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Girl advice (GAF help)

ROMhack

Member
Hey I'm kinda reluctant to post this because it's lame but I'd love some advice.

I've spent the past two weekends staying up until 4am with this girl I met (we live together in a houseshare). Both times, we've been out and then just hung out after in the living room. We've talked about stuff for ages (she asks me tons of questions) and then the room goes dead quiet and we just sort of stare at each other. Happens both ways and there's those sort of mini smiles involved - she directly commented on by saying my mouth goes up on one side when I do it.

I was getting a bit conscious of this and started staring into space instead (not really space though because I live here on Earth). She was like what are you thinking about and obviously I can't tell her what I'm really thinking about so I'm like 'nothing'. She's like, it must be something. I concede and say it is something but I can't say what is. She says that she thinks she knows and, paraphrasing, that she'll find out in a few weeks (?).

In addition to this, the intonation in her voice goes into girly mode a lot when she's being playful, but that could be because girls are just like that.

So yeah, what's the score here bros? I can't really tell if this is something or if my imagination is running away with itself.

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Should add that I've noticed that she's different when she's just with me. Can't explain so well but it's like she becomes really involved in the conversation.
 
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Have you ever kissed her? If not, just go for it. Women love a direct approach as long as they're into you as well and the fact that she spends so many hours with you is a dead giveaway. Worst case scenario if shes not into what you're into you can move on.
 

ROMhack

Member
Have you ever kissed her? If not, just go for it. Women love a direct approach as long as they're into you as well and the fact that she spends so many hours with you is a dead giveaway. Worst case scenario if shes not into what you're into you can move on.

I would but she's my housemate. It would be massively awkward if she said nah :messenger_grinning_sweat:
 
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I would but she's my housemate. It would be massively awkward if she said nah :messenger_grinning_sweat:

Ah, I see why you're reluctant. I would still say fuck it and do it before the moment passes. You can also talk about it if you want instead of a direct approach but I honestly can't give you a correct answer. It depends on her, how she is as a person, how she grew up, her views on society. Some may get offended if you try to be too direct, some may think you're a bitch for not doing anything, or some may just act romantically while they just want to be friends. Gotta go with the instinct here man. Either way, remember not to be a creep, like talking to her friends or whatever about it. Maybe some more experienced gafers can tell you more. This is just my personal experience. I blew it way too many times for not being direct but I do live in eastern Europe where women generally prefer direct approaches.
 

ROMhack

Member
She's into you brah. You might as well go and make the first move.

Just drop your pants and show her your schmekel.

Oh shit. I'm reminded now of the fact she was wearing a shirt yesterday and half the front buttons were undone. She stood up a few times and the front of her bra (I think the left side) was on full show. The more I write these things down, the more I think, boy. What the fuck am I doing. She must have known.
 
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Oh shit. I'm reminded now of the fact she was wearing a shirt yesterday and half the front buttons were undone. She stood up a few times and the front of her bra (I think the left side) was on full show. The more I write these things down, the more I think, boy. What the fuck am I doing. She must have known.
Well, don't wait anymore. Stick it in there and enjoy.
 

Winter John

Member
She talked to you and she wore a shirt? Jesus, those are the classic signs of a female in heat. Here's how to handle this situation -

Go to the vixen's room tonight.
Get naked and hide in her closet.
When the lust crazed little minx goes to bed leap out the closet while she's undressing and tell her you know she wants it.
Enjoy the sex.
 

plushyp

Member
If possible try to hang out casually with her in an outside environment to get a feel for her outlook and thinking given that you've only interacted with her in your houseshare.
 

Humdinger

Gold Member
She's seducing you. Enjoy the ride, but be aware that hormones and chemicals are hijacking your higher mental faculties, and you're going to get a little delusional. Depends on how much you get into the infatuation.

Judging by her behavior, she's done this before, probably many times before. Be aware of that, too.
 

ROMhack

Member
She's seducing you. Enjoy the ride, but be aware that hormones and chemicals are hijacking your higher mental faculties, and you're going to get a little delusional. Depends on how much you get into the infatuation.

Judging by her behavior, she's done this before, probably many times before. Be aware of that, too.

I think you may be right. I'll keep it in mind.
 

Sakura

Member
Just tell her you're into her or something fuck. If she pops some stupid "I'd rather be friends" bullshit then hey, you don't have to play these guessing games any more and can stop worrying about it. It's a win-win either way.
I can understand not wanting to make things awkward if she says no, because you live together, but it's only as awkward as you make it. If she sees you're unphased by it, and are talking to her normally the next day, then it won't be awkward any more.
 
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slugbahr

Unconfirmed Member
You like her. She knows it.
She likes you.
Don't make her take weeks(?) to drag the truth out of you.
 

M1chl

Currently Gif and Meme Champion
"Accidentaly" send her this thread and you most likely score. Such an amateur hour (or two days), you don't know what to do in private where you run out of words...
 

ROMhack

Member
Appreciate the responses fellas. I've had the whole day to think it through and will act on it should the situation arise again.

Over 90% of women expect men to initiate. Many women will be confused if they signal that they're into you and you don't make a move.

Yeah this is it in a nut shell. I don't wanna be that guy.
 
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Airola

Member
Hey that's a bit like what happened between me and my miss, and we've now been together for 16 years.

We talked and talked and talked. 3am, 4am. Long nights. Some weird moments talking about details of our faces, how her eyes look without glasses, she being really willing to take the glasses off and listen me describe her eyes. All the signs were there, but as I had always been super awkward with ladies I never made the first move. Luckily after a few months she told she likes me more than just a friend, but I went into some hyper awkward silence mode. I couldn't say a word to her for 30 damn minutes. Not even exaggerating! I was silent for half an hour and at times tried to say something but couldn't. I'm so damn glad she took it well and endured the whole thing until I was able to reply to her. That was in near the end of 2003 and we are still together.

I had awkwarded myself out from a potential relationship three times before and this was just about to be ruined too but luckily she was great about it and everything went fine. If it would've been up to me, nothing would've happened and I'd probably still be alone.

Man make the first move. It's rare to get a girl to make it for you.

In any case you can always know that this situation has actually happened to someone and whatever happens to you and her it will never top this in awkwardness:
 
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ROMhack

Member
Hey that's a bit like what happened between me and my miss, and we've now been together for 16 years.

We talked and talked and talked. 3am, 4am. Long nights. Some weird moments talking about details of our faces, how her eyes look without glasses, she being really willing to take the glasses off and listen me describe her eyes. All the signs were there, but as I had always been super awkward with ladies I never made the first move. Luckily after a few months she told she likes me more than just a friend, but I went into some hyper awkward silence mode. I couldn't say a word to her for 30 damn minutes. Not even exaggerating! I was silent for half an hour and at times tried to say something but couldn't. I'm so damn glad she took it well and endured the whole thing until I was able to reply to her. That was in near the end of 2003 and we are still together.

I had awkwarded myself out from a potential relationship three times before and this was just about to be ruined too but luckily she was great about it and everything went fine. If it would've been up to me, nothing would've happened and I'd probably still be alone.

Man make the first move. It's rare to get a girl to make it for you.

In any case you can always know that this situation has actually happened to someone and whatever happens to you and her it will never top this in awkwardness:


That's really sweet. Glad it worked out for you :)
 
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Go for a kiss next time you're alone.

And you know that part where you said you can't say what you're thinking? You're wrong about that too! You can say it bud. Don't have to be vulgar, but admitting you have a sex drive early is the best way to ensure you aren't looked at as friendzone material.
 

Silent Duck

Member
Appreciate the responses fellas. I've had the whole day to think it through and will act on it should the situation arise again.



Yeah this is it in a nut shell. I don't wanna be that guy.
Yeah, the biggest mistake would be never finding out.
I had a friend that wouldn’t make a move. It bothered him for years. He kept obsessing about this one girl he never made a move on and became unpleasant to be around. It started affecting his job too. He went from jokester to downright depressing to be around. I lost contact with him, but I hope he managed to find some small measure of happiness.
 

Papa

Banned
The good peg or the bad peg?

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Papa

Banned
Appreciate the responses fellas. I've had the whole day to think it through and will act on it should the situation arise again.



Yeah this is it in a nut shell. I don't wanna be that guy.

Report back Rommy. Make sure to use lots of obscure words on your date.
 
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SLoWMoTIoN

Unconfirmed Member
Worst thing that can happen is that you get metoo'd. GL gamer bro.
 
Hey I'm kinda reluctant to post this because it's lame but I'd love some advice.

I've spent the past two weekends staying up until 4am with this girl I met (we live together in a houseshare). Both times, we've been out and then just hung out after in the living room. We've talked about stuff for ages (she asks me tons of questions) and then the room goes dead quiet and we just sort of stare at each other. Happens both ways and there's those sort of mini smiles involved - she directly commented on by saying my mouth goes up on one side when I do it.

I was getting a bit conscious of this and started staring into space instead (not really space though because I live here on Earth). She was like what are you thinking about and obviously I can't tell her what I'm really thinking about so I'm like 'nothing'. She's like, it must be something. I concede and say it is something but I can't say what is. She says that she thinks she knows and, paraphrasing, that she'll find out in a few weeks (?).

In addition to this, the intonation in her voice goes into girly mode a lot when she's being playful, but that could be because girls are just like that.

So yeah, what's the score here bros? I can't really tell if this is something or if my imagination is running away with itself.

Edit:

Should add that I've noticed that she's different when she's just with me. Can't explain so well but it's like she becomes really involved in the conversation.

Does anyone these days know how to do anything anymore?

Are modern parents this bad???

I just read an article earlier today about a couple who were confused and then just decided to have sex and neither of them knew how to do it and where to put it in. What the heck is wrong with you people? This is simple shit!
 

Texas Pride

Banned
Stake your claim on that ass and put your car in the driveway. You're missing all the signs and if you dont take a hint she's gonna move onto someone else who does. You lead and she'll want to follow.


 
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