Then he'll suggest, for example, that the next family vacation should be to San Diego Comic-Con
My son shuts down when there is more than 10 kids around.No offense, but he'd get the mental shit kicked out of him at SDCC. He honestly doers not seem like he is prepared at all for a gigantic event like that.
My friend, who is also an Aspie, had a hard time at WonderCon, and said to me that to do SDCC, she'll probably need to take a Valium to be around that many people. I mean, I'm pretty high functioning, but even I get mentally drained at that place.
I'm pretty sure my wife has Aspergers.I was recently diagnosed with Asperger's...
Hooray?!?!
I'm pretty sure my wife has Aspergers.
How old are you, if you want tell? Did you and your family suspect something or was it a third party that suggested you get tested?
My son informed me this tonight that he has been having nightmares and he is too scared to sleep in his room by himself. This is a very typical problem for children his age but I'm having trouble getting him to go to sleep because he scared of sleeping alone. Have any of you guys dealt with this yet?
Prior to the nightmares it would take me about 10 minutes to get him to go to bed. now after the nightmares, I can be in his room anywhere from 30 minutes to over an hour trying to calm him down and get him to bed. He has been fighting going to sleep, which is a major issue because he already doesn't get enough sleep for his age.
I wish he would tell me. He just tells me it's scary.What are the nightmares about? Maybe its something he could be shown isn't dangerous or talked about?
Maybe a night light would help?I wish he would tell me. He just tells me it's scary.
That's what I setup tonight. Then I used trickery to get out of his room. I told him I had to go put his brothers to bed and I would be back.Maybe a night light would help?
My friend cosplays as Transformers to circumvent it. Surprisingly, it works.
Big progress this week on my son's potty training. With a full court press at home and at ABA, we now have him fully adjusted to peeing on the toilet. That may sound like nothing, but it's an absolutely MASSIVE milestone for us. He can now go all day wearing underwear instead of a diaper as long as we give him the chance to sit on the pot every 45 minutes or so.
Pooping is a bigger challenge, and he still shows a major aversion to doing it. That's going to be a longer term issue for us to work through, but we're on cloud nine. He turns four this August and we hope to have him fully good to go by then.
School IEP reports are no where near as good as official testing. My son's school made him sound like he was doing amazing. The Dr basically said nope. It's ok because the dr gave us the areas we need focus on.
That's why we go to the doctor, for a true assessment.IEPs are not doctor visits. I've never understood why parents think they are and teachers act like they are. I mean, that's literally not an IEPs purpose.
My son shuts down when there is more than 10 kids around.
I don't shut down, but I do prefer to be in the company of small groups over large ones.
It took a lot out of me to go see paul mccartney, and the beach boys in concert but was completely worth it.
I don't shut down either. I just don't tend to stay where there is a large amount of people for long periods of time. There's only so much I can handle of that.I usually don't shut down either. I'll go into scary-ass Wander Mode before that happens.
IEPs are not doctor visits. I've never understood why parents think they are and teachers act like they are. I mean, that's literally not an IEPs purpose.
He seems to have this idea that the world owes him a girlfriend, he's getting angry that he's never had one, and, from what I've overheard him muttering to himself, he's starting to form a deep resentment. (He went to a geek social event yesterday, and was in his room yelling to himself "You think you're better than me?!" when he got home at 1am.)
I've tried to coach him on how to present himself better, but he ignores or takes offence at anything I say.
I'm frankly worried about where this is going, because this is spilling out into other areas.
Sounds like he needs to burn off some of that testosterone.Difficulties with my 18 year old step son again. (The one with aspergers and tourettes.)
He seems to have this idea that the world owes him a girlfriend, he's getting angry that he's never had one, and, from what I've overheard him muttering to himself, he's starting to form a deep resentment. (He went to a geek social event yesterday, and was in his room yelling to himself "You think you're better than me?!" when he got home at 1am.) It's gotten worse lately because his 16 year old sister is dating, and he's jealous, and is actually bitter towards her over it.
First, I have no good girl advice for him. I'm awkward myself, and didn't get an actual girlfriend until I was 26. (Although most of my friends have been girls.) Second, girls actually find him creepy, and have called him creepy to his face. I've tried to coach him on how to present himself better, but he ignores or takes offence at anything I say.
I'm frankly worried about where this is going, because this is spilling out into other areas.
He sees a therapist every couple of months.That's going to get ugly. Fast.
Unfortunately, I have no real advice for you other than to get him into therapy (I forget if he already is?).
How's he going to burn off that testosterone? He can't get a date, and he's not into anything remotely athletic. He's set in his ways and impossible to get into anything new... that doesn't involve collecting, anyway.Sounds like he needs to burn off some of that testosterone.
Also, you are doing good job trying to talk to him. I would say just keep at it. Also, like HP said get him some therapy.
I could suggest he wear nicer shirts, for example, and he'd take that as a direct personal attack.
I just went to this place here that helps people with disabilities find jobs. After some tests they said I have a high IQ, but that my social skills are horrible. They also think my depression is still a problem. They said I need to find a job where I could have someone helping me consistently along the way but they don't know any. They said to just continue my schooling and work towards a bachelor's degree. Not sure what I should do from here. I want to try to move out and go to a college but my mom doesn't think I'm ready and she doesn't want to live alone.
Don't live alone if you can't afford to, mentally or financially.
Do you do it in a soft tone or in kind of a commanding tone?
May I ask if he is rather bullheaded? I'm rather bullheaded and I get so angry sometimes when people tell me what to do about myself. Although it probably seems silly it makes me feel inferior when it happens as deep down I know they are right but I cannot accept it.As for talking to him, I don't do it all that much lately because he doesn't listen and reacts negatively to even the most innocent advice. I could suggest he wear nicer shirts, for example, and he'd take that as a direct personal attack.
Get him tested. Do not fuck around. If he is on the spectrum, please get him the help he needs. My son has been doing so much better since he started all of his therapies and preK.I'll have to bookmark this thread and read through it. Still up in the air with my (almost) 3 year old and whether he is ASD or not.
Doctor only said he is "different" so far.
Get him tested. Do not fuck around. If he is on the spectrum, please get him the help he needs. My son has been doing so much better since he started all of his therapies and preK.
He's an amazing kid and I couldn't imagine life without him, ASD and all.
That waiting list is insane.He is getting tested and he's getting speech and occupational therapy. We've been on waiting lists since he was 18 months. He's shown a lot of progress.
We had one visit with the pediatrician no diagnosis yet. Even had genetic testing to make sure it's not something else. Waiting on a followup visit now.
Just frustrating not knowing what/if anything is wrong.
Doctor only said he is "different" so far.
May I ask if he is rather bullheaded? I'm rather bullheaded and I get so angry sometimes when people tell me what to do about myself. Although it probably seems silly it makes me feel inferior when it happens as deep down I know they are right but I cannot accept it.
I'd get him into weekly therapy. The therapist would probably uncover communication issues he has with you and advise him on having a better relationship there.He sees a therapist every couple of months.
How's he going to burn off that testosterone? He can't get a date, and he's not into anything remotely athletic. He's set in his ways and impossible to get into anything new... that doesn't involve collecting, anyway.
As for talking to him, I don't do it all that much lately because he doesn't listen and reacts negatively to even the most innocent advice. I could suggest he wear nicer shirts, for example, and he'd take that as a direct personal attack.
I think, for the most part , that my son is potty trained.
He still needs to be reminder/monitored for when he goes to the bathroom. But we haven't used a diaper or pull-up in over month. He's still reluctant on going in public but no where near as bad as he used to be.
Had a huge meltdown tonight. Tore something in my leg.
I'm in no position to look for work, I've got my disability hearing coming up in September, and my boss just tonight gave me a month's "vacation!" (complete with exclamation point). There were.... other... factors which made it so much more insulting and demeaning that I won't get into just because it's internal company bullshit. I gave you guys the basics, and what makes it pertinent to this thread.
I am in no position to not have an income for a few months, which is what will happen if I quit on Friday after getting my last paycheck (assuming he does not snake out of that as well). This guy wrote the judge a letter months ago. He fully understands my situation. So the fact that he goddamn does this without any regard for me (plus writing the e-mail so it sounds like he's doing me a favor) is bullshit.
I was in the corner for thirty minutes in a ball. Fuck this, I'm 31.
Then again, not having a job would definitely help my case. I can't even goddamn joke about that. This is bullshit.
I know what it's like to get injured at work and be at odds end with bosses
No. I tore my leg due to me moving so fast.
Him giving me time off is just him. It has nothing to do with my autism.
I was just talking about my situation.
But thanks. I just need to drastically be careful money-wise. Who the fuck knows if I'm going to have work after my "vacation!". Who the fuck knows if I'm even going to quit on Friday. I live with my mom, pay rent when I can, and my car is really not reliable since three people live here. Plus I don't drive highways. He simply does not give a shit. The worst part is that he's completely oblivious to what an asshole he can be. There's a reason why I don't ever see him anymore face to face. I can work fine through my computer.
I got a retail job last Halloween and he was so upset that I had taken a second job. As if it would take away from the small number of hours that I work for him. He just gets so... angry... that I don't consider this job my entire life. It offends him. So of course he just expects me to wait for him to tell me he has work for me again.
Jesus HP. That sucks.And SSI just denied me a piggyback on my hearing because - get this - I have a ROTH IRA that I can't touch until I'm 50.
This shit just keeps getting so good.
That waiting list is insane.
Where do you live?
Awesome that you are getting him speech and OT.
... I have nothing to say that that. A medical professional said this?
And SSI just denied me a piggyback on my hearing because - get this - I have a ROTH IRA that I can't touch until I'm 50.
This shit just keeps getting so good.
Jesus HP. That sucks.
So do you work part time for this guy or full time? Also, can you get a job somewhere else? If he lets you go, can you get unemployment ?
This guy sounds like a dick hole.
