I've lived in the Bay Area my whole life and yeah, things are obscene at this point.
A close friend of mine is a software engineer at a Big 4 tech company here and he's making well over $120k per year. He has a wife and 2 kids and he can't afford a house. Think about that for a second, he is a very talented software engineer, so much so that he got into a Facebook/Google/Microsoft/Amazon level company with no college degree and is getting paid handsomely, yet he still cannot afford a regular home in the South Bay.
For example,
this 3 bedroom, 2.5 bathroom house in the San Jose area is
$1,400,000. That's an average monthly payment of
$5,600.
At around
$120,000/yr in California, your take home pay is
$6,700/month. That's
83.5% of your take home pay going straight to your mortgage.
That is the struggle people are dealing with while living here. Yes, the pay is great relative to the rest of the country, but the housing costs are eating WAY too high of a percentage of your salary.