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Kyon said:
OMG do tell! O___O
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You should look for the videos.

Cosmic Bus said:
I can certainly admit this is the part that's always most difficult to express to people. It isn't so much that I'm intentionally depriving myself of other fulfillment, but that my attractions/desires/interests are very, very specific and narrow, and I can humbly admit that I'm not really open to "settling" for anything but exactly what I'm after. I never set out looking for anyone... we happened to find each other at a time when it was most important and it evolved into this. In spite of whatever worries may come along with it all, the positives far outweigh the negatives, and I'm comfortable knowing that nothing thus far has been forced into happening.
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You sound like someone else I know.

Edit: More like a few people.
 
ayeorkean said:
My BF recently returned from Denver, visiting some family. Went over to his house for the weekend after not seeing each other for a month. So being a snoop I went through his internet history, and found he was looking at adam4adam and craigslist while over in Denver. We've had this discussion over and over, how I don't like him going to cruising/dating sites. He says he's not doing "anything" just looking at people, because he's naturally a people watcher. Finally told him to stop, so he deleted and disabled the profiles. What do?
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Can somebody please answer this.
 
Seems to me you either trust your boyfriend or you don't. If he wants to cheat he is going to one way or another. He may also be telling you the truth. So it comes down to something only you can answer. Do you trust him or don't you?
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
Seems to me you either trust your boyfriend or you don't. If he wants to cheat he is going to one way or another. He may also be telling you the truth. So it comes down to something only you can answer. Do you trust him or don't you?
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Yes I did trust him. We have talked about it and he asked me to trust him he would not go to those sites and I trusted him. But now he wants me to trust him that he won't do anything, after he broke his word the first time.

Marius_ said:
He already deleted his profiles, what else do you want?
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Ideally to stay off those sites. If he really needs to get off there is enough porn on the internet to satisfy him and those sites will always be around, so it's not like he is missing out on much.
 
Speaking as someone who is fully versatile, anal sex does not need to be painful – uncomfortable sure and definitely scary for the first time or with a new partner – but take the time you need, relax, use a good lube, relax some more, and then go with the flow.

It’s so worth it, I think it’s one of the most incredible feelings in the world to bottom, or to top a guy and please him by hitting him in the right spots. It gives me the chills just thinking about it, hehe.

I think it’s only a big deal if you make it out to be.

***

I think the past two weeks have been some of the most eventful of my life thus far.

My fiancé and I broke up. Yesterday would have been our 9 year anniversary as a couple. Some time ago I came to understand that I am happier and more fulfilled in relationships with men than I am with women. I’ve had doubts for a long time but couldn’t bring myself to leave someone who I cared for so deeply and had been trying so many things to make it work.

We had been on a break for a while, and had decided to get back together and have an open relationship again. In this time I had met an incredible guy through the GayGaf Skype chat and we decided to be together, and made plans to meet this month.

And so, my boyfriend finally came here to visit on the 14th, and I almost immediately felt my heart belonged to him and not my fiancé. She noticed this of course and so during an argument we were having about it, it all just came out. I realised that it was wrong of us to have gotten back together and that I was only going to hurt her more in the long term. It’s very strange for me to still care for her so much but to realise that we just can’t be together any more.

I don’t really think much of labels really but given how I feel more fulfilled with men, and especially considering how much I love my boyfriend, I decided to come out to my parents as gay.

My poor mother had to deal with me telling her I had broken up with my fiancé, meet my boyfriend for the first time and deal with the fact I was gay, all on my birthday. I certainly didn’t plan for all this stuff to happen but I guess sometimes everything just bursts out.

She took it well but said some slightly offensive things in an email to me, particularly about STDs and not expressing myself in public. But I thought she was coming from a good place, and so we talked about it a lot and I made her appreciate that my family and the outside world are only going to get used to gay couples by seeing gay couples around, and that I’m not so stupid as to forget some ‘decorum’ in the more rough parts of town.

It took me a while longer to work up the courage to tell my Dad, but eventually I decided to call him instead of waiting for the next time he was in the city. He was great, and showed a level of understanding of sexuality that I had never heard from him before. My stepmom was very supportive, and was very happy to hear that my boyfriend was a Brit like her.

While all this was going on, my fiancé had moved out for the week to give us some space, and I had the most fantastic time with my boyfriend. It was our first time meeting and I instantly felt at ease with him. I had been so worried and nervous that the chemistry wouldn’t be the same in person, but it was even better. We wrestled, we gamed, we held hands walking through town and we went to my favourite restaurant. We would make out and have sex for hours, and it was amazing, the most incredible time. From when we talk science and politics to taking turns on the challenge rooms in Arkham City - I just feel so fulfilled with him.

He makes me feel like I’m falling in love with him over and over.

Our time together was finite however, as he needed to fly home. We got pretty emotional a few times, and it was so hard to see him go. We planned to see each other again at Christmas, which is when I would have the most time off – but thinking that I would have to wait 2 months to see him was painful, but I knew I could wait for him.

That changed last night when he came out to his Mum. It turns out that whilst he was away visiting me, they came across and read a card and letter I had sent to him on his birthday. I haven’t been as embarrassed in a long time, to know someone other than my boyfriend had read my innermost thoughts about him. She said my letter made her cry...

I figured on some level that she knew, considering when I called the night before she practically giggled when she heard my accent and put two and two together, and then when I said my name she got far too excited.

And so last night I got a grilling from my boyfriends Mum, somewhat shocked to learn her son was gay and seeing a guy from across The Irish Sea. It was such a great feeling to know my boyfriend didn’t need to hide at home anymore, and then for me to speak to his family and for them to invite me over to stay and laugh and joke with me. So now I'll be seeing him again much sooner, when I visit him in about 3 weeks.

So much has happened over the past 12 days that on some level I feel like it’s not real, I guess it’s all a lot to take in. But it certainly feels great to feel like my life is on track. I only hope that I can help my ex as best I can to get her life back on track too.

tl;dr: Gay is fabulous. :P
 
Just a question that isn't meant to be inflammatory, what I don't understand is the like "homosexual lisp"?

Like what brings that about? I know some gay/bis who do it, but others who do not. Is it like a mental thing, or it just like, a thing that happens?
 
ayeorkean said:
Yes I did trust him. We have talked about it and he asked me to trust him he would not go to those sites and I trusted him. But now he wants me to trust him that he won't do anything, after he broke his word the first time.



Ideally to stay off those sites. If he really needs to get off there is enough porn on the internet to satisfy him and those sites will always be around, so it's not like he is missing out on much.
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But we're right back where we started. So he lied to you and said he wouldn't go on those sites. What did he say when you asked him why he lied?

Everybody looks and everybody has a wandering eye to some extent. There is no controlling that and if you did then you probably wouldn't be boyfriends for very long. So like I said you have to answer the question of "Do you trust him not to cheat?" Is he wanting to be unfaithful? is he satisfied with your relationship? Since he was caught on the website and caught lieing there is sufficient pretext to ask these questions.

He lied about the website. Fine. Forgive but don't forget. So until there is a smoking gun you either continue the relationship or you break up (which would be an overreaction in my opinion).

There is so much only you know that will help answer this. We don't know your boyfriend. Hell, we don't even know you. Just what you tell us.
 
Gvaz said:
Just a question that isn't meant to be inflammatory, what I don't understand is the like "homosexual lisp"?

Like what brings that about? I know some gay/bis who do it, but others who do not. Is it like a mental thing, or it just like, a thing that happens?
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It just happens. Yes, there are straight guys who have it as well. Dealwithit.gif
 
GothPunk said:
Speaking as someone who is fully versatile, anal sex does not need to be painful – uncomfortable sure and definitely scary for the first time or with a new partner – but take the time you need, relax, use a good lube, relax some more, and then go with the flow.

It’s so worth it, I think it’s one of the most incredible feelings in the world to bottom, or to top a guy and please him by hitting him in the right spots. It gives me the chills just thinking about it, hehe.

I think it’s only a big deal if you make it out to be.

***

I think the past two weeks have been some of the most eventful of my life thus far.

My fiancé and I broke up. Yesterday would have been our 9 year anniversary as a couple. Some time ago I came to understand that I am happier and more fulfilled in relationships with men than I am with women. I’ve had doubts for a long time but couldn’t bring myself to leave someone who I cared for so deeply and had been trying so many things to make it work.

We had been on a break for a while, and had decided to get back together and have an open relationship again. In this time I had met an incredible guy through the GayGaf Skype chat and we decided to be together, and made plans to meet this month.

And so, my boyfriend finally came here to visit on the 14th, and I almost immediately felt my heart belonged to him and not my fiancé. She noticed this of course and so during an argument we were having about it, it all just came out. I realised that it was wrong of us to have gotten back together and that I was only going to hurt her more in the long term. It’s very strange for me to still care for her so much but to realise that we just can’t be together any more.

I don’t really think much of labels really but given how I feel more fulfilled with men, and especially considering how much I love my boyfriend, I decided to come out to my parents as gay.

My poor mother had to deal with me telling her I had broken up with my fiancé, meet my boyfriend for the first time and deal with the fact I was gay, all on my birthday. I certainly didn’t plan for all this stuff to happen but I guess sometimes everything just bursts out.

She took it well but said some slightly offensive things in an email to me, particularly about STDs and not expressing myself in public. But I thought she was coming from a good place, and so we talked about it a lot and I made her appreciate that my family and the outside world are only going to get used to gay couples by seeing gay couples around, and that I’m not so stupid as to forget some ‘decorum’ in the more rough parts of town.

It took me a while longer to work up the courage to tell my Dad, but eventually I decided to call him instead of waiting for the next time he was in the city. He was great, and showed a level of understanding of sexuality that I had never heard from him before. My stepmom was very supportive, and was very happy to hear that my boyfriend was a Brit like her.

While all this was going on, my fiancé had moved out for the week to give us some space, and I had the most fantastic time with my boyfriend. It was our first time meeting and I instantly felt at ease with him. I had been so worried and nervous that the chemistry wouldn’t be the same in person, but it was even better. We wrestled, we gamed, we held hands walking through town and we went to my favourite restaurant. We would make out and have sex for hours, and it was amazing, the most incredible time. From when we talk science and politics to taking turns on the challenge rooms in Arkham City - I just feel so fulfilled with him.

He makes me feel like I’m falling in love with him over and over.

Our time together was finite however, as he needed to fly home. We got pretty emotional a few times, and it was so hard to see him go. We planned to see each other again at Christmas, which is when I would have the most time off – but thinking that I would have to wait 2 months to see him was painful, but I knew I could wait for him.

That changed last night when he came out to his Mum. It turns out that whilst he was away visiting me, they came across and read a card and letter I had sent to him on his birthday. I haven’t been as embarrassed in a long time, to know someone other than my boyfriend had read my innermost thoughts about him. She said my letter made her cry...

I figured on some level that she knew, considering when I called the night before she practically giggled when she heard my accent and put two and two together, and then when I said my name she got far too excited.

And so last night I got a grilling from my boyfriends Mum, somewhat shocked to learn her son was gay and seeing a guy from across The Irish Sea. It was such a great feeling to know my boyfriend didn’t need to hide at home anymore, and then for me to speak to his family and for them to invite me over to stay and laugh and joke with me. So now I'll be seeing him again much sooner, when I visit him in about 3 weeks.

So much has happened over the past 12 days that on some level I feel like it’s not real, I guess it’s all a lot to take in. But it certainly feels great to feel like my life is on track. I only hope that I can help my ex as best I can to get her life back on track too.

tl;dr: Gay is fabulous. :P
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yeah well I read 3 books in the past 2 weeks so lift your game, slow poke.
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
But we're right back where we started. So he lied to you and said he wouldn't go on those sites. What did he say when you asked him why he lied?

Everybody looks and everybody has a wandering eye to some extent. There is no controlling that and if you did then you probably wouldn't be boyfriends for very long. So like I said you have to answer the question of "Do you trust him not to cheat?" Is he wanting to be unfaithful? is he satisfied with your relationship? Since he was caught on the website and caught lieing there is sufficient pretext to ask these questions.

He lied about the website. Fine. Forgive but don't forget. So until there is a smoking gun you either continue the relationship or you break up (which would be an overreaction in my opinion).

There is so much only you know that will help answer this. We don't know your boyfriend. Hell, we don't even know you. Just what you tell us.
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He said he was just looking around because he's curious, seeing local guy's profiles turns him on, said he's been doing it for so long he's addicted. Yes what you say makes complete sense.
 
i had
car
sex last night for the first time. It wasn't planned at all though. After spending 12hrs at Disneyland, the drive back had me falling asleep on the road. To keep me awake, my guy started giving me a hand job, and then a blow job the whole ride home. After we got back to his place, he realized his roommate and his roommate's friends were home so we decided to park the car somewhere hidden and dark to continue. I returned the favor of course and one thing led to another. Eventually we were just going at it. It was a little bit uncomfortable at first, but that quickly went away. I topped and bottomed and even with no lube, it was amazing.
 
GothPunk said:
So much has happened over the past 12 days that on some level I feel like it’s not real, I guess it’s all a lot to take in. But it certainly feels great to feel like my life is on track. I only hope that I can help my ex as best I can to get her life back on track too.
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Good for you. Granted you guys are still in a long distance relationship, but sounds like things are off to a great start.
 
Obsessed said:
Oh god how is that possible? I can't even get a finger up there comfortably without some kind of lubrication.
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It's possible if you relax enough. My second or third time bottoming was without lube, with an ex of mine who was seriously hung, and it was still fine. Just needed a slow start, but that can be a fun thing. Same guy was also my first, and because we started it slowly and he knew what he was doing, it was an enjoyable experience for me even though he was big as hell.

*shrug*

Lube is terrifically important 99.99% of the time, and 110% of the time as far as quickies are concerned, but enough foreplay (and lots of rimming) can go a very long way.
 
That's why you take a shower first. My guy fingered me the last time a few weeks ago and it hurt.

I fantasize about getting licked and fucked but I don't think I can handle it.

I had a childhood friend who is also my Brother's friend call me out of the blue yesterday. He was like "why is your voice so high, are you a fag or something?" I said my voice has never been that low.

He asked me if I played for the other team and said that it doesn't matter because he still cares about me. But since I'm not sure I said I didn't play for any team, and he was like I like that answer lol.

Hopefully he doesn't bring it up with my brother though because my brother already knows ny secret, but only my online friends know about me so...guess I'll be screwed someday in the future regardless if anyone knows.
 
MidnightScott said:
I fantasize about getting licked and fucked but I don't think I can handle it.
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I didn't picture you as a bottom. Though as a stage 1 Pokemon I should have guessed.


MidnightScott said:
I had a childhood friend who is also my Brother's friend call me out of the blue yesterday. He was like "why is your voice so high, are you a fag or something?" I said my voice has never been that low.

He asked me if I played for the other team and said that it doesn't matter because he still cares about me. But since I'm not sure I said I didn't play for any team, and he was like I like that answer lol.
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These two statements seem to contradict each other.
 
Obsessed said:
Then you're probably versatile. ;)




True.
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I forgot to mention that he was in the marines which he told me about during our conversation. We last saw him back in 2007 I think? I did ask him why he wanted to know so bad though. I just said I like to stay home and not go out. He left me alone on the subject after that.

He wants me to come visit in Austin but gas isn't exactly cheap for me to burn just to go to Austin one day and come back the next lol.
 
CHEEZMO™ said:
He's probably gay.

;)
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No he isn't though. He said even of I were he still loves me and nothing can change that. We all grew up together until we moved and he moved but we still bumped into him every few years.

He said he thinks of me as his little bro and that's why he cares so much.

He has a kid with a girl in Rhode Island but she left him and he came back to Texas and is staying with his mom until January.

My brother is in the Air Force though so he's in Washington. Maybe well go see him during Christmas?
 
The problem with ~things in ur butt, lol~ is I have the feeling of constantly needing to pee, or "I'm gonna pee any second!" when someone else does it. It is extremely unpleasant.
 
Gvaz said:
The problem with ~things in ur butt, lol~ is I have the feeling of constantly needing to pee, or "I'm gonna pee any second!" when someone else does it. It is extremely unpleasant.
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Pee first, then, obviously.
 
red_13th said:
I was never rimmed but rimming is awesome.
My boyfriend loves being rimmed.
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Off topic I know, but where is your avatar from?

OT: Does it....

does it taste bad? I mean even assuming the guy is all clean down there...
 
Gvaz said:
IMO rimming is kind of gross. Sweaty hairy man ass that may or may not be 100% clean?
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For whatever reason, this is why I don't feel the compulsion to be rimmed and yet it's almost exactly why I want to rim someone. Go figure.
 
Obsessed said:
Off topic I know, but where is your avatar from?

OT: Does it....

does it taste bad? I mean even assuming the guy is all clean down there...
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It's drawn by an artist called Shoutaroh Kojima, not sure if I can post links but google should suffice.

It tastes like nothing, or maybe soap sometimes, cause I only do it right after my boyfriend cleans his asshole. And he showers like 3 times a day (he's a hygiene freak) so it's usually very clean. Not sure how pleasant it might be with someone who's not as... tidy.
 
royalan said:
Here's a pic of me at the gallery opening for my friend's senior photography project (girl in picture):

T7VYE.jpg


Surprisingly, I don't have a lot of pictures that really show off my height. The girl I'm in the picture with is really tall too (almost 6ft with heels). Probably why she loves taking pics with me. lol
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Super LTTP, but because the way you express yourself, write and your avatar, I always pictured you like a male Tara... and after seeing your pic, you kind of do look like one :D
 
chronos4590 said:
^ our time will come bro. Our time will come.
But in the mean time... Get ready to see the cutest video your eyes will ever see.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n3LFzqLEz3I&feature=channel_video_title
Involves cute guy and a kitten. BTW he liked a "it gets better" video on his youtube channel so it's kinda relevant to our interest and i want a relationship with all of this.
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Mein gott, this is adorable on all counts. I'm pretty sure that's an illegal amount of adorable.
 
the guy i sleep with rims me all the time. best fucking thing EVER. i also clean with pomegranate scent soap and he said it tastes great :P
 
Sagitario said:
Super LTTP, but because the why you express yourself, write and your avatar, I always pictured you like a male Tara... and after seeing your pic, you kind of do look like one :D
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HAHA...I'll take that as a compliment.

On to rimming...yeah...I was grossed out by the idea of it at first. Got over that REAL quick...
 
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