So, with my social situation here at college rather lacking (maybe I shouldn't have mentioned that) I registered last week, and began with the chat rooms yesterday. It seems there are actually some people worth talking to, amidst the horny guys old enough to be my dad (sorry, NO) and the people with names like "muscleboi" and suspiciously professional-looking photos. But I'm still kind of paranoid about it. Anybody have any experiences with the site? Sorry if this sounds stupid.
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shoplifter
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I sat with my friend one night while he chatted there. About every other PM to him was: "Ever been with a bear before?"
Needless to say, I think the whole thing is hilarious. It seemed more or less a way to hook up with other guys, in a totally funny (at least to me) way.
Needless to say, I think the whole thing is hilarious. It seemed more or less a way to hook up with other guys, in a totally funny (at least to me) way.
Escape Goat
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Its a platform for hooking up but I have talked with some decent guys on there. Its just a matter of waiting and going through the losers and finding the good ones. Just dont take it too seriously and take it for what its worth.
videogamer
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Have you tried facebook? You won't have to deal with all the older guys.
What the fuck?Boomer said:
As for facebook, that would... um.. necessitate that I take the initiative... which tends to be a problem of mine. It also hurts matters that I go to a fairly small college, and am already casually acquainted with most of the gay students around my age...
Mercury Fred
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Paranoid how?FoneBone said:
I've used it explicitly for hook ups and it's ok for that, but by its nature, I'd say it's kind of an... umm... less than wholesome place to make friends.
I guess it all depends on what you're looking for. I met people to date during my undergrad by going to the campus gay group. Of course, that got incestuous fast.
Hmm, is your school near a city?
Also, quit being so shy. It's not making you any new friends, it's not bagging you a boyfriend and it's not getting you laid.
Spiritreaver
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The hell, I've never gotten hit on there. That must mean something. 
Horrible. Oh well, I've gotten responses from people at other sites so I'm happy.
Horrible. Oh well, I've gotten responses from people at other sites so I'm happy.Are there other sites that are any good? Most of the other sites I've looked at seem to have far fewer members.DarthWufei said:The hell, I've never gotten hit on there. That must mean something.
Spiritreaver
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Eh, I honestly seem to get more contacts from general gay communities and not through sites set up for people to meet others, but I've gotten responses from a couple of people on match.com, though I never really use that place. I've got no money, and you can't do jack squat on there without money.FoneBone said:
Lately I've been trying out downelink.com. I'm not sure it's for everyone, but I like it so far, it's set up nicely and actually feels like a community, kind of like Friendster, as opposed to a giant ad (I get that vibe from gay.com, it just feels so fake).
shoplifter
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DarthWufei said:The hell, I've never gotten hit on there. That must mean something.
Well, my as my friend likes to say, "Gay men are notoriously superficial."
I think it also depends on the area in which you live what kind of tone your regional room of gay.com takes on. Of course, every room has the guys looking for hook-ups, the 45 year olds that won't leave you alone, etc., but in my experience the room for Richmond, VA isn't too terribly horrible (relative to some other avenues). It's definately no more sleezy than actually going to a club or something, and as long as you're selective who to talk to it can be cool enough.
Well, for one thing, I generally won't chat with anyone without a photo. And if their pic looks too good to be true, it probably is.teiresias said:
What I think makes my situation particularly frustrating is that I'm not interested in just hooking up with someone, unlike what seems like 95% of gay men my age...
Well therein lies the problem. You have to remember the internet is a tiny subset of a population, and is very focused. A lot of it will be people looking for hooks ups on match sites (gay straight, doesn't matter).
Outside of it it sounds like you're looking for a just a normal relationship, the people that are going to be more into that sort of thing aren't going to be the ones advertising themselves everywhere trying to get laid. There's going to be a few guys out there, but most of them will be just as shy as you are.
Spiritreaver
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Wha Vark. If it makes you feel any better FoneBone, I know how you feel. That's what I'm looking for too and I've yet to find anything of the sort. My issue is I'm just so locked up in my house that I really don't meet people. I'll be working on that though, in a couple of days I'll be in an apartment right in town. So I'm going to go out and get my life together in a way. Hopefully all goes well.
But all hope isn't lost, I used to be pretty discouraged about meeting people. But I think that, seeing people like you looking for the same thing I am, well, it brightens my outlook.
If it makes you feel any better FoneBone, I know how you feel. That's what I'm looking for too and I've yet to find anything of the sort. My issue is I'm just so locked up in my house that I really don't meet people. I'll be working on that though, in a couple of days I'll be in an apartment right in town. So I'm going to go out and get my life together in a way. Hopefully all goes well.But all hope isn't lost, I used to be pretty discouraged about meeting people. But I think that, seeing people like you looking for the same thing I am, well, it brightens my outlook.
*Haven't read the thread yet*
Gay.com is a cesspool! I can only tolerate going there sporadically because it's a bunch of vacuous fags trying to get their "be here in 30 mins or less" fuck on. Once in a while I have a pretty decent conversation there and it leads to a good chat buddy...i guess just often enough to validate me keeping my account. At any rate, my profile there is very acerbic because being blunt is the only way for those open-assed sluts to get the point.
Gay.com is a cesspool! I can only tolerate going there sporadically because it's a bunch of vacuous fags trying to get their "be here in 30 mins or less" fuck on. Once in a while I have a pretty decent conversation there and it leads to a good chat buddy...i guess just often enough to validate me keeping my account. At any rate, my profile there is very acerbic because being blunt is the only way for those open-assed sluts to get the point.
videogamer
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FoneBone said:
Dude grow a pair and ask some guys out. Gay guys tend to be pretty easy.
Downelink probably won't hurt either. It's good just for checking out guys. Like come on, this guy is totally cute!
http://downelink.com/member/profile.aspx?id=33876
Somehow, I fail to find this reassuring.Hammy said:
Is that you? Regardless, damn.Downelink probably won't hurt either. It's good just for checking out guys. Like come on, this guy is totally cute!
http://downelink.com/member/profile.aspx?id=33876
In any case, Darth, thanks for pointing out the Downelink thing in the first place... I already found another GAFer on there, entirely by accident.
videogamer
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I wish!FoneBone said:
Spiritreaver
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Okay now that's freaky. The same thing happened to me last night, I saw a picture of a guy from here in the random slot on the homepage.FoneBone said:
Hmm... I (thankfully, I think) seem to get a lot fewer of the types of... solicitations I mentioned earlier, now that I edited my profile...
I dunno, regardless of what happens -- and maybe I'll finally find the courage to ask someone out eventually -- I feel better about myself than I have in a long time.
I dunno, regardless of what happens -- and maybe I'll finally find the courage to ask someone out eventually -- I feel better about myself than I have in a long time.
Jugendstil
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Well, gay.com is terrible and annoying and embarassing, but for what it's worth, I've met all the guys I've dated online. It really isn't that different from a club or bar in that 90% of the guys online are vapid and horrible, just like 90% of the guys you see in a club or bar aren't worth your time. That said, I never would have fallen in love if weren't for the internet and stupid gay.com. Give it a shot.
Ironically, i hate spam from gay.com, alt.com, and a number of "alternative" personal sites, in addition to the generic spam for cheap medicine, penis/breast enlargement, home mortgage, and porn.FoneBone said:
i don't know how free gay.com is, since most personals sites require you pay at some point, usually to contact the other members. Yahoo Personals and Match.com are pretty highly-rated, and Friendster is completely free from what i can tell.KiNeSiS said:
Grizzlyjin
Supersonic, idiotic, disconnecting, not respecting, who would really ever wanna go and top that
shoplifter said:
If you can think of a better pickup line, I'd love to hear it. :lol
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