ZackieChan
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What can I say? I'm a wise dude.
I can't get a fucking single decent match on Tinder here in Palo Alto here, though. Only here for one more week anyway. Sad state of affairs.
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What can I say? I'm a wise dude.
I can't get a fucking single decent match on Tinder here in Palo Alto here, though. Only here for one more week anyway. Sad state of affairs.
I gotta ask the guys in this thread, how high is your message response ratio? Mine is pretty damn shitty, like 1 in 50, maybe even lower. This really bugs me because when I first joined, it was almost 3 years ago (holy shit) and it was back when I was still a frail looking girly man. Then I started working out a year or two later and I feel as though every physical aspect of me improved. I'm not saying I'm an Adonis or anything (yet) , but I felt I would at least see some improvement in my responses. And don't get the wrong idea either. It's not like I'm only messaging supermodels. Even women I don't particularly find attractive at all, I send messages just to see if I'd get a reply. It's pretty aggravating. Argh!
Also too, OKC is pretty strange. I see tons of gorgeous Asian girls in real life every day, but for some reason on the site they're mostly rather meh. Always thought that was odd.
Damn, son. Sorry to hear that. Did you at least have fun while you were there?
Also too, OKC is pretty strange. I see tons of gorgeous Asian girls in real life every day, but for some reason on the site they're mostly rather meh. Always thought that was odd.
Damn, son. Sorry to hear that. Did you at least have fun while you were there?
Gray Matter
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I'm starting to suspect that this isn't a first for her. With the amount of people she sees on a daily basis, her good looks and her great personality, I can't be the only guy that has tried to date her.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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What does this even mean? Not a first for her not to respond or not a first for her to be asked out.
Yep, that's the truth right there. It sure sucks. ._.
That's... not really relevant. Pretty much everyone has been asked out before, unless they were hermits/can't leave the house/whatever. I mean, girls have tried to date you, right? Even if your weren't aware of their advances, I guarantee you at least one has tried. I don't see how that mindset would be productive in the least.
Gray Matter
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Forget I said that, I'm not feeling particularly good right now.
Back when I was doing the online dating thing, I was 'one of the hottest profiles' according to a OKC email (right). I have a great professional job, had some varied pictures with fun captions, and a really funny profile (which I've had reviewed by friends who agree). I would get unsolicited messages, but generally from people I wasn't interested in, with some exceptions. I also had a good number of likes, but also mostly from girls I wasn't interested. I had a 100% response rate from girls who had liked me if I messaged them. From girls who didn't message me first, or who didn't "like" me, out of maybe 20-30 (I didn't message that much), I had 2 replies (one convo lasted a whole 1 reply, the other 2 :/). My messages were thoughtful and profile-specific, but heeeeh. Maybe they weren't fun or eye-catching enough, in hindsight. Some GAFer suggested a funny multiple-choice questionnaire using parts of someone's profile, which actually sounds like a really good idea.
Now, two ways I interpret this. I'm Asian lol (but so freaking what, I am who I am). And my profile was actually pretty eccentric, and may have turned off some people because of it. But, I used my profile as a screening tool because I am actually quite eccentric. It worked on the girl I'm currently seeing
(zero response rate from Asian girls Who didn't initiate or "like" me first, bwahaha)
Don't give up!
This mindset is poison. I must not have been good enough for her waaa waaa. You're only as good as you make yourself out to be. This lack of confidence pours into your real life mannerisms, even if you don't think it does. You are who you are, own it. If there's something you don't like about yourself, improve yourself. Do it for yourself.
MisterRoboto
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Thanks for the advice. We wound up having a great night. It didn't come up but I figure i'll disclose it if we decide to take things further at some point or if like you said, it comes up, which I doubt. I'm still nervous if it will effect anything but I guess i'll have to wait and see.
When we met up I shot a few suggestions her way of places to eat and let her pick which worked great. She got excited about and chose one of my ideas which was nice. Now she's going on vacation for a week and a half which kind of sucks but hopefully we can get together again when she gets back.
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Ok ok I won't share my tails of dysfunction anymore..
But I do need advice..
Theirs a guy who she was talking to and was propositioning her for a date while we were apart for that week or two..
At our make-up date this last weekend she pulled her phone out and said "I don't like him, fuck him" and proceeded to block him on FB.
This morning I go over to her FB page and see that he is in her recent friends.
Means she unblocked and re-friended him.
Cause for alarm? Should I mention it? Suspicious?
But I do need advice..
Theirs a guy who she was talking to and was propositioning her for a date while we were apart for that week or two..
At our make-up date this last weekend she pulled her phone out and said "I don't like him, fuck him" and proceeded to block him on FB.
This morning I go over to her FB page and see that he is in her recent friends.
Means she unblocked and re-friended him.
Cause for alarm? Should I mention it? Suspicious?
ZackieChan
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Yes, stop contacting her. As we've all said before. It's the only sane thing to do, but I know you won't follow it. So why keep asking for any advice?
Oh, most definitely. Met a great girl who I ended up living with for a couple of months. That didn't end well, as we had very different life goals (I'm not really interested in kids). But I had an awesome time in Tokyo. I just wish I didn't spend so much money...
...yeah, THAT's the cause for alarm. Going on dates with guys who text you pics of them holding assault rifles, all the other drama, nope, that's not enough to break up with her for good. But she re-friended a guy on Facebook? Oh boy, that's the megaton.
GAF's stance is that you should have broken up with her a long time ago. There is so much drama that what you're mentioning now is just a drop in the bucket. You haven't headed our suggestions before, why do we think you'll start now?
Wait, are you back together with your ex?
Because if so, I refuse to give you advice, for whatever happens you very much deserve for going back to that shit. If it's that other girl you were talking about, that's a different story, but...
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You do know there are other women in the world, right? You break up with a girl, she starts talking to a new dude, you get back with her and she acts like she is all yours, but that is a lie but you STILL want to be with her?
The only way I would be back with a girl like that is if it is clear we are just having fun in a non-exclusive situation. Because that is what she is seeing it as.
ZackieChan
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This thread has become "neogafdiscussesporn.gif" over SPMH's relationship issues. I like when we all think the same way.
Gotdatmoney
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You should stop seeing women and focus on stability.
I think we all need to go to Gaming side and argue about The Phantom Pain or Assassin's Creed 28 or something. Remember was GAF is really all about ;p
Lone_Prodigy
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Every time I see "blocked on FB" and other social media drama I think of Infinity Patriot.
Sorry Infinity Patriot.
Sorry Infinity Patriot.
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I didn't even finish part two of the story..
That's the part where we ended up at a strip club, I tossed $100 in her face and left her in Philly on Sunday night on the sidewalk at like 1am. She said she wanted to go but then an hour in said it was a test I failed. Said I disrespected her, said no respectacle man would go to a strip club let alone bring her too one and she went as a test.
Figured leaving her in the city would have been the last straw...but she started texting me 20min into her drunken stumble. I went back and got her. She stumbled her drunk as to a hip-hop club and had a group surrounding her. Rescued her ass and she called me every name in the book on the way home. Wishes me dead, called me scum, unevolved..
Then she put one leg across me and another on my dash and used my hand to get off.
It's purely sex at this point..think we both know this now.
I think she wants this casual relationship where we date others but only fuck each other.
Then she gets on these "I'd marry you tangents"
I wanna break away but the excitement is like a drug. She's a knock out and the sexual tension/dysfunction is like an drug.
yet you care about some FB blocking/unblocking drama and are asking for advice about it
lol ok
have fun with your "drug"
There have been, they just don't become events.
If someone follows GAF advice, the entire thing is over in a day or two.
If someone doesn't, or they just don't like GAF advice, it gets drawn out. They'll defend themselves in spite of everyone else telling them they're wrong. They'll ignore the advice, and then come back weeks later when the situation has gotten worse...and then come back again after that, when the situation has deteriorated further still.
Using SPMH as an example, we've been talking about his situation for two months now.
SmokinGunZ1981
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I'm sure thia has been asked but i can't find it.
Don't you have a young child and are you not worried about it spilling into his life?
Also where is he when all thisbis going on?
It's at the beginning of this post: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=175277148&postcount=6545
He's almost 14 and at friends' houses all time, he's completely fine!
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Gray Matter
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I'm a stay at home dad.
I go out 2 maybe nights a week, once or twice 3 times cause he slept out.
If he's not sleeping out I come home no later then midnight.
He has zero idea I'm seeing women, I don't bring them to my house, he doesn't meet them.
I live about 60-90min from them also.
I keep home life and social life VERY seperated. All the drama and silly shit ends the minute I walk in the door.
I have a tinder date tonight and need some talking points. I dont like going out on dates because I like talking about really deep shit all the time. I know people dont like doing that all the time so I need some fluff. First dates are usually some akward conversation and some jokes with me hoping the girl thinks im cure enough to mess around with later, but im trying to improve! halp
College age date btw
College age date btw
Advocatus Diaboli
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So you're out 2-3 times a week, midnight or later? And you drive 60-90 minutes to reach these women, so when do you leave? Yes, he has an idea you're seeing people. No, your life as a dad and as a player are not 100% separate, no matter how much you think they are.
Here's the thing: these women are fleeting; your son is forever. Don't you WANT a woman who can be a part of his life (eventually), even in some small, civil capacity? Your "drug" never will be, and I shudder to think of her parenting skills.
Well, just talk about little ice-breaker things. Where you two work, hobbies, interests, how your day was before getting to the date, and so on. If she interested in talking about deeper stuff, cool, but if not try to tone it down a bit I suppose.
Well, when you think about it, anyone that follows GAF advice, their threads reach like two pages and nothing comes of it. All the major and memorable threads and stories come from dumbos arguing that his way is right and taking the single post that agrees with him to be like HAHAHAH I'M RIGHT SEE, only to come back 1-3 months later to be 'GAF was right'. That or those trying to defend people being dicks to them, like one of the threads floating to the top of OT now....
When people follow advice, it's just not good entertainment.
Ugh, in one of my classes, there's this woman who is constantly taking to me wherever I am in the vicinity. It's always questions on what I'm doing.
She's short (4' 11" or 5') and has a high pitched voice (kind of). I want to think that she's older, but I just can't tell. She has a young face, so I'm thinking 24-26. Another thing that throws me off about her is her personality. Now, I could be associating her personality to her voice, but she seems kind of ditsy.
She doesn't talk to anyone else in the class besides me. And I can only recall her exchanging words with only one other person.
She's cute, but I'm not even interested in her and she's starting to get on my nerves.
What do you all think I should do?
She's short (4' 11" or 5') and has a high pitched voice (kind of). I want to think that she's older, but I just can't tell. She has a young face, so I'm thinking 24-26. Another thing that throws me off about her is her personality. Now, I could be associating her personality to her voice, but she seems kind of ditsy.
She doesn't talk to anyone else in the class besides me. And I can only recall her exchanging words with only one other person.
She's cute, but I'm not even interested in her and she's starting to get on my nerves.
What do you all think I should do?
Switch seats or just be nice during the short moments she talks to you. What else would you do?
stn
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Where you see someone annoying and ditsy, I see an opportunity. Socialize, man. You don't have to be interested in her to talk to her. Be responsive, show interest. Why not? You meet someone new, maybe make a new friend. Maybe that friend invites you to an event where you make other friends. Things don't happen overnight.
ZackieChan
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The best "follow Gaf advice" thread was the mighty Revoh with his cheating girlfriend. That thread was epic, if you remember it.
Pick your nose in front of her. It's the only way.
Or have her PM me. Where do you live?
Alright, some weeks ago I contacted my ex , told her that I didn't like the negative vision she had for me and that it was wrong and offensive to some point,asked her if she wants to meet just to clear things because now there isn't much to repair. Mostly for human bounds and future stuff. She agreed and said "let's talk some day and fix a date" .
A week after I sent her a sms "Wanna go out tonight? Or this weekend maybe?" to that she replied "I've already something for tonight and will be outta town this weekend, I'll call you and let you know" .
It's been already a week from that reply(2 from the time we agreed to meet). What should I do at this point, wait until she decides to call(if she will...) or re contact her again during next weekend ?
A week after I sent her a sms "Wanna go out tonight? Or this weekend maybe?" to that she replied "I've already something for tonight and will be outta town this weekend, I'll call you and let you know" .
It's been already a week from that reply(2 from the time we agreed to meet). What should I do at this point, wait until she decides to call(if she will...) or re contact her again during next weekend ?
Sounds like she isn't too invested in fixing anything, I'd just move on.
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So I asked her about the unblock/friending of the guy who was trying to take her out while we were apart..
Her story is..
He's one of her best friends husbands cousins and the husband and him are like best friends They proceeded questioned her why she blocked him.
She said she didn't wanna cause tension with the husband so she unlock and accepted his request again.
Said she hasn't spoke with him.
Offered me her Facebook password, said his numbers blocked on her phone, said if he does contact her she will screen shot it and allow me to respond for her.
Then she said "I love you and I'm committed to making this work"
That fucking got me..
It's like I'm walking this thin line between her being brutally honest or feeding me bullshit. Maybe I'm just paranoid, or I'm a fool.
Everyone always tells me what they think and it's negative. She always offers up the phone or passwords to me but I say no. I feel like if I cross that line I'm a snoop and she'll resent me.
Her story is..
He's one of her best friends husbands cousins and the husband and him are like best friends They proceeded questioned her why she blocked him.
She said she didn't wanna cause tension with the husband so she unlock and accepted his request again.
Said she hasn't spoke with him.
Offered me her Facebook password, said his numbers blocked on her phone, said if he does contact her she will screen shot it and allow me to respond for her.
Then she said "I love you and I'm committed to making this work"
That fucking got me..
It's like I'm walking this thin line between her being brutally honest or feeding me bullshit. Maybe I'm just paranoid, or I'm a fool.
Everyone always tells me what they think and it's negative. She always offers up the phone or passwords to me but I say no. I feel like if I cross that line I'm a snoop and she'll resent me.
Well, it's an open seating arrangement. She doesn't sit next to me (yet), but whenever I'm around she starts gunning for me with extreme interest. I'm not a mean person, and I just don't want to seem fake about all of this.
I love talking to people, but sometimes, I just want to be alone with my own thoughts. I don't know, man. I guess I'll see where this goes. I don't really expect for anything to happen, but you never know. She seems like a cool person, but I wish that she would just chill out for a bit.
Pick your nose in front of her. It's the only way.
Or have her PM me. Where do you live?
She'll probably ask me why I'm picking my nose and continue to talk to me after I eat my boogers.
I don't know about the PMing. What if she spams your inbox with questions like she does my brain?
The thing that throws me off is that I'm not even all that attractive. I'm just some pudgy faced black guy with glasses. I mean, I'm not really surprised about the attention I've been getting from her, but it's just off putting for me sometimes. Eh, maybe I'm just self conscious about this whole situation. I want to say that I am not, but that usually isn't the case all of the time. I don't know. I've never been bothered by women like this a-lot, but usually, I like to find someone I'm interested in. I know that sounds greedy, but I hope some of you understand.
I'm going to take this weekend to freshen up since I haven't had a haircut in forever. I also need to purchase some more fall clothing. We shall see..
ZackieChan
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Nah, don't do that. She doesn't want to clear things up. She's your ex. Just have to let it go. Tell those things to your therapist or your best friend.
Why do you feel the need to tell her these things anyway?
Well our relationship was ok and got destroyed mostly by online missunderstanding, she started to think of me as some slacker who does nothing etc( which isn't true ofc) and than she got fired from her work, got a new one and was all moody, she was still talking to me normally after the break up until some weeks after when she blocked me on fb and instagram and said she can't handle the pressure I give her and stuff like that. Never agreed to meet me after she said it was over(even though she talked 3 weeks after normally)
I left some time go and contacted her again, that's it. Tbh knowing her i don't think she'll come back but can't stay with the idea of her thinking of me that way and ending it all online. I know I should let go but just cant for the moment, it's stronger than me
ZackieChan
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You gotta be stronger then. Dating-AGE is full of hard-ass bros and chicks
Dude, just move on. You may not think it's fair it ended online, but you just have to deal with it, because to be frank she doesn't owe you anything. You're likely just annoying her at this point.
I'm on mobile so I can't quote right, but I don't think I remember that thread, ZackieChan
I'm on mobile so I can't quote right, but I don't think I remember that thread, ZackieChan
ZackieChan
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Dude, just move on. You may not think it's fair it ended online, but you just have to deal with it, because to be frank she doesn't owe you anything. You're likely just annoying her at this point.
I'm on mobile so I can't quote right, but I don't think I remember that thread, ZackieChan
http://m.neogaf.com/showthread.php?t=960118
Based Revoh.
Dylan Sexbang
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So Dating GAF, concerning my thirsty female coworker- I don't know when she works again. And my boss doesn't either since she's on a different team. I've been asking around whether to hit her up on social media or wait for her next shift.
Facebook is easy enough since we went to school together, and I could ask when she's on again. Or I can just wait till I go back on and hold out, but I'm on Vacation til Monday.
Facebook is easy enough since we went to school together, and I could ask when she's on again. Or I can just wait till I go back on and hold out, but I'm on Vacation til Monday.
ZackieChan
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Who's the thirsty one?
Dylan Sexbang
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Both of us, apparently.
Mobile Suit Gooch
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Hey everyone. I'm sorry if I'm not the type of person that gives advice, I seem to fall in the latter category of people coming and going to this thread needing advice. But I want to share something that some people might find valuable.
I have an update on a post I did a few weeks ago: I was previously talking to a girl and I asked her out, she told me she just left a long relationship. Fine. She still wanted to hang out with me, I said fine, maybe she just needs time. Now here is the update.
We went with some friends of mine and her to an underground party one friday, she ends up fucking one of my best friends there. We had to search for him to drive someone home, and I found them laying on the floor on the last level of the building. I have made a mistake with my friend telling him that he should do whatever as I thought I could be her friend, but apparently I couldn't, and man I got pissed. I don't resent my friend, good for him that he got laid. It was a tough night, but I got over it the next day. Good for being a robot.
I told her next morning that I lost all respect for her and that obviously I'm not interested in going out with her anymore. She has no friends so a few times when I was out with my friends she would "bump" into us and follow us around, to the point where she would be like "I don't like it here, let's go there instead". We were once going to a club and she says we should go to the graveyard. I told her we're not changing plans and that she can go alone if she doesn't want to go to the club. She got pissed off and went home.
Yesterday she added me and my friends to a facebook group to ask what we're doing, if we want to go anywhere, smoke a joint and some beer, afterwards saying that she won't go anywhere because she's sick (nobody invited her anywhere by the way). I don't know if there's any moral to the story, maybe something with "if you slightly feel rejected at any point, you should probably assume that you are and not waste your time anymore".
Those events were pretty weird, but it's all good at the end of the day, have a date tomorrow if she doesn't flake in the meantime and another one next week. Cool girls in both cases.
I have an update on a post I did a few weeks ago: I was previously talking to a girl and I asked her out, she told me she just left a long relationship. Fine. She still wanted to hang out with me, I said fine, maybe she just needs time. Now here is the update.
We went with some friends of mine and her to an underground party one friday, she ends up fucking one of my best friends there. We had to search for him to drive someone home, and I found them laying on the floor on the last level of the building. I have made a mistake with my friend telling him that he should do whatever as I thought I could be her friend, but apparently I couldn't, and man I got pissed. I don't resent my friend, good for him that he got laid. It was a tough night, but I got over it the next day. Good for being a robot.
I told her next morning that I lost all respect for her and that obviously I'm not interested in going out with her anymore. She has no friends so a few times when I was out with my friends she would "bump" into us and follow us around, to the point where she would be like "I don't like it here, let's go there instead". We were once going to a club and she says we should go to the graveyard. I told her we're not changing plans and that she can go alone if she doesn't want to go to the club. She got pissed off and went home.
Yesterday she added me and my friends to a facebook group to ask what we're doing, if we want to go anywhere, smoke a joint and some beer, afterwards saying that she won't go anywhere because she's sick (nobody invited her anywhere by the way). I don't know if there's any moral to the story, maybe something with "if you slightly feel rejected at any point, you should probably assume that you are and not waste your time anymore".
Those events were pretty weird, but it's all good at the end of the day, have a date tomorrow if she doesn't flake in the meantime and another one next week. Cool girls in both cases.
Here's my advice for these situations. As soon as one of the two uttered the words 'let's be friends' be prepared to do just that. Otherwise feelings of resentment are inevitable. If you keep waiting for her, en she won't do the same for you, she's bound to do something you won't like. You agreed to just be friends with her right? You're also friends with your friend, right? But it's good for him that he got laid, but she did something wrong? I see a bit of a discrepancy here. It's completely understandable that you feel like this but...in my opinion she didn't do anything wrong....
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These sorts of weird situations can usually be avoided by moving on as soon as someone sais she just got out of a relationship.
And agreed Llyranor, but to me it just sounds like she's looking for friends, pretty deperately even. Noclue's friend fucked her, and he's now (understandably) pissed at her.
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