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[Gannd]

Speaking from someone who had to embarrass someone in a similar way once, I wouldn't doubt that this wasn't the first time the boy expressed his interest.

A lot of guys out there, for SOME reason, think that "not interested" means "go bigger and bigger until I'm FORCED to be interested." Had a guy (who could have been a good friend), ask me out continuously, with me turning him down each time. Finally reached a breaking point when he uploaded an incredibly embarrassing youtube video of himself asking me out and posted it on facebook. It was incredibly mortifying. I defriended him, told him to leave me the fuck alone when he called, and never spoke to him again.

This poor kid obviously means well, but I'd bet any kind of money that this isn't his first time going after that girl unsuccessfully. She's was probably at a breaking point. Guys ALSO don't take into account how extremely embarrassing these "grand gestures" can be for the other person, especially if the interest isn't reciprocated.

So what you're saying is the grand gesture only works if it is reciprocated. Which is obvious. If the girl liked him it would have beeen "awww...that's so romantic" by the girl and her friends.

 

[Bleepey]

Did he get a HJ or something?

If i recall Kodak or something had a competition to find him, Megan Fox claimed she did not see him and they met. He dresses like a tool.

http://www.*****************/tvshow...remiere-flying-New-York-tonight-meet-her.html

 

[Count Dookkake]

So what you're saying is the grand gesture only works if it is reciprocated. Which is obvious. If the girl liked him it would have beeen "awww...that's so romantic" by the girl and her friends.

And since he is clueless about human interaction, he got the scolding he needed.

 

[AlexBasch]

I got punched in the face by a classmate when I confesssed to her.

I'd choose that punch over what this fella got through.

 

[Slayven]

 

[malyce]

Keep professing your love for these females brehs

 

[VAD]

What a douche.

I lol'd because douche means shower in French.

 

[Randy Monk]

 

[vas_a_morir]

These anti-simping events are creating a generation of super-resilient young men.

 

[marrec]

These anti-simping events are creating a generation of super-resilient young men.

Lead by example.

 

[Count Dookkake]

I lol'd because douche means shower in French.

What's French for "That's the joke"?

 

[Mackenzie 92]

From the comments

Things like this happen on college campuses in China with a fair amount of regularity. I'm also pretty sure that most of the time, the guy has had minimal to no interaction with the girl in question (otherwise, he'd realize this kind of behavior isn't normal, and only has positive results in the comic books he spends all his time reading).

With that in mind, personally, I don't feel too sorry for the guy. It's almost a form of harassment, at very least a significant source of embarrassment or frustration for the targeted female. So from that perspective, he kind of deserves it, and his case should be a wakeup call to other clueless guys who are considering a similar move.

Sounds about right.

 

[speculawyer]

I've been married to my wife for ten years and I would never do something like this. She'd be pissed.

Who actually thinks this shit is ever acceptable?

 

[VAD]

What's French for "That's the joke"?

Tu m'as eu

 

[foxuzamaki]

Just too much man, you could have just asked the girl out.

 

[King Boo]

everything changed when the water nation attacked

 

[Batigol]

Life isn't a movie

WTF is that guy doing. Straight up embarrassing. He's lucky it wasn't acid

 

[GulAtiCa]

Oh man. I feel bad for the guy, but I just have to laugh a little. I feel bad now.

 

[rvy]

I want what he's smoking.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

I gotta admit.

I laughed. That sucks for him... but honestly, he honestly thought that was gonna work?

 

[maquiladora]

She did him a favor. Dude was probably living with a movie/cartoon perception of "romance". Nothing like an ice cold splash of reality to wash that nonsense away.

 

[Revolutionary]

Should've gone with a crown of sonnets.

 

[marrec]

So this has given me an idea.

I'm going to travel across the country with my SO making these kind of public displays at various places and having it planned for her to return the affection in as convincing a way as possible.

So that we convince dudes who are watching that this kind of thing actually works.

So that they try it and get burned.

 

[Village]

If some uggo pulled something like this on me I'd absolutely drench her and all those stupid candles with whatever liquid I have at hand. This is a shitty situation to put someone - anyone - in and I wouldn't blame man or woman for reacting like this girl did.

Or you could just say no, and if anyone thinks your a jerk not give a shit. This is an odd time to start giving a shit about what people think about you.

She did him a favor. Dude was probably living with a movie/cartoon perception of "romance". Nothing like an ice cold splash of reality to wash that nonsense away.

Or an explanation followed by the word no.

 

[entremet]

I've been married to my wife for ten years and I would never do something like this. She'd be pissed.

Who actually thinks this shit is ever acceptable?

Simps.

 

[nateeasy]

Yeah that's a tidbit weird.

 

[Horseticuffs]

Guys, as someone who has to fight hard with myself not to fall in love quickly and pull weird creepy shit like this, this kind of shit is a wonderful aide in controlling this natural instinct!


I have crumpled up so many poems, deleted so many unsent texts and messages. I thank this man, this glorious man, who sacrificed his dignity so that others like him may yet live.

 

[kiguel182]

(wrong thread, sorry)

 

[CorvoSol]

This happened in the Flowers of Evil!

Well kind of.

 

[Diablos]

Damn, he didn't deserve that. A simple "no", "leave me alone" or even "fuck off" would have been fine.

 

[sol_bad]

This one is old but has always been one that got me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FeXQLte46rQ

A few months???

 

[thehypocrite]

He got what he deserved for his creepy simping antics.

 

[CassidyIzABeast]

Even the girl was ashamed of the simpery. Bet he was bumping Marvin's Room on the way there too.smh.

 

[Count Dookkake]

Damn, he didn't deserve that. A simple "no", "leave me alone" or even "fuck off" would have been fine.

Damn, she didn't deserve that. A simple introduction and an enticing offer would have been fine.

 

[kaioshade]

Man, some of the responses here are cold. Not defending the guy, but damn.

 

[thehypocrite]

Should've gone with a crown of sonnets.

Lol. I Remember that historical thread.

 

[marrec]

Man, some of the responses here are cold. Not defending the guy, but damn.

You make a big, grand, stupid gesture... then you should expect a return in kind.

 

[Metrotab]

I'm glad I'm too introverted to ever try something like this. Public humiliation is a terrible feeling.

 

[alfredofroylan]

Ok, why if the guy was bothering her for a long time?, he could be a stalker or a really creppy dude. We only got a picture, maybe there's a posessive monster beneath that skin.

 

[Vermillion]

This is a perfect example why movie logic isn't true.

Never do anything that fancy for someone you don't know likes you back.

EDIT: Oh, marrec covered it a while back (though in a much harsher manner)

 

[Harlock]

Someone tell him that here he will be between friend who understand him.

 

[Village]

Never do anything that fancy for someone you don't know likes you back.

this is good advice

for many , many reasons.

 

[Vermillion]

When you play the game of setting up a bunch of stupid candles in order to convey a message of love but not using enough candles to actually spell anything out because you're obviously poor... you either win or you lose.

Oh, wait - except for Prom, I guess. My friend asked a girl out to prom cold by playing guitar and singing to her in front of the class. She said yes.

 

[Mesoian]

So this has given me an idea.

I'm going to travel across the country with my SO making these kind of public displays at various places and having it planned for her to return the affection in as convincing a way as possible.

So that we convince dudes who are watching that this kind of thing actually works.

So that they try it and get burned.

Richard Curtis has you beat. He actually made a movie about how grand gestures of love really don't fucking work and how awesome it would be if you could take them back.

I ADORE Love Actually, it is my favorite romance movie, if I ever saw anyone reenacting the scene with the signs, I would running drop kick them.

 

[marrec]

Oh, wait - except for Prom, I guess. My friend asked a girl out to prom cold by playing guitar and singing to her in front of the class. She said yes.

A dude who plays guitar > a dude who knows how to form basic shapes and symbols out of candles.

He should have brought a guitar.

 

[y2dvd]

I have seen where persistence paid off, but a public display of affection like this was a terrible idea.

 

[NuclearSpy]

This is totally appropriate for the thread
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=khalWP499Mg

 

[Zelenogorsk]

This ain't Disney.

 

[Kinyou]

So this has given me an idea.

I'm going to travel across the country with my SO making these kind of public displays at various places and having it planned for her to return the affection in as convincing a way as possible.

So that we convince dudes who are watching that this kind of thing actually works.

So that they try it and get burned.

Every romantic movie is already taking care of that

 

[marrec]

Every romantic movie is already taking care of that

Yes, but that's movies. If someone sees it happen at their mall then it'll sink in a bit more.

For added effect, we'll do it outside of Hot Topic.