Girl cheats on you. Apologies. Give her a 2nd chance?

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I was watching "Along Came Polly" earlier today and I was surprised and disgusted that Ruben's 'wife' Lisa came back to him after fucking that scuba instructor. She got some nerve. I'm glad that Ruben didn't fall for her shit.

So, the question: if your significant other cheated on you, would you take them back if they asked?

This happened to me once. One of my ex-girlfriends cheated on me (with one of my friends, no less :lol), and asked for me back sometime after.

I took her back, too. :lol Only because she was so damn fine. :D The bitch did it again, though (and asked for me BACK again :S), and I just had to refuse her out of principle.

So would you?
 
No, anyone who does it once will do it again, excepting very unusual situations. But 95% of the time they don't deserve a second chance and if they get one they'll fuck around again anyway.
 
If I was crazy in love with the girl, even then I'm not sure I could forgive her, even if I wanted to. I'm not a jealous person, but getting cheated on is the kind of thing I wouldn't be able to get over.
 
I think the real question here is "If I watched Along Came Polly, should I immediatly kill myself afterwards?"

The answer ofcourse, is yes.
 
AeroGod said:
I think the real question here is "If I watched Along Came Polly, should I immediatly kill myself afterwards?"

The answer ofcourse, is yes.
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That movie was great if only for Phillip Seymour Hoffmans Character.

"I sharted"
 
you know I did try to forgive a girl who cheated on me once... but I never could... anytime I did anything wrong to her I made it right in my mind by thinking "well she did cheat on me" and for no matter how long we were together I could never forgive her fully..
 
Of course it would depend on the circumstances, but if my husband cheated on me (which I very much doubt he would), I would take him back in all likelihood. I am not saying I would condone the indiscretion, I just that think I would take him back.

If on the other hand I was physically assaulted, I wouldn’t take him back. There is a saying; The first time a woman is beaten by her man, it is never her fault. The second time, it is ALWAYS her fault… because she shouldn’t have been there for the second time.

It's an interesting comparason that, that I would leave him if he beat me, but not if he cheated on me (circumstances depending, of course).
 
catfish said:
That movie was great if only for Phillip Seymour Hoffmans Character.

"I sharted"
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THat was the only redeeming thing....and Jennifer's ass. THE MOVIE STILL SUCKS THOUGH. I HATE YOU BEN STILLER, except for Dodgeball and Zoolander!!
 
I could never forget they cheated. It would always be in my mind if he never answered his phone or had lame excuses not to see me.
 
Incognito said:
i did once. big mistake. we both cheated on each other cuz we were worried that each other was sleeping around. :lol
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Haha, sound like my friend.
"I have to know if she's cheating on me!"
"Dude you cheated on her last week"
"I know, I told her, she doesn't believe me."

Crazy people I tell you.
 
LakeEarth said:
Haha, sound like my friend.
"I have to know if she's cheating on me!"
"Dude you cheated on her last week"
"I know, I told her, she doesn't believe me."

Crazy people I tell you.
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:lol
 
It depends. If it's something that gets to me by word of mouth like a friend or a co-worker telling me she/he saw my girlfriend with another man, and she denies it, I give her a 2nd chance but begin my own investigation.

But if I get home one day and I find her and some guy going at it reverse cowgirl style in my own bed, then the police will find a pair of bloody gloves in my house.
 
evil ways said:
It depends. If it's something that gets to me by word of mouth like a friend or a co-worker telling me she/he saw my girlfriend with another man, and she denies it, I give her a 2nd chance but begin my own investigation.

But if I get home one day and I find her and some guy going at it reverse cowgirl style in my own bed, then the police will find a pair of bloody gloves in my house.
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*faps furiously*
 
Jewbacca said:
NO KICK this bitch to the curb. If she does it once, she will do it again.
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Is this true ladies of the forum? Inquiring minds need to know.

Also, anyone that ever used it, please explain "It just happened"
 
Boogie said:
Umm, are you accusing the ladies of this forum of being cheaters? ;P
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nope. however, some of them may have cheated and will be able to answer this question.
 
No, I don't think I could. There would be far too much tension and lack of trust in the relationship. Everytime she went out with her friends, you would be wondering if she's sleeping with another guy.

It would just cause further problems.
 
Alyssa DeJour said:
Of course it would depend on the circumstances, but if my husband cheated on me (which I very much doubt he would), I would take him back in all likelihood. I am not saying I would condone the indiscretion, I just that think I would take him back.

If on the other hand I was physically assaulted, I wouldn’t take him back. There is a saying; The first time a woman is beaten by her man, it is never her fault. The second time, it is ALWAYS her fault… because she shouldn’t have been there for the second time.

It's an interesting comparason that, that I would leave him if he beat me, but not if he cheated on me (circumstances depending, of course).
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Ummm...nice victim blaming. I think she shares some responsibility, but HE made the choice to beat her again so ultimately it's his fault.
 
Oddly enough, i just got an email a couple of days ago that the woman i've been dating, the one who thinks we're going together despite the fact that i've told her before that we're just dating, kissed and grinded on a friend of hers, though he initiated it.

i'm not really mad, i mean it's not like we were that serious, but the thought crossed my mind "hey, guess this means i can kiss and grind on another girl". i always told myself that if i was in a situation where someone cheated on me (yes, i consider kissing cheating) and i wasn't in love with the girl, i'd just hang on to her as i found someone else, but i'm not really interested in that right now. i think it if we were really in love, i'd have to end it, because it would just hurt to much to look at her again and know she violated our relationship like that. And if the punishment doesn't match the crime, what's the deterrent to prevent them from doing it again?
 
It's pretty hard to gain my trust. It's far harder a second time. I would have strong difficulty staying with someone that cheated on me. I can't say it could never happen though.
 
Kabuki Waq said:
once you lose the trust there is no point to continue the relationship.

Do not become another Shuri.
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Speaking of which, whatever happened to him? Last time i remember reading one of his posts, he got back or tried to get back with that girl.
 
Boogie said:
Or craziness. they can be built on craziness too.
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also alcohol, and sometimes pure hatred for each other :lol I guess that could be covered under the banner of crazy though.

Anyone on here actually been cheated on and then had it work out if you forgave them? How about spectacularly collapse after forgiving them?
 
I'm confused. I thought the official GAF line about infidelity was to hit it, but not let your SO know. Or is that just male infidelity?
 
Depends how long you've been seeing the girl. If it's something that isn't serious, you might as well forgive her if you want to fuck her a couple more times. She'll eventually cheat on you again.

However were it to be serious, I really don't know what I'd do. I'd try to say refuse her, but stranger things have happened.
 
I think it boils down to circumstances, how serious the relationship and how much you do (or don't) want the relationship to work.

Because I do think there are instances in which a second chance may be reasonable. In my eyes, a lot of it would be why the cheating happened. I mean, there's no excuse for cheating, but in my eyes, there are probably tells as to whether or not someone will do it again: (i.e: "he made me feel special", "you weren't around (big warning sign if you weren't around for a valid reason).", etc.)

And let's not forget people are prone to making mistakes, and they also change. I don't believe in blanket statements like "once a cheater always a cheater." They may apply in some situations... maybe even most, but not all..
 
calder said:
No, anyone who does it once will do it again, excepting very unusual situations. But 95% of the time they don't deserve a second chance and if they get one they'll fuck around again anyway.
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i did it once but i will not do it again!

so no you are wrong buddy
 
Yup. Make up sex is great, but there's nothing like revenge sex. Put the two together and you have dynamite...sexual dynamite.
 
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