Do you like being alone?

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Something I'm curious about. I absolutely feel this need to be around people constantly. I love having them around, even if I'm not necessarily interacting with them. I hate being alone.

One of my best friends on the other hand, he practically hates people. He enjoys his solitude and has few friends. His girlfriend of 6 years lives in Austria, he met her playing WoW, since he tended to be so anti-social in meatspace for a while.

Another friend of mine says he'd have no problem living alone for the rest of his life, with the exception of his incredible lust. Meanwhile I am a bit of a hopeless romantic myself and can't imagine not ever eventually having a life-mate.

I'm curious GAF, where do you tend on this scale?

foreveralone.jpg is inevitable, so go ahead and get it out of your system
 
i think it's important to have alone time, but i also enjoy being around people a lot too. i hate being alone when i'm taking a shit though.
 
I can entertain myself very well, and I generally do not like large gatherings. I have a few friends, most of whom I only talk to online, and the only other person I spend a lot of time with is my girlfriend, but I consider that no different than being alone since I've been with her long enough to just consider her an extension of myself.

So I do enjoy being alone.
 
I love hanging out with people, but I also love having time to myself where I can take care of my own business without distraction, (reading, some games, housework, etc)
 
Sure. I enjoy being alone, sometimes.

Always being around people can get exhausting after a while. Don't get me wrong, I have a social life, enjoy going on dates...but there are times when I definitely look forward to just enjoying an evening home alone w/ a bottle of jack and some drunken gaming.

Nothing wrong with solitude, as long as its voluntary and not for extended periods.
 
A few hours a day/days a week yes ,but not most of the time.

I much prefer sleeping alone (much more comfortable), but also much prefer falling asleep next to someone.
Gota find a girl who 'll let me kick and elbow her outa bed in my sleep.

If I'm around people who can be calm and mellow often enough I don't need to be alone, but I don't know anyone like that.
Just to recharge.
People are way too stressy/busy most of the time, dno what crawls up their ass to be so overly energetic 7 days a week 14 hours a day.

If I can't unwind and get peace and quiet for a day or two a week I get extremely exhausted after a while, like... mentally drained.

It's why I never joined any scouts groups or anything as a kid and hated long holidays, being around a sizeable group of people is great for the first couple of days then it drives me up the wall that I can't rest.


Seriously, if you have a loved one who ever tells you they need to have some alone time sometimes, don't deny them it , or guilt trip them about it (unless they spend that 'alone' time visiting other people, then it's just a lie :p).
Some people really do need it.
 
Woah, I just stumbled upon an old thread called "Are you a happy loner?", and then I see this...

I don't think there's a yes or no answer to this. I enjoy being around people and am generally social, but there are times when I need to be alone and just wind down. In some ways, being in a social environment 24/7 is stressful, and I have learned to value time spent alone. But I don't think anyone can truly "like" being alone. Humans are inherently social...
 
I live alone and I love it, I enjoy "my" time... playing videogames, reading, watching tv, etc. BUT I also love being with my friends and meeting new people.
 
I like being alone every once in a while.

I don't really have much friends, I do feel comfortable being alone, but I hate feeling lonely, and it's kind of inevitable when you're not very social.

Forever alone gaf assembles!
 
I used to have a friend that constantly and I mean CONSTANTLY needed to be around people. So damn annoying. For example he would call me and ask shit like "Hey, bro, I'm going to go wash my truck, want to come with me" Why the fuck would I want to go sit in his truck while he washes it? I can handle it to a degree but for the most part I'm a hermit, don't need people at all and enjoy just hanging out with my wife at home. Luckily most of my friends now are the same way, we can go a month without seeing each other and its no big deal. I like that.
 
I enjoy living life with a partner.

Someone to love and to cherish.

Someone to lay down with at night.

Someone who enjoys watching me fuck sluts.

That type of thing.
 
I usually hate being around people. I only miss talking to people when I'm alone so I talk to them over skype etc.

Winning.
 
I like being alone. I dont like being lonely.

I do love spending time with my friends though, it's just I like being on my own too.
 
Introversion versus extroversion.

I'm an introvert, I tend to rather be alone, but I can't for too long. I can go a day without dealing with anyone (note how I refer to interaction as "dealing" with someone :P) but after that I start to get stir crazy and I need some bro-time.

It's different when I want to hang out with friends (usually one or two) because generally my friends have pretty similar interests and habits, and not many people are people I'd want to hang out with in the first place.

Extroverts generally have a hard time understanding introverts, I think it's just because of how natural social interaction is to them it doesn't compute that people would not want that. My whole family is extroverted, and I'm an introvert, so that was fun to deal with while growing up.
 
I've always loved being alone. Growing up as an only kid, I have older siblings but they were older than me and not around, I think does that to you. I'm social and I do well in most social situations but the best part of going out and talking to people is coming home and being alone. My husband is the only person I like being around all the time so I don't really count him because we like being alone together if that makes sense. When he goes out of town on business I can go a week and the only person I would talk to in that time is him on the phone, once in the morning after we wake up and before we go to bed. I don't leave the house or even venture out to see the neighbors. It's awesome.
 
I like being alone during certain periods. I like watching movies by myself actually.

Much of the time, I prefer being around people though.
 
I definitely need some alone time, but I also enjoy hanging out with my girlfriend. I definitely need a balance between the two though.
 
Acullis said:
Introversion versus extroversion.

I'm an introvert, I tend to rather be alone, but I can't for too long. I can go a day without dealing with anyone (note how I refer to interaction as "dealing" with someone :P) but after that I start to get stir crazy and I need some bro-time.

It's different when I want to hang out with friends (usually one or two) because generally my friends have pretty similar interests and habits, and not many people are people I'd want to hang out with in the first place.

Extroverts generally have a hard time understanding introverts, I think it's just because of how natural social interaction is to them it doesn't compute that people would not want that. My whole family is extroverted, and I'm an introvert, so that was fun to deal with while growing up.
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lol i studied psychology for 5 years and somehow the idea of introversion and extroversion didn't occur to me.
 
I could never work from home, I really enjoy being around people on a daily basis.

I could never go out alone, I like having familiar company.

however, I enjoy living alone. I can do whatever the fuck I want, when I want. One of my fears of getting married is not living alone.
 
I have some amount of Schizoid tendencies, so I would have to say "yes". I generally like people, but I tend to favor alone time a lot more most of the time. So my need to socialize is pretty low, primarily because it usually serves as a distraction from whatever subject has my interest, so I rarely want to do it. Though I pursue socialization for the same reason, because I find I sometimes need some alternately fulfilling distraction. And people are fascinating to me, I just don't like to be around them all that much :/

I'd guess it's just a relatively strong form of introversion. I'm not really "shy" or anything (well, I can be), but that's a separate thing. It's just the way my awareness seems to be oriented, it's much easier and more effortless (and enjoyable) for me to reflect on something internally, than it is for me to attend to external events. Anything more extroverted, and I'm more likely to feel overwhelmed and exhausted.

So I think it's just something of an innate preference. If asked how I feel about it, I can't really say having known nothing else. But I find my introverted tendencies to still be rather "productive", I feel like I've accrued enough internal riches that I don't think I'd want to change.

Though my general rule of thumb is that balance is probably ideal, extreme forms of anything tend to experience diminishing returns, probably.

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DrFunk said:
yes

alone =/= loneliness
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I agree, I still experience loneliness, though not very frequently.
 
lethial said:
I live with my gf. I cherish every moment alone so I can get some gaming done.
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I used to think it wasn't a great idea to have GF with the exact same interests as me.. that it gave reason for alone time.. now I have a girlfriend with pretty much the exact same interests as me.. gaming.. partying.. lots of sex.. even going out looking for girls to play with.. she has seriously the exact same interests. It's turning out really awesome.. I used to live my life assuming I'd never find a girl that actually fit some of my main interests (gaming, gadgets, nerdy things), but also satisfied my other needs and desires. I don't really miss alone time.. since anything I want to do.. I just do.. sitting at the computer and feel like looking at some porn? I'll just look at some porn.. and my girlfriend who is likely next to me will just participate..
 
btkadams said:
i think it's important to have alone time, but i also enjoy being around people a lot too. i hate being alone when i'm taking a shit though.
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do you have shit-buddies where you guys tag-team the toilet or something?
 
I like being alone all the time except Friday and Saturday night. Then it's just depressing.

edit - Actually, I look forward to playing games at night on Friday/Saturday, so it's not that. I guess being alone during the day on the weekend sucks since nobody is on Steam in the morning/afternoon =P
 
Having occasional alone time is about as close to a necessity as something can be that isn't food, water or air. I can't be actively doing stuff all the time, and downtime is generally better when solitary.

EDIT: Also I forgot to express my hate for people who make small talk just for the hell of it, even with those they don't know well. If we're doing nothing and just happen to be in the same room, it really is ok to continue doing nothing. I promise you won't forget how to talk if you stay quiet for ten minutes.
 
nVidiot_Whore said:
I used to think it wasn't a great idea to have GF with the exact same interests as me.. that it gave reason for alone time.. now I have a girlfriend with pretty much the exact same interests as me.. gaming.. partying.. lots of sex.. even going out looking for girls to play with.. she has seriously the exact same interests. It's turning out really awesome.. I used to live my life assuming I'd never find a girl that actually fit some of my main interests (gaming, gadgets, nerdy things), but also satisfied my other needs and desires. I don't really miss alone time.. since anything I want to do.. I just do.. sitting at the computer and feel like looking at some porn? I'll just look at some porn.. and my girlfriend who is likely next to me will just participate..
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You won life
 
alone time is so necessary, need my proper masturbation+reflection every day.

idon't know if i've ever actually gone out alone, lol

nVidiot_Whore said:
I used to think it wasn't a great idea to have GF with the exact same interests as me.. that it gave reason for alone time.. now I have a girlfriend with pretty much the exact same interests as me.. gaming.. partying.. lots of sex.. even going out looking for girls to play with.. she has seriously the exact same interests. It's turning out really awesome.. I used to live my life assuming I'd never find a girl that actually fit some of my main interests (gaming, gadgets, nerdy things), but also satisfied my other needs and desires. I don't really miss alone time.. since anything I want to do.. I just do.. sitting at the computer and feel like looking at some porn? I'll just look at some porn.. and my girlfriend who is likely next to me will just participate..
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I can adapt to being alone a for long stretches of time, weeks, months if pushed. Do I Like it? Not sure but I'm conditioned and use to it by now.
 
I really don't know anymore. I'm alone pretty much all the time these days, just sitting around getting drunk and playing video games. I'm more or less unemployed, so I'm always broke and it can be pretty depressing. I used to love being alone, but now that I've been with someone having them gone is kinda shitty. If there's no work during the week, I can go for days without hearing my own voice. It's kinda fucked.

I have to buy way less toilet paper now tho. So that's pretty cool.
 
talking is one my favorite things

but everyone needs chill time to just listen to music while swaying in a hammock
 
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