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Mercury Fred said:
OK, I sort of feel the need to be a hard ass here.







You're never going to meet someone with that attitude. You're just not.

It is awful awful awful and painful to be rejected. I won't argue with you on that. I've experienced a lot of it in my life and it hurts every time. I have gotten into situations so bad that I've cut off as much contact with the world that I possibly can and rejected people who were trying to reach out to me because I couldn't even stand to be seen.

I was lucky to meet someone who was so agressive in seeking out my friendship that he essentially demanded that I hang out with him and his BF. I resisted but then relented and it helped snap me out of a rough period during which I believed I would never make another new friend, let alone be in a relationship.

As challenging and unfair as it may seem you absolutely must keep trying. You just have to do that. It sucks. Often. Sometimes it feels humiliating. Sometimes it may seem that there is a conspiracy against you. But don't forget that what you see when you observe other people, sometimes very happy looking people, isn't always what's actually going on. They may be miserable themselves. They may be struggling with illness or financial problems or having lost a loved one. Don't assume you know how they really are.

If the same thing keeps happening to you, change your approach. Try online dating. Put an ad out. If you already do that, change the language in the ad. Ask your friends and acquaintances if they know anyone cool. Meet some awesome lesbians that share some of your interests. Sometimes they know the best gay guys. Ask yourself what you really might want in a person. Ask yourself how you might be as a boyfriend. And really think about it and think about if you'd want to date someone who can't look at other people who seem happy.


I've been there. And you're not ugly. You're a beautiful person and a hot guy. You have to be easier on yourself while opening yourself to being hurt. Sometimes I've felt like fucking Prometheus on the rocks getting my liver chewed out by an eagle every day only to have it grow back. Whoever wrote that myth knows how you feel. You are not the only one. But you have to keep trying. The fact that you even exist, that any of us even exist at all is kind of fucking miraculous. Of all the combinations that could have occurred, here you are. Make the most of it if you can.



Imo, you pulled off a major coup in uprooting yourself from a situation that you at one point might have thought that you could never be released from. When you think about dating, tap into that power and that force that you were able to access in order to get something you really, really wanted. I think you'll find someone and I think you have lots and lots of time. I meet gay guys who are into their 50s and feel quite young, in a good way. Just don't shut down (not that you would) and keep pushing through and trying out different situations and being around different people.

Anyway. I love you guys.
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Omg thanks.
 
Botolf said:
Speaking of (sorta), is a certain west Canadian musician free to make some muzaks? :D
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sorry for late response! i had a final yesterday and have been away from the computer. i'd like to say i have the time but i this past year i haven't even had time to make my own music much at all ;( school has just been dominating me. i'm going into my final year of school right now so i don't know if i can do much music-making.
 
Oh college. I know GPA doesn't mean too much in the real world but it's a pretty shitty feeling to start off the semester with bad grades. /rant
 
ciD_Vain said:
You know what's funny? Disney guy texted me at 2am last night after i hadn't text him for almost a whole day. He's asking if i want to be his friend.
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Weren't you friends already? Though, maybe he thought you weren't after the things he said or something. :p
 
I'm watching the Expendables. Its horrible. Its like they brought all the old action stars out of retirement to supplement the social security checks. And we've firmly set Jason Statham back into generic action hero status.

Sly, don't direct anything again. Your quick cuts leave Paul Greengrass scratching his head in confusion!
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
I'm watching the Expendables. Its horrible. Its like they brought all the old action stars out of retirement to supplement the social security checks. And we've firmly set Jason Statham back into generic action hero status.

Sly, don't direct anything again. Your quick cuts leave Paul Greengrass scratching his head in confusion!
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Well, at least he's not directing the sequel. :p


Been watching random movies on Netflix recently, to complement the few/remaining gay ones I Haven't watched yet.

Finally got to see the 'Eating Out' "trilogy",and was fun. Though the beginning of #3 was..really weird. Just didn't liked what they did (i.e.
movie starts at the funeral of the 2 main characters from #1 and #2, and they died while one was giving a blowjob to the other one. With everyone having fun and not grieving any of the deaths even making fun of it...
. Could've created a better excuse if it was they just needing to write the characters out or the actors not wanting to be involved in #3 like a a trip or vacations or something. At least the rest of the movie was quite fun.
 
fernoca said:
Well, at least he's not directing the sequel. :p


Been watching random movies on Netflix recently, to complement the few/remaining gay ones I Haven't watched yet.

Finally got to see the 'Eating Out' "trilogy",and was fun. Though the beginning of #3 was..really weird. Just didn't liked what they did (i.e.
movie starts at the funeral of the 2 main characters from #1 and #2, and they died while one was giving a blowjob to the other one. With everyone having fun and not grieving any of the deaths even making fun of it...
. Could've created a better excuse if it was they just needing to write the characters out or the actors not wanting to be involved in #3 like a a trip or vacations or something. At least the rest of the movie was quite fun.
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Haha, I wouldn't say I liked The Expendables. It was by all counts a worthless movie but it had all the old fogeys out to play - Sly, Arnold and Bruce.

Did you watch The Adonis Factor on Netflix? Its a pretty dumb documentary but it has lots of hot guys in it ;P
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
Haha, I wouldn't say I liked The Expendables. It was by all counts a worthless movie but it had all the old fogeys out to play - Sly, Arnold and Bruce.

Did you watch The Adonis Factor on Netflix? Its a pretty dumb documentary but it has lots of hot guys in it ;P
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Still, have it on the queue. But every time I try to watch it I'm like "well, maybe there's something better"..and end watching something else. :p
 
:( i just want you guys to know how sad i am about Andy Whitfield :( :( :( I'm going to put up my Andy Whitfield avatar again.

i'm so heartbroken.
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
You have plenty of time to fix it!
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Heh true. But I feel like it's easier to start off good and ride off that momentum than to do start off bad and then motivate yourself to stay on top of your game. I'll consider this my warning shot for the semester. Time to rock this thanggg.

And I feel bad for not knowing who Andy Whitfield D: Had to wiki him. Maybe I should watch Spartacus in his honor.
 
Well, did watched 'The Adonis Factor'; finally.

*shrugs*

The last half was nice at least, with the talk (and showing) of "more normal guys" and less focus on the whole "let's be attractive together" (an actual quote form someone in the doc). :p


EDIT:
Is there any "trick" to search for "gay movies". I've noticed that going to "Gay & Lesbian" section and clicking each individual groups (new releases, recommended, etc.) only shows a few results. For example, I didn't found the 'Eating Out' movies by going into the "Gay & Lesbian' category; but by writing "gay" in the search area and clicking a few pages. But the movies says it's in that category, so I click directly to it and it takes me to the multiple listings, were Eating Out is nowhere to be found.:p
 
Just a heads up for those "stuck" on Grindr, there are other options. There's an app very poular in Spain called U4Bear that is a little less polished but has a lot more of options like adding as many pics as you like, sending "woofs" or filtering between "online near" and "all near". Also, it's completely free and you can also access with your browser in case you don't have iOS or Android.
 
beje said:
Just a heads up for those "stuck" on Grindr, there are other options. There's an app very poular in Spain called U4Bear that is a little less polished but has a lot more of options like adding as many pics as you like, sending "woofs" or filtering between "online near" and "all near". Also, it's completely free and you can also access with your browser in case you don't have iOS or Android.
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Is it safe to say that the majority are bears? not sure if want
 
Marius_ said:
Is it safe to say that the majority are bears? not sure if want
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Don't know, depends in you area, there's all kind of people logged in there around here. And it doesn't hurt to try. Unlike Grindr, it has a button to unsuscribe and delete your profile.
 
blame space said:
what goes on in this thread
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We mostly talk about gay/bi relationships and some random comments once in a while, the majority are gay male. I wished more girls joined in and more talk about girl problems, a more heterogeneous group.
So blamespace are you really gay? I ask because a lot of your post I don't know if you are being serious or not, like this question I'm quoting. You are welcomed to share your stories and pics of you :3 (cute guy).
 
btkadams said:
sorry for late response! i had a final yesterday and have been away from the computer. i'd like to say i have the time but i this past year i haven't even had time to make my own music much at all ;( school has just been dominating me. i'm going into my final year of school right now so i don't know if i can do much music-making.
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Daww, that's unfortunate. Well, best of luck with your studies, hope ya do well! :)
 
Obsessed said:
So I joined Tumblr so I could start browsing some hot pictures... but I can't seem to find any. There's no "adult" section or anything like it.
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google ''hot gif tumblr' and then just follow the links
 
Marius_ said:
google ''hot gif tumblr' and then just follow the links
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That's the great thing about tumblr. You can literally put in ______ followed by tumblr into google and you'll find something, especially when it comes nudes and sexy pics. It's like the internet within the internet.
P.S. Anyone else have tumblr?
 
chronos4590 said:
That's the great thing about tumblr. You can literally put in ______ followed by tumblr into google and you'll find something, especially when it comes nudes and sexy pics. It's like the internet within the internet.
P.S. Anyone else have tumblr?
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The only thing that sucks is that everything is almost anonymous. It's hard to figure out who those people on the tumblrs are and google image search just comes up with 500 more tumblrs.

This isn't about gay or bisexual relationships. :p
 
_Isaac said:
The only thing that sucks is that everything is almost anonymous. It's hard to figure out who those people on the tumblrs are and google image search just comes up with 500 more tumblrs.
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That's because a lot of them are just random dudes with friends who have a nice camera, not professional models or porn stars or whatever. That kind of makes it all the more frustrating, knowing there are all these "regular" people with absurdly good bodies. :(
 
after 2 and a half years. it's all over. i don't even know what to do. he broke up with me tonight. i'm so upset you guys i just can't believe everything is gone.
 
Today was weird. Or perhaps I am the one who is strange. Yes, that sounds right.

At work I helped a customer that ended up being the first guy that I ever slept with (this was about three years ago). I was sure that he liked me more than I liked him (and would inevitably be a dead end), so I pretended that I didn't know him even though a part of me wanted to say "hey, I know you!" At the time I just wanted to leave things buried in time like they were before.

...but suddenly after thinking about it (and the ship sailing) I have a completely different opinion and I regret not trying to get in touch with him again, lol! I swear me and romance is like a comic farce, I'm incapable of making up my mind. My friend would always say that I liked everyone, and she was really right about that (though still only half right), I sort of like everyone to the point that I can see myself with practically everyone at the same time as I clearly see it not really working out! It's ridiculous, normally I just follow my instinct but with this I just get ambivalent answers.
 
btkadams said:
after 2 and a half years. it's all over. i don't even know what to do. he broke up with me tonight. i'm so upset you guys i just can't believe everything is gone.
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What happened? Were you guys living together?
 
SpaceBridge said:
What happened? Were you guys living together?
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no, but we sleep at each other's place every night so we pretty much were i guess. he got a big job opportunity in vancouver. he was obviously really upset but he rationalized that it was a big opportunity and he felt that maybe he should see what other relationships are out there for him (since i'm his first bf). he said that he has a lot of problems (he does have some issues, truthfully), and that he also needs to work on them on his own. i know it sounds like a bunch of fluff to cover up him just not loving anymore but i could tell he does. that's why i just don't understand. how could you just throw away something that's the best part of your life (his words)?
 
btkadams said:
after 2 and a half years. it's all over. i don't even know what to do. he broke up with me tonight. i'm so upset you guys i just can't believe everything is gone.
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:(

Even steeling oneself against the possibility isn't much preparation, you've my sympathy, man.
 
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