As for this, I personally just go meh. I consider it necessary sacrifices or collateral damage. (I'm a very cold calculated person sometimes and I've already lost a lot of people in my life, a good amount after the election too). This is, of course, talking about myself. Friends and Family, though? Well I wouldn't give two shits about my family, although my friends I would be angry. Although, that also depends if they died fighting for what they believed in, in which case I wouldn't mourn their deaths but rather celebrate their life and respect what they fought for. War is a complex situation, civil war especially.