GAF... Have I ruined this opportunity? (Girl advice needed)

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BackLogJoe

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So long story short.

I went to Atlantic City for a few days with some friends. I'm a very shy dude, met no one and just hung out with close friends. The closest friend with me is a female.

So today, try to go home and my flight is cancelled. Female close friend and I get new fights with several layovers.

On my last layover flight, the girl that sits next to me is amazing. We talked for hours. Female friend said the entire front of the plane was laughing at us. She tells me where she works, where she goes for lunch, even things she does during lunch at work. I kind of felt that she was sharing too much with a random dude on the plane especially because my destination was her town as we have a conference in her small town.

After we land, we walk together to the baggage claim and continue talking until her bags pop out. I kinda wanted to ask her if I could see her again while I'm in town but felt like maybe it would be inappropriate as I don't want her to feel obligated if she was just being nice to a dude on the plane.

So her bag pops out, she says "well there's my bag". She walks up close to me and puts her hand on my arm and smiles and says "I'm glad to have got to meet you!". I agree with her and she walks off and grabs her bag and looks at me again but now she looks annoyed and walks off.

I watch her walk by my friend and they say something and my friend approaches me and tells me I'm an idiot. I ask why and my friend tells me "I asked her if she was going to see you again and she kinda huffed and aaid he didn't even ask me my name". Then I turn around and she's gone. I never did ask her. I don't know why. We just hit it off but I guess I just assumed she was being nice. My friend told me that a woman wouldnt initiate that touch at the end if she wasn't trying to send a signal.

So I fucked up. This woman was gorgeous and we talked liked we had been friends for years.

So Gaf, should I just accept the fact I'm a moron. Or, should I go to her lunch spot. She told me her routine because my hotel is half a block from where she works. I guess I'm asking if seeking her out is inappropriate. Or am I being a coward? I really liked her.
 
BackLogJoe said:
Or, should I go to her lunch spot. She told me her routine because my hotel is half a block from where she works. I guess I'm asking if seeking her out is inappropriate. Or am I being a coward? I really liked her.
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She tells me where she works, where she goes for lunch, even things she does during lunch at work.
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Well, I'd imagine she didn't tell you that for no reason, so yeah, it can manage it without coming across all "stalkery", I'd go for it.

Faint heart n'er won a fair maid.
 
You're not a moron, you just didn't see the signs. We've probably all have been there before. Just make a mental not of those signs, remember them next time.
 
1. Don't be too harsh on yourself. We've all done it.
2. Don't be too soft on yourself. Learn from your mistakes.
3. Use the info provided to find her and ask her out!

It's only creepy if it doesn't work.
 
Go there to see how the food is. If she's there it's a plus because you experienced something new, and you've reconnected with her.
 
Does her job seem like a place that's easy enough to find her? If so, try to stop by and see her. If it's an office building or something, good luck trying to find her without a name.
 
Go for it. Let this story have a happy ending. The worst she can do is reject you, but it's better than living with having never tried!

Anarion07 said:
Go see her. Admit that you were an idiot. Invite her to dinner to make up for it. Bring flowers.

And ask for her name ffs.
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Yeah, this. And when you go for that meal take her some nice flowers.
 
Well. Going to her spot could be a bit creepy, especially as you probably have to wait for her. I feel like it would be a bad idea.

If you do, at least take your friends with you to lower the creep factor. And be sure to say sorry for not asking her name and do ask.
 
definitely go for it, and just say you're sorry you didn't ask to meet up because you're a little bit shy, if she's a bitch about it then move on.
 
Triggerhappytel said:
Go for it. Let this story have a happy ending. The worst she can do is reject you, but it's better than living with having never tried!



Yeah, this. And when you go for that meal take her some nice flowers.
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Yep, the flowers are meant for dinner. When you go see her during her "routine" you don't know if she has a place to put them etc.
And VERY important:
Don't ponder too much about what she might think etc.
If you go see her like I said there are two outcomes: Either she thinks you're weird and you already fucked up. Conclusion: You won't see her again. But this is exactly the same that would happen if you don't give it a try. There is nothing to lose here.

The second outcome, which I hope and think will be more likely to happen: She will say yes and you will have a wonderful dinner.
 
mhayes86 said:
Does her job seem like a place that's easy enough to find her? If so, try to stop by and see her. If it's an office building or something, good luck trying to find her without a name.
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I think we're all talking about going to her lunch venue in the hope he'll bump into her. You can't go to the front desk of an office building and say "Hi, I'm looking for a really pretty brunette who I think works on the fifth floor. About 5 foot 6. Any ideas?"
 
Go for it man. What do you have to lose? When you do find her just tell her you hit it off so well that you were floored and admit that you fucked up.

I'm emotionally invested now too. Subscribed.
 
I find it crazy that you could talk for as long as you did and not ask her name and it sounds like she definitely wanted you to ask her to meet up again at the end. If things went as well as you say why wouldn't you? You should definitely go and meet her for lunch and just explain you're shy but would love to hang out again.
 
Catching her at her lunch spot is a great idea and you don't have anything to lose from trying. You'll be putting yourself out there and there's a good chance she'll find it sweet. My advice is to find her there rather than wait for her to show up. Small difference but I would find the first less potentially creepy.
 
Absolutely go see her no matter the outcome. Otherwise you'll dwell on this shit for years to come. If she says 'negatory', you'll get over it in no time.
 
This sounds like the beginning of a romcom where the characters end up living happily ever after. Go to her fucking lunch spot... Where a "my name is..." name tag with yours and have a blank one for hers. When you see her approach and say something like "sorry I never did ask your name"
 
Buy a ukulele and go serenade her at work. If she works in a large office building bring lots of pebbles with you, as you will need to try a lot of windows before you find her.
 
Go to the lunch spot. Bump into her, have a laugh, tell her it's the only spot you know in town because of her, introduce yourself.
 
This is such a sweet story. Good luck OP! In my experience any kind of physical contact like this is an indication of romantic interest.

I too am now subscribed and disproportionately emotionally invested!
 
This seems like one of those times where giving it a go might work. She says go away then you go away and forget about it.
 
Yeah you definitely missed a chance here. Hell, I was on a flight recently and got chatting to this (stunning) Polish girl for ages, and even though she had a boyfriend we still swapped contact details when we got off, because we said we would go for a coffee if ever one of us was in town where the other lives.

You just need to read the signs; if a girl talks to you that much, you always say 'so maybe I should add you on Facebook in case you're around in future?' And then she will normally give you her number.

Go see her at the lunch spot! It's your last chance. Just DON'T do anything corny or emotional, it will come off as weird. Just say 'hey, I'm sorry I never got your name before. Let's go for a drink?'.
 
Marky Mark said:
This sounds like the beginning of a romcom where the characters end up living happily ever after. Go to her fucking lunch spot... Where a "my name is..." name tag with yours and have a blank one for hers. When you see her approach and say something like "sorry I never did ask your name"
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I like this suggestion. :)

Sho_Nuff82 said:
Go to the lunch spot. Bump into her, have a laugh, tell her it's the only spot you know in town because of her, introduce yourself.
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This is also good. First thing you need to do is introduce yourself though!
 
Ryo Hazuki said:
I find it crazy that you could talk for as long as you did and not ask her name and it sounds like she definitely wanted you to ask her to meet up again at the end. If things went as well as you say why wouldn't you? You should definitely go and meet her for lunch and just explain you're shy but would love to hang out again.
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I was super tired. I had a direct flight from Atlantic City to my work destination but it got cancelled due to weather and I ended up getting two hours of sleep.

If we don't have a team lunch today, I will definitely go where she suggested.

Sho_Nuff82 said:
Go to the lunch spot. Bump into her, have a laugh, tell her it's the only spot you know in town because of her, introduce yourself.
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That's pretty smooth.

Jawbreaker said:
If you don't mind having your ego crushed as she rejects you in public, go for it! Best case scenario, she'll give you another shot.
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Don't care about that. I was concerned with making someone feel awkward.
 
Remember to ignore any GAF advice that isn't repeated at least 30 times.

Marky Mark said:
Where a "my name is..." name tag with yours and have a blank one for hers. When you see her approach and say something like "sorry I never did ask your name"
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MudoSkills said:
Buy a ukulele and go serenade her at work. If she works in a large office building bring lots of pebbles with you, as you will need to try a lot of windows before you find her.
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SlipperyFishes said:
You turn up and say "excuse me, is this seat taken"

Take her breath away in the good way.
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If you don't mind having your ego crushed as she rejects you in public, go for it! Best case scenario, she'll give you another shot.
 
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