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julls said:
The mods, probably ;P

Further to your post Midnight - DO NOT DO THIS. I'll say it a hundred times. If he wanted to be with you, he would be. Don't wait around or you'll end up bitter and jaded and checking horoscope sites.
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He never told me to sit here and wait for him. But it's not like I am ready to be in a relationship. I can't possibly know what he is going through. I'll just try to be there for him and maybe we can grow closer over time.
 
MidnightScott said:
He never told me to sit here and wait for him. But it's not like I am ready to be in a relationship. I can't possibly know what he is going through. I'll just try to be there for him and maybe we can grow closer over time.
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Maybe; but don't be going over wedding china in your head in the meantime. Just enjoy what you have with him now, and if things change for him he'll let you know. But don't reject any opportunities that come your way either.

Also your latest pic, you look like my friend's roommate. I had to do a double take.
 
Just had to pop in to say that Scott looks so cute in his latest pic. :p

Even though you're not in a relationship with your guy now and you're set on waiting for him, you should at least be able to tell if you have enough feelings for him that he's worth the wait, if you feel that he is, then don't let others tell you what to do.
 
King Endymion said:
Just had to pop in to say that Scott looks so cute in his latest pic. :p

Even though you're not in a relationship with your guy now and you're set on waiting for him, you should at least be able to tell if you have enough feelings for him that he's worth the wait, if you feel that he is, then don't let others tell you what to do.
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I just meant it's kinda naive to 'wait' for someone - there's an assumption there that waiting will end in a relationship, and it's not often the case. Just sayin'.
 
Bey and Kelly
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julls said:
I just meant it's kinda naive to 'wait' for someone - there's an assumption there that waiting will end in a relationship, and it's not often the case. Just sayin'.
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I definitely get what you're saying, and I probably wouldn't wait for something like this, I just think it's kind of good for each person to get that experience for themselves, because you're probably not going to listen to what others have to say when you have feelings for someone. ^^

edit: lol at Taylor, IMO he was flaming all through-out "Abduction".
 
King Endymion said:
Just had to pop in to say that Scott looks so cute in his latest pic. :p

Even though you're not in a relationship with your guy now and you're set on waiting for him, you should at least be able to tell if you have enough feelings for him that he's worth the wait, if you feel that he is, then don't let others tell you what to do.
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Thanks, I appreciate the support. I know that it is silly to wait but I think it will be worth the wait. I wasn't looking for anyone right now when he showed up in my life and I started having feelings for him, and him for me. But the thing is that he is dealing with lots of crap and didn't want to invest in a relationship until he gets things handled. He told me he was tired of running away from it all and needs to deal with the past so he can move on.

Also, I appreciate your comments. If only more people like this were closer. Also King Endymion, you look so much like one of my old friends it's freaky lol. But you are way cuter, just saying :P
 
Sorry for being MIA. I have no knowledge of relationships; straight or otherwise. I'm simply going to wish you the best in yours MidnightScott. :)

now on to hot men. the day taylor announces he's joining the gay alliance then I'm either dead, dying, or fainting.
 
MidnightScott said:
Thanks, I appreciate the support. I know that it is silly to weight but I think it will be worth the wait. I wasn't looking for anyone right now when he showed up in my life and I started having feelings for him, and him for me. But the thing is that he is dealing with lots of crap and didn't want to invest in a relationship until he gets things handled. He told me he was tired of running away from it all and needs to deal with the past so he can move on.

Also, I appreciate your comments. If only more people like this were closer. Also King Endymion, you look so much like one of my old friends it's freaky lol. But you are way cuter, just saying :P
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Heh, thanks. ^__^

I hope he is serious enough to actually commit to a relationship with you when he has dealt with his past, so that he doesn't string you along, getting your hopes up. :)
I wouldn't call it silly to wait if you feel that it's what you want to do, it's all up to you. ^^
 
Typae said:
Sorry for being MIA. I have no knowledge of relationships; straight or otherwise. I'm simply going to wish you the best in yours MidnightScott. :)

now on to hot men. the day taylor announces he's joining the gay alliance then I'm either dead, dying, or fainting.
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Joining? That dude is flying a huge flag and doused in glitter, holding a bottle of amyl in one hand and condoms in the other.

:P
 
Oh my Taylor love. Fucking sexy ass. And you guys don't keep up on your gossip - he's definitely gay, just who knows if he'll ever come out :(
 
hhhhhhhhgggggggggggggg


this isn't getting any fucking better.

I tried to cheer myself up. Haven't contacted Zack in nearly 60 hours, at this point I am confident that he is out of my life and will never be a part of it again. I don't think anything can change this. That is good.

I made an OKcupid account, filled out some basic stuff to find a cuddlebuddy so I can get some physical touch while I'm in my "healing" period - with no promise or expectations of a longterm relationship or sex. This is also good.

I got ten responses and like a hundred pageviews in the first two hours, mostly from hot guys. This is awesome, and made me feel like a pimp for around two hours.

Then my friends started commenting on/altering me off a "changed relationship" status on my ex (who has been removed from, but not blocked from, my facebook feed from some time), and I flip the fuck out and..... do something incredibly stupid and pathetic that I immediately regretted. I sent his new bf a "warning". I seriously wish I hadn't done this, I'm sure it made me look like a fucking psycho stalker, but I did it. New bf was.... a little bit TOO cruel in his response, but I tried not to let it get to me, blocked him, am never going to be a fucking creeper and try to contact him again, and got back to talking to friends on FB. Friends who.... would not tell me things about zack. I also told pretty much everyone I'm very close friends with to remove him from their friend list to avoid the possibility of me seeing his updates again, because I'm not fucking over this yet, as much as I'm trying. They all comply, and in a beautiful moment, a friend who I thought didn't care anymore tells me I'm a beautiful person inside and outside and I deserve all of the care and attention in the world, just gives me a wonderful heartfelt monologue. Not influenced by attraction, just out of the bottom of his fucking heart tells me how special I am. Felt awesome, got back on track, aaaaaaand couldn't get to sleep tonight due to an immense amount of pain from trying to ignore everything about the life I had five days ago.

I'm just going to come right out and say it, as the motherfucking obvious connection of who he was dating, the new bf's response, him talking about hi "new friend", the pocketdial a week ago where he was blatantly talking about having sex (I thought it was about me! D:), and his attitude towards me for the past month:

I was cheated on by the fucking love of my life, all while he was telling me he loved me, cared about me, and wasn't going to leave me.

Why can't my fucking life catch a break? WHY DO I HAVE TO LEARN THESE THINGS?

Ugh. I don't even want an OKCupid cuddlebuddy anymore, even with no expectations of a relationship I fear with my current luck he's going to rape me, then I'm going to fall in love because abominable shitstains on mankind are apparently "my type".


I sincerely hope Karma exists outside of reddit, and Zack will be getting his heart physically ripped out of his chest in the next few months. I don't even want revenge at this point, it would just make me look desperate, but I cannot possibly imagine a fair universe where this man does not die in the most painful, degrading way possible.

Fuck this, I'm taking up boxing.


PS: I got my desired closure and now know why he didn't do this in person or tell me why! ISN'T THAT FUCKING WONDERFUL?



In closing, if I see him again, I am going to have to use every single bit of willpower in my body to not sit him down and tell him about how much I love huey lewis and the news.



I am sorry to keep bothering you with this, relationship thread. I am, at the moment, no longer sad, and although support would be appreciated I certainly don't require it, and posting here to vent seems rude.... But it's not like I can just go to my facebook wall and describe how much hatred I have for a person I share fifty fucking mutual friends with.
 
Well the relationship thread is here for that after all.

You moved from despair to anger, it's good because it means you've progressed in your grief. It'll take some time for you to be totally ok but it will come.

That guy is your typical slimball, be glad you're rid of him.

PS: Cosmic, I understand your point and I respect it. In the same way that I can't be in an open relationship, I don't think I could date someone way younger or older than me. However that doesn't mean these types of relationship are inherently wrong, to each their own.
 
Alcoori said:
Well the relationship thread is here for that after all.

You moved from despair to anger, it's good because it means you've progressed in your grief. It'll take some time for you to be totally ok but it will come.

That guy is your typical slimball, be glad you're rid of him.

PS: Cosmic, I understand your point and I respect it. In the same way that I can't be in an open relationship, I don't think I could date someone way younger or older than me. However that doesn't mean these types of relationship are inherently wrong, to each their own.
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I do feel better than I did when I felt like I was in endless incurable pain and was going to die of hurt in my room, but it's really fucking weird being a taoist pacifist and wanting to do this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vzN3qO-qc8U
 
Was he your first BF and/or "the one who made you realise you were gay"?
 
Rez said:
Was he your first BF and/or "the one who made you realise you were gay"?
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Neither. Arguably first love, but probably not (had a one year relationship that was mostly long distance before him, and one quick.... something.... in middle school -- that was the "realize I'm gay" one). First physical relationship though, he took my virginity, and we were together so much I stopped being able to picture life without him; I was miserable whenever it was time to go back to school, I had nobody to turn to and.....


well, he was too stupid to have meaningful conversations with over text or IM, and everything just sort of turned into gushy love talk and the occasional video game news. >.> dude had to go to a for-profit college that accepts everyone, has no state funding, and will have a ~$160,000 degree in two years with no scholarships. I realize I dodged a fucking bullet here by having him cheat on me, that relationship was going NOWHERE and he was complete scum, I'm just incredibly bitter.

At least I won't be paying off a moron's student debt until I'm 70.


I feel like after all this, cheating on me, lying about loving me, etc, however, he deserves twice the pain he caused me returned to him. I have no way of doing this, and it's driving me insane.
 
Lucario said:
Neither. Arguably first love, but probably not (had a one year relationship that was mostly long distance before him, and one quick.... something.... in middle school -- that was the "realize I'm gay" one). First physical relationship though, he took my virginity, and we were together so much I stopped being able to picture life without him; I was miserable whenever it was time to go back to school, I had nobody to turn to and.....


well, he was too stupid to have meaningful conversations with over text or IM, and everything just sort of turned into gushy love talk and the occasional video game news. >.> dude had to go to a for-profit college that accepts everyone, has no state funding, and will have a ~$160,000 degree in two years with no scholarships. I realize I dodged a fucking bullet here by having him cheat on me, that relationship was going NOWHERE and he was complete scum, I'm just incredibly bitter.

At least I won't be paying off a moron's student debt until I'm 70.


I feel like after all this, cheating on me, lying about loving me, etc, however, he deserves twice the pain he caused me returned to him. I have no way of doing this, and it's driving me insane.
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What he deserves is you not giving a shit about him. As long as you'll let him affect you he wins.
 
Alcoori said:
What he deserves is you not giving a shit about him. As long as you'll let him affect you he wins.
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What he deserves is rotting away of untreated HIV, looking 60 by the time he's 25, and dying unloved in a pit for telling someone he loved them to keep them hanging on while he cheated on them, then dumping them over the phone, acting like HE'S the victim because the person he wronged wants an explanation, and blocking them from every social messaging service on the internet.

I am not going to quickly get over what he did to me. I loved him, spent two years of my life with him, and he swore he loved me back with all his heart.
 
You're becoming "that guy" really, really fast. I recommend seeking professional help as soon as you can. This is not a snarky post. I'm genuinely concerned.
 
Lucario said:
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I understand that you're hurt and "angry" (euphemism), but like Rez I think you should go see a shrink. This bad experience is rotting you from the inside, and I fear that you may be overeacting a little (being furious is OK ; wishing the ex to die a painful and sorrowful death is a little too much). At least, you left him, and as far as I can see you really dodged a bullet, but you may need some help in order to manage/control your emotions. No judgement here, I'm just concerned too. You will learn from this experience, and won't be fooled again by this kind of person.
 
Lucario said:
EDIT: fuck it, it's not necessary, venting stopped achieving anything but making me madder. I want this hatred to leave me forever.
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I recently went through a situation where I wanted to punch a hole in a wall because of some boy. I found that excersise really helped me get out my aggression -- hours on the treadmill or running. It really helped me get all that frustration out. Have you seen the movie Chunking Express? There's a scene where one of the protagonists is going through a heartbreak and he goes running on a track, says that when he's sweating his body isn't able to produce tears. Wise words.
 
jorgeton said:
I recently went through a situation where I wanted to punch a hole in a wall because of some boy. I found that excersise really helped me get out my aggression -- hours on the treadmill or running. It really helped me get all that frustration out. Have you seen the movie Chunking Express? There's a scene where one of the protagonists is going through a heartbreak and he goes running on a track, says that when he's sweating his body isn't able to produce tears. Wise words.
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He should directly watch the movie, the ending makes me happy as nothing else (wich means i cry like hell for the entire closing credits every time i watch it <3)


btw not in a stance to say a thing, i'm still in the phase to desperately find a gay guy in a 100 miles radius *foreveralone*


But yeah working out help to reduce anger as nothing else
 
jorgeton said:
I recently went through a situation where I wanted to punch a hole in a wall because of some boy. I found that excersise really helped me get out my aggression -- hours on the treadmill or running. It really helped me get all that frustration out. Have you seen the movie Chunking Express? There's a scene where one of the protagonists is going through a heartbreak and he goes running on a track, says that when he's sweating his body isn't able to produce tears. Wise words.
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This.

Stop using the computer, go out and run, all day long if it's necessary.
Don't let anger get you thinking about horrible things for him, not even worth the time, focus on other things, yes the world is too small and unfair whenever you experience a breakup (specially if cheating was involved :( ), but as you said , you dodged a bullet, and you have ggaf to vent (but first go outside and work out, release all negative feelings) :D
 
I will give you the best solution there is when you are suffering because of a relationship gone wrong.

Go Ice Skating

yes, look for the nearest ice rink, rent some skating shoes and just move around in big circles around the rink, learn to stay on your feet, then go faster, moving straight in a relatively good speed. This will ease your mind and you'll be doing something for your body.

When my first boyfriend dumped me, I was like lucario, I REALLY wanted to kill someone, it was not fair, he was an asshole and before I did something stupid, I decided to begin a new hobby: Ice skating. I made friends, they helped get through it just by talking about anything (I wasn't open to anyone back then) and I began to heal, until I forgot... and left him behind.
 
On the age difference tip, I don't think it matters as much as overall compatibility.

My partner is 12 years my senior and we love many of the same things, have the same values.

He's my best friend and that's why it works.
 
krypt0nian said:
On the age difference tip, I don't think it matters as much as overall compatibility.

My partner is 12 years my senior and we love many of the same things, have the same values.

He's my best friend and that's why it works.
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Totally genuine question, when did you 2 meet? How old were you?
 
Alcoori said:
Totally genuine question, when did you 2 meet? How old were you?
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I was in my 20s. It was at a pool party at his house with his then partner. We didn't get together for a few months as he broke it off with him. They were in a convenient relationship that had died years ago but kept on moving.

There may or may not have been a three way involved.

I had home-wrecker guilt for a bit, but since we were completely in the open and all their friends confirmed that the relationship was finished long before me, I eventuality got over it.
 
So guys I know some of you know this because of skype but am I overreacting? I haven't talked to my bf in about 5 days cause apparently he was getting stuff ready for college. I mentioned missing him and being annoyed that he he said meh as the last thing before we stopped talking for that period.

Now I mention valentines and wonder if he will pop on to talk to me for a bit. Knowing he has school and all anyways. He just goes maybe and I go "All I get is a maybe?" and he says I'm just rewording it to make it sound worst. Am I? I like the idea of valentines and even a simple "Hey babe,Love you blah blah blah" would work for me. I couldn't even bring myself to say "I love you" when we ended the convo.

I've been with him three years,long distance was going to meet him at the beginning of next year. He normally bottles things up inside and deals with them himself and damned if I get even a bit unless he really explodes with it. Lately he has just been distant and I do love him so much that I regretted so badly breaking up with him early last year when I was in my grief about my mother passing.

He's always said he loves me and is in love with me. Has said countless times he wants to be with me and no one else. Is it just a mix of me wanting to much and him used to being closed off? I know I have troubles with gaygaf over other stuff but I do want some advice.
 
You were/are planning to be with him for four years before ever meeting face-to-face? :(
 
Rez said:
You were/are planning to be with him for four years before ever meeting face-to-face? :(
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I know super stupid and risky. But I've really fallen for him and saving up the money to go has only been a real thing this year thanks to fewer bills.
 
Well, I don't know the whole story, but you've never been in an "actual" relationship with him yet ? You've never really met him before ?

I'm... Confused. I didn't have any long-distance relationship, so I can't really tell, but you're saying that you're having this relationship for three years, and that you're not supposed to see him until next year, correct ?

To be honest, I don't really believe that your story with him can work. Since you know eachother for 3 years, I guess you do know some things about him... But right now, I can't really see that relationship as something else than a fantasy that has little chances to evolve into something real. But well, like I said, I don't know the whole story, that just my (biased) opinion.

You're saying that you want to go see him : did he ever expressed the same for you ? Is he the one who doesn't want to see you until next year ? I'm sorry, but without more information, I think something is fishy here.

... And, well, when your bf only answers "meh" when you're saying to him that you miss him, that's not a good sign. Between the distance and his recents reactions, it doesn't sounds good.
 
You should probably talk with him and express your concerns. If he cares about you he will listen and try to make things right and okay with what's wrong. But he's probably just been busy, it happens. Contact him asap though and see what's up.
 
To the bisexuals here, have you ever been caught staring at another guy/girl by your significant other?

I'm asking because I had an amusing incident today. On the way to my Osteopath, I took a bus and while dipping the ticket, I felt that someone was staring at me. So I turned around and found a hot guy looking at me with the kind of look that a gay guy normally gives to another gay guy. The thing is, he had what I assume to be his GF sitting next to him so I just assumed I was wrong and took a seat not too far behind them.

I then got distracted by this other hot guy walking outside the bus, while doing so, I inadvertently looked at the first guy and noticed that he too was now looking at the same guy I was looking. The thing was, this time his GF noticed his philandering eyes and immediately confronted him about it. I couldn't hear what they said but the GF was pointing at the 2nd guy while looking a bit pissed yet unsure at her BF. I was kind of mortified and got second-hand embarrassment from the incident. Before this, I've never seen anyone got caught by their SO while checking out other girl/guy. But it seems the 1st guy managed to diffuse the situation quickly.

But it didn't end there. LOL. The two ended up getting off earlier before I did but instead of getting up and walking straight ahead to the door, the BF looked back and stared at me again before turning around and finally went off the bus. I couldn't help but grinning after they left. Outside the bus, I noticed the girl was holding the guy's hand so I was right in guessing that she was the GF. I hope she at least knows that her BF is bi or something and was just upset that he was looking at other candidates.
 
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