Lots of obsession with looks the past few pages. Which, okay, is natural, but if you stay with the mindset that all it takes to be happy or in a relationship is to lose that weight, or build those muscles, or fix those teeth, or whatever, you might be disappointed when you actually get there.
Even good-looking people have relationship problems - I know plenty of good-looking guys (and girls) without boyfriends, or in miserable relationships, who cheat or get cheated on, or who complain that no one wants to be in a relationship with them and only want sex, etc. Being good-looking certainly means that more people will approach you and be willing to date (or sleep with) you, but it doesn't guarantee that the right person will approach you, or that you'll be ready on the inside for a healthy relationship. I mean, think of the gorgeous Hollywood actors and models who go through strings of people.
This isn't meant to be catty, but did you see the pictures of all the couples who got married in New York recently? All ages, races, etc. How many of them looked like models or actors to you? By Hollywood standards, the vast majority would be judged as average, or even plain or homely. But they all looked so happy, and they didn't seem to care at all what people would think about their looks, because they'd found someone to spend their life with. If they can do it, then ultimately that sort of happiness must not hinge on looks.
A friend from school recently got married to his partner in New York. They met on a dating site, and neither of them is model material - I mean, they're cute in their own way, but they're both short, and one's a little paunchy, while the other's balding (and both are in their 20's). But really, who cares - they took a chance online and clicked, and here they are.
This is just a long way of saying - don't waste time feeling bad about your looks and how you don't measure up. Sure, stay healthy, go to the gym if it makes you feel better about your appearance, but don't forget to actually live a little and meet people, no matter how you look. Don't delay and say you'll be ready to get out there once you're thinner, or more muscular, or your skin's cleared up, because time goes by really quickly, and in a few years you may wonder why you wasted all that time feeling sorry for yourself or waiting to be a better (looking) person, when you could have been living and enjoying life, whether with a partner or not.
Even good-looking people have relationship problems - I know plenty of good-looking guys (and girls) without boyfriends, or in miserable relationships, who cheat or get cheated on, or who complain that no one wants to be in a relationship with them and only want sex, etc. Being good-looking certainly means that more people will approach you and be willing to date (or sleep with) you, but it doesn't guarantee that the right person will approach you, or that you'll be ready on the inside for a healthy relationship. I mean, think of the gorgeous Hollywood actors and models who go through strings of people.
This isn't meant to be catty, but did you see the pictures of all the couples who got married in New York recently? All ages, races, etc. How many of them looked like models or actors to you? By Hollywood standards, the vast majority would be judged as average, or even plain or homely. But they all looked so happy, and they didn't seem to care at all what people would think about their looks, because they'd found someone to spend their life with. If they can do it, then ultimately that sort of happiness must not hinge on looks.
A friend from school recently got married to his partner in New York. They met on a dating site, and neither of them is model material - I mean, they're cute in their own way, but they're both short, and one's a little paunchy, while the other's balding (and both are in their 20's). But really, who cares - they took a chance online and clicked, and here they are.
This is just a long way of saying - don't waste time feeling bad about your looks and how you don't measure up. Sure, stay healthy, go to the gym if it makes you feel better about your appearance, but don't forget to actually live a little and meet people, no matter how you look. Don't delay and say you'll be ready to get out there once you're thinner, or more muscular, or your skin's cleared up, because time goes by really quickly, and in a few years you may wonder why you wasted all that time feeling sorry for yourself or waiting to be a better (looking) person, when you could have been living and enjoying life, whether with a partner or not.
