Yes, most gmes have at some point or another, but I think lately it's getting disproportionate, so I guess DC was unfortunate to come out at a time where this becomes a gigantic issue
Can you clarify what you mean by "disproportionate"? I don't mean to accuse you of anything, but, to be fair, this borders kind of close to "okay, ladies, you're allowed to voice your opinions, but only
this often." I mean, I know you aren't saying that, but there's a lot kind of implicitly tied up in this notion of "disproportionate," don't you think?
I used uncomfortable to be consistent with what Bethany was saying (she used words like "discomfort" and "unwelcome"). If you don't enjoy this kind of sexuality, why are you interested in Dragon's Crown?
Well, wait a minute though. My use of terms like "discomfort" and "unwelcome" was getting at two things: 1) I was trying to expand on the portions of the polygon review I found compelling (I thought it was totally legitimate for her to say she found the exaggerated style of the female protagonists "alienating," for instance, while I was less impressed with the "teenage boy fantasy" language she used) and 2) I was trying to connect these things to a broader dialogue about women and games. I'm sure you're aware of sort of this ongoing meme-type "discussion" some are having about how women who game don't "really" game, women aren't "real" gamers, women only pretend to be gamers for attention, "fake geek girl," etc., etc., etc. Or, like, every time someone mentions the ESA statistics about "who is a gamer," people immediately attack it because it includes mobile gaming, which isn't "real" gaming, and therefore women can't call themselves "real" gamers and shouldn't express, you know, so many dang
opinions about games and whatnot.
There's just a lot of toxicity in this space, unfortunately, and all of this, along with game after game after game after game catering exclusively to a very specific subtype of male heterosexual desires (let's be clear: not all heterosexual men are drawn to these types of depictions and these types of games, and it's okay both to be drawn to it and NOT be drawn to it), it all does kind of tend to coalesce into a big neon "NO GIRLS ALLOWED" sign -- or at least it often feels that way to a lot of women who love games. And it's deeply frustrating on multiple levels.
"Discomfort" isn't about "enjoying" a particular type of sexualization. It's about a lot more than that. Indeed, I'm fairly sure that a lot of women who find themselves put off by the animations in this game feel that way for reasons having *absolutely nothing* to do with "sexuality."
Err...because despite all the talk, Dragon's Crown is not a game about sex
This is also a great point.
I think the problem is simpler than that. Unfortunately, we live in a patriarchal, male-dominated society
Hahahahahaha -- yeah, simple! ;-)
I actually don't like using the term "patriarchal" anymore... I find that it tends to put a lot of people on the defensive and I've just gotten tired of trying to explain what I mean. And it's not so much that "men" dominate society (it's true in some ways and not in others) and more that oppressive gender roles dominate society. The specific ways those oppressive gender roles harm people are often easier to see when it comes to women, but they really do harm all of us.
I do agree, though, that one of the ways this expresses itself is, as you note, that masculinity is seen as an unmitigated good thing (speaking in broad cultural terms, not talking about niche philosophies), while femininity is seen as more of a mixed bag. This is one way that it's much easier to see how harmful this is for women, because we're pretty much told more or less that our gender is inherently less useful and valuable than men's. But, again, this doesn't mean that there aren't some pretty perniciously awful things that this does to men, too.
I think it's much more damaging to boys than men, as we have much less coping mechanisms (not to mention of the maturity to realize "this is fucking silly") when we're young. It also varies by culture so I'm ready to accept that US culture glorifies masculinity (even) more than mine does.
Yes and no -- and you probably have a fair point about the US as compared to European cultures, at least. Men have more coping mechanisms than boys, yes, but I'd wager that many of those coping mechanisms are psychologically unhealthy (as are women's coping mechanisms, to be clear). So while the coping mechanisms spare pain in the short- and medium-term, they very well may be compounding damage as they go along, AND the more you utilize a coping mechanism, the more literally hard-coded it becomes in your brain.
I think we're talking about two different sources of lack of self-esteem. Fake edit: Actually, three, I just realized, as the first can be split in two in turn.
Our four weap-- no, amongst our weaponry are such elements as --
(Sorry, couldn't resist) ;-)
The three are:
1) "I'm 'lacking' compared to society's ideals of women"
2) "I'm 'lacking' compared to other specific women" (fictitious or real), and:
3) "I'm 'inferior' compared to men" (typically, 'powerless').
The first has to do with the first paragraph in this response (society's expectations of women and falling short), while the third is what (I think) you're referring to in this later paragraph. I was actually addressing the second one mostly, i.e. the feeling of inadequacy when comparing oneself with other women. To further muddle things up, sexist portrayals can hit on several or ALL THREE of these at once, depending on the case and the person.
I was interpreting your statement of stuff like Dragon's Crown art as hurting self-esteem, as being a direct application of point two, i.e. "I'm comparing myself to the sorceress and feel inadequate". That sounds, well, highly unlikely to me (the Sorc is a barely humanoid unwoman that is, to me at least, unattractive to begin with), but perhaps you were referring to one of the other two (which I also see as affecting, i.e. "this is what society wants women to be; a huge pair of gazongas"). If this is (as most likely is) the case, it's just an interpretation error on my part.
Cool! Yeah, I think you're pretty much hitting on what I was trying to get at, and very thoughtful insights there. Basically, yeah, in some ways it sometimes feels like #2, and that's an easy one to talk about because it's something that's pretty well understood as something that happens in society as a result of a lot of similar types of things in media. But in my view, the really interesting one is #3. This is the whole thing where you get into tropes like "The Chick" and the Bechdel test and other things like that. Basically this idea that there's like these one or two acceptable identities for women, and if you're anything else, then you're not a "woman" but just a "person," as though these are two totally distinct categories. Because XYZ are the things that "women" are good for, and why would you have a character be a woman if she's not being, you know, womany? As though the fact of being female needs to be justified by something specifically feminine that the woman contributes, or else you'll revert the character back to the default of male. In other words, a female character has to justify her
existence in a way a male character doesn't, and this strikes me as saying something really horrifically awful about how society views women. And there's a lot of other stuff tied up into this and different ways it gets expressed, but basically, yeah. That's the basic gist of what I was trying to get at. Like, "even if a woman is this amazing incredible powerful warrior, she's *still* not worth thinking about or talking about or featuring in a narrative unless she's also 'beautiful' and/or feminine."
It doesn't even matter to me personally whether or not people think I'm beautiful (some do; others don't. Whatevs) -- but I hate that my being beautiful is kind of like this implicitly
necessary part of my being a woman (and since being a woman is kind of a fundamental aspect of my humanity, it's a necessary part of my
existing for all intents and purposes). Btw, I think something like this is subconsciously at work when indisputably gorgeous women have self-esteem problems. They will never be gorgeous
enough for people to respect their fundamental humanity separate and apart from their looks/femininity.