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How does one start a relationship? I've been batting zero with clubs, grindr, online chats/forums, friends, even asked out total strangers. Why is it so tough yet for others it's easy? I had a friend who would get guys to stop their car to give him their number or follow him to try and hook up and 90% he would. I ended up dropping him as a friend as I wad tired of him getting anyone and everyone. For me guys are either straight or if gay uninterested.
 
neojubei said:
How does one start a relationship? I've been batting zero with clubs, grindr, online chats/forums, friends, even asked out total strangers. Why is it so tough yet for others it's easy? I had a friend who would get guys to stop their car to give him their number or follow him to try and hook up and 90% he would. I ended up dropping him as a friend as I wad tired of him getting anyone and everyone. For me guys are either straight or if gay uninterested.
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Wait, you stopped being someone's friend because they got more tail than you?
 
I've only been dating in earnest for a few months now and god it's exhausting. lol

Anyone I'm interested in loses interest in me and anyone that likes me I quickly lose interest in. And since I came out so relatively late (at 26) I feel kinda desperate to get into a relationship, which I know is not the best way to approach things.

I'm having fun in Chicago's gay scene though, some really cool bars along Halsted. Met some cool people and I've had pretty good luck making a circle of gay buds to go drinking with. Definitely met some raging bitches though too. It can be weird going on your own, but if you're there at the right time, people can be really open and friendly.

But it's cool. I feel like I actually started to live my life as a gay man. I was always more gay in theory than in practice in the past. I should have come out YEARS ago. Oh well. Life is good and getting better. :)
 
sublime085 said:
I've only been dating in earnest for a few months now and god it's exhausting. lol

Anyone I'm interested in loses interest in me and anyone that likes me I quickly lose interest in. And since I came out so relatively late (at 26) I feel kinda desperate to get into a relationship, which I know is not the best way to approach things.

I'm having fun in Chicago's gay scene though, some really cool bars along Halsted. Met some cool people and I've had pretty good luck making a circle of gay buds to go drinking with. Definitely met some raging bitches though too. It can be weird going on your own, but if you're there at the right time, people can be really open and friendly.

But it's cool. I feel like I actually started to live my life as a gay man. I was always more gay in theory than in practice in the past. I should have come out YEARS ago. Oh well. Life is good and getting better. :)
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gahhh I am jealous. I know alot of really cute and nice guys that live in Chicago.

I need to visit my friend soon
 
Do you consider yourself a confident guy neojubei? Seems to play a major part in attracting someone. Of course it could just be bad luck plain and simple.
 
So... I met this guy through a friend. We started off talking online and we really hit it off. He's really down to earth, easy to talk to, funny, smart, and kind. We agreed to go on a date and it went fantastic. He's so good looking, and... I dunno, he just seems like the perfect guy. We talk every day and usually stay up pretty late doing so. We're gonna be hanging out more this week and we're going on another date this weekend. My only concern is that school will be over in 3 weeks and after that I wont see him for 4 months. Do you guys think I should ask him to be in a relationship if things keep progressing well? Or should I just not go for it? He knows I really like him, and he's told me he likes being with me, talking to me, and just likes me in general several times.
 
Go for it.. or you might lose him in the summer to someone else. It seems like you talk a lot with this guy so just bring it up casually next time you hang out. Something like.. "It's really too bad school's ending soon.. I'd like to continue seeing you in summer". See what his reaction is to that. You never know, he might be thinking the same thing. How far apart will you be when school's out?
 
Well, that's kind of the problem. He's from Maryland, I'm from California. The only time we'll get to see each other is probably for like a day when I go visit my sis in D.C. at the end of May. But the reason why I wanna ask him to be in a relationship is because I want him to be "mine", in a sense. I don't think he'd date other guys, but I guess I just want to make sure that he likes me and only me. That sounds kinda stupid now that I'm seeing it written...

But this is all just me getting a bit ahead of myself. We haven't even kissed yet or anything.
 
Oyashiro said:
So... I met this guy through a friend. We started off talking online and we really hit it off. He's really down to earth, easy to talk to, funny, smart, and kind. We agreed to go on a date and it went fantastic. He's so good looking, and... I dunno, he just seems like the perfect guy. We talk every day and usually stay up pretty late doing so. We're gonna be hanging out more this week and we're going on another date this weekend. My only concern is that school will be over in 3 weeks and after that I wont see him for 4 months. Do you guys think I should ask him to be in a relationship if things keep progressing well? Or should I just not go for it? He knows I really like him, and he's told me he likes being with me, talking to me, and just likes me in general several times.
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Go for it! Signs are all pointing in your favor, it has a much higher chance of doing more great that I don't see why you wouldn't go for it.

Hope it goes well!
 
Scythe27 said:
Do you consider yourself a confident guy neojubei? Seems to play a major part in attracting someone. Of course it could just be bad luck plain and simple.
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I don't know maybe. Got back from a club in Orlando (on vacation) and guys were not interested.
 
DR2K said:
I never really understood the appeal in that. . .
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Some guys can't get enough cock. The sad part is that most people that find it appealing must be on drugs like poppers or alcohol to take it. I hate that.

That being said, I've seen on internet a couple of cases where it doesn't look disgusting, even hot I'd say but the bottom must be a very peculiar one to have a fist in the butt and not look like he'll need a diaper for life :lol
 
A fist up the ass is impractical. One sneeze and BAM you're covered in intestines.
 
Rez said:
A fist up the ass is impractical. One sneeze and BAM you're covered in intestines.
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Oyashiro said:
Well, that's kind of the problem. He's from Maryland, I'm from California. The only time we'll get to see each other is probably for like a day when I go visit my sis in D.C. at the end of May. But the reason why I wanna ask him to be in a relationship is because I want him to be "mine", in a sense. I don't think he'd date other guys, but I guess I just want to make sure that he likes me and only me. That sounds kinda stupid now that I'm seeing it written...

But this is all just me getting a bit ahead of myself. We haven't even kissed yet or anything.
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Well if it's still that early, sounds like it might be more trouble than it's worth to be honest. I'd try to stay in touch as much as possible throughout the summer and hope things pick up where they left off when school resumes. Jumping into a relationship so soon might do more harm than good. Especially if you're such a good distance apart. If you were closer it would've been a different story.
 
Gerard Piqué is dating someone!

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a man of good taste <3

shapique


I've never had a relationship. But I'm super positive and I'm sure I will if I give it some effort and fight for love! I never have sex, but I'm sure I can do it! I'm POSITIVE!

Soon I will be here telling stories of my incredible and tumultuous relationships with dashing, intelligent 30-something men! Or just about anyone!

wooow, there is a man like this in my english class. So fucking beautiful, and proof that colors are such an important part of ones attire. He wears blue like a GOD. He just pops when wearing blue. Oh god I'm gonna see him soon, I'll be sure to pick a spot with angles for strategical ogling! And his pronunciation, the way he talks.. my heart flutters and my intestines melt

I AM, a man in love


edit: oh god fisting. It rarely seems exciting in pornography! I think my aim will be on penises for the immediate future
 
got a question gaf. since my ex gf is bisexual...when do bisexual people decide if they like men or women? Is it like "ok this month i like men and the next month i like women" or totally different? I´m asking this cuz i really couldn´t figure her out regarding that.
 
Max@GC said:
got a question gaf. since my ex gf is bisexual...when do bisexual people decide if they like men or women? Is it like "ok this month i like men and the next month i like women" or totally different? I´m asking this cuz i really couldn´t figure her out regarding that.
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It's not a decision. I suppose it could be fluid to some extent - sexual orientation is not whatsoever a choice but neither are we necessarily going to be at the same exact point on the Kinsey scale for our entire adult lives. But if she's bisexual, that means she's most likely found both men and women attractive since she started becoming sexually aware during puberty.
 
Max@GC said:
got a question gaf. since my ex gf is bisexual...when do bisexual people decide if they like men or women? Is it like "ok this month i like men and the next month i like women" or totally different? I´m asking this cuz i really couldn´t figure her out regarding that.
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Bisexual people don't choose. That's why they're bisexual.
 
ilikeme said:
Gerard Piqué is dating someone!
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Ugh, I just KNEW that I should have avoided this thread. Hate that bitch. HATE HER. Every magazine in Mexico had them kissing on their covers last week. Gross.
 
SaintZ said:
Ugh, I just KNEW that I should have avoided this thread. Hate that bitch. HATE HER. Every magazine in Mexico had them kissing on their covers last week. Gross.
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hey, at least it's better than that mouse-face Nuria he was dating months ago
 
Max@GC said:
got a question gaf. since my ex gf is bisexual...when do bisexual people decide if they like men or women? Is it like "ok this month i like men and the next month i like women" or totally different? I´m asking this cuz i really couldn´t figure her out regarding that.
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For me, it generally depends on my mood. Sometimes I'm into both, sometimes I'm just into dudes, sometimes just chicks. It's not a conscious decision.
 
Qwomo said:
For me, it generally depends on my mood. Sometimes I'm into both, sometimes I'm just into dudes, sometimes just chicks. It's not a conscious decision.
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Gotcha. Thx...but isn´t it really hard to find a partner for life then? I mean she was like that...always undecided.
 
Max@GC said:
Gotcha. Thx...but isn´t it really hard to find a partner for life then? I mean she was like that...always undecided.
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Not really, no. If she was constantly reneging or undecided on stuff like that, particularly in an established relationship, that's probably a result of her being sexually (or just simply emotionally) confused, not bisexual. Maybe. I've never had a problem with "not being turned on" (to put it frankly) by a partner, even in spite of my sexual whims.

Might be different for others, though.
 
Affairs of the heart are so difficult :(
I've literally been having palpitations since last night over a situation, because something I really loved and was special to me has come to an end. I've not slept in 2 days because the feeling in my heart is so sore, it feels like someone is squeezing onto my heart and I can't breathe.
The thought of them not being there any more fills me with complete despair.
 
Qwomo said:
Not really, no. If she was constantly reneging or undecided on stuff like that, particularly in an established relationship, that's probably a result of her being sexually (or just simply emotionally) confused, not bisexual. Maybe. I've never had a problem with "not being turned on" (to put it frankly) by a partner, even in spite of my sexual whims.

Might be different for others, though.
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Mh what do you mean exactly? She said that she likes men and women...though she never had a relationship that was longer than 3 months and only had an orgasm once in her lifetime (and she had A LOT of partners) cuz she said it´s hard for her to let herself go...though she got wet. I really didn´t get her dilemma so I keep pondering about that.
 
Max@GC said:
Mh what do you mean exactly? She said that she likes men and women...though she never had a relationship that was longer than 3 months and only had an orgasm once in her lifetime (and she had A LOT of partners) cuz she said it´s hard for her to let herself go...though she got wet. I really didn´t get her dilemma so I keep pondering about that.
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That does sound strange, I don't really get it either. She probably just has some underlying problems, sexual or otherwise, that keep her from really connecting with people. I'm not a psychologist, nor do I know tons of other bisexual people, but her problem seems kinda abnormal. She may consider herself bisexual simply because she has that level of apathy (if you could call it that) to people of either gender. But who knows! Consider myself as puzzled as you are!
 
Qwomo said:
That does sound strange, I don't really get it either. She probably just has some underlying problems, sexual or otherwise, that keep her from really connecting with people. I'm not a psychologist, nor do I know tons of other bisexual people, but her problem seems kinda abnormal. She may consider herself bisexual simply because she has that level of apathy (if you could call it that) to people of either gender. But who knows! Consider myself as puzzled as you are!
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aw man...maybe it´s because of her dad? he´s a cold and distant asshole, was never there when she needed him though wanted her to do everything he said. on the other hand she likes that goth band sopor aeternus...with a dude that feels that he is a woman...could she be confused about if she´s a man or a woman?
 
Max@GC said:
aw man...maybe it´s because of her dad? he´s a cold and distant asshole, was never there when she needed him though wanted her to do everything he said. on the other hand she likes that goth band sopor aeternus...with a dude that feels that he is a woman...could she be confused about if she´s a man or a woman?
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Anecdotally, yeah, I've found that fathers are fairly important when it comes to forming their son's sexuality; many of the gay guys I know had weak, absent, or otherwise strange fathers. (I'm sure plenty gaygaffers had wonderful parents, so I say this merely anecdotally.) I guess that might be the case with daughters, too.

I doubt she's gender-confused, though. But anything's possible!

It sounds like your ex just has a bad case of being a weirdo woman.
 
Magnus said:
Sublime, neojubei, sounds like we're all in the same boat. Let's just have a threeway
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Really? Never been in a 3way. Planning to post a personal ad with the offer of an ipad 2 and see if anyone is interested.
 
sublime085 said:
Hmm OK. Name the venue.
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My place, ten minutes. Had another strikeout first date (great-looking guy, tall - big plus for me - great body, cute accent, great job, the works, but fuck if the guy wasn't the most boring conversation I've ever had; what a slow three hours). So I'm looking to rebound tonight, lol.
 
Magnus said:
My place, ten minutes. Had another strikeout first date (great-looking guy, tall - big plus for me - great body, cute accent, great job, the works, but fuck if the guy wasn't the most boring conversation I've ever had; what a slow three hours). So I'm looking to rebound tonight, lol.
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How do you know it wasn't first date jitters? How do you know he's just not good at opening up so early on? Maybe you just have to get to know him. How do you know it's a strike out so early in the game? How do you know these things?
 
neojubei said:
Really? Never been in a 3way. Planning to post a personal ad with the offer of an ipad 2 and see if anyone is interested.
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Magnus said:
My place, ten minutes. Had another strikeout first date (great-looking guy, tall - big plus for me - great body, cute accent, great job, the works, but fuck if the guy wasn't the most boring conversation I've ever had; what a slow three hours). So I'm looking to rebound tonight, lol.
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Sweet I want an ipad. Who gets to be lucky Pierre?
 
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