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GAF, I'm 100% sure I'm getting friendzoned on Monday

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Taylor Swift? Well that's your problem right there. Should have hit her with some Drake.

"Fuck that n**** that you love so bad
I know you still think about the times we had
I say, fuck that n**** that you think you found

...

I’m just sayin’ you could do better
Tell me have you heard that lately
I’m just sayin’ you could do better
And I’ll start hatin’ only if you make me"

Just drop that on her. You've crashed and burned; time to raise like the phoenix.
 
Kopite said:
And well that obviously did nothing to change her mind.
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You can't change her mind. It's all chemistry and it's clearly not there between you and her. Your first clue was your own awkward feeling when you confessed your feelings to her. Deep inside, you knew it wasn't right. That's not how relationships start; not ever.

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This may seem incredible to some people, but yeah we're still friends.
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You may think that now but let me tell you: you have rough times ahead of you if you plan to stay close to her. It'll always bother you and it will prevent you from finding someone else who is right for you.
 
could have been worse.. ?

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Shit this thread reminds me of myself when I was in high school /early college. Simply worshipping a girl for the fact that she gave me attention. Doing all this clingy shit in the name of just seeing her. Convincing myself I was in love with her despite even really knowing her on a deep level. I know what you're going through OP and it is tough to disconnect from the situation but ya gotta move on. For your own sake. Trust me there are tons of women out there and you'll find one you click with.

I also feel like I'm the only person on NeoGAF who finds girls playing video games a turn-off. It isn't a deal breaker but I play my damn video games to be alone
 
Bedlam said:
At least the guy who got showered for his stupid public confession probably learned his lesson and does not have years of misery ahead of him. He'll stay away from that girl.
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I can't just avoid her, she's in my course and we practically spend the whole day together.
 
Kopite said:
I can't just avoid her, she's in my course and we practically spend the whole day together.
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Yeah, it's not a perfect situation. Don't flatout ignore her or stop speaking to her; that be awkward as well. Be nice if you absolutely have to talk to her (she did nothing wrong) but stay as distant as possible. Find other people to talk to from your course. Don't spend your spare-time with her. It might be hard at first but that's the best way to move on from this.

Don't ignore the advice this time. ;)

I won't go into too many details but I was in a similar situation in college. I wasted a couple of precious dating-years because of a girl who I considered my "best (female) friend" and had a crush on. I really only got over her when there was distance between us and it took several years until the wounds completely healed (though I knew her longer than a month). I wish people had told me back then what I know now (basically what people are suggesting in this thread: distance).
 
ReiGun said:
Taylor Swift? Well that's your problem right there. Should have hit her with some Drake.

"Fuck that n**** that you love so bad
I know you still think about the times we had
I say, fuck that n**** that you think you found

...

I’m just sayin’ you could do better
Tell me have you heard that lately
I’m just sayin’ you could do better
And I’ll start hatin’ only if you make me"

Just drop that on her. You've crashed and burned; time to raise like the phoenix.
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Drop that Marvin's Room on her hahaha
 
I'm wondering if the OP made a bet with someone to act this way?
Also, your feelings WILL DEFINITELY change. Always has, always will.
10 years later you'll be looking at her FB page and see that she's now fat and ugly and you dodged a bullet.
 
Don't worry OP, we're all guilty of being dumbasses around the opposite sex at least once.

Do your self a favour and get away from your new "friend" though, your just gonna be smoldering on feelings for her while she dates other guys and possibly even discusses various intamacies with you (her friend). Don't fall into the trap of thinking you're gonna change her mind down the road.

Move on and start dating girls properly, so they know your romantic intentions upfront.
 
Problem 1) You believe in the friendzone. That's bullshit. You know what the "friendzone" is? It's just a natural state of non-attraction between one party, and the opposite for another. Grow up, there are billions of women on this planet, your one month does not constitute a relationship. She doesn't want to sleep with you, and it's as simple as that on a biological level.

2) you "love" her. Your infatuated at this point, not in love. If you "loved" her, you'd act carelessly and do what you felt, not ask for advice on GAF.

So, move on, go fishing, find a new girl. Don't fall on love in one month, and especially don't lead on that you are. Girls hate that shit. Take her for drinks (at night, and don't get hammered). Grab a brunch, watch a movie. It'll either work, or it won't. That's as simple as it is. None of this friendzone shit.
 
terrene said:
The "alpha" dogs are all morons.

That said, dude, you are practically groveling at her feet talking about her feelings and preserving the friendship. The reason people are posting reaction shots like this:

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Is because inside us all is the insecure dude who desperately acts this way to get any kind of attention from someone they like - platonic or not. But it's really bad for you. So unhealthy. You need to take a step back and deal with YOUR feelings about this without worrying about hers, or the friendship, or whether the other "lucky guy" and her are happy. Just don't involve yourself. The kind of groveling you're doing right now does not convince her you are a nice guy, only a lonely one, and it convinces you that this is what you deserve. Fill your time with anything else - especially stuff that gets you out of the house and meeting people and feeling worthy of companionship again. I guarantee she'll understand that you need the space, and if you internalize this precedent of being dogshit to other people and never deal with it, you'll bring all that insecurity with you to the next girl you like, and you won't be able to be yourself with them either.

Good luck.
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I bet you gave really good advice based on the length and the sincerity of your first few sentences, i just couldn't read past the adorable yoda gif. Gets me evrery damn time.
 
What the hell was the point of showing her this GAF thread? Like what possible good could come from that? That's way weirder to me than any of the Taylor Swift stuff.

And this OP will just go on the long list of other OPs who start threads asking for advice, and go on to do the exact opposite of all the advice given.
 
As someone who has followed this thread from the beginning, waking up to this conclusion makes me feel like the dude who woke up from his coma in 28 Days Later.

Shit went down. Really down. Good luck OP.
 
Kopite said:
Since we can't speak over here, I just showed her the thread and my post about telling her that my feelings may not change.The following is our exchange on Notepad since he's still right there and I'm sure he's figured out what's up.

OP: This maybe creepy but ain't no one ever gonna care for you like I do

Her: . . . . . I'm sorry ): >: D: >:

OP: Maybe we really should take some time off...see what happens...

Her: Yeah. Maybe there will be someone out there and you will find her

OP: Could u clone yourself?

Her:I wished but yeah. Plenty o' fish in da ocean

I showed her Taylor Swift's You belong With me lyrics at this point.

OP: Sorry that I had to put you thru this.. but I couldn't take it anymore... :(

Her: It's okay. I know that sometimes we have to clear things out in order to move on.

Probably cringe worthy to most of y'all and I guess I fucked up huh? Not sure what I'm supposed to do now, we're all still sitting here.
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I've never laughed so hard on GAF, thank you very much for sharing this.

For future reference, girls don't want you sending them Taylor Swift lyrics. If you want to melt her heart, look up some Drake and send that; he is the ultimate simp although you're in a close second. PM me if you want some good lines.
 
OP, move on and learn. I was once like you. Life has interesting ways of making us change. You will have a girlfriend someday.

That being said, the apology of putting her in the "pressure" is bullshit. Get that out of your system. Have some self-respect. There's nothing wrong with you appropriately telling her how you feel and ask for her feedback. You did nothing wrong, just as she did nothing wrong by not having feelings for you.

The times you should apologize is when you force someone to do something that she doesn't want to do, or when you offend someone. Embrace your feelings.

And yeah, you don't love her, you are lusting after her. But like I said OP, let's move on.
 
OP, glad you're taking it in stride. If its any consolation she let you down as easily as she possibly could have given how ridiculous it got towards the end. Live and learn.
 
That girl is only interested in alphas who straight up neg her. Not wussy pussies quoting taylor swift lyrics.

When your ready to advance Alpha you come talk to me. In the meantime, go to the meeting like a different person. Chest out lean back slightly, wear a tight fitting shirt, and walk in with a bad attitude (knock something over to show you mean business).
 
OP: Maybe we really should take some time off...see what happens...

Her: Yeah. Maybe there will be someone out there and you will find her
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Damn. Shit hit the 1-2 punch on you there, even when you're STILL trying to get after her by saying, "let's take some time off and see what happens."
 
Guys guys guys

What if

What if she actually said yes? After some intense passionate petting, at the brisk end of the afterglow of a faded cigarette he confessed to her about how flustered he was and embarrassed about this thread which he subsequently showed her, lying on his side, running his hands up and down her arm while she stared into the grey morbidness of neogeo's cycnicism. And then, without looking up, she said "hey these guys are so funny. Let's troll them lol".

What if?
 
Kopite said:
Since we can't speak over here, I just showed her the thread and my post about telling her that my feelings may not change.The following is our exchange on Notepad since he's still right there and I'm sure he's figured out what's up.

OP: This maybe creepy but ain't no one ever gonna care for you like I do

Her: . . . . . I'm sorry ): >: D: >:

OP: Maybe we really should take some time off...see what happens...

Her: Yeah. Maybe there will be someone out there and you will find her

OP: Could u clone yourself?

Her:I wished but yeah. Plenty o' fish in da ocean

I showed her Taylor Swift's You belong With me lyrics at this point.

OP: Sorry that I had to put you thru this.. but I couldn't take it anymore... :(

Her: It's okay. I know that sometimes we have to clear things out in order to move on.

Probably cringe worthy to most of y'all and I guess I fucked up huh? Not sure what I'm supposed to do now, we're all still sitting here.
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Salvor.Hardin said:
Guys guys guys

What if

What if she actually said yes? After some intense passionate petting, at the brisk end of the afterglow of a faded cigarette he confessed to her about how flustered he was and embarrassed about this thread which he subsequently showed her, lying on his side, running his hands up and down her arm while she stared into the grey morbidness of neogeo's cycnicism. And then, without looking up, she said "hey these guys are so funny. Let's troll them lol".

What if?
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I wish.
 
Oh fuck, I laughed so hard...

It can't be real.

You should move way faster OP.

Talk to her for about 2 weeks (or a bit less), go out and ask her to come to your house.

Sex, but no mention of a relationship, and you see the morning how it goes. If you're interested tell her you think you should be together.

Win/win for you and her. At least you had sex and would have forgotten your "love"
 
I know there's the whole alpha and beta thing, but I think OP has been firmly placed as a gamma, and just barely shy of hitting delta territory.
 
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