It cannot be emphasized enough that if you are new to MMOs but you want to play this, you
must get yourself into a good Free Company.
Don't hide yourself in the corner of the world with three of your friends, two of whom can't ever be on at the same time.
Join a decent sized FC filled with like minded folks and you'll have a much, much, much better experience.
Horror stories about Duty Finder groups are irrelevant when you have quick access to a friendly tank or healer at any hour of the day, you'll have people to answer questions, and you can support each other with your crafting skills.
And as far as DF specifically goes, don't be afraid of it, even if you are solo queuing. There are
thousands of players in the queues, thousands. If you have one bad group, move on. You see bad DF groups posted here because
those are memorable. The average ones that go perfectly fine but nothing too exciting happens, those don't get posted.
On balance, slightly bad groups are probably more common than really good groups, but really awful groups aren't the norm either. Most are average - maybe a good player, maybe a bad one, but a few experienced players in general.
sometimes you meet nice people that want to farm the same dungeon with you in duty finder. we need a replay dungeon function for that. has this ever been suggested?
Always look for party members on your
own server via shout/yell first before you use the DF. That way if they are great, you can friend them, and you expand your social network on your own server. If they suck, whatever, move on or blacklist.