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G0523 said:
She treats me the same as she always has, although she's gotten much better than when we were both teenagers (she grew up). She's younger than me by 3 years. I am completely sure she knows.
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Just curious. What makes you so sure?
 
_Isaac said:
Just curious. What makes you so sure?
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Because she once straight up asked me. Because she told my aunt when she was mad at me one time. And because when she was talking with my mom over the phone a couple weeks ago, she said "He doesn't like girls.".
 
G0523 said:
Because she once straight up asked me. Because she told my aunt when she was mad at me one time. And because when she was talking with my mom over the phone a couple weeks ago, she said "He doesn't like girls.".
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Wow. I don't want to change the subject, but I don't think that was very nice of your sister. Spreading rumors like that and pretty much outing you isn't right in my book. :( At least, you don't seem too bothered by it.
 
_Isaac said:
Wow. I don't want to change the subject, but I don't think that was very nice of your sister. Spreading rumors like that and pretty much outing you isn't right in my book. :( At least, you don't seem too bothered by it.
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It wasn't nice of her. But she was really angry at me when she told my aunt a few years ago because I threw her phone off our back deck. So I guess I deserved that. Lol. But the phone conversation with my mom is something I'm not bothered by because I should've owned up to it. My mom asked me if what my sister said was true and I sidetracked it and denied it. It gets surprisingly easy to keep a secret after 8 years.
 
Since this is the only gay-centric thread around I thought I'd put this in here. Not relationship related but I don't know where I can put it.

This was inspired by the first celebrity crush thread which sadly has only girls at this time.

So guys, what was your first celebrity crush? I can trace back my first crush all the way back to 1985. I had a huge crush on Jerry Supiran from Small Wonder.

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Seems creepy now but I was only 9 at the time so we were the same age. Kinda cute. Shocking that my sexual identity was pretty established at such a young age.

This is him today.

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kinda funny he's still my type. He's straight tho :P
 
Holmes said:
There was this guy I had a crush on back in high school for a few years. He was a jock type, cute smile, nice build, whatever. Back in grade 9, we had every class together, and I would stare at him all day and listen to everything he said. It was actually in my French class that I remember looking at him and thinking... "oh, I'm gay? Ok..." Anyway, I spent the next few years crushing over him. Obviously my obsession with him diminished, especially when I got a boyfriend, but I would still swoon sometimes.

Long story short, he's on my Facebook friends list, and I'm entering my third year of university, I've been with my boyfriend for five years, life is great, and I feel like I wanna message him about it. I feel like I owe him something, he made me realize so much about my sexuality and myself (and dealing with it afterwards wasn't the greatest). He didn't do anything, though. I guess for closure.
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Ha ha, slightly different situation, but similar experience. I had one maybe two people like that in high school who I liked. The hilarious thing was on his facebook it says 'in a relatinoship with; Ryan someothing something'. That of course caught my attention, so I messaged him, turns out his wife's name is actually Ryan (and so is his brother's name too). Well I was kind of disappointed after the initial hope. Man that was like 15 years ago, I bet I would have almost nothing to say to him now. I stayed at his dorm with a friend of mine durng a road trip I took about 10 years ago.
 
RPGCrazied said:
Being gay in Texas is hard as fuck.
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I'm in Texas!! You should check out Dallas' gay scene, it's very active. Uptown is practically ruled by the gays (called the Gayborhood).

It makes me happy whenever this thread is on the front page, it reminds me of the dominance of the GayGAF thread, which was probably my favorite.
 
RPGCrazied said:
Whoa! I didn't know we had gay gaffers. I thought I was alone on this site. That's awesome. I haven't been in a relationship in years. I blame the area though I live in, and not so much the fact I'm a hardcore gamer and in my early 30's.

Being gay in Texas is hard as fuck.
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be glad you are not a loser like me, rejected so many times i cannot count. i dont think i am cut out being gay or even a person anyone could love. frankly i wish i could just be done with it, the feelings everything.
 
Pinzer said:
I'm in Texas!! You should check out Dallas' gay scene, it's very active. Uptown is practically ruled by the gays (called the Gayborhood).
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Houston near the art museum and Galleria is also apparently Gay-friendly. (At least it was when I was there three-four years ago for a month)

neojubei said:
be glad you are not a loser like me, rejected so many times i cannot count. i dont think i am cut out being gay or even a person anyone could love. frankly i wish i could just be done with it, the feelings everything.
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Pffft. PM me if you really want depression and a life story of depression. You ain't got shit.
 
Tipsy, horny, and my roommate just took off with the crew of buddies we had over for a drink. Everyone's got early mornings except me.

I am available for a random lay. Any takers
 
neojubei said:
be glad you are not a loser like me, rejected so many times i cannot count. i dont think i am cut out being gay or even a person anyone could love. frankly i wish i could just be done with it, the feelings everything.
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You've been awfully negative today. It'll pass. It'll be a nice new day tomorrow.
 
alternade said:
Is it rude to stare a a guys bulge if it practically protruding an inch from his body?
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Eh, straight guys (I'm assuming he's straight because he's gay that wouldn't even be a question) generally don't like being stared at by gay men.
 
neojubei said:
be glad you are not a loser like me, rejected so many times i cannot count. i dont think i am cut out being gay or even a person anyone could love. frankly i wish i could just be done with it, the feelings everything.
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That's not true. Judging by all your posts lately you do sound like you need some type of professional help in the meantime though.
 
Just wanted to poke my head in here to let people know that I shot a video for the "It Gets Better" campaign.

I did the one for 24 Hour Fitness.

I'm actually really proud of it, I think I did a good job with it. I have some changes to make to the current edit, unfortunately, as corporate is tinkering the way corporate does.

I'll post it when it's all done...unless you want to see the first cut, I can PM you a link.
 
So I met this cute guy online and we decided to meet up. He was looking for cuddle buddies and I decided it was something that I could do. We choose to meet up to see if we were compatible. We arranged a first date. He said he never went on a date before or had a relationship. I was his first date. So we met up and we spent like 5 hours just talking about random things, drinking coffee. Then we went to watch a movie. After the movie we went to a bar where we drank but we were never drunk or tipsy. When we were about to go to his car I gave him a kiss. Then we started to make out in his car. I wanted to go all the way but I had to go work the following day so I just gave him a blow job. Do you guys think I moved too fast? Does this make me look desperate? I know cuddle buddies is a nicer term for fuck buddies and my values kinda go against it but I just went with it anyway. Were gonna meet again next week...
 
I don't think it makes you look desperate, you said that to you cuddle buddies basically means fuck buddy, and that's what you did. If he understood what cuddle buddies meant, then there shouldn't be any emotional confusion.
 
kairiceres said:
So I met this cute guy online and we decided to meet up. He was looking for cuddle buddies and I decided it was something that I could do. We choose to meet up to see if we where compatible. We arranged a first date. He said he never went on a date before or had a relationship. I was his first date. So we met up and we spent like 5 hours just talking about random things, drinking coffee. Then we went to watch a movie. After the movie we went to a bar where we drank but we were never drunk or tipsy. When we were about to go to his car I gave him a kiss. Then we started to make out in his car. I wanted to go all the way but I had to go work the following day so I just gave him a blow job. Do you guys think I moved too fast? Does this make me look desperate? I know cuddle buddies is a nicer term for fuck buddies and my values kinda go against it but I just went with it anyway. Were gonna meet again next week...
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If you're going for a long term relationship than yes you moved too fast, if not, then just enjoy the sex and see where it goes.
 
kairiceres said:
Is it bad if I call him and to like say hi and stuff?
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You don't want to appear clingy if sex is all you two want. This is the kind of stuff either friends do, or people in a relationship do, but fuck buddies... not really.
 
ZephyrFate said:
You don't want to appear clingy if sex is all you two want. This is the kind of stuff either friends do, or people in a relationship do, but fuck buddies... not really.
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This is like my first time to ever do fuck buddies kind of thing. I guess I wont bother him then.
 
kairiceres said:
This is like my first time to ever do fuck buddies kind of thing. I guess I wont bother him then.
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If all you guys do is hook up, talking to each other every now and then to meet up is really all that needs to go down.

However, I've seen fuckbuddies lead into relationships, so... you'll just have to see what kind of chemistry happens between you two.
 
Stylo said:
I've been a little bi-curious lately. Thinking about using craigslist just go get it over with. Opinions?
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I've used CL before, no issues in general besides flakes/no-shows. That and because it's anonymous sex you have to make sure they're clean and get yourself tested if you aren't sure they were truly clean.

Basically: I have never had issues, but like the disclaimer on the casual encounters page states: It's anonymous sex, you know the risks, be careful.
 
Ok, last question I think! Is it bad if I kinda like him after our first date/hook up? I want to get to know him more but I'm afraid he's just into "cuddle buddies".
 
kairiceres said:
Ok, last question I think! Is it bad if I kinda like him after our first date/hook up? I want to get to know him more but I'm afraid he's just into "cuddle buddies".
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Then ask him out and see if he responds to the idea of going out with you. And just get the feel of what he likes from there on.
 
Replicant said:
Then ask him out and see if he responds to the idea of going out with you. And just get the feel of what he likes from there on.
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I did ask him out yesterday and we arranged a meeting but its a hook up.
 
kairiceres said:
I did ask him out yesterday and we arranged a meeting but its a hook up.
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Well then next time ask him "Hey, would you be interested in hanging out with me sometime? We could see film or get something to eat? It's okay if you're not interested though".

Wait, you already did that on your first date. So it should not be a problem. If he still doesn't get the hint after a while, you may need to admit to him that you're interested in being more than just fuck buddies.
 
Marius_ said:
Ask him if he wants to have dinner/lunch first
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Yeah, that's generally how you get across that you want something more than just sex. If they say no to this, it generally means that they're not ready or looking for something more than a hookup.
 
I guess I'll try that. Thanks guys!

Yeah I'm confused with this situation because our first date was intended to be just a date even though we agreed in being cuddle buddies. We went out to watch a movie and we talked for like 5 hours going around parks and comic book shops. Our first date was supposed to be to check if we were compatible with each other. Which is weird because in my understanding cuddle buddies are kinda like fuck buddies but with cuddling. He said we were compatible. Does this mean compatible to have sex and hang around with? I guess I should just go with the flow then. I dunno! I'm confused!
 
kairiceres said:
I guess I'll try that. Thanks guys!

Yeah I'm confused with this situation because our first date was intended to be just a date even though we agreed in being cuddle buddies. We went out to watch a movie and we talked for like 5 hours going around parks and comic book shops. Our first date was supposed to be to check if we were compatible with each other. Which is weird because in my understanding cuddle buddies are kinda like fuck buddies but with cuddling. He said we were compatible. Does this mean compatible to have sex and hang around with? I guess I should just go with the flow then. I dunno! I'm confused!
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Personally, I would go with the flow(if the sex is good) while trying to drop hints that I would want to explore the possibility of a relationship/dating. Continue to asking him out and trying to read him, if your are fine with that, just keep expectations low. After a while you should know if he wants something more.
 
Cosmic Bus said:
Wait, why does cuddling mean sex?
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Usually the phrase cuddle buddies kinda translates to sleeping partners. If you cuddle with someone, I think they're either your boyfriend or a friend, but you probably don't say "oh, we're cuddle buddies!".
 
This just sound like an overly thought about situation.
My opinion is that you should just ask him if he'd like to date instead of just being "cuddle buddies" (lol that term). No need to play games, just ask him.
 
kairiceres said:
Yeah I just asked him and I guess we are dating now lol. Thanks guys.
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LOL. Congrats! Nice to hear that someone actually gets BF/dates.

DarkUSS said:
*sigh*

Forever alone.

That is all. :(
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Ditto. It doesn't help that I'm at a point where I'm too unmotivated to go chasing after guys anymore.
 
I just found out my SO has been hanging out on a online gay hookup site, talking to guys, sending pictures. Probably have been camming too. He says it's just a fantasy and the he never would meet anyone IRL, but I know he cheated on his ex. Everything feels so fucked up now, I'm sitting here shaking, feeling like I'm going to break down any second.
 
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