nothing particularly in common, just that they feel lonely and don't know what to do with their time,....mmh, that doesn't work.
 
I'm quite depressed these days, so don't see much trough my question : have you ever thought of getting infected with HIV on purpose? I'm starting to be overwhelmed with the whole scene, and it seems to be the easier avenue.
 
I've tried something like that once and they were the most boring group of people I've ever met. Most interesting people don't do stuff like that because they already have plenty of friends.

there's no correlation between being interesting and having plenty of friends. There are plenty of people with lots of friends that are terribly uninteresting. There are tons of people with many friends and who are interesting in these groups already -- they're interest groups for a reason. There are also many good reasons for interesting people to not have many friends and to join these groups.

and seriously, you tried something like this once and can make all of these judgments?
 
I'm quite depressed these days, so don't see much trough my question : have you ever thought of getting infected with HIV on purpose? I'm starting to be overwhelmed with the whole scene, and it seems to be the easier avenue.

How would that be any easier?
 
I'm quite depressed these days, so don't see much trough my question : have you ever thought of getting infected with HIV on purpose? I'm starting to be overwhelmed with the whole scene, and it seems to the easier avenue.

dude... you have to get ahold of yourself. Some pages back you said you had your ass bleeding on a sling while someone smacked your nose with poppers.

I am nobody to judge but...

what the hell are you doing??????

and this question now?, you've probably heard it before but yep, seek help..
 
Exactly, and you can expect some of the members to match you with their friends. Anyone looking to create a videogame club in Montréal? It would keep me out of trouble.

That would have been a great idea if I still lived in Montreal!

I actually host games nights where I live now at my place. Lately though, we have been playing Cards Against Humanity instead of video games (because Cards Against Humanity is HILARIOUS with a bunch of friends).

I'm quite depressed these days, so don't see much trough my question : have you ever thought of getting infected with HIV on purpose? I'm starting to be overwhelmed with the whole scene, and it seems to be the easier avenue.

Whoa...

No. It's not something I have ever thought, nor do I think it's something that would ever cross my mind.

Have you thought about what might be causing the depression?
 
I'm quite depressed these days, so don't see much trough my question : have you ever thought of getting infected with HIV on purpose? I'm starting to be overwhelmed with the whole scene, and it seems to be the easier avenue.

Eaiser avenue to what? Meeting people?

There are less dangerous ways.
 
Do you guys ever use Meetup.com to meet a bunch of guys at once for like bowling, biking, rugby, whatever? Or if you're lucky enough to have a LGBT community center local, the outings scheduled from there?
Since I had also become fed up with online dating, I joined a "gaymer" group on Meetup. It was pretty hard to make my way into the group since they mostly kept to the people they knew best, but I managed to make a decent friend. Of course, he later says that he has a crush on me and tries to court me, so I have to awkwardly friendzone him.

The second time I go a few months later, the owner and creator of the group asks me out on a date. I say no thank you but that I'm fine with hanging out since in interested in making friends. I wasn't really impressed with being told the fact that he had fucked a lot of the guys in the group despite insisting that the group does not exist for such a reason. When the time comes for me to leave and catch my bus, he awkwardly tries to make out with me and I'm like "WTF?" and leave. Haven't spoken to him or been back since.

I'm starting to question the viability of gay friends for myself, since I've distanced myself from one due to him propositioning out of the blue one day, and then another who wants to mess around behind his boyfriend's back.

It must be some bizarre twist of fate when I can neither make gay friends without them pouncing on me, while all the same not finding a date. I'm not too bothered by it, though.
I'm quite depressed these days, so don't see much trough my question : have you ever thought of getting infected with HIV on purpose? I'm starting to be overwhelmed with the whole scene, and it seems to be the easier avenue.
What the fuck? No. Don't do it. That's a common mindset in the bug chaser/indiscriminate bareback community, but didn't think I would see it here.
 
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