If she's raped in her life, I don't wanna hear her complain about anything. I don't even want her to call the cops. You just lost that right, girl.
The fuck is wrong with you?
If she's raped in her life, I don't wanna hear her complain about anything. I don't even want her to call the cops. You just lost that right, girl.
Not entirely idiotic.
She isn't really blaming the girl, just suggesting a way that (sadly) the situation could be avoided by the girl, in hindsight. It doesn't condone the actions of the criminals.
We need to realize the source is up its own ass.
Long story short, both are at fault. You shouldn't rape people nor should you be 16 getting drunk. However, Serena should have wordered it differently.
Long story short, both are at fault. You shouldn't rape people nor should you be 16 getting drunk. However, Serena should have wordered it differently.
god fucking damnit you are literally the most wrong
not just serenaLong story short, both are at fault. You shouldn't rape people nor should you be 16 getting drunk. However, Serena should have wordered it differently.
Long story short, both are at fault. You shouldn't rape people nor should you be 16 getting drunk. However, Serena should have wordered it differently.
We're not giving advice to either party in this situation. We our voicing our opinions on a matter of public record.
It's not a good look to tell rapists not to rape after the deed has been done either.
god fucking damnit you are literally the most wrong
16 year olds drinking and stuff doesnt sit well with me.
So underage drinking is comparable to RAPING SOMEONE now?
I'm screaming like a performer on the voice finale.
You are so melodramatic
And completely unfunny, too. Especially when we're dealing with a situation as serious as this.
I don't think some people here are going to take it that way because their pitchforks are getting rusty, but I, too, took it this way and I think I understand her meaning. She's not wrong. If the girl hadn't gotten so belligerent, who knows what might have happened? The sad thing is that if those boys didn't target her, they'd probably end up getting someone else. If not now, the later and perhaps with even more dire consequences.
lol @ the notion that it's old world thinking to say this probably would not have happened if she was not there or not there in that state. How difficult is it really for some people to concede or acknowledge something like that? The majority of the people in here who understand and agree with Serena on some level aren't sitting here saying the rapists are excused because the young woman was irresponsible. To be honest, I don't think I've seen a single person make that argument. You can condemn the attackers' heinous actions and acknowledge the young woman's irresponsible drinking at the same time. They're not mutually exclusive.
I mean you have a beautiful moment of clarity right here. This is why it doesn't matter about victims actions when they are randomly raped.The sad thing is that if those boys didn't target her, they'd probably end up getting someone else. If not now, the later and perhaps with even more dire consequences.
I c u botty
I'm screaming like a performer on the voice finale.
Serena's dead sister should have known better than to be hanging out in Compton.
Long story short, both are at fault. You shouldn't rape people nor should you be 16 getting drunk. However, Serena should have wordered it differently.
"Do you think it was fair, what they got? They did something stupid, but I don't know.
I don't see what's wrong with saying that victim has a responsibility to prevent themselves from being hurt. People need to be careful, period. That being said, the rapists need to be locked up and never see the light of day again.
Because it promotes an idea that victims share the decision of be raped violently against their will. There is nothing but wrong that comes from victim blaming. You can't prevent yourself from someone else deciding they are going to rape you. Especially doing pedestrian things all innocent people do at that age.
I never realized how naive I was about the rape issue. I always thought the "asking for it" defense was exclusively used by sleezy misogynist douchebags, and now I find otherwise reputable people saying the same thing and acting surprised when they're taken to task for it.
Pretty much.I don't see what's wrong with saying that victim has a responsibility to prevent themselves from being hurt. People need to be careful, period. That being said, the rapists need to be locked up and never see the light of day again.
I don't see what's wrong with saying that victim has a responsibility to prevent themselves from being hurt. People need to be careful, period. That being said, the rapists need to be locked up and never see the light of day again.
That's nice and all, but there are situations where rape is particularly likely, to say the victim has no responsibility in avoiding those situations is silly. For example, staying with intoxicated men in a room alone will increase your chances of being raped. Avoiding these situations would be smart. It's not really a matter of blaming the victim, rather ensuring that people know how to be safe.
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Long story short, both are at fault. You shouldn't rape people nor should you be 16 getting drunk. However, Serena should have wordered it differently.
That should be pretty obvious by this point.Going by that logic, if you see a drunk girl, you should treat her vagina like a bad alleyway and stay the fuck away from it.
Serena's dead sister should have known better than to be hanging out in Compton.
Yesterday, the verdict was handed down in the Steubenville rape case. The defendants, Trent Mays and Malik Richmond, were found guilty. Mays will serve at least two years in the state juvenile system; Richmond was sentenced to at least one year. And the attorney general may also bring charges against others who turned a blind eye to the assault.
I feel great relief that Im not writing about a not guilt verdict today. Justice was servedas best it could be by an imperfect systemin this case. Since it so often isnt, that is somethingnot only for Jane Doe, who I hope has the support she surely needs right now, but also for the rest of us, who live in a rape culture thats perpetuated each time someone commits sexual violence and is not held accountable.
But its hard to hold on to that sense of reliefto realize that this ending was the best one possible in this particular casewhen the problem is so much bigger. Nearly everything about the casefrom start to finishreflects a world that I just really dont want to live in anymore.
I dont want to live in a world in which a mainstream media outlet reporting on the verdict barely mentions the victim in their rush to lament the fact that the promising lives of the defendants have been ruined and that this will haunt them for the rest of their lives. I want to live in a world in which negative consequences are considered the logical effect of committing a terrible crime, and a sentence for rape that is shorter than those regularly doled out for drug possession or downloading academic papers is viewed as pretty damn lenient.
I dont want to live in a world in which girls are so well-schooled in the consequences theyre sure to face for speaking up about a sexual assault that the victim immediately tried to assure people that she wasnt being a slut and initially didnt want to name the defendants because I knew everyone would just blame me. I dont want to live in a world that proves these fears justified time and time again.
I dont want to live in a world in which the victims former best friends testify against her. I dont want to live in a world in which girls learn to slut-shame and victim-blame other girls in order to maintain a sense of false security for themselves. I want to live in a world in which we stick together and fight the forces that seek to split us apart, recognizing that victim-blaming anywhere makes us all less safe and less free.
I dont want to live in a world in which a coach is seen as someone who will take care of it if his players are accused of rape. I dont want to live in a world in which young athletes are treated like gods and arrogantly learn that there are no consequences for their bad behavior. I want to live in a world in which coaches take seriously the great and potentially wonderful influence they have in young peoples lives and act as valuable mentors who hold their players to high standardson and off the field.
I dont want to live in a world in which dozens of kids see a girl who was so drunk she was passing out and dont take her home. I dont want to live in a world in which kids see a girl who was so drunk she was puking and joke about urinating on her. I want to live in a world in which people can get too drunkwhile out with friends or aquaintances or total strangersand expect that they will be hungover, not sexually violated, in the morning. I want to live in a world in which girls have the right to be reckless and not get raped, and I want this to not be a controversial statement.
I dont want to live in a world in which many people seem to truly believe that women must be constantly aware of their surroundings and vigilantly guarded against being taken advantage of, or else they bear some accountability for the incident. I dont want to live in a world in which anyone believes that Mays and Richmond did what most people in their situation would have done. I dont want to live in a world that assumes guys are naturally sexual aggressors who will opportunistically take advantage of an incapacitated girl, or forever push, push, push at the boundaries of consent until they hear a clear and forceful no. I want to live in a world that gives boys more credit than that.
I dont want to live in a world in which a boy describes a girl as like a dead body yet still claims that the acts were consensual. I want to live in a world in which female sexual agency is respected and girls are seen as active and equal participants in sex, and so the idea that it would be at all unclear if someone had or had not consented would seem totally ludicrous. I want to live in a world in which it is universally assumed that no one except a rapist would want to have sex with someone who wasnt participating.
I dont want to live in a world in which kids witness a rape in progress and record a video or take a photo instead of stopping it. I dont want to live in a world in which a kid sees his friends assaulting an unconscious girl and claims that he didnt intervene because he didnt realize it was rape. Well, it wasnt violent, Evan Westlake explained. I didnt know exactly what rape was. I always pictured it as forcing yourself on someone. I dont want to live in a world in which this could ever be a believable excuse. I want to live in a world in which there is universal mandatory education on enthusiastic consent in schools and public figures do not make distinctions between forcible rape and other kinds of not-so-serious rape and the media clearly, unequivocally calls non-consensual sex what it is.
Ultimately, the perpetrators alone are held legally responsible for their actions. As they should be. But rapists are created, not born. And they are enabled by a culture that excuses their actions. It is hard, but not impossible, for me to muster much empathy for these boysthe ones convicted as well as the bystanders who watchedwhen they showed absolutely none for their victim. But again: We socialize empathy out of boys all the time. These kids are not particularly unique and Steubenville could be any town in America. And until we accept that we are collectively responsible for that, nothing will change.
We should all feel a little guilty today.
Serena's dead sister should have known better than to be hanging out in Compton.
No they aren't. You people are just pussies who want to be all "why can't we all just be friends and not complain about things." The world doesn't work that way. People SHOULD be called out when they say stupid shit that pretty much amount to "you shouldn't have been so slutty, you caused this yourself, you made them rape yourself."People are taking this "victim blaming" blaming way too far.
Her comments are disgusting to be honest.
But considering the amount of 'I'm not blaming the victim, but...' in this thread, and people agreeing with her? Yeah no.
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How is 'Well, if you hadn't gotten drunk...' not blaming the victim?
tag, you're it. I gotta go see my bros new baby. have fun...She's only guilty of getting drunk, it ends right there. The rape is 100% the fault of the rapists.
Goddamn why do I even have to type this.
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will read post in car, thug.
Its already conceded, when I said she stated the obvious. I was very detailed. You might have missed it. I didn't say that people are excusing rapists. I haven't seen anyone make that argument either.
Your own words are illustrating a picture of a person that calls a woman who was raped some form of irresponsible. People are irresponsible, teenagers are very irresponsible. Now we can move on from that, the world we live in, and focus on the rape that happened, and you agreeing in any way shape or form with what she said.
She questions the time the boys got.
She says the girl is lucky, after being raped.
She then says the girl should have known better, to not put herself in situations where she might get raped on. Well, rape happens everywhere. Regardless of victims intent or actions.
I expect this from a Republican Senator, as recent events have shown all of us that some people quite don't understand Women, nature, and science. Someone who doesn't understand what rape is, its dated thinking. She still said that she shouldn't have been wearing the dress to prom. Yes, its very old world. Very detached from what rape is. I don't think any of us gain anything by conceding the obvious, while not having the temerity to acknowledging that it is insignificant in rape.
You're being intellectually dishonest about discussing rape if you think that there is any merit, any significance, found in this girls actions that resulted in her rape. People have to be careful to live. Others manipulate and take advantage of people. Those people, are the only criminals. They are the only people responsible for their actions on others.
Its pretty safe to say that I, like you, and everyone else, knows that if she didn't go outside of her room, she wouldn't have been raped. If she didn't have a beer, she wouldn't have got raped. If she had friends with her, she wouldn't have got raped. Now that we are here, it has no value. How do we continue from that realization? What way does it provide information to discuss? It doesn't.
A woman gets raped. This is a crime.
You say she shares the blame. Depending on the situation.
You guys have this illusion that it matters. She could have been at home and raped by her brother. Where do victims actions come into play there? It doesn't, yet there is still a rape, its still just as valid as a crime as this one. So why on earth must you add insult to rape by insinuating that she should have done life differently so she wasn't unpredictably raped?
I mean you have a beautiful moment of clarity right here. This is why it doesn't matter about victims actions when they are randomly raped.
I could understand saying women and teenagers should be more careful, but I don't see how anyone could possibly defend this part of Serena's quote -
So, a girl who was raped needs to accept she was at fault for putting herself in that position, but a boy who rapes a girl shouldn't be punished because boys will be boys?
Fiction said:How is 'Well, if you hadn't gotten drunk...' not blaming the victim?
The girl put herself in a vulnerable situation. That wasn't a crime. The punks who raped her are the criminals. And celebrities who comment on things like this are just dumb. "No comment" will save them time and money.
And the media who swirl up controversy by getting these stupid comments are almost worse.
There is one victim here.
1)No, not really, the actions of the girl have been under more discussion and scrutiny than the actions of the boys. Some people have actually been minimizing what the boys did, for example when Serena Williams describes it as "they did something stupid".
2)In general, there's lots of the discussion on what we should teach girls, and not what we should teach boys. You know how the Steubenville rapes could have been prevented? If they were taught "don't rape". They weren't inevitably evil rapists, they just grew up in a football community with shitty attitudes. If they were taught that fingering an unconscious person is rape, that it's a seriously heinous act, and that they will be punished for it, the rape could have been prevented. That's the sort of rape prevention we should be talking about.
Promoting safety and personal responsibility is all well and good, but identifying that as the issue that needs attention or is of most importance, in the context of a rape, is ridiculous.
Seeing this situation and choosing to discuss the victim's poor choices, rather than the rapists, reveals a disturbing bias and a severe misunderstanding of what "personal responsibility" means. (In this context, the rapist is personally responsible for the rape).
I never realized how naive I was about the rape issue. I always thought the "asking for it" defense was exclusively used by sleezy misogynist douchebags, and now I find otherwise reputable people saying the same thing and acting surprised when they're taken to task for it.
No they aren't. You people are just pussies who want to be all "why can't we all just be friends and not complain about things." The world doesn't work that way. People SHOULD be called out when they say stupid shit that pretty much amount to "you shouldn't have been so slutty, you caused this yourself, you made them rape yourself."
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