Count Dookkake
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But lying is wrong.
Girl pours water on boy after he publicly expresses his love for her
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But lying is wrong.
*flattery is insincere praise. Flattering someone is pretending to like them, especially to get something out of them.
But, even in the common context of saying "I'm flattered," which is usually along the lines of "I appreciate the lengths you went to for this," what if you don't appreciate it? Like, if someone was attempting to rape you, would you say "I'm flattered, but I'm not into you."? Clearly that's an extreme example, but the line has to be drawn somewhere.
GravityMan
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That boy is an idiot.
This is why it's important for guys not to try too damn hard when they're interested in a girl. They come across creepy and/or desperate. Hopefully this guy learned a valuable lesson. It's good he's still young.
This is why it's important for guys not to try too damn hard when they're interested in a girl. They come across creepy and/or desperate. Hopefully this guy learned a valuable lesson. It's good he's still young.
SugarDaddy
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lol, damn man i cant fucking believe somebody didn't tell him that was a dumb fucking idea
Still better than water
kiunchbb
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Sometime if you don't reject hard enough, the boy will keep thinking he still had a chance.
Flattery isn't always insincere praise. Just over the top compliments that could be all in fun.
And she doesn't have to lie, if she truly was offended and didn't appreciate the gesture at all. Nothing wrong with "I don't really appreciate all this attention, and I'm not interested", either.
This advice is poor because its so vague it doesn't really apply to anything. That there are bunches of people afraid to approach people. because they do not want to do " try to hard".
How about Large public displays for affection may result in you embarrassing yourself, and the person you are directing it towards. Be warned.
Short,To the point.
" not trying to hard"
Doesn't really help anyone.
Nah, just ask if she wants to grab some coffee.
Make sure the cafe is bereft of water basins though.
Count Dookkake
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There is no onus upon her to react with any kindness or consideration for his creepy behavior.
When you engage others by using shitty protocol, you should be prepared to get some back.
Maybe people would feel better for the guy if she rushed out and bought some cheap ass candles to spell 'Fuck U Creep' out in some grand display.
Would that make y'all feel better?
Count Dookkake
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Angelus Errare
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Can't say I feel bad, he deserved it. Muthafuckas be watching way too many teenage romance movies.
/shrug.
If the "Asking a girl out" thread is any indication.
Yes, this is very hard for some people.
/shrug.
If the "Asking a girl out" thread is any indication.
Yes, this is very hard for some people.
Count Dookkake
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Oh, water twist!
maquiladora
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Let's not wax lyrical here.
LordEssdot
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I thought Boyz II Men all taught a valuable lesson.... simpin really ain't easy.
All the signs point to her having been offended. I agree, there are probably some choice words she could have used instead, but sometimes it's not enough to let down people softly, especially if they're this obsessed. In the heat of the moment, it's quite hard to articulate a sentence that impactful enough without being unduly harsh.
Human interaction can be difficult for multiple reasons, I hope for this guys sake he just needs practice. It could be a whole lot worse.
maquiladora
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Chance Hale
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Confused him for a beta fish.
Neither one of them is ideal. But part of the problem inherent to events like this is that the guy doesn't realize that he's humiliating her, especially if movies or comics or whatever have told him that it's cute and romantic.
ReturnOfTheRAT
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A simple 143 text would have saved all the public embarrassment.
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He was trying to do something romantic and nice, she was trying to crush him, that's the difference.
Count Dookkake
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The real difference is that he started it and she is free to respond however she wishes to uninvited intrusion.
Also, "trying to do something romantic and nice" is a horrible excuse.
Oh of course, I literally can't imagine any other reaction one could possibly have.
Bam Bam Baklava
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They were both wrong. Guy was wrong to do all this stuff that only works for Ryan Gosling in movies and girl was wrong for just not being calm about it and raging instead.
On the other hand, if only he had done what those youtube pickup videos tell you to do like just grab her and kiss her he would have surely done better.
On the other hand, if only he had done what those youtube pickup videos tell you to do like just grab her and kiss her he would have surely done better.
Count Dookkake
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I have a feeling he means reaction as in judging the candle kid's move as creepy and lame.
EDIT : Lol. I thought you were responding to post above yours. I now realize you were double posting some sarcastic white knighting for the candle kid. My apologies.
No , sorry I'm not interested. I didn't really appreciate , and I'm just not interested.
and walk away.
Or just do the last thing.
just "NOPE"
Devolution
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Might be a long string of "nopes" that lead up to this. Who knows. Just don't do this shit.
Ah, yeah, sorry. Sarcasm was directed at the person saying "her hand was forced" (lol!). Sincerely, I think the white knight reaction of trying to justify her reacting with rage and taking revenge is totally fucked up, and I'm a card-carrying feminist. The point of being an ally isn't "women are always right," guys.
Count Dookkake
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To be clear, I have said nothing of the sort.
This particular woman did nothing wrong, though. Rudeness/creepiness can be responded to however the recipient sees fit, imo, barring something criminal, of course.
This particular woman did nothing wrong, though. Rudeness/creepiness can be responded to however the recipient sees fit, imo, barring something criminal, of course.
yellow submarine
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He should have tried the following mandatory steps before this stunt:
1) Be attractive
2) Don't be unattractive
1) Be attractive
2) Don't be unattractive
Given how subjective "creepy" is (did she even bother saying "I am not interested" first?), I can't imagine how you've arrived at the conclusion that she "did nothing wrong." There are a few checkpoints before you arrive at "fuck this guy for making me feel awkward, now I'll make HIM feel bad!" People who skip all of them and go straight to revenge are what are commonly known as assholes.
Devolution
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Someone can be attractive and still repulsive.
I love that shit.
Like beautiful people can't be complete fucking weirdos. Mariah Carey's lifestory is dedicated to that shit.
Count Dookkake
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We are talking about a specific event. His move was lame/creepy/sad. If you do not agree to some degree, then I suspect your socialization.
She does not have to coddle him or be concerned about him. She need not hide nor temper her annoyance or revulsion.
He is the asshole. The asshole does not get the luxury of choosing how it gets dealt with.
EDIT: Think of it this way. He was the inciting actor in the scenario. As such, he certainly had more time to think of how he should best treat her, than did she of him. Whatever charity you extend to candle lad, at least that much should be extended to her.
That's not romantic or nice, that's embarrassing.
This is just as stupid as those over-the-top marriage proposals in public.
out0v0rder
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hey waterboy, if you are reading this thread, don't give up hope.
she just isn't the type of girl for you man. you are a loving, sweet fellow and deserve someone better than her.
just keep doing your thing man, one day you might find a girl that likes these sorts of things, and then you will know she is the right one for you.
be strong.
she just isn't the type of girl for you man. you are a loving, sweet fellow and deserve someone better than her.
just keep doing your thing man, one day you might find a girl that likes these sorts of things, and then you will know she is the right one for you.
be strong.
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