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[Boom Boom Pow]

this is like telling a straight person they're sexists for not liking or being into someone of their own gender

 

[Face it Tiger..]

yes.

 

[Haly]

I think each case needs to be considered separately to determine if "racism" is playing a factor or not,

 

[Loofy]

If you're attracted to someone, and reject them based on their race, that's racism. If you aren't attracted to a physical characteristic, there's nothing you can do about it, that's just how it is.

Yeah but if youre applying a physical characteristic to an entire race, then thats stereotyping and that is racist.
ie. 'Im not attracted to greek people because they have huge noses'
The non racist way of thinking is actually seeing a person as an individual.

 

[Jzero]

If you're attracted to someone, and reject them based on their race, that's racism. If you aren't attracted to a physical characteristic, there's nothing you can do about it, that's just how it is.

This makes more sense.

 

[royalan]

Yes.

If you're so confident that you can exclude an entire race of people from ever being considered attractive, and you feel the need to state this...yes, I think it makes you racist. Maybe not in the traditional sense, but it will make more than a few eyebrows raise.

 

[Batigol]

I know people who don't like Serena Williams because she's 'too dark' but idgi. It's never been a thing for me. She's hot. Dat muscle

 

[Tesseract]

Outside of hardcore racists, I expect most preference (or disinterest) is based on cultural expectations.

So probably not.

word.

 

[IcyBlueStrawberry]

this is like telling a straight person they're sexists for not liking or being into someone of their own gender

Except for the fact that it really isn't.

 

[BocoDragon]

I'll go on to argue that it's perfectly valid to judge a potential mate on their culture too. It's an influence on their values, and ultimately their personality.

Like, I'd never date a juggalo.

 

[Showaddy]

It's not racist at all if you're not attracted to a particular race.

Now if you say you don't find someone good looking because of their race, now that's something else entirely.

 

[User 100115]

If you're attracted to someone, and reject them based on their race, that's racism. If you aren't attracted to a physical characteristic, there's nothing you can do about it, that's just how it is.

That's what I am going to go with.

It's a difficult question, because we can't help who we are attracted to in the end.

 

[jph139]

Not necessarily racist but I'd say it's definitely a symptom of a racially prejudiced society.

I don't think anyone is "naturally" not attracted to black people. That shit's internalized.

 

[Chainsawkitten]

Thanks for answering the question (and to the others who answered it). I guess that's fair. I just have difficulty relating because to me, beautiful is beautiful.

But what do you mean by 'beautiful'? Does physical beauty involve some kind of physical characteristics? How are those characteristics any less shallow and subjective than race?

 

[Yado]

this is like telling a straight person they're sexists for not liking or being into someone of their own gender

Not being attracted to a particular race has a lot more to do with personal choices and external influences than a person's sexuality. How is someone born not being attracted to asian women?

 

[Eidan]

I'll go on to argue that it's perfectly valid to judge a potential mate on their culture too. It's an influence on their values, and ultimately their personality.

Like, I'd never date a juggalo.

Go on.

 

[Haly]

Yeah but if youre applying a physical characteristic to an entire race, then thats stereotyping and that is racist.
ie. 'Im no attracted to greek people because they have huge noses'

But there are certain features that are very common within a "race" or are associated with a race. If you're specifically not attracted to that characteristic, and it's widely applicable within a given "race", then is that still racism?

 

[IcyBlueStrawberry]

I know people who don't like Serena Williams because she's 'too dark' but idgi. It's never been a thing for me. She's hot. Dat muscle

When it comes to Serena I like the darkness but dislike the muscle. The ass and legs are fine, but her shoulders are too bulky.

 

[SeanR1221]

No but it's weird IMO.

 

[Zaptruder]

As a general preference, nope. As an exclusive preference, yep.

What makes a person attractive? Many factors. Skin colour should only be a factor of attraction, not a determining factor.

 

[Angelus Errare]

I find it hard to believe someone that isn't racist couldn't find anyone from an entire race attractive.

Basically.

 

[umop_3pisdn]

No. Racism is irrational, and attraction is irrational, but I would say that's the majority of what they have in common.

I think it is ignorant not to investigate or question your preferences, though, it's obviously okay if they stay more or less static but if you intend for it to be that way you're kind of making a decision about it.

I find it hard to believe someone that isn't racist couldn't find anyone from an entire race attractive.

This, too.

 

[acrid]

This is an interesting question.

My answer would be I guess it depends on how you aren't attracted. If you aren't attracted simply because of darker skin or whatever, then...maybe?

On the flip side, is it racist to be MORE attracted to a particular race?

I don't think that would qualify someone as being 'rascist'. I think it's really what ever you find as attractive. I find lighter skinned women attractive, but I've been very good friends with very dark women that I've thought the world of. I prefer slim women over large women, but I've had friends that were large women. I'd say if you found a particular race attractive, but refused to be with them just because of that race, then yes, that would be racism.

 

[Miles X]

If you're attracted to someone, and reject them based on their race, that's racism. If you aren't attracted to a physical characteristic, there's nothing you can do about it, that's just how it is.

Very true, we like what we like. That said a lot more comes into play with attraction than just the physical, there may be certain traits in certain races that simply turn people off.

 

[Crayons]

Nope not most of the time.

Half Hispanic Half Asian is sexy as fuck though.

I'd like to see this.

 

[SnakeXs]

No.

But it is racist to think you aren't attracted to a certain race, find someone of that race attractive, but deny the attraction because of their race.

 

[Brawndo Addict]

But there are certain features that are very common within a "race" or are associated with a race. If you're specifically not attracted to that characteristic, and it's widely applicable within a given "race", then is that still racism?

I'd question whether those "features" aren't simply serving as a proxy for race. I would be willing to bet that if those same 'features' were transposed onto someone of another skin color that the individual would be found more attractive; the negative 'features' less off-putting. It's not the 'features' themselves which cause unattraction per se, it's more who those 'features' happen to be on. And if the way it shakes down is that it just so happens that everyone of a particular race has 'features' you don't like, I'm not sure you can honestly say it's not about race at that point.

Regardless of whether you're going to spin it as 'features' or skin color, the ultimate culprit is our own society and our media culture that is conditioning people to prefer certain certain races over others, to consider the 'features' of whites to be the epitome of beauty or attraction and the 'features' of blacks or asians to be 'unattractive'.

 

[Vermillion]

Nope. People are attracted to or not attracted to one another based on physical qualities. Race is a physical quality. So long as there are no stereotypes involved in that decision and it's based purely on the physical... not racist.

 

[Slayven]

This reminds me of when Alexis Texas said she won't fuck black dudes. Like, really? You fuck everyone.

That is a business decision, fuckign black dude lowers your value as a porn start.

 

[ISOM]

Nope not most of the time.

Half Hispanic Half Asian is sexy as fuck though.

hispanic isn't a race though. There are white, black, and native hispanic people.

 

[teh_pwn]

I like them all. There are a couple of ethnicities that I prefer less, but it's usually a nutrition problem not a genetic problem.

 

[freeofgreed]

Saying your not attracted to a specific race, is racist.

Saying your generally not attracted to a specific race, isn't.

Having a preference is perfectly fine, and if your not generally attracted to a phenotype usually associated with a certain race, that is also fine. But to say your not attracted to all members of a certain race is ridiculous, seeing as how there's so much variation within each race, that I guarantee that anyone who says they would never date a certain race, would find at least one person of that race that they find attractive in this world.

 

[Johnny Cage In The Shower]

Shut up dude, Das Racist!

 

[Abounder]

Racist, ignorant, narcissistic, incestuous, etc. Depends on the person but yea sounds like it could be a Cersei Lannister type or Oedipus complex in the making.

 

[Jzero]

I find it hard to believe someone that isn't racist couldn't find anyone from an entire race attractive.

This is actually racist, but having a preference shouldn't be racist.

 

[Count Dookkake]

To expand on my previous post, attraction is not just based on looks. I don't care how hot you are, if you can't shut up during a movie, fuck off.

Same with women who acquiesce to family intrusion in their lives. Luckily, theses are not genetic traits, but they can be cultural.

 

[Vivalaraza]

Interesting question.

I don't think it is racist.

However I do think that this type of thing can lead you to holding racist views, so I think it's near the top of a slippery slope.

 

[royalan]

Saying your not attracted to a specific race, is racist.

Saying your generally not attracted to a specific race, isn't.

Having a preference is perfectly fine, and if your not generally attracted to a phenotype usually associated with a certain race, that is also fine. But to say your not attracted to all members of a certain race is ridiculous, seeing as how there's so much variation within each race, that I guarantee that anyone who says they would never date a certain race, would find at least one person of that race that they find attractive in this world.

Yep.

 

[Equus Bellator Apex]

this is like telling a straight person they're sexists for not liking or being into someone of their own gender

This isn't like that all.

 

[ElectricBlue187]

Nah what he probably means is he is not attracted to a group of people who, due to their socioeconomic background, are gross and overweight and perhaps he has yet to meet one that is attractive to him, depending on where you live I could see that happening.

 

[Miles X]

This isn't like that all.

Actually, what we find attractive is pretty ... random, who says it isn't hardwired??

 

[IcyBlueStrawberry]

This is actually racist, but having a preference shouldn't be racist.

I agree that having a preference isn't racist, but how is what (s)he said racist?

EDIT: Nvm, I misread

 

[Plywood]

This feels like an Always Sunny conversation.

 

[revolverjgw]

No but I don't see how you can find beautiful people unattractive just because of their skin color

It's more the facial features/bone structure than skin color, for me. I'm a nose guy and I like a certain kind of nose that you just don't find on some races.

 

[CrazyDogg77]

If you not being attracted to them is solely based on their race I would say yeah that's racist.

 

[Big Baybee]

It's more the facial features/bone structure than skin color, for me. I'm a nose guy and I like a certain kind of nose that you just don't find on some races.

There are a variety of facial features within all races......

 

[Jzero]

I agree that having a preference isn't racist, but how is what (s)he said racist?

No, i meant that not finding even a single person from a specific race attractive is racist. Not what the poster said.

 

[ThoseDeafMutes]

No but I don't see how you can find beautiful people unattractive just because of their skin color

Do you think that the only physiological difference between ethnic groups is skin colour? Like Africans are just Scandinavians in blackface? I shouldn't have to say this, but beauty is subjective. It's very common for people to say "I have a thing for asians" and we don't consider them racists for that, but the logical consequence of having ordinal preferences like this is that some groups will lose out - be in the low ranking positions where you like other groups far more.

 

[Loofy]

But there are certain features that are very common within a "race" or are associated with a race. If you're specifically not attracted to that characteristic, and it's widely applicable within a given "race", then is that still racism?

Well 'widely applicable' doesnt mean all. If for example someone said 'hey let me hook you up with my black friend' and you said 'Dont bother, I already know she'll have this physical characteristic that I wont like' well then...

 

[IcyBlueStrawberry]

No, i meant that not finding even a single person from a specific race attractive is racist. Not what the poster said.

Yeah, I got that after I replied.

My mistake.