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Gay and Bisexual relationship thread |OT|
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SpaceBridge
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Magnus said:
Wow, Im not sure if Im off tonight, but that read like such a harsh and narcissistic thing to say.
SpaceBridge said:
Haha, everyone has a physical type (or types) that work for them. I certainly have mine. I've definitely been pleasantly surprised by guys that didn't fit that type at all though, and where I thought I did feel a spark (or definitely felt one, however short-lived).
If you were fishin' for a straight physical type I'm into though....
Tall (to match my 6' in height, or taller), dark hair, and anywhere from an average build to muscular; can't do the thin/skinny type, just not for me.
As most everyone agrees though, it's the personality that's make-or-break. You just know in that first conversation or two whether there's something there, and it's really difficult to articulate and nail down. How do you tell someone that you're not sure a spark's there, and would they be willing to just keep hanging out to see if one evolves? lol. It's a like a prolonged rejection.
But yeah, if you're not physically attracted, and not mentally attracted once a date's over, it's pretty much a done deal.
SpaceBridge said:
...whhhaaa???
Harsh and narcissistic? I was agreeing with you, haha. That I hope that he also agrees that looking for a mate doesn't have to be the only end-game to dating, and that the excitement of just making new friends and acquaintances can be a cool byproduct of dating, even if no spark's there for romance.SpaceBridge
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Magnus said:Haha, everyone has a physical type (or types) that work for them. I certainly have mine. I've definitely been pleasantly surprised by guys that didn't fit that type at all though, and where I thought I did feel a spark (or definitely felt one, however short-lived).
If you were fishin' for a straight physical type I'm into though....
Tall (to match my 6' in height, or taller), dark hair, and anywhere from an average build to muscular; can't do the thin/skinny type, just not for me.
As most everyone agrees though, it's the personality that's make-or-break. You just know in that first conversation or two whether there's something there, and it's really difficult to articulate and nail down. How do you tell someone that you're not sure a spark's there, and would they be willing to just keep hanging out to see if one evolves? lol. It's a like a prolonged rejection.
But yeah, if you're not physically attracted, and not mentally attracted once a date's over, it's pretty much a done deal.
...whhhaaa???
Well that puts me out of the running.
Cosmic Bus
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What happened to you going out to get some action this weekend, SB?
SpaceBridge
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Cosmic Bus said:
Ive had a nasty cold for the last few days. I feel gross, and stuffy. Coughing up phlegm and sneezing like crazy. Shivers and hot at the same time. Right now im in my jammies, with a hoddie surrounded by used tissue and listening to movie soundtrack music.
edit: I have Ico sitting sealed next to me calling my name.
SpaceBridge
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DR2K said:
Uh........
A threesome is something that only works in porns.
SpaceBridge said:Well that puts me out of the running.
Dude. Dude. Being a Gaffer overrides everything IMO.
Sorry you're feelin' sick. Believe me, I know how that feels, this year hasn't been kind.
DR2K said:
Aw shit, I'm sorry it didn't go well. I got adventurous and tried out the same thing last November. They were the...sixth and seventh guys I'd ever been with (lol). I would never have been the type to even think about it before, but they were very welcoming and genuine and straightforward. Went well, we hooked up again (but never since) and strangely, we're like, really tight friends now. Go figure.
Cosmic Bus
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SpaceBridge said:
Surely there's a minor groups of fetishists (or masochists) accessible via Craigslist that would find that very alluring. "Ooh baby, let me pick up your sloppy tissues and rub Vicks onto your nips" and whatnot.
[edit] It's still so bizarre to think that I had several firsts and lost my virginity in a stupid threesome.
SpaceBridge
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TheSeks said:
Yeah, no.
SpaceBridge
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royalan said:
Hell, I stand corrected then. DR2K, you should try it again then. Make sure your more active though. Cant spend the whole time on your back expecting things to get then fer ya.
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TheSeks said:
Woah, girl back off. Enlighten me then with your wisdom and experience.
edit:Actually dont, the discussion seems to have touched a nerve for me. So, Im removing myself, but dont fucking patronize me.
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Cosmic Bus
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Magnus said:
It's down through this page of the original gay thread:
http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=366884&page=95
SpaceBridge said:
I'll stop patronizing when I stop having to call it as I see it. You haven't had a good experience, okay. But to simply write it off with a dismissive "yeah, no." Is childish and thus calling you a child.
But whatever, not my problem.
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TheSeks said:
We all have roles in life I guess.
DR2K said:
I feel that last complaint. I had a good experience with my threesome, and I still felt it was painfully (and obviously) lacking in intimacy, and actually felt I had to seek it out right away to....self-correct and normalize? lol Yeah. It was a busy week, sexually speaking, the likes of which I haven't seen in awhile, haha.
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DR2K said:
edit: I cant read.
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royalan said:
I think he might be selling himself short.
Cosmic Bus
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royalan said:
That's a pretty odd viewpoint to have.
Cosmic Bus said:
Sorry, I hope I didn't come off overtly aggressive. That statement has just always pushed my buttons.
Don't get me wrong, sex with intimacy is awesome. But more often than not I find that people who go out of their way to state that they "just can't do" sex without intimacy are, at best, excusing themselves for not having the type of sex life they secretly want; or worse, stealth claiming moral superiority over people who are more open with their sexuality.
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royalan said:
Woah, I totally misread his post about that. I thought he meant he couldnt handle sex with intimacy. Meaning, that due to past experiences, sex had become more a physical thing then anything else.
My cold is really messing with my comprehension skills.
To be fair, DR2K was just talking about his point of view. He didn't came around a high horse proclaiming that people that have sex without intimacy are whores or something. He just said that "it wasn't for him" (i.e. "not sure if I can handle that").
Didn't saw anything "wrong" with what he said. If he posted "Sex without intimacy...lol sucks and you should burn in hell if you do"; then yeah.
Didn't saw anything "wrong" with what he said. If he posted "Sex without intimacy...lol sucks and you should burn in hell if you do"; then yeah.
Post #9405Magnus said:I don't see a post of yours anywhere on that page.
Is it possibly because I have a different posts-per-page setting than you? Like, would the same URL point to a different page for either of us?
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fernoca said:To be fair, DR2K was just talking about his point of view. He didn't came around a high horse proclaiming that people that have sex without intimacy are whores or something. He just said that "it wasn't for him" (i.e. "not sure if I can handle that").
Didn't saw anything "wrong" with what he said. If he posted "Sex without intimacy...lol sucks and you should burn in hell if you do"; then yeah.
Yeah, I wasn't trying to come off as high and mighty with that statement.
fernoca said:To be fair, DR2K was just talking about his point of view. He didn't came around a high horse proclaiming that people that have sex without intimacy are whores or something. He just said that "it wasn't for him" (i.e. "not sure if I can handle that").
Didn't saw anything "wrong" with what he said. If he posted "Sex without intimacy...lol sucks and you should burn in hell if you do"; then yeah.
Gah, I know!...I've just had so many experiences at this point with people claiming that they "just aren't the type to have sex that doesn't mean anything. Because, you know, I just have too much respect for myself," all the while hoping that I didn't remember them getting drunk at a house party the weekend before, bringing a total stranger home, fucking them, then freaking out and bugging the hell out of me the next morning because
the dude pulled out and the condom wasn't on his dick and she couldn't find it and she was kinda sure that it was somewhere still inside her[/b.]
But heh - my experiences aren't everyones!
To DR2K: Sorry! I'm really not a raving, nagging, impossible bitch! I swear!
fernoca said:
Haha, yeah, wow, that first URL gave me a page with posts in the 4000's, lol.
Cosmic - Unless it's upsetting to talk about it (and I'd understand, no worries) -- how does it feel to look back at that post and that experience now, 1 year+ later? A lot of my nights that similarly inspired feelings of regret in me at the time wound up being strangely positive experiences upon reflection, in the sense that they were immensely instructive. I hope that's how it ended up playing out for you too.
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