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[TGateKeeper]

An opinion based on...what?

What is a "real homosexual"?

A real homosexual? a normal person that lives a normal life but has a single same sex partner.
A life style homosexual is one that is gay today, bi tomorow, does'nt know if they are coming or going. Living here in miami I know and interact with a lot of homosexuals and this is what I base MY opinion on. You don't have to agree. it is my opinion.

 

[ZephyrFate]

its is for many. imo there is a small percentage of real homosexuals and a very large percentage of people just living a life style and I know the gay defense force will jump on me but its my opinion.

The hell are you even talking about? What the hell is a real homosexual?

So does that mean there are fake homosexuals? Like... oh hey that dude over there getting his ass reamed out by a fat dick, he's just FAKING it?

And from your second post, it sounds like you're confusing promiscuity with bisexuality and bicuriousity. Just because you live in Miami and know some flaming, promiscuous gays doesn't mean you actually know what you're talking about.

There's a term for what you're talking about, but it doesn't apply to a homosexual 'lifestyle', something that does not exist.

 

[Monocle]

It's amazing how resilient this terminology is despite being utterly meaningless.

Gaborn, I never thought you'd be so intolerant about people speaking absolute nonsense. Why can't you just respect their lifestyle choice to be derpheads?

its is for many. imo there is a small percentage of real homosexuals and a very large percentage of people just living a life style and I know the gay defense force will jump on me but its my opinion.

If you think that statement insulates you from criticism when you spout utter bullshit, or gives you a free pass to be unreasonable, think again.

 

[water_wendi]

Yes I do

You should have said "No but i do." Perfect opportunity.

 

[SapientWolf]

its is for many. imo there is a small percentage of real homosexuals and a very large percentage of people just living a life style and I know the gay defense force will jump on me but its my opinion.

Is close minded a life style too? Because you're living the hell out of it right now.

 

[btkadams]

Gaborn, I never thought you'd be so intolerant about people speaking absolute nonsense. Why can't you just respect their lifestyle choice to be derpheads?

it's all in his agenda!

 

[Gaborn]

A real homosexual? a normal person that lives a normal life but has a single same sex partner.
A life style homosexual is one that is gay today, bi tomorow, does'nt know if they are coming or going. Living here in miami I know and interact with a lot of homosexuals and this is what I base MY opinion on. You don't have to agree. it is my opinion.

So you're suggesting you know some bisexual people? Because that's what you seem to be suggesting.

btk - Of course it is. Miss talking to ya Robin

 

[The Technomancer]

A real homosexual? a normal person that lives a normal life but has a single same sex partner.
A life style homosexual is one that is gay today, bi tomorow, does'nt know if they are coming or going. Living here in miami I know and interact with a lot of homosexuals and this is what I base MY opinion on. You don't have to agree. it is my opinion.

In all seriousness, you seem to be describing something of a "swinger" lifestyle, which certainly isn't sexual orientation dependent.

 

[Qwomo]

A real homosexual? a normal person that lives a normal life but has a single same sex partner.
A life style homosexual is one that is gay today, bi tomorow, does'nt know if they are coming or going. Living here in miami I know and interact with a lot of homosexuals and this is what I base MY opinion on. You don't have to agree. it is my opinion.

 

[Roto13]

its is for many. imo there is a small percentage of real homosexuals and a very large percentage of people just living a life style and I know the gay defense force will jump on me but its my opinion.

Your opinion is that of an idiot.

 

[Devolution]

A real homosexual? a normal person that lives a normal life but has a single same sex partner.
A life style homosexual is one that is gay today, bi tomorow, does'nt know if they are coming or going. Living here in miami I know and interact with a lot of homosexuals and this is what I base MY opinion on. You don't have to agree. it is my opinion.

It's MY opinion that you're a close-minded simpleton who can't divorce culture from sexuality.

 

[Monocle]

It's MY opinion that you're a close-minded simpleton who can't divorce culture from sexuality.

In my opinion, there's a small percentage of simpletons and a really large percentage of people who talk out of their asses but aren't totally stupid, just mostly stupid. But I still respect that lifestyle even though I disagree with it.

 

[TGateKeeper]

So you're suggesting you know some bisexual people? Because that's what you seem to be suggesting.

btk - Of course it is. Miss talking to ya Robin

No, Bi sexuality is something totally different. There is a difference in homosexual who have been that way all their life and with some of those that just started liking the same sex. this is what i mean by real and those living a life style.

 

[Devolution]

In my opinion, there's a small percentage of simpletons and a really large percentage of people who talk out of their asses but aren't totally stupid, just mostly stupid. But I still respect that lifestyle even though I disagree with it.

I respect the lifestyle of monocles and in my opinion more people should wear them.

No, Bi sexuality is something totally different. There is a difference in homosexual who have been that way all their life and with some of those that just started liking the same sex. this is what i mean by real and those living a life style.

So you're denying that people who accept their sexuality later in life are "real" homosexuals. Sigh. You are a piece of work.

 

[speculawyer]

In her statement, Amy reported that Matthews was “screaming over her” that God does not accept gays; they should not “be on earth”; and they will “go to hell” because they are not “right in the head.” Five other employees confirmed that Matthews had said gays are sinners who are going to hell.

It is one thing to have an opinion on the matter . . . it is another to yell & scream at a co-worker about your personal superstition in an intimidating manner.

 

[WickedAngel]

Do bisexual people use wallpaper or odd colors in their homes? I'm wondering what is so different about them that their lifestyle is distinguished from that of homosexual/heterosexual people.

 

[Gaborn]

No, Bi sexuality is something totally different. There is a difference in homosexual who have been that way all their life and with some of those that just started liking the same sex. this is what i mean by real and those living a life style.

Not really. For example, you still see elderly men coming out and telling their families they're gay. It's a really hard step for a gay person to take sometimes and it's common for a gay person, especially if they're in a very conservative religious family for example to either not date at all or date heterosexually rather than come out to their family until they just get tired of living the lie. The entire concept in the black community of the "down low" is based on the idea that being gay is socially unacceptable for many people so you live as a heterosexual, even get married to a woman... but you're still gay and you have gay sex on the side.

You're either describing bisexuals or people who come out later in life. That doesn't mean they weren't gay before it means they didn't tell you.

 

[speculawyer]

In my opinion, there's a small percentage of simpletons and a really large percentage of people who talk out of their asses but aren't totally stupid, just mostly stupid. But I still respect that lifestyle even though I disagree with it.

"That lifestyle" . . . WTF is that supposed to mean?

It implies that you chose it . . . which means it implies a lie.

 

[WickedAngel]

Not really. For example, you still see elderly men coming out and telling their families they're gay. It's a really hard step for a gay person to take sometimes and it's common for a gay person, especially if they're in a very conservative religious family for example to either not date at all or date heterosexually rather than come out to their family until they just get tired of living the lie. The entire concept in the black community of the "down low" is based on the idea that being gay is socially unacceptable for many people so you live as a heterosexual, even get married to a woman... but you're still gay and you have gay sex on the side.

You're either describing bisexuals or people who come out later in life. That doesn't mean they weren't gay before it means they didn't tell you.

...sekrat gay?!

 

[TGateKeeper]

I respect the lifestyle of monocles and in my opinion more people should wear them.




So you're denying that people who accept their sexuality later in life are "real" homosexuals. Sigh. You are a piece of work.

dumb ass did I say that? Take the shit from between your ears. I said some. You are acting as if everybody that says they are gay are really gay? I know to many women/men that are gay because of bad relationships with men,abuse etc not because they were born that way and not because they are just coming to terms with who they are. When you question them about their sexuality they don't seem confident in what they say compare to someone who has been that way from birth or felt that way from birth and later came out those individuals and confident in who they are. That is what I mean by real and those just living a life style. If you can't understand what I'm trying to say then I really don't give a fuck.

 

[Neki]

dumb ass did I say that? Take the shit from between your ears. I said some. You are acting as if everybody that says they are gay are really gay? I know to many women/men that are gay because of bad relationships with men,abuse etc not because they were born that way and not because they are just coming to terms with who they are. When you question them about their sexuality they don't seem confident in what they say compare to someone who has been that way from birth or felt that way from birth and later came out those individuals and confident in who they are. That is what I mean by real and those just living a life style. If you can't understand what I'm trying to say then I really don't give a fuck.

so they're not "gay gay", they're just "gay?" LOL. oh you.

 

[Mercury Fred]

dumb ass did I say that? Take the shit from between your ears. I said some. You are acting as if everybody that says they are gay are really gay? I know to many women/men that are gay because of bad relationships with men,abuse etc not because they were born that way and not because they are just coming to terms with who they are. When you question them about their sexuality they don't seem confident in what they say compare to someone who has been that way from birth or felt that way from birth and later came out those individuals and confident in who they are. That is what I mean by real and those just living a life style. If you can't understand what I'm trying to say then I really don't give a fuck.

wtf?

Meltdown of the year?

 

[Devolution]

dumb ass did I say that? Take the shit from between your ears. I said some. You are acting as if everybody that says they are gay are really gay? I know to many women/men that are gay because of bad relationships with men,abuse etc not because they were born that way and not because they are just coming to terms with who they are. When you question them about their sexuality they don't seem confident in what they say compare to someone who has been that way from birth or felt that way from birth and later came out those individuals and confident in who they are. That is what I mean by real and those just living a life style. If you can't understand what I'm trying to say then I really don't give a fuck.

Like I said, piece of work. Also being bisexual or experimenting with their sexuality doesn't make them "fake." Sexuality is more complicated than "fake" people and "real" people. You're just doing everyone a disservice by considering it a "lifestyle" and making weird dissections of a group.

 

[How About No]

dumb ass did I say that? Take the shit from between your ears. I said some. You are acting as if everybody that says they are gay are really gay? I know to many women/men that are gay because of bad relationships with men,abuse etc not because they were born that way and not because they are just coming to terms with who they are. When you question them about their sexuality they don't seem confident in what they say compare to someone who has been that way from birth or felt that way from birth and later came out those individuals and confident in who they are. That is what I mean by real and those just living a life style. If you can't understand what I'm trying to say then I really don't give a fuck.

wow...

 

[Mumei]

wtf?

Meltdown of the year?

Now, now. The year's still early!

 

[Qwomo]

dumb ass did I say that? Take the shit from between your ears. I said some. You are acting as if everybody that says they are gay are really gay? I know to many women/men that are gay because of bad relationships with men,abuse etc not because they were born that way and not because they are just coming to terms with who they are. When you question them about their sexuality they don't seem confident in what they say compare to someone who has been that way from birth or felt that way from birth and later came out those individuals and confident in who they are. That is what I mean by real and those just living a life style. If you can't understand what I'm trying to say then I really don't give a fuck.

You're a dumb person.

 

[Ulairi]

Managers spend a lot of their time dealing with employee issues. If an employee is causing a disruption they should be removed.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

dumb ass did I say that? Take the shit from between your ears. I said some. You are acting as if everybody that says they are gay are really gay? I know to many women/men that are gay because of bad relationships with men,abuse etc not because they were born that way and not because they are just coming to terms with who they are. When you question them about their sexuality they don't seem confident in what they say compare to someone who has been that way from birth or felt that way from birth and later came out those individuals and confident in who they are. That is what I mean by real and those just living a life style. If you can't understand what I'm trying to say then I really don't give a fuck.

A friend of mine says he's bisexual, and even though he's dated girls before, in the entire time I've known him he's shown exclusive interest in men. Would you say he's living the "bisexual lifestyle" and isn't an authentic bisexual person?

A second question. Why does it matter what classification other people use for something you're feeling?

 

[ZephyrFate]

dumb ass did I say that? Take the shit from between your ears. I said some. You are acting as if everybody that says they are gay are really gay? I know to many women/men that are gay because of bad relationships with men,abuse etc not because they were born that way and not because they are just coming to terms with who they are. When you question them about their sexuality they don't seem confident in what they say compare to someone who has been that way from birth or felt that way from birth and later came out those individuals and confident in who they are. That is what I mean by real and those just living a life style. If you can't understand what I'm trying to say then I really don't give a fuck.

Sexuality is fluid and is commonly discovered later in life all the time. That doesn't make anyone any less 'real gay'. I don't know what the fuck this "I say I'm gay but I'm not really gay" business comes from. Maybe your ass, I don't know. Stop pulling things outta there.

 

[Qwomo]

And start putting things in there.

 

[Monocle]

No, Bi sexuality is something totally different. There is a difference in homosexual who have been that way all their life and with some of those that just started liking the same sex. this is what i mean by real and those living a life style.

Sexuality is a continuum, not a dichotomy. There's a broad range of variation in sexual orientation. A person's ability to choose which label to apply to their sexual and romantic attractions is not to be confused with control over the attractions themselves, which are involuntary and fluid. Most people don't understand their own impulses well enough to spit out a clean summary of their innermost being on demand. The average person's self-concept isn't so crisply defined that they can live up to a consistent standard of conduct, much less the gilded ideal you've erected. Who are you to say someone's sexual identity isn't authentic unless they can keep their passions locked in a narrow groove from cradle to grave?

This whole business of trying to attach neat little tags to a protean thing like human sexuality has caused a lot of misery. It's a bullshit expectation that society burdens people with. No wonder so many of us have or once had a simplistic or distorted view of sexual orientation. We've been immersed in a sea of misinformation since childhood, taught that it's possible and indeed necessary to enclose the dynamic complexities of our lives in synthetic boxes.

The true scope of human sexuality defies the popular idea that normal people are members of a vast nation of heterosexuals that has a narrow thread of deviants skulking around the edges. This imaginary model explodes the moment you take the trouble to investigate how people actually feel and behave.

 

[Qwomo]

An excellent post, Monocle.

 

[ZephyrFate]

but Monocle, where do these 'fake gays' sit on the sexuality spectrum?

 

[Monocle]

but Monocle, where do these 'fake gays' sit on the sexuality spectrum?

They're entrenched deep in enemy territory, somewhere over to the left in my helpful diagram, waiting for Lady Gaga's new album to release so they can doff their fabulous shoes and scamper back to the land of cheap bourbon and monster trucks while the real gays are distracted.

 

[ZephyrFate]

These fake gays sound like real troopers.

It's too bad I'm one of those real gays. They're just pretending!

 

[Devolution]

They're entrenched deep in enemy territory, somewhere over to the left in my helpful diagram, waiting for Lady Gaga's new album to release so they can doff their fabulous shoes and scamper back to the land of cheap bourbon and monster trucks while the real gays are distracted.

Also googling "fake gay" gives some interesting results in images.

 

[Monocle]

These fake gays sound like real troopers.

It's too bad I'm one of those real gays. They're just pretending!

It's so sad that most of those phonies won't even make it back to their own side. How many poor souls have succumbed to the eternal blizzard of glitter at the border? The ground is practically paved in chipped bone! ;_;

 

[Zenith]

One could also aim for something beyond hypocrisy.

Ha, told you someone would be stupid enough to do it:

now to see if anyone plays the debunked "but you should tolerate the intolerant" argument

imo there is a small percentage of real homosexuals and a very large percentage of people just living a life style and I know the gay defense force will jump on me but its my opinion.

your opinion is ill-informed and demonstrably wrong. you think claiming "but it's my OPINION, guys" somehow makes your comments valid?

 

[SmokyDave]

A real homosexual? a normal person that lives a normal life but has a single same sex partner.
A life style homosexual is one that is gay today, bi tomorow, does'nt know if they are coming or going. Living here in miami I know and interact with a lot of homosexuals and this is what I base MY opinion on. You don't have to agree. it is my opinion.

Everybody, homosexual or otherwise, knows whether they're coming or going.

Fluid is white and sticky - Coming.

Fluid is yellow and watery - Going.

Simple.

 

[Roto13]

dumb ass did I say that? Take the shit from between your ears. I said some. You are acting as if everybody that says they are gay are really gay? I know to many women/men that are gay because of bad relationships with men,abuse etc not because they were born that way and not because they are just coming to terms with who they are. When you question them about their sexuality they don't seem confident in what they say compare to someone who has been that way from birth or felt that way from birth and later came out those individuals and confident in who they are. That is what I mean by real and those just living a life style. If you can't understand what I'm trying to say then I really don't give a fuck.

Why aren't you banned yet?

 

[The Technomancer]

Why aren't you banned yet?

I dunno about you, but I'm enjoying watching this.

 

[How About No]

Everybody, homosexual or otherwise, knows whether they're coming or going.

Fluid is white and sticky - Coming.

Fluid is yellow and watery - Going.

Simple.

:lol

btw I'm being interviewed at Walmart today...wish me luck.

 

[Stinkles]

dumb ass did I say that? Take the shit from between your ears. I said some. You are acting as if everybody that says they are gay are really gay? I know to many women/men that are gay because of bad relationships with men,abuse etc not because they were born that way and not because they are just coming to terms with who they are. When you question them about their sexuality they don't seem confident in what they say compare to someone who has been that way from birth or felt that way from birth and later came out those individuals and confident in who they are. That is what I mean by real and those just living a life style. If you can't understand what I'm trying to say then I really don't give a fuck.

I heard that bad punctuation and sentence structure were clear signs of toxically-rejective latent homosexuality.