That those comments happened at all is problematic. The existence of nuanced, thought out responses doesn't excuse the garbage, and it'd be nice if you could at least acknowledge the propensity for dickery here--and maybe acknowledge that it doesn't really belong in a thread that focuses on the use of language, itself.
The house is burning. This thread and its predecessors amount to little more than deciding where to put the 2nd floor piano while the house burns down. There is no solution. There is no meaningful discussion to be had. There is no way out and the only out that did exist was to not play. To stay out of it. To avoid getting dragged in. To resist the urge to jump in voluntarily. There is nothing that the "normals" here can do, and those GAFfers who are members of the press/media...they have my sympathies, because the fallout from this is going to be long-term and the major challenge will be trying to rebuild a level of trust. Coming from someone who never really identified with any group over the years, despite having spent an entire Halloween night in high school playing Metal Gear Solid 1 by myself in my parents' basement, this debacle has completely, officially soured me on gaming media.
To be fair, I've been growing increasingly disillusioned with the establishment over the past five years, but this was the breaking point. It was all bullshit drama. There was a single piece of the original problem that warranted discussion (dev/media coziness) and I didn't give two shits about any of the rest--from a gaming standpoint, at least. The corporate professional in me was a different story, because that part was livid that nobody thought it a problem that an employee slept with a supervisor. Like, what the fuck.
Then seeing all of the indignant bullshit getting tossed around. Nothing was good enough for anyone. All decisions were the wrong decisions. Damned if you did, dammed if you didn't. It was all outrage, all the time, from all directions. If everything was a problem, then nothing was. It all reminded me of the pundit handwringing during election 2008. Every single little bump in the daily numbers caused equal amounts of joy and panic, depending on which channel it was and what the numbers did. It was so cynically transparent that I stopped watching most of it months before the election and completely stopped after.
We've been conditioned by the 24-hour news cycle to always need some drama happening. That is no clearer than in American politics, but it's also become increasingly obvious in gaming media. This scandal was a perfect example. Nobody could just let it be. Everyone had to get involved, which in turn just ensured the nightmare would keep going, in a self-perpetuating cycle of horror.
And I see this thread as nothing more than a willing participant in perpetuating that cycle.
Maybe it's for the best. The past two months have proven to me that my gravitating toward primarily tabletop gaming over the last couple of years was the right decision.