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royalan said:
Gah, I know!...I've just had so many experiences at this point with people claiming that they "just aren't the type to have sex that doesn't mean anything. Because, you know, I just have too much respect for myself," all the while hoping that I didn't remember them getting drunk at a house party the weekend before, bringing a total stranger home, fucking them, then freaking out and bugging the hell out of me the next morning because
the dude pulled out and the condom wasn't on his dick and she couldn't find it and she was kinda sure that it was somewhere still inside her[/b.]


But heh - my experiences aren't everyones!

To DR2K: Sorry! I'm really not a raving, nagging, impossible bitch! I swear!
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Hey we have the same friends.

Also to DR2K, sorry as well if I came off sounding condescending earlier. Your right, the only way to learn things is to experience them first hand. Life experiences, good or bad, are what help to mold and shape you. Now you know.

Lemme know when you move to Toronto, so I can make it up to you with a drink.
 
TheChaos said:
Question to fernoca: what's it like being gay in Puerto Rico? I mean is it still kind of taboo there to a degree because of the machismo aspect? Sorry for the random question, just curious.
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Heheh...well. Is not as if I have a "gay life" in here.
Yearly pride parades, organizations, an apparent "open mind" from people.So, things might give the impression that are "good".

At the same time; a local newspapers recently posted the results of a poll regarding "sex" in Puerto Rico and it was quite disappointing how one of the questions was "If been gay is normal?"...only like 30% said "Yes"; with over 60% saying "No.

There's still a strong presence of the church and religion in general, there's still ignorance, there's still "phobia" around. But all things considered is not as bad as some might think; but is not great. Though this year there has been a couple of head turners, involving transexuals been assassinated.

Part of the problem seems to be related to "old mentalities". As many have noted, Puerto Rico is becoming an "old country". Most of the people living and working are older than average, forcing the younger people with new/fresh ideas out of the island in order to improve things. Heck, I'd leave if I had money; but I don't.

Another disappointing aspect is that the local LGBT groups are usually filled with many of the guys you see in Manhunt, Adam4Adam and similar sites showing their assholes and looking for "right now"; so is like they use this groups to meet guys to have sex or something; more than give support and friendship.

But, that's from my point of view. I could go on about many more things. Pupi18 is also from PR; so maybe he could post about his point of view.


royalan said:
Gah, I know!...I've just had so many experiences at this point with people claiming that they "just aren't the type to have sex that doesn't mean anything. Because, you know, I just have too much respect for myself," all the while hoping that I didn't remember them getting drunk at a house party the weekend before, bringing a total stranger home, fucking them, then freaking out and bugging the hell out of me the next morning because
the dude pulled out and the condom wasn't on his dick and she couldn't find it and she was kinda sure that it was somewhere still inside her[/b.]


But heh - my experiences aren't everyones!
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Nope..lalalalala..
Sorry, can't see you!!!

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:p
 
SpaceBridge said:
Hey we have the same friends.

Also to DR2K, sorry as well if I came off sounding condescending earlier. Your right, the only way to learn things is to experience them first hand. Life experiences, good or bad, are what help to mold and shape you. Now you know.

Lemme know when you move to Toronto, so I can make it up to you with a drink.
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When I move there you'll be the first to know.

royalan said:
To DR2K: Sorry! I'm really not a raving, nagging, impossible bitch! I swear!
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I'm not offended, no need to apologize. Even if you were, I'd just call you mom.
 
Been about a week since my last update with the guy i'm talking to and I said i'd update in a week or so...so here it is. This week i took him to LACMA to see the Tim Burton exhibit. He took me to some nice Korean BBQ place in LA. We went to the movies. I took him out to dinner. And just yesterday, he surprised me to a concert at the Hollywood Bowl.

:)

Hopefully i get to see him tomorrow or the next day since his schedule is spontaneous and really busy.
 
Magnus said:
Haha, yeah, wow, that first URL gave me a page with posts in the 4000's, lol.

Cosmic - Unless it's upsetting to talk about it (and I'd understand, no worries) -- how does it feel to look back at that post and that experience now, 1 year+ later? A lot of my nights that similarly inspired feelings of regret in me at the time wound up being strangely positive experiences upon reflection, in the sense that they were immensely instructive. I hope that's how it ended up playing out for you too. :)
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Yeah, sorry about the link; I forget how the 50 or 100 per page setting screws things up, heh.

I still feel pretty similar now... Maybe more of a "c'est la vie" attitude, but it'd be nicer if it never happened. That also continues to be the only sexual (or even remotely physical) activity I've ever had. It didn't necessarily sour me on things, but I do feel more than ever that I'm probably not cut out for this: the dating, the sex, all of it. I get too emotionally involved in the littlest things (because of my age and inexperience, the whole "time is running out!" panic gets to me a lot) and kind of how you were talking about being particular, well, I'm too unwilling to flex on my attractions and ideals. Like, if I can't have exactly the perfect guy/situation that's in my head, then I'd just assume be single forever. It's dumb, but that's the way I am, it seems.

For what it's worth, the two friends from that night still visit occasionally and there's no awkwardness, but I do know now that they've messed around with or had sex with other couples, and it sort of bugs me a tiny bit. Meh.
 
royalan said:
No unfortunately. I'm always the last person to think to take pictures. Good time, though
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Aww, too bad. And don't worry, ciD's also like that. I mean, who the frak goes to Disney and concerts and stuff... and doesn't take pictures? ... XD
 
fernoca said:
Aww, too bad. And don't worry, ciD's also like that. I mean, who the frak goes to Disney and concerts and stuff... and doesn't take pictures? ... XD
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I think he posted some on Facebook. Girl has a camera stuck to his forehead methinks.
 
fernoca said:
Aww, too bad. And don't worry, ciD's also like that. I mean, who the frak goes to Disney and concerts and stuff... and doesn't take pictures? ... XD
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Hahahahahaha maybe i will post that one picture just to make up for the pictures i don't take ;P
 
royalan said:
No unfortunately. I'm always the last person to think to take pictures. Good time, though
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Likewise. I'm a fiendish journal-writer, not a picture-taker. Speaking of, finished off my first one! Year flew by, going to have to start a new one because this one is novella length :P
 
SpaceBridge said:
I think he posted some on Facebook. Girl has a camera stuck to his forehead methinks.
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ciD? I wish he had a camera stuck...somewhere.


Wait, that sounded..bad.. :p


Since my "social life" is nearly non-existent at the moment (all friends working and stuff); I need pictures!! I need to feed!! :p
 
fernoca said:
ciD? I wish he had a camera stuck...somewhere.


Wait, that sounded..bad.. :p


Since my "social life" is nearly non-existent at the moment (all friends working and stuff); I need pictures!! I need to feed!! :p
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LOL - pictures of what?
 
Necromanti said:
So how does that work?
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One night we were out and his girlfriend dared him to do it because she wanted to see us make out. And it just sorta became a thing. She freaking loves it. lol And I don't mind because it's all in good fun and he's surprisingly a good kisser.
 
royalan said:
One night we were out and his girlfriend dared him to do it because she wanted to see us make out. And it just sorta became a thing. She freaking loves it. lol And I don't mind because it's all in good fun and he's surprisingly a good kisser.
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I jelly.
 
Welp, finally got an audio message from my boyfriend. Like I posted earlier in this thread, he's been on Washington and it was fine while he could be on the shitty wifi at the hotel, but now he's at the house of one of the hosts of the student exchange (he's a teacher and thus stays at another teacher's house), and he can't really connect to the internet! That and a little bit of alcohol during this saturday night made me a bit sad, but it got better once I received the message, the day after!

I didn't imagine I'd miss him so much, because as a distance relationship, you get to keep doing your life and just cope with it, basically. But I've come to realize that we spend a lot of time together, constantly on MSN, whatsapp and if not, audio messages when time is scarce. Cutting these during his stay at the states has proven to be a bit of a pain. ): Rationally, I don't blame him because well, those are the circumstances and he can't do much about it, but Mr. Hyde in me is slightly upset! I chalk it up telling myself this means I love him a ton, just like I thought I did, but damn, I miss him so much. :c

Anyway! To bring a light note, which is your soft spot, HappyPuppy? I'll come forward and say my neck! Just the slightest breath or whisper on it makes me melt. It's his best weapon against me! It usually goes over like this:

-"Do the dishes!"
-"No!"
-"*whispers close to my ear and neck* Do the dishes~"
-*swoons*.
 
HappyPuppy said:
I won't share the one my bf found but my back is a soft spot, a really big one. If someone touches my back I go into this relax, comfortable, peaceful, happy state where I become this mass that melts in the person's hand, I can't never have enough of that and I always welcome it. Dam now I want my bf or a back massager, or both.
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Haha, you're like my boyfriend then. Whenever I do a quick swift on his back he can't help himself but ask for it! I have another soft spot, and it's my hair! I love it when he passes his fingers through my hair...

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Like you've said, I also have "private" soft spots, but those are secret! :3 And are probably the best ones!
 
Surely I can't be the only one here absolutely thrilled for the STEPS reunion... :D

Just bought tickets for the Pointer Sisters.. :/ Shaping up to be a pretty gay November with them, SNSD and Kathy Griffin within a week of eachother.
 
Magnus, telling someone you're not interested in the romantically doesn't make you a jackass.
Sure it's gonna sting a bit but it's WAY better than just not saying anything and/or leading people on.
Hopefully everyone is an adult and can handle it.

It's better to be told after one date than going on 5 dates and never hearing from the guy again.


As for soft spots, I had a guy I was sorta dating who had the most sensitive neck ever. I almost made him come just by kissing/biting/licking his neck. He was crazy.

I have a super sensitive back, but not in the good way. I can't get a back massage because it tickles me so much I'm just moving around and twisting and trying to get off of under the guy's hands.
Not cool :(
 
Sooo...aside from the recommendations to not date anyone or what not in here...and I appreciate those I really do! If I wanted to meet this guy I have talked to on Grindr. Would getting lunch somewhere be normal? Talk to my like a child, because I basically am at this kind of stuff...how do I start off with talking to this person without it being super awkward? What do I talk about? Do?

I have always sucked at that kind of stuff anyway. It's much easier once I know them (duh).
 
sruckus said:
Sooo...aside from the recommendations to not date anyone or what not in here...and I appreciate those I really do! If I wanted to meet this guy I have talked to on Grindr. Would getting lunch somewhere be normal? Talk to my like a child, because I basically am at this kind of stuff...how do I start off with talking to this person without it being super awkward? What do I talk about? Do?

I have always sucked at that kind of stuff anyway. It's much easier once I know them (duh).
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Lunch/dinner is always a nice way. Maybe a movie later or if you rather prefer spend the time talking (which is always nice the first time). Though make sure to put the cards on the table. I mean, some people connect going out to dinner with dating and a relationship. So if you' just want to talk to the guy, get to know him make sure to tell him that while making said plans to go out. You know, "Hey I was thinking of going out to eat something, to you know..get to know each other better and stuff".

And take things from there. Same way if you're just horny and want a quickie. :p

Of course, all that after you've been talking for a day at least. I mean, don't invite him out to dinner after 15 minutes of talking. :p
 
SpaceBridge said:
My soft spot, is my
cock
Anything done to it makes me weak in the knees. ;P
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Anything... like what? ;3 Also, can I see the rest of your avatar? I think I asked earlier in the thread but it went unnoticed!
 
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