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There's three of us involved, so it would be more like this:

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And Phonomezer, i think you're right.
 
So i'm kind of at a loss. Over the past two weeks i've lost all my friends. I'm not really sad or angry over it but i have literally no gay friends or rater just friends in general anymore.

Basically, one of my "best" friends had his third DUI and hit two people killing one. Everyone came to his defense and made excuses for him "we all drive drunk" "its their fault for crossing the street" "hes too good of a person....." I havent hung out with them for a while because I saw the lifestyle they were living and didnt want to be apart of it(excessive drinking, drugs, sleeping around) so when they came to me looking for another person to coddle him, I had had enough and basically read them their rights. Its always been like this. In their eyes he can do no wrong and is golden because he has connections where we go. Well now im kinda alone and wondering what to do.
 
alternade said:
So i'm kind of at a loss. Over the past two weeks i've lost all my friends. I'm not really sad or angry over it but i have literally no gay friends or rater just friends in general anymore.

Basically, one of my "best" friends had his third DUI and hit two people killing one. Everyone came to his defense and made excuses for him "we all drive drunk" "its their fault for crossing the street" "hes too good of a person....." I havent hung out with them for a while because I saw the lifestyle they were living and didnt want to be apart of it(excessive drinking, drugs, sleeping around) so when they came to me looking for another person to coddle him, I had had enough and basically read them their rights. Its always been like this. In their eyes he can do no wrong and is golden because he has connections where we go. Well now im kinda alone and wondering what to do.
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Firstly, may i ask why the word "best" is in quotations? Secondly, do these people know exactly how you feel about them?

Find some new friends if you feel they're not worth it. Invest some time in making your friendship something important if you feel they are worth it. Also, do they know you're gay? If they don't, then maybe you should consider coming out to them.
 
xelios said:
Oh my god, this was me except at 17. Eventually I did wind up with someone from another state. Texas is terrible for gays unless you're in San Antonio, Houston etc. Good luck though!
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More like its terrible for someone my age and not as fit as people around here would like. :( But thanks for the good luck.
 
alternade said:
So i'm kind of at a loss. Over the past two weeks i've lost all my friends. I'm not really sad or angry over it but i have literally no gay friends or rater just friends in general anymore.
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People make mistakes. However, feeling no remorse after committing a DUI and killing someone because of it, I don't think I would feel comfortable remaining friends with them. Can't really tell you what to do besides to do what you think is right. I know relationship is all about compromises, but personally I don't think I can go against my conscience for the sake of a friendship.
 
alternade said:
So i'm kind of at a loss. Over the past two weeks i've lost all my friends. I'm not really sad or angry over it but i have literally no gay friends or rater just friends in general anymore.

Basically, one of my "best" friends had his third DUI and hit two people killing one. Everyone came to his defense and made excuses for him "we all drive drunk" "its their fault for crossing the street" "hes too good of a person....." I havent hung out with them for a while because I saw the lifestyle they were living and didnt want to be apart of it(excessive drinking, drugs, sleeping around) so when they came to me looking for another person to coddle him, I had had enough and basically read them their rights. Its always been like this. In their eyes he can do no wrong and is golden because he has connections where we go. Well now im kinda alone and wondering what to do.
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Hmm, overall how do you feel though?
You said you're not sad or angry for the things that happened and how you have no friends; but there's still something worrying you since you seem to wonder if there's something wrong.

In my opinion, you did good. As you said, they seem to give him a pass becuase of his connections and people he knows, then let them deal with him. If they want to hang out with you; then let them contact you and do so in your terms (if you don't want to drink, etc.).

In the end, you don't need to "do" anything. Just continue been you. College, work, or going out on your own; might bring around the kind of friends that you want and deserve.
 
alternade said:
So i'm kind of at a loss. Over the past two weeks i've lost all my friends. I'm not really sad or angry over it but i have literally no gay friends or rater just friends in general anymore.

Basically, one of my "best" friends had his third DUI and hit two people killing one. Everyone came to his defense and made excuses for him "we all drive drunk" "its their fault for crossing the street" "hes too good of a person....." I havent hung out with them for a while because I saw the lifestyle they were living and didnt want to be apart of it(excessive drinking, drugs, sleeping around) so when they came to me looking for another person to coddle him, I had had enough and basically read them their rights. Its always been like this. In their eyes he can do no wrong and is golden because he has connections where we go. Well now im kinda alone and wondering what to do.
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Make new friends. It may not happen overnight but you will. Just live your life and it'll come. If that's not the type of lifestyle you want to live or be around it's not a good idea to hang around with people who live it anyway. I choose my friends carefully for this very reason. I'm sorry though, I know it hurts to lose people.
 
ciD_Vain said:
Aw, i knew wentworth miller was gay, but i didn't know who luke macfarlane is. They're both smokin.
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Luke MacFarlane is one of the only actors I've ever really had a big crush on. His character on Brothers & Sisters was almost my ideal man (well, aside from that one infidelity incident, heh)... handsome, tall, kinda femme, killer smile, professional chef, guuuh. The whole Kevin/Scotty storyline was such a nice, realistic and non-stereotypical thing too.
 
alternade said:
So i'm kind of at a loss. Over the past two weeks i've lost all my friends. I'm not really sad or angry over it but i have literally no gay friends or rater just friends in general anymore.

Basically, one of my "best" friends had his third DUI and hit two people killing one. Everyone came to his defense and made excuses for him "we all drive drunk" "its their fault for crossing the street" "hes too good of a person....." I havent hung out with them for a while because I saw the lifestyle they were living and didnt want to be apart of it(excessive drinking, drugs, sleeping around) so when they came to me looking for another person to coddle him, I had had enough and basically read them their rights. Its always been like this. In their eyes he can do no wrong and is golden because he has connections where we go. Well now im kinda alone and wondering what to do.
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Holy shit, your friends fucking suck. Good on you for not putting up with a murderer.
 
Part of the joy comes from watching those big coiffed and feathered 'dos flop and swish around during the slap-a-thons. Today's soap chickies all have flat-ironed hair that's sooo uninteresting.
 
RPGCrazied said:
More like its terrible for someone my age and not as fit as people around here would like. :( But thanks for the good luck.
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Dude, you are neither old nor fat. Are you able to move to a different city? If you are, here's a list of cities that would be better for you:

Bellingham
Seattle
Portland
Eureka
San Francisco
San Diego
Denver
Boulder
Santa Fe
Austin
Houston
Minneapolis
Chicago
Orlando
Miami
Tampa
New York
Syracuse
Anywhere in New England.
 
Bel Marduk said:
Dude, you are neither old nor fat. Are you able to move to a different city? If you are, here's a list of cities that would be better for you:
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I'm not? Come tell that to every guy I try and talk to around here.

Hell no, I'd be so gone if I could move though. I'm in between jobs right now, and live at home with my Mom for the time being.

This is where I'm at now.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lubbock,_Texas

Eww! >_<
 
Yasae said:
That's a solution but it doesn't involve logistics.

Come on, real answers here folks.
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Pretty light on details. Perhaps he has some friends living in bigger cities that he can stay with while he establishes himself.
 
Phonomezer said:
Pretty light on details. Perhaps he has some friends living in bigger cities that he can stay with while he establishes himself.
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Nope.

I have 0. Not even joking. I have a few I guess online, but they live no where near me.
 
Bel Marduk said:
Dude, you are neither old nor fat. Are you able to move to a different city? If you are, here's a list of cities that would be better for you:

Bellingham
Seattle
Portland
Eureka
San Francisco
San Diego
Denver
Boulder
Santa Fe
Austin
Houston
Minneapolis
Chicago
Orlando
Miami
Tampa
New York
Syracuse
Anywhere in New England.
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Everywhere in new england is horrible, don't come here.



RPGCrazied said:
I'm not? Come tell that to every guy I try and talk to around here.

Hell no, I'd be so gone if I could move though. I'm in between jobs right now, and live at home with my Mom for the time being.

This is where I'm at now.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lubbock,_Texas

Eww! >_<
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You and I should just drop everything and move to San Fran and buy a large building and rent out to gay 20 year old
Asian
twinks
 
RPGCrazied said:
Nope.

I have 0. Not even joking. I have a few I guess online, but they live no where near me.
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Well how do you see yourself being able to move? What are your options? Are you prepared to sacrifice some luxuries in order to accommodate the cost of relocating? Where would you really like to go, if you had to choose one place?

Moving is fun. I like change.
 
Phonomezer said:
Well how do you see yourself being able to move? What are your options? Are you prepared to sacrifice some luxuries in order to accommodate the cost of relocating? Where would you really like to go, if you had to choose one place?

Moving is fun. I like change.
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I can't? No, really I can't. Not until I get another job and save some $$$. I'm already sacrificing by living here, but its either that or be homeless. Seattle does sound nice, cause I love rain, but this is all dream talk.

That's another thing onto itself, the job hunting here is like having a fat kid go to a candy store, but the store closed forever.
 
RPGCrazied said:
I can't? No, really I can't. Not until I get another job and save some $$$. I'm already sacrificing by living here, but its either that or be homeless. Seattle does sound nice, cause I love rain, but this is all dream talk.

That's another thing onto itself, the job hunting here is like having a fat kid go to a candy store, but the store closed forever.
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Why not get 2 low paying jobs, work for 6months to a year save save save and move. Have you tried applying to be a waiter or bus boy? A friend of mine worked as a waiter and made some good money.


A part of me wants to get a TEFL certificate and move to Japan to teach English.

Marius_ said:
eh why not, except for the whore house plan
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Just because I want to live in a large house with 20 something Asian twinks doesn't make it a whore house in my mind. :)
 
Out of curiosity, where does everyone live. I know few already.

I live in Toronto, Canada.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toronto

Pretty big, and cosmopolitan city. Multi racially diverse, lots to do, and a sizable gay population. Not too difficult to find a job or career here. But the public transit sucks balls.

Some of you might consider it as a moving destination.

How about you?
 
SpaceBridge said:
Out of curiosity, where does everyone live. I know few already.

I live in Toronto, Canada.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toronto

Pretty big, and cosmopolitan city. Multi racially diverse, lots to do, and a sizable gay population. Not too difficult to find a job or career here. But the public transit sucks balls.

Some of you might consider it as a moving destination.

How about you?
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Gaytown, Gaylantica, Earth.
 
Alcoori said:
New York, gays everywhere.
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I would love LOVE to live in new york especially since it is probably one of the only cities with huge population of open minded gay men, but I just cannot live in new york the crowds, the traffic, the crazy people, the public transportation. Sigh as a kid I used to watch Sex and the City and I wished for a life like Carrie Bradshaw living in New York City with an awesome rent controlled apartment and dating some of the hottest men.

Anyone seen any recent pics of Wilson Cruz, he totally bulked up.


ZephyrFate said:
I don't live in Portland. I live in the gay realm.
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What's it like? I heard Black guys were not allowed.
 
neojubei said:
I would love LOVE to live in new york especially since it is probably one of the only cities with huge population of open minded gay men, but I just cannot live in new york the crowds, the traffic, the crazy people, the public transportation. Sigh as a kid I used to watch Sex and the City and I wished for a life like Carrie Bradshaw living in New York City with an awesome rent controlled apartment and dating some of the hottest men.

Anyone seen any recent pics of Wilson Cruz, he totally bulked up.




What's it like? I heard Black guys were not allowed.
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Only on Tuesdays.
 
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