GAF, I'm 100% sure I'm getting friendzoned on Monday

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Baron Aloha said:
I swear so many guys now are afraid of offending someone or being rejected it is ridiculous.
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well according to ComputerMKII, you could very well end up in prison for false rape charges or some other non-sense...
I swear I wished they teached dating/relationship class in college or grade school even.
 
Baron Aloha said:
OP - The truth is, this girl didn't friendzone you... you friendzoned yourself with this confession of yours. Never EVER confess your feelings for someone outside of a relationship. It never works.

In the future you should just man up, ask the girl out on a proper date, and if things are going well make a move. If you make a move and the girl rejects you then you just forget about her, suck it up, and move on but chances are she won't since if she said yes to the date then she has some interest in you as well.

Any time spent being just friends with a woman is time wasted when you consider the fact that you could have used that time to find someone who actually wants to be with you. I swear so many guys now are afraid of offending someone or being rejected it is ridiculous.

Honestly, I don't think you should even bother meeting up with her on Monday. If she asks you why you should straight up tell her "look, I could see where this was going and I wanted to spare you and me the awkward conversation".
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Very solid and good advice here to those in the dating scene.
 
Baron Aloha said:
In the future you should just man up, ask the girl out on a proper date, and if things are going well make a move.
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SERIOUSLY. God, I cringe every time I read these stories. "Hey, I like you." What is she supposed to do with that?

Nether! said:
The term "Friendzone" has taken on such an awful life the last couple of years.
I can't read it without thinking of all that "reddit-neckbeard" nonsense.

It's taking the blame for your failure and dumping it onto another person.
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Also, this. Never use this stupid term.
 
He's broken the touch barrier so you must conjure up or get some sort of potent item that is crafted with enough % in barrier penetration or equal type of barrier offense.

It's up to you to get past it now kid.
 
Baron Aloha said:
OP - The truth is, this girl didn't friendzone you... you friendzoned yourself with this confession of yours. Never EVER confess your feelings for someone outside of a relationship. It never works.

In the future you should just man up, ask the girl out on a proper date, and if things are going well make a move. If you make a move and the girl rejects you then you just forget about her, suck it up, and move on but chances are she won't since if she said yes to the date then she has some interest in you as well.

Any time spent being just friends with a woman is time wasted when you consider the fact that you could have used that time to find someone who actually wants to be with you. I swear so many guys now are afraid of offending someone or being rejected it is ridiculous.

Honestly, I don't think you should even bother meeting up with her on Monday. If she asks you why you should straight up tell her "look, I could see where this was going and I wanted to spare you and me the awkward conversation".
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Do this. Keep your dignity intact. You made a mistake (one I myself made a few times actually). Learn from your experience. You fucked up, spare yourself further humiliation.
 
Kopite said:
She finally asked me to meet her for drinks on Monday so she could explain everything(her literal words) and I agreed.
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This right here seems to seal the deal that she's not interested in a relationship with you. If you're really not looking forward to a friendship with her, I would just call the night off. You know the answer. Me.... I'd probably just buy myself some drinks until I was either sobbing and laughing about the deal.
 
Kopite said:
She really likes me as a friend and wants to hang out,chat and play together often. Unfortunately she doesn't seem to want any more than that. The internet told me that was called being friendzoned. And to be fair, I haven't actually been rejected yet.Just kinda placed on death row.
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No. That's called being a friend. There's no zone.
 
Be a fucking man and ask her out on a real date, tell her I cant make it on monday, lets go out on a real date on the weekend or something, if she refuses then tell her to fuck off.
 
I can confirm that there are actually men out there that count how many times a girl touches them or mark "points" in their head if they get a hug or get to hold her bag or some dumb shit like that. Gives me a headache just thinking about it.

Op, you barely know the woman. Why don't you actually see how she is in a relationship with the guy she's about to dump you for so you get to know her as something other than "the only girl I've met who likes video games so she MUST be the one." Knowing someone for only a month and then telling them "I have to keep my distance from you..it hurts too much.. GEEZUS KRIST.
 
Kopite just out of curiosity, how old are you and where do you live ?

asking for cultural and age differences.
 
Baron Aloha said:
Honestly, I don't think you should even bother meeting up with her on Monday. If she asks you why you should straight up tell her "look, I could see where this was going and I wanted to spare you and me the awkward conversation".
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This is good, but if the girl is manipulative, she can be like "Wow, that's not what I was gonna say but ok..." and act hurt and cold-shouldery, then this guy will truly be fucked, his brain will explode and he'll be buying her a car and a house in no time. Guys like this are really no match for even a moderately evil woman.
 
I kinda like this girl. We haven't known each other for long - maybe a few weeks. She has a boyfriend although she doubts it will last any longer after some problems. So, the story goes we were texting throughout the day (as we sometimes do), met later in the evening and chatted, and then texted again later that night. No small-talk either.

We were meant to go out this upcoming week to see a film but she hasn't texted me back for a couple of days now. We weren't close at all but we were both pretty upfront that we needed a friend. I'm not trying to achieve anything beyond that, but its a little disconcerting that she's failed to reply back especially when she's active on FB.

Message says "delivered" so it definitely reached her.

I guess she just doesn't feel like replying back.

:(
 
Baron Aloha said:
OP - Never EVER confess your feelings for someone outside of a relationship. It never works.

In the future you should just man up, ask the girl out on a proper date, and if things are going well make a move. If you make a move and the girl rejects you then you just forget about her, suck it up, and move on but chances are she won't since if she said yes to the date then she has some interest in you as well.

Any time spent being just friends with a woman is time wasted when you consider the fact that you could have used that time to find someone who actually wants to be with you. I swear so many guys now are afraid of offending someone or being rejected it is ridiculous.

Honestly, I don't think you should even bother meeting up with her on Monday. If she asks you why you should straight up tell her "look, I could see where this was going and I wanted to spare you and me the awkward conversation".
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100% THIS. People treat dating as a casual thing nowadays. If you can get her on a casual date then you can work your way up from there. Your chances go up extensively and you can actually get her to like you and build up the relationship before you confess. 'Blowing you load' all at once so to speak and telling your true feelings up front, especially after only knowing her for a month!, is a recipe for disaster. If she rejects you even on a casual date then you know that there is no hope at all and you have just saved yourself from a whole world of pain or embarrassment and can easily be her friend without being awkward.
 
FStop7 said:
"Confessing your feelings" is a synonym for "freaking someone out"
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My view as well. A month is still in the window where you can just ask a girl out without telling her how you feel about her and all that.

Edit: The above post is good advice as well. Confessing your feelings is best left to Hollywood movies.
 
What I don't understand is why she's waiting til Monday to let you down. I mean she could have told you straight up, or via chat.

I don't know if you've been blown out of the water yet. It sounds like she is interested enough to at least string you along a bit. It's up to you if you're okay with that.
 
Kickz said:
What if he's a teacher at an all girls school
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megamerican said:
What I don't understand is why she's waiting til Monday to let you down. I mean she could have told you straight up, or via chat.

I don't know if you've been blown out of the water yet. It sounds like she is interested enough to at least string you along a bit. It's up to you if you're okay with that.
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Because she has a weekend life and she doesn't like him enough to let him be a part of it.
 
Most dating advice is pretty much useless, simply because, literally, every single girl is different.

What works for one, sure as FUCK isn't going to work for the next. It all boils down to luck and presenting yourself in a positive manner.
 
MVP said:
Because she has a weekend life and she doesn't like him enough to let him be a part of it.
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I still don't understand this. If she doesn't like him, why not just say it then and there or when they were talking on Facebook?

I guess maybe the only thing I can come up with she's worried he'll have a metldown and repeatedly call / text her or some weird shit. If it is her birthday weekend maybe she just doesn't want to deal with the nastiness.
 
Sorry OP but I completely hate the term "friend zone". You have developed a crush on a girl because she is friends with you, and therefore show you attention. Saying you like her is fine and a healthy thing to do, but if she doesn't feel the same way you need to quickly get over it otherwise you could jeopardise your friendship with her. If you stop seeing her because she doesn't feel the same way, that would be a shitty thing to do.
 
SHIT said:
I really love this girl......

YOU'VE KNOWN HER FOR A FRIGGIN MONTH...
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Thank you for the cliffnotes

dawww, unrequited love.

This friend zone shit is hilarious. People read about it on the internet and take it so damn literally. Just don't keep up hope of a relationship and you *might* have a normal friendship with this girl. Probably not though, especially if you're this flustered after a month. A normal friendship can decide whether you are even right for each other. As of now, you probably have stink lines coming off of you and she knows it. You are in love with the idea of her and she knows that too. The friends to relationship transition is advanced stuff.

for starters, if you are actually "friends" with this person, you wouldn't be running around going "AWWW BRAH FRIENDZONE" so it's probably hopeless until you mature up a little.
 
not only is he getting friendzoned, he is scheduled for a friendzoning on monday. he must find a way to skip the friendzoning ceremony or all hope is lost.
 
Maybe my definition of love is too grave...
But as far as I know, if I love someone, I'd be willing to die for them, no questions asked.

This generation I've noticed everyne gets caught up in the moment way too quick, from these "greatest of all time" statements to dropping the L word. Relax...find out what their favorite color is first.....
 
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Damn OP, you were close too. A girl's Touch Barrier has about 1300 organic hitpoints. Every touch to her hand takes away about 10 hitpoints, but touching her knee takes out a chunkier good 50 hitpoints. A lot of knee touches over the course of a month would've meant you breaking that Touch Barrier and reaching the final phase of the encounter.

Now, because Life is a Free-2-Play experience, the playing field isn't always fair. You can work out at the gym at least four days a week to gain an Attraction Booster to double your Touch effectiveness (that means every knee caress takes 100hp off that Touch Barrier instead of 50!).

Once her Touch Barrier is down, then you've earned the right to capture her for your own romantic purposes. Just toss a Date Ball at her and she'll have to say yes.
 
you gave it the old college try and it didn't work out.

tough luck. Cut your losses. either you gain a friend or an awkward acquaintance.

be smart.
 
What's with all the love related posts in the last few days? We have people getting divorces, people getting married, people having trouble asking girls out, and people getting friendzone. What is this, mating season on GAF?
 
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