You see a woman crying in the parking lot, do you ask her if she's ok?

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I saw this pretty girl cry once on a bench on campus and in my mind I'm like hell yeah I'll go up to her and be thebfuckin hero

Then I got more realistic and thought I'd just make her uncomfortable. If I was crying I would wanna be left alone by strangers
 
I have never encountered a woman crying by herself in a parking lot.

I have however asked several women who were crying while walking by themselves down the street at night if they were ok. I remember two particular events, one was the night the Phillies won the NLDS in 2009, and the other was like a year ago when we were leaving a club and on this really shady back alley. Both of them said they would be alright. The second one I was worried she'd been raped or something because this street was pitch black and VERY unpopulated but the problem is that I would imagine that if a woman was just raped the last thing she'd do is tell the next strange dude she sees in a dark alley that she needs help.
 
This kind of happened to me.

So I'm walking out of the mall and this woman is sitting near the parking ramp rocking back and forth with an unpackaged doll. She also had a cast on her foot and crutches laying near her.

I never asked what was wrong as I was with my parents and I was pretty young, but I still remember this for some reason.
 
Smokey said:
Nope.

Could be a setup. I would pray for her tho
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This happened to me in GTAV in one of those stranger missions. I was just driving around when a crying woman asked for help around the corner, once i got there on foot, three armed gang members ambushed me. Luckily, i was armed to the teeth and had body armor...
 
SniperHunter said:
This happened to me in GTAV in one of those stranger missions. I was just driving around when a crying woman asked for help around the corner, once i got there on foot, three armed gang members ambushed me. Luckily, i was armed to the teeth and had body armor...
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Same

I even took a few shots

I took my combat shotgun out equipped with allll the goods
 
youngwerther said:
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lol if only he still walked
 
Abounder said:
It depends but probably not. I'm no white knight, it's none of my business, and she could be baiting you into a trap.
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This, but I'm cynical.
The times we live in I'd assume its a trap.

Depending on the situation, sure. Someone alone by a mall, sure.
Someone alone downtown at 2 am... I'm gonna vote no.

Sidenote : Two days ago I was stuck in the snow during an aggressively windy day in Western NY; impossible to drive in since you couldn't see 10 feet ahead. A stranger in a truck pulled me out. There is good as much as we only see bad.
 
Woman is easy to approach, if it is a little boy or girl I would let other people handle the matter. Or all the nearby security to handle.
 
No.

Not because I don't care, but because I'm paranoid as fuck.

You see these stories online of men being falsely accused for rape and sexual harassment, fuck that

either that or they'll probably think you're "thirsty"
 
If she's in a distraught state, but looks relatively calm in the sense that it doesn't look like she'll lash out at you, then I would try my best to help in any way I can. Otherwise, no, fuck that shit. I'm willing to help those who need it but I'm not prepared to be on the receiving end of a beating to do it.
 
I've walked by crying girls once or twice at the bar, but only while really drunk, so getting to the next location took priority and I didn't even think about helping them. I look back on those times and think I should have asked if they were okay occasionally, but it doesn't really matter.

It kinda sucks, because I really don't actually care if there's anything wrong, but socially I feel I should try to make an effort as to not be seen as the heartless bastard I probably am. Eh, what're ya gonna do?
 
Probably, if i could get over the anxiety of speaking to a stranger. If she were hurt or in pain i'd do my best to help. It's possible that i'd try to find a lot of justifications for why i shouldn't help, before i actually decided to, though.

But, i mean, i doubt anyone would just up and tell a stranger why they were crying.

Rodney McKay said:
I played this mission in GTA5. "Help! That guy stole my purse!" *Chase into alley where five guys are waiting*

DOH!
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Ha, i straight up blew everyone with a single rocket when that happened.
 
BearPawB said:
Keep your distance. You don't need to be close to ask someone if they need help.

Ask "are you hurt"
Ask "Do you need the police"
Ask "do you need help"

None of those things require you to be close. You don't need to be the one to comfort. You just have to be the one to call the cops if you realize something awful just happened.
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pretty much.
 
Nope. I saw young lady other day walking on the side walk and she was clearly in mental anguish and crying profusely, but it seemed really awkward for some stranger like me to approach her and ask her how shes doing. Usually during times like that woman just want to cry and let it out, its normal for them, they just need to cry once in a while.
 
Of course.

Afterwards I'd ask her for her number. If she declines I'll tell her she's fat and ugly and run away. Leaving her to another "friendly" guy, resulting in an endless cycle!
 
Liquidsnake said:
What has happened to help and take care of your fellow mankind?

What would stop you from asking her if she is ok? Are you afraid she would be instantly scared of you because you are a stranger?


I wish we cared for one another more than we do now.
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...and if it was a man crying in a parking lot?
 
I probably would.

Then I'd punch her and steal her purse.

But then I'd give it back and say I was just kidding!

And she'd laugh and we'd both feel better.
 
It's likely that I would assess the situation without approaching her (time of day/night, are there other cars in the parking lot, is she near a dark place, is she sobbing or crying uncontrollably, etc) and then make a judgement call based on that. Highly likely I wouldn't approach her at all and just go on my way, *unless* I wasn't by myself. If I saw anybody else in the parking lot I wouldn't even think of going near.
 
Awkward social thing:

Ever coincidentally walked behind or near a lone woman at night? I have. I always try to make some distance so she's not scared, like, crossing the road and then overtaking so you are neither near nor behind.

Of course the irony is that now she is LESS safe than she was while a normal non-murdery person was "following" her.

Used to happen to me a lot during college years. Never failed to feel awkward.
 
If I see a person crying, I'll ask them if they're alright, yes. Doesn't make a difference if they're a woman or a man. Just make sure you note body language and respect their answer, and don't get all up in their space when asking.
 
FStop7 said:
I probably would.

Then I'd punch her and steal her purse.

But then I'd give it back and say I was just kidding!

And she'd laugh and we'd both feel better.
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And then you'll bang

And then you will post it on neogaf

But some will be jealous and call bullshit

And then you will post her photos as evidence

But then they will stalk her

And then your thread gets closed

And you juniored

And I'd laugh and I'd feel better
 
kiunchbb said:
Woman is easy to approach, if it is a little boy or girl I would let other people handle the matter. Or all the nearby security to handle.
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I've never come across random crying people but I help whenever I can.

But related to your post back when I was twenty-one or so I got off work at 1am and was about to cycle home when I spotted this kid, appeared to be around 11 years old, walking towards me in his pajamas. I asked him what was up and he explained his mother kicked him out so he was walking to a friend's house but he wasn't sure where it was. He knew the general area and I was able to help him find it about three miles away from where we started. I hope things turned out alright for him.

I've helped push dead cars out of traffic, I've made calls from lost cell phones to let people know the phone was found, I recently offered and pushed a guy in a wheel chair who was having a terrible time with Portland's sloped streets, and other things like that. I figure that I'm capable so I might as well help out.
 
God Dayumm said:
And then you'll bang

And then you will post it on neogaf

But some will be jealous and call bullshit

And then you will post her photos as evidence

But then they will stalk her

And then your thread gets closed

And you juniored

And I'd laugh and I'd feel better
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It's like you've known me all of my life...
 
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