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[DJ Sl4m]

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Mine is a bit odd, and I'll talk about it more in a sec, but first anyone else have a sexual problem of any sort ?

It could be genital herpes, hard time getting an erection, penile leakage, or whatever.

If so is it/was it hard for you to seek a Dr.'s advice/help about it ? *spam email not included*
I've always been able to sustain an erection for long periods Before I cum, but now it's extremely rare that I do cum at all.

The problem I'm having has been going on for about 4 years now, and it's so odd I've never heard of anything of the sort before.
I get erections just fine, only problem is it takes forever before I cum, in fact most times hours if at all.

No I'm not bragging, wtf is there to brag about when I can't even cum at all ? :lol

My fiance, and past GF's were all loving it at first with all the 1-3 hour sessions in bed *no joke*, but considering I hardly ever cum it makes thme feel inadequate like they aren't turning me on, when in fact they were.
I told them if they weren't turning me on I sure as hell wouldn't have a 3 hour hardon. LOL

I suppose it's sort of a good/bad problem, but it's certainly nothing to brag about considering I'm missing out on the best part

Anyone ever hear of anything like this before ? or have anything similar to tell ?

Ok let the flaming, sorry bad choice of words, let the bashing begin for those who think this is something to brag about.

 

[bishoptl]

This will not end well.

 

[Bob White]

Maybe you're gay?

 

[=W=]

Have you been listening to Sting albums recently?

 

[DJ Sl4m]

Have you been listening to Sting albums recently?

:lol

No, I'm not gay, not a chance in hell.
I'lkl check back on this thread in a bit, I'm headed to the GYM for the second half of my workout.

 

[pxleyes]

Stop taking Viagra. The world is telling you something.


if you didn't guess, it says, "dont have babies."

 

[Matlock]

You have issues with your mother.

 

[tedtropy]

:lol

No, I'm not gay, not a chance in hell.
I'lkl check back on this thread in a bit, I'm headed to the GYM for the second half of my workout.

I don't know man, sounds like your overcompensating for something...possibly gayness.

 

[ohamsie]

Um, I think it is interesting/brave of you to bring this up on this forum.

Um, I guess my advice to you would be to masturbate, find out what is good for you, and then try to translate that into the bedroom with your significant other.


:/

 

[NLB2]

Masterbate less and watch porn more.

 

[Dilbert]

Actually, that happened to me recently. I was extremely sick for 2-3 months with violent coughing which kept me up at night. (Although diagnosed as "bronchitis," I'm convinced that it was actually whooping cough...that's a story for another time, though.) The only way I could sleep for months was by taking an over-the-counter cough medicine containing dextromethorphan before bed, even though the obvious side effects (dizziness, nausea) were pretty awful. I still didn't sleep great, but it dulled the cough reflex enough to get a couple of hours here and there.

Anyway, as I started to recover and felt better, except for the persistent cough at night, I finally felt strong enough for sex again. The only problem was that I couldn't finish...no matter what. It didn't matter if I was with a partner or on my own, it just wasn't happening. When I went to the doctor for a checkup, he confirmed that it was a known side effect of DM...albeit a poorly-publicized one. He said that I was lucky I had any function at all -- in older guys, it usually shuts EVERYTHING down.

So, the obvious things to check for in your case: Have you been taking any medicines or dietary supplements consistently over the last 3-4 years? If so, that's your likely culprit.


P.S. Also, knock the "are you gay?" shit off. It's not funny.

 

[SSGMUN10000]

I sorta had a problem like that back then. Sometimes it would take me and hour or 2 to cum and sometimes not at all. Now I found a position with a girl that can make me cum in 10 minutes flat. If I were you I would look for that unless you tried them all. How about when you masterbate do you cum?

 

[White Man]

Anyway, as I started to recover and felt better, except for the persistent cough at night, I finally felt strong enough for sex again. The only problem was that I couldn't finish...no matter what. It didn't matter if I was with a partner or on my own, it just wasn't happening. When I went to the doctor for a checkup, he confirmed that it was a known side effect of DM...albeit a poorly-publicized one. He said that I was lucky I had any function at all -- in older guys, it usually shuts EVERYTHING down.

This is a common side effect of many drugs that have an effect on serotonin in the brain. See also paxil, prozac, and other SSRIs. The effect is much more dramatic for some people.

Dextromethorphan manhandles serotonin in comparison to the relatively subtle behaviour of the SSRIs.

 

[tedtropy]

This is a common side effect of many drugs that have an effect on serotonin in the brain. See also paxil, prozac, and other SSRIs. The effect is much more dramatic for some people.

Yep, Paxil had that effect on me. Very aggravating. I had no problems getting erections, but actually finishing the act was a matter of some very frustrated-looking faces, strain, and time, if at all. The effect wore off a few days after dropping the Paxil, not to mention losing the other numbing impacts it has...

Oh, and as an odd side note, for those moments when I'm unable to ejaculate for whatever reason, I find that intentionally causing my leg or whatever to cramp speeds up the deed. I have no idea what the medical explanation behind that may be.

 

[Nerevar]

despite the obvious "ra-ra, I could be a porn star!" self esteem that comes from this, it's not normal and something you need to look into. As has been stated before, it's most likely due to some over-the-counter drugs you're taking. Definitely consult a doctor about it (a family practicioner should be fine, at least for a referral).

 

[NLB2]

Also try holding your breath. If you're breathing regularly, you'll never come (this is assuming its just some problem you naturally have and not one created by drugs).

 

[Dante]

I heard if you have high estrogen levels it is much harder to climax.

 

[tedtropy]

Also try holding your breath. If you're breathing regularly, you'll never come (this is assuming its just some problem you naturally have and not one created by drugs).

That idea taken to an unhealthy extreme - http://members.aol.com/bj022038/

 

[Mason]

Do you orgasm but not cum? Or you don't have an orgasm at all? And how long has this been going on?

Anyhow, you need to see a doctor about it.

 

[Dilbert]

Also try holding your breath. If you're breathing regularly, you'll never come (this is assuming its just some problem you naturally have and not one created by drugs).

Source?

 

[Pachinko]

Not unless excessive masturbation is a sexual problem.. but if so whatever.

 

[White Man]

Also try holding your breath. If you're breathing regularly, you'll never come (this is assuming its just some problem you naturally have and not one created by drugs).

Isn't this the Vatican-approved method of birth control?

 

[Lil' Dice]

Do you orgasm but not cum? Or you don't have an orgasm at all? And how long has this been going on?

Anyhow, you need to see a doctor about it.

Orgasm=cumming....

 

[Chipopo]

Orgasm=cumming....

Myth

 

[NLB2]

Source?

My personal experience.

Nice tag, btw.

 

[Lil' Dice]

Myth

Why? Because i've NEVER spoken to a man who orgasms AND cums.
Women have different orgasms, and releases, but men.....

 

[Dilbert]

Why? Because i've NEVER spoken to a man who orgasms AND cums.
Women have different orgasms, and releases, but men.....

I think you're having a semantic disagreement.

<RINGS BELL TO INDICATE TERRIBLE PUN>

 

[Chipopo]

Most men DO cum when orgasming, but it's not a prerequisite, and the two terms are not interchangable. Read up on some Tao sexual techniques...multiple orgasms, none of the mess.

 

[Ill Saint]

It's quite true. You can orgasm without ejaculation. Mental training.

That idea taken to an unhealthy extreme - http://members.aol.com/bj022038/

Trivia: Michael Hutchence (INXS) died this way. "Death by misadventure" as the official statement read. Heh.

 

[White Man]

I think you're having a semantic disagreement.

<RINGS BELL TO INDICATE TERRIBLE PUN>

Yup, bad pun of the day. Cheers to that.

EDIT: Also, the cure for all sexual dysfunction:

 

[DJ Sl4m]

Actually, that happened to me recently. I was extremely sick for 2-3 months with violent coughing which kept me up at night. (Although diagnosed as "bronchitis," I'm convinced that it was actually whooping cough...that's a story for another time, though.) The only way I could sleep for months was by taking an over-the-counter cough medicine containing dextromethorphan before bed, even though the obvious side effects (dizziness, nausea) were pretty awful. I still didn't sleep great, but it dulled the cough reflex enough to get a couple of hours here and there.

Anyway, as I started to recover and felt better, except for the persistent cough at night, I finally felt strong enough for sex again. The only problem was that I couldn't finish...no matter what. It didn't matter if I was with a partner or on my own, it just wasn't happening. When I went to the doctor for a checkup, he confirmed that it was a known side effect of DM...albeit a poorly-publicized one. He said that I was lucky I had any function at all -- in older guys, it usually shuts EVERYTHING down.

So, the obvious things to check for in your case: Have you been taking any medicines or dietary supplements consistently over the last 3-4 years? If so, that's your likely culprit.


P.S. Also, knock the "are you gay?" shit off. It's not funny.

No doubt it was MUCH wose when I had to take some perscrip couch syrup recently.
I'm glad I'm not going nuts here, I swear it seems like it could be a blessing or bragging, but in reality when it happens every time, it strains a relationship as girls ego seems to be as fragile as a guys when it comes to trying to please her partner.

 

[DJ Sl4m]

I sorta had a problem like that back then. Sometimes it would take me and hour or 2 to cum and sometimes not at all. Now I found a position with a girl that can make me cum in 10 minutes flat. If I were you I would look for that unless you tried them all. How about when you masterbate do you cum?

Masturbation is even worse, if I'm alone at home all day, I'll be all day.

 

[DJ Sl4m]

I heard if you have high estrogen levels it is much harder to climax.

I doubt I need Clomiphene citrate, I haven't taken Andro products in years so my own testosterone/estrogen balance should be fine.

 

[DJ Sl4m]

Why? Because i've NEVER spoken to a man who orgasms AND cums.
Women have different orgasms, and releases, but men.....

I'm guessing he means Precum = cum, but the full on goal is the orgasm where all the cum blasts out at once.

 

[SlickWilly223]

Orgasm=cumming....

Not true. I and many others can have dry orgasms to prolonge sex and enrich the experience. It takes a few weeks of practice, and maybe months or years to master, but it's a lifechanging experience...

 

[Doth Togo]

I sorta had a problem like that back then. Sometimes it would take me and hour or 2 to cum and sometimes not at all. Now I found a position with a girl that can make me cum in 10 minutes flat. If I were you I would look for that unless you tried them all. How about when you masterbate do you cum?

Yea. It can be a mental block. Consider lessening your solo time too. That way, when you're with your GF, you'll be more "sensitive" to the issues.

 

[GDGF]

A

Mine is a bit odd, and I'll talk about it more in a sec, but first anyone else have a sexual problem of any sort ?

It could be genital herpes, hard time getting an erection, penile leakage, or whatever.

If so is it/was it hard for you to seek a Dr.'s advice/help about it ? *spam email not included*
I've always been able to sustain an erection for long periods Before I cum, but now it's extremely rare that I do cum at all.

The problem I'm having has been going on for about 4 years now, and it's so odd I've never heard of anything of the sort before.
I get erections just fine, only problem is it takes forever before I cum, in fact most times hours if at all.

No I'm not bragging, wtf is there to brag about when I can't even cum at all ? :lol

My fiance, and past GF's were all loving it at first with all the 1-3 hour sessions in bed *no joke*, but considering I hardly ever cum it makes thme feel inadequate like they aren't turning me on, when in fact they were.
I told them if they weren't turning me on I sure as hell wouldn't have a 3 hour hardon. LOL

I suppose it's sort of a good/bad problem, but it's certainly nothing to brag about considering I'm missing out on the best part

Anyone ever hear of anything like this before ? or have anything similar to tell ?

Ok let the flaming, sorry bad choice of words, let the bashing begin for those who think this is something to brag about.

I was going to put my 'problem' here, just to brag, even before reading your post, but it seems yours and mine are one and the same. Takes me hours to blow my load, so to speak. I've actually faked it a few times. Not in that watergun full of lotion way of faking it, just in that **uh!, or something** vocal way of faking it.

 

[Date of Lies]

Not true. I and many others can have dry orgasms to prolonge sex and enrich the experience. It takes a few weeks of practice, and maybe months or years to master, but it's a lifechanging experience...

Does this have to do with exercising that muscle and retaining your load by flexing it in pulses when you're about to climax? You like, train it by flexing it a couples of times a day and halting your flow while pissing to strenghten the muscle?

Is that right?

 

[DJ Sl4m]

I was going to put my 'problem' here, just to brag, even before reading your post, but it seems yours and mine are one and the same. Takes me hours to blow my load, so to speak. I've actually faked it a few times. Not in that watergun full of lotion way of faking it, just in that **uh!, or something** vocal way of faking it.

I've always been able to go what seemed like forever, but the last few years it's gotten to where it takes a LOT longer.
It's actualy not uncommon at this point for me to go 3 hours, no shit.
It started out freaking awesome, but with it getting to this point it's downright shitty.

I mean that throws all quickies out the window which means less sex.
And if I'm drunk or tired forget it I'm going to bed as I already know I'll never finish. zzzzzzz

etc etc, which always makes her feel like it's her fault when it isn't.
It's probably some mental built up issue at this point (like stated in an earlier post) along with something else, I dunno maybe poor blood flow or something.

I'll unfortunately have to update on this topic when I go to the doc, as I'm sure some here may end up with the same problem wether they know it or not.

 

[GDGF]

I've always been able to go what seemed like forever, but the last few years it's gotten to where it takes a LOT longer.
It's actualy not uncommon at this point for me to go 3 hours, no shit.
It started out freaking awesome, but with it getting to this point it's downright shitty.

I mean that throws all quickies out the window which means less sex.
And if I'm drunk or tired forget it I'm going to bed as I already know I'll never finish. zzzzzzz

etc etc, which always makes her feel like it's her fault when it isn't.
It's probably some mental built up issue at this point (like stated in an earlier post) along with something else, I dunno maybe poor blood flow or something.

I'll unfortunately have to update on this topic when I go to the doc, as I'm sure some here may end up with the same problem wether they know it or not.

I actually never thought about going to the doc about it, but maybe I should. I'll let you go first, and you can tell us the results

(I hate doctors)

 

[DJ Sl4m]

Does this have to do with exercising that muscle and retaining your load by flexing it in pulses when you're about to climax? You like, train it by flexing it a couples of times a day and halting your flow while pissing to strenghten the muscle?

Is that right?

There are 3 ways I know of to do this, one is the way you just suggested which helps give a person more control.

Another way (which sucks ass, but it's usually the beginners way) is to think of something that'll keep you from cumming at that moment, like baseball, rotten.com or whatever it takes long enough to stop THAT feeling and get back to the rhythn that we all know and love so much.

Another way is to precum.......... a LOT!!!!, this way it takes your balls longer to build up enough to replace what you've already released.

 

[Date of Lies]

There are 3 ways I know of to do this, one is the way you just suggested which helps give a person more control.

Another way (which sucks ass, but it's usually the beginners way) is to think of something that'll keep you from cumming at that moment, like baseball, rotten.com or whatever it takes long enough to stop THAT feeling and get back to the rhythn that we all know and love so much.

Another way is to precum.......... a LOT!!!!, this way it takes your balls longer to build up enough to replace what you've already released.

Thinking of other things while having sex has never worked for me.

when you talk about precum, do you mean masturbating before sex in order to last longer? or 'precuming' during sex?

 

[DJ Sl4m]

'precuming' during sex

I was never sure if I was doing this untill one day a girl I was seeing at the time decided she wanted to do 69, but with me on top.

Well DAMN!!!! I never knew I could precum over and over and over, I swear this went on for like 10 minutes just a lil bit at a time untill I was totally drained.

She verified it when she said her mouth and throat were numb :lol

That me be part of my problem I'm really not sure, but I'm going to check into it just to be sure.
On the negative side I have to wait 3 months since I just changed jobs for a $2.50 an hour raise

Damn 'the man'.

 

[Date of Lies]

I haven't noticed much precum, but I guess I'll keep an eye open.

anyway, good luck with your "problem."

 

[SSGMUN10000]

Masturbation is even worse, if I'm alone at home all day, I'll be all day.

Wow....then I seriously consider you go to the doc.

 

[OmniGamer]

I have the opposite problem...not in terms of stamina, but (spoilered for "TMI" reasons)

Spoiler

I shoot like a geyser. Copius discharges both in volume and distance...porn has nothing on me. Cumcannon is an alias of mine. It's a real annoyance, especially those times i wish i could just "git 'er done". Y'know, "Fap, Fap", kleenix, *snore*. But no, I always have to make sure I have some kind of "guard rag" so that I don't go flying all over the place.

 

[Lemurnator]

OH MY GOD.

I DON'T HAVE A PENIS.

:O

 

[Luscious LeftFoot]

:lol @ Cumcannon

 

[Tarazet]

'precuming' during sex

I was never sure if I was doing this untill one day a girl I was seeing at the time decided she wanted to do 69, but with me on top.

Well DAMN!!!! I never knew I could precum over and over and over, I swear this went on for like 10 minutes just a lil bit at a time untill I was totally drained.

Not to brag (although that's exactly what I'm about to do), but

Spoiler

I can precum for hours on end when I'm stroking it, and I don't mean just like an hour and a half, I mean 6-8 hours. It never seems to run out. (This usually accompanies protracted cybersex sessions.)

 

[etiolate]

A lot of anti-depressants can affect your sex life. So if you are taking any that might be your problem.