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Anyone living alone ? How do you deal with quarantine months later on
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John2290
Member
Basically living alone, caring for someone who sleeps all day. Suppose it's the same thing. Man, I'm fucking loosing it at some points but sure I have no other way to cope at any rate, I got a dog and games that's all I have. All I keep thinking is this is more than others have aswell as people who will help around the place (thank fuck0 and I'm lucky to have food, enough money for entertainment, a wide open space around me and people who will help despite me being a complete fuck up to them.
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Decontamination Silo
Banned
Ignore the orders and go outside and start your new life.
There is nothing to do outside. All bars restoruants anything basically are closed. i hated also online language course so i dropped from it.
diffusionx
Gold Member
Yea tell me about it man. It fucking sucks.
I have two dogs and a job that gives me some structure, I go to the gym regularly and try to maintain hobbies when I feel like I have the mental energy, which isn't often.
I have two dogs and a job that gives me some structure, I go to the gym regularly and try to maintain hobbies when I feel like I have the mental energy, which isn't often.
No, this is not something you should do.
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Hal.
Member
It begins with ‘s’ and ends with ‘avage masturbation’.
nush
Gold Member
You're not very bright are you?
Rock And Roll
Member
I still go out and see friends but it's like once a month or so. I suggest finding some sort of productive hobby, there's tons of time to find something you like. You'll see results as you improve over time which will keep you occupied and give you a drive to keep going with it.
Did you make any friends before all this went down? See if anyone is around to meet in the park or something along those lines.
Did you make any friends before all this went down? See if anyone is around to meet in the park or something along those lines.
Greasy Caveman
Banned
Stay inside, don't go outside. Don't even look out your window. Sit in a corner and pray to science
ChrisRussell
Neo Member
Stay inside
Pumpkin Seeds
Member
I live alone. Not much opportunity for social life. Socialize through my work when I can as I have limited options.
The odd thing is that my online gamer friends haven't been playing games lately. I also have been less into games. When the COVID first hit and lockdowns happened, online gaming was buzzing and I reconnected with my gaming crew. Everyone was off work and had free time. Now I don't know if they're working or not, but it's just not as active. I've been extremely busy with work due to holiday season but now it's timid for a bit, though I expect it will ramp up quickly once financial year turns over.
The odd thing is that my online gamer friends haven't been playing games lately. I also have been less into games. When the COVID first hit and lockdowns happened, online gaming was buzzing and I reconnected with my gaming crew. Everyone was off work and had free time. Now I don't know if they're working or not, but it's just not as active. I've been extremely busy with work due to holiday season but now it's timid for a bit, though I expect it will ramp up quickly once financial year turns over.
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SLoWMoTIoN
Unconfirmed Member
Pikachu HATES it when people fap?
just_some_nut
Member
Been living alone for years. I usually visit family every week, but even that feels like too much at times, for me. People's needs are different, but I'd say you should do some voice chat with friends or online buddies at the least, lest you forget to how to talk normally. Get some gaming sessions going
Humdinger
Gold Member
Moving to a new country/location has probably exacerbated your feelings of isolation, alienation, or loneliness. People often underestimate how big of a change and a stressor that is. That's true even when you're moving state to state, but you moved to a different country. You're suddenly in a situation where you have no roots, no history, you don't know anyone. Then you throw in language and cultural differences, and it can feel pretty isolating.
I'm not sure what to suggest, exactly. You might try one of these strategies and see if it helps:
1. Work on your thinking and your attitude. Try to keep it reasonably positive, despite your struggles. You can do that through reading or videos.
2. Use the time to get to know and like yourself more. I know that sounds corny, but one of things that makes people lonely is not enjoying time alone. It's an actual ability that you have to cultivate. Part of it is getting in better relationship with yourself, if that makes any sense. A little psychobabbley, I admit, but there's truth behind it.
3. Use the time to follow your interests. What are you interested in learning more about or exploring? Use the time to do that. Just follow your interests, wherever they go. Keep your mind occupied and engaged.
4. Get a pet. Could be a dog, a cat, a ferret, whatever. Get something that keeps you company, something you can talk to (even if they don't necessarily understand what you're saying), something you can care for. It helps.
5. Some people are taking their socializing online, through stuff like zoom etc. I'm unfamiliar with those options, because I haven't felt a need for them, but I know they're out there. You can join clubs or classes, and you can get some social contact that way.
6. Social media can help to some degree, although it's important not to overdo it. Keep it to an hour or two a day.
Good luck!
I'm not sure what to suggest, exactly. You might try one of these strategies and see if it helps:
1. Work on your thinking and your attitude. Try to keep it reasonably positive, despite your struggles. You can do that through reading or videos.
2. Use the time to get to know and like yourself more. I know that sounds corny, but one of things that makes people lonely is not enjoying time alone. It's an actual ability that you have to cultivate. Part of it is getting in better relationship with yourself, if that makes any sense. A little psychobabbley, I admit, but there's truth behind it.
3. Use the time to follow your interests. What are you interested in learning more about or exploring? Use the time to do that. Just follow your interests, wherever they go. Keep your mind occupied and engaged.
4. Get a pet. Could be a dog, a cat, a ferret, whatever. Get something that keeps you company, something you can talk to (even if they don't necessarily understand what you're saying), something you can care for. It helps.
5. Some people are taking their socializing online, through stuff like zoom etc. I'm unfamiliar with those options, because I haven't felt a need for them, but I know they're out there. You can join clubs or classes, and you can get some social contact that way.
6. Social media can help to some degree, although it's important not to overdo it. Keep it to an hour or two a day.
Good luck!
MudoSkills
Volcano High Alumnus (Cum Laude)
I've been alone for most of the pandemic and as someone who is usually pretty happy with my own company have been surprised to find my mood being as up and down as it has.
Never thought I'd say this but chatting to colleagues has helped keep me sane - instead of writing an email just give people a quick call. We also have a social chat scheduled in the diary every afternoon that people can drop in to when they feel like it. In the office you wouldn't only ever be talking to someone else about the job.
Never thought I'd say this but chatting to colleagues has helped keep me sane - instead of writing an email just give people a quick call. We also have a social chat scheduled in the diary every afternoon that people can drop in to when they feel like it. In the office you wouldn't only ever be talking to someone else about the job.
nush
Gold Member
notseqi
Member
Biking has been great, if you don't have one, get one. Walks too, load up music or podcasts and go exploring.
Did a radio show with some mates on NYE, prolly going to do that more often.
Chatting with people on IRC and Discord.
Improve cooking, having been home over christmas and NYE helped getting better at the more time consuming dishes.
Just keep busy.
Did a radio show with some mates on NYE, prolly going to do that more often.
Chatting with people on IRC and Discord.
Improve cooking, having been home over christmas and NYE helped getting better at the more time consuming dishes.
Just keep busy.
nush
Gold Member
This is a good one, because if it does not come out quite right you don't have to make someone else eat it as well.
GeorgPrime
Banned
Get a cat lol
SuperBabyMethod
Member
I live alone and what helps is taking a walk around the neighborhood (I know that’s not that advisable during COVID, but try to do it at night when there’s less people around). Usually I bike around and exercise at the park; playing video games and reading do help and if you have someone to talk to, be it a friend, family or colleague, then do so.
LisaMariaMartin
Banned
Work keeps me occupied
Nikana
Go Go Neo Rangers!
I have lived alone since I was 16 so perhaps I am just used to it. But with modern tech I feel like its not too hard to strike up a conversation with friends via video chat, text etc.
Also I looked into modding Doom maps more as something to keep my mind occupied.
It really is just a game of taking that step to reach out and push yourself to realize you need something to do. It might feel difficult but once you push yourself it'll be a lot easier.
Also I looked into modding Doom maps more as something to keep my mind occupied.
It really is just a game of taking that step to reach out and push yourself to realize you need something to do. It might feel difficult but once you push yourself it'll be a lot easier.
LisaMariaMartin
Banned
What are your hobbies OP? Better question, what kind of lockdown are you talking about? If you can still go out, I would suggest buying a bike and riding around in nature (if possible). It can be very relaxing though it's pretty shitty right now since it's cold as fuck. You could also run or do some other outside activity to take your mind off of all this.
There are a lot of things you can do even in a lockdown. Pick up gardening, painting, coding, cooking. Whatever, anything that keeps your mind from stagnating and gives you a feeling of satisfaction after you're done. Gaming or watching tv are pretty crappy as far as the last point goes. You could also go on those weird chat services where randos talk on their webcams.
Anyways, the world is still your oyster. It just got a little smaller now.
There are a lot of things you can do even in a lockdown. Pick up gardening, painting, coding, cooking. Whatever, anything that keeps your mind from stagnating and gives you a feeling of satisfaction after you're done. Gaming or watching tv are pretty crappy as far as the last point goes. You could also go on those weird chat services where randos talk on their webcams.
Anyways, the world is still your oyster. It just got a little smaller now.
Stiflers Mom
Banned
Living alone, but visiting friends like 4 days a week and hanging out.
Also got my little son here like one or two times a week, and having a good time together.
I'd never move to somewhere where my social circle isn't present.
Most important thing in life.
Also got my little son here like one or two times a week, and having a good time together.
I'd never move to somewhere where my social circle isn't present.
Most important thing in life.
Grinchy
Banned
Here's what you do. You set up an online community where everyone uploads 8-hour long videos of themselves hanging out. When you make your video, you just kinda sit there and start up one side of a conversation, do your hobbies, whatever. Also throw in some pretending to react to other conversation. "Oh, cool! I never knew that!!" Stuff like that.
Everyone sends these videos to each other and buys projectors that project the video feed onto a wall. You play these videos on your wall screen throughout the day. Then you can feel like another human is in the room with you. You say things like, "Oh wow, you are into sewing? That's cool!" And if the responses they happened to film while they were sewing line up properly, they might say something back like, "Yes, I agree with the thing you just said."
I think I've solved it.
Everyone sends these videos to each other and buys projectors that project the video feed onto a wall. You play these videos on your wall screen throughout the day. Then you can feel like another human is in the room with you. You say things like, "Oh wow, you are into sewing? That's cool!" And if the responses they happened to film while they were sewing line up properly, they might say something back like, "Yes, I agree with the thing you just said."
I think I've solved it.
EverydayBeast
ChatGPT 0.1
Let’s not pretend the virus is called credit to masks, social distancing, and washing hands—I’ll give you advice, get high.
Elektro Demon
Banned
Order lube. Lots of lube.
MilkLizard
Member
Put your mask on and go for walks in a park or whatever you have available. Daylight really helps with the mood, maybe throw some Vitamin D into the mix.
DrJohnGalt
Banned
My wife walked out mid-Feb, just a few weeks before the government decided to shut down. Been alone ever since and loving it!
Maybe not alone alone. I do have a great dog who's stuck with me through everything. We walk together at least twice a day, rain or shine.
And I've got a great bunch of game friends around the world who are always down to meet online and get our game on.
Full disclosure: I don't really like people anyway and always preferred hanging out at home over going out. Screw society; I'm happy where I am.
Seriously tho, there's plenty to do. Start a "jailhouse workout" routine. Meditate. Read. Write. Walk around town. Play games online with friends. Take up photography. Start playing an instrument. Send actual snail mail letters to friends and family just letting them know how you are doing and checking up on them. There's plenty to do if you're not such a boring person that you always need somebody else to keep you entertained. Sure, some people may need more human interaction, but you live in an apartment, just lean out the window and start yelling until somebody in the complex says hello.
And if you just want somebody to talk to, send me a PM here. I'd be more than happy to shoot the shit for a bit.
Maybe not alone alone. I do have a great dog who's stuck with me through everything. We walk together at least twice a day, rain or shine.
And I've got a great bunch of game friends around the world who are always down to meet online and get our game on.
Full disclosure: I don't really like people anyway and always preferred hanging out at home over going out. Screw society; I'm happy where I am.
Seriously tho, there's plenty to do. Start a "jailhouse workout" routine. Meditate. Read. Write. Walk around town. Play games online with friends. Take up photography. Start playing an instrument. Send actual snail mail letters to friends and family just letting them know how you are doing and checking up on them. There's plenty to do if you're not such a boring person that you always need somebody else to keep you entertained. Sure, some people may need more human interaction, but you live in an apartment, just lean out the window and start yelling until somebody in the complex says hello.
And if you just want somebody to talk to, send me a PM here. I'd be more than happy to shoot the shit for a bit.
FreedomOfSpeech
Banned
Luckily I've had decades of training with being alone so this is not hitting me that hard.
But it's another matter when other people are doing it as well. It's just not natural and it's rubbing off on me.
Just make sure you go outside every day, even if it is dark outside. Get some movement.
Eat healthy. Maybe smoke some ganja. Don't consume social media, this is just inviting misery in your life.
Read books instead, centuries of nuanced wisdom waiting to enter your brain. Come out of the lockdown better than you were.
But it's another matter when other people are doing it as well. It's just not natural and it's rubbing off on me.
Just make sure you go outside every day, even if it is dark outside. Get some movement.
Eat healthy. Maybe smoke some ganja. Don't consume social media, this is just inviting misery in your life.
Read books instead, centuries of nuanced wisdom waiting to enter your brain. Come out of the lockdown better than you were.
Thank you for amazing response !
TheMan
Member
Yikes man, sounds like a tough spot. I'd say
-exercise as much as you can. Turn that boredom into lean muscle
-hobbies
-online interaction can be partially fulfilling. Not the same as meeting up with IRL friends, but in a situation like yours I'd encourage it.
-get in your car, turn on the radio, and go for a scenic drive. I don't do this as much lately but when I was single I would do this to unwind sometimes.
-glory holes. get your dick sucked safely and anonymously.
-exercise as much as you can. Turn that boredom into lean muscle
-hobbies
-online interaction can be partially fulfilling. Not the same as meeting up with IRL friends, but in a situation like yours I'd encourage it.
-get in your car, turn on the radio, and go for a scenic drive. I don't do this as much lately but when I was single I would do this to unwind sometimes.
-glory holes. get your dick sucked safely and anonymously.
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Jtibh
Banned
Why no fap? It burns calories.
Prevents prostate cancer.
Makes you feel better.
Lowers stress
Keeps you warm in the cold
Helps with pain
On topic.
Cant go out??
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A.Romero
Member
I have moved to other countries in the past but had the benefit of being able to form connections with people in different settings like school or work.
Right now I'm in my country but under lockdown. My SO moved a week before lockdown started here and since march it's only been my cat and I. At the beginning it was great because it let me deal with the break up without having to confront social situations or having people pressure me to go out to avoid depression.
Later it became a little bit tougher. I only go out to get stuff from the convenience store and to do laundry. Luckily I keep in touch with friends and family through technology.
I signed up for school (online of course) and started doing exercise every day. On top of my demanding job it keeps me mostly occupied (wishing for days off, actually).
So basically: keep busy and productive and stay in touch with family and friends through digital channels. It really can be as good as if you were there for most things.
Right now I'm in my country but under lockdown. My SO moved a week before lockdown started here and since march it's only been my cat and I. At the beginning it was great because it let me deal with the break up without having to confront social situations or having people pressure me to go out to avoid depression.
Later it became a little bit tougher. I only go out to get stuff from the convenience store and to do laundry. Luckily I keep in touch with friends and family through technology.
I signed up for school (online of course) and started doing exercise every day. On top of my demanding job it keeps me mostly occupied (wishing for days off, actually).
So basically: keep busy and productive and stay in touch with family and friends through digital channels. It really can be as good as if you were there for most things.
KaitlyynDuff
Banned
Mobile games... lots and lots of mobile game sessions. I mean, I am employed and my company got me working from home. However, other than going out for groceries, I reallly have too much free time. I don't have many friends either. There are some online casinos if you're a gambler. If not, Stardew Valley, Dead Cells, Wild Rift, and more can be found on the App Store.
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