Well, I do drink a lot of milk but I haven't in the past two weeks (ran out). I know coffee isn't much help but I need that to wake up in the morning and I don't like the carbonated energy drinks, nor could I afford them anyhow. I thought it was IBS too however, but the cramping is usually not that bad. But yes, during stressful situations and anxiety, my stomach is affected.
I feel this too, but it isn't due to Facebook. I can't manage to make any girl interested in me, and it's obvious. Why would they be? If I were a girl, I wouldn't be interested in someone like me.
I heard about the yogurt thing and I do love yogurt. I'm going to make sure to pick some up whenever I can next.
Facebook just bums me out because I see people having a good time, people in relationships, certain people who talk non stop about politics, etc. A certain post just got to me the wrong way today because it was this person I have as a friend of FB going off about "friendzoned idiots" and how she thinks guys feel they're entitled and expect sex for being nice, which I find to be totally off and it all around came off mean spirited. I guess I took it a bit personally since I'm "that guy" who gets "friendzoned". However, things she mentioned don't apply to me, like expecting sex (I'd like an actual girlfriend or relationship) or guys who won't take no for an answer (also not me.... a girl says no, I never go further.... no means no). Hell, I can't remember the last time I went up to a girl and even tried to ask her out. I have problems enough initiating conversations. And that's with anyone, not just women!
We're not too different, you and I. Though I am not too tall, I'd say average, and I look like Macaulay Culkin (I've been teased for it all my life, lol). I too have lots of trouble talking with strangers, and don't have a single female friend, nor would dare to ask any woman out (luckily I still see my high school friends from time to time).
Some really cool people in this thread, that's for sure.
I don't know if I can call it passion. I do like playing games, and love listening to music (bought 4 CDs today, I seriously gotta stop doing that), but it doesn't prevent me from feeling empty. And my bass playing skills are simply awful. Nah, as much as I like that stuff, I still believe that I need to get a girlfriend, despite probably not being the solution and me ruining everything.
I'm as bad with games as you are with CDs when I have the monies. The one positive thing I had with my ex-girlfriend was she was a true gamer. She actually had knowledge of obscure JRPGs and had a limited edition copy of one of the Growlanser games (which I never heard until she busts it out).
People need to understand how and when to use tough love. I'm not saying you need to handle everyone with kid gloves, but brow beating does not work with everyone.
Tough love can sometimes be useful for those who are occasionally down but otherwise emotionally "normal". Attitudes like this however....
How many people work with you? Can you talk to your boss?
Going through this myself, in fact, in the past few days as well.
Even if we don't post replies, please don't interpret this as if no one takes notice and doesn't read your posts. We have lurkers here and people who read through, and your post(s) may actively encourage them; that they are not alone in their sadness, and that other people can relate.
I just click the chat link and then put in a name and hit Connect and I'm in. I'm using Firefox, btw.
Welcome! I have no idea about meds, as I never tried any, but I'm glad to hear they are helping you (or did so in the past).
.Guys, I just wanted to pop in here to say that I won't be around for a while (both in the thread and in the chat). Nothing to worry about, but I need to clear my head for a while. I won't be using the internet for the next couple of weeks outside of checking my e-mail, at least until I get my degree. Really need to focus on that, and internet is proving to be too much of an easy distraction. I'm going to miss the interaction in here, but I think it's time for me to practice interacting irl for a bit. I've had problems with secluding myself in the past, and I have the feeling that (partly due to study-related stress) I'm falling down that hole again. Time for change, time to cut out the internet for a while!
Just wanted to say thanks to everyone in here and in the chat. You guys have made my life a lot easier. Having somewhere to share my most shameful secrets/fears/obsessions was amazingly helpful. You guys are awesome. I know I'm just a random internet guy who made a couple of gibberish-posts in here, but just being able to get the truth about everything I've done wrong out there (even if it is anonymous), and being able to talk to people with similiar issues has done me a world of good. Anyone reading this: if there's one thing you can get out of this thread, it's that you're not alone in feeling like you do, and you're not a bad/weird/crazy person for feeling the way you do. You need to realize that, and focus on what change is needed, and take action to achieve that. It won't come easy, and it will take time. And that's okay. That constant stream of self-hating thoughts won't achieve anything. Sometimes you need to give yourself a break, pick up the pieces, and rebuild your life.
I'll be back some day! I hope I'll be a bit happier/healthier when I do. Take care everyone
Your situation sounds a lot like what I've been through particularly school stuff. I think it would be a good idea to start therapy. It (almost) never hurts. From there they can tell you if seeing a psychaitrist would be necessary. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk.
As for the thread being moved to community, I think there might be more traffic on the subforum than before because of the huge amount of threads that were moved here.
