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[ohamsie]

Nah, even if I took her back I would always resent her, and that would not be a healthy relationship in the slightest.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

Ummm...nice victim blaming. I think she shares some responsibility, but HE made the choice to beat her again so ultimately it's his fault.

Totally missing the point. What she is saying is it should only take one beating before you get the hell out of there. If you get beat again it IS your fault for staying with a complete psychopath.

I think it boils down to circumstances, how serious the relationship and how much you do (or don't) want the relationship to work.

Because I do think there are instances in which a second chance may be reasonable. In my eyes, a lot of it would be why the cheating happened. I mean, there's no excuse for cheating, but in my eyes, there are probably tells as to whether or not someone will do it again: (i.e: "he made me feel special", "you weren't around (big warning sign if you weren't around for a valid reason).", etc.)

And let's not forget people are prone to making mistakes, and they also change. I don't believe in blanket statements like "once a cheater always a cheater." They may apply in some situations... maybe even most, but not all..

I'm with Sick on this one. People are prone to making mistakes that is the way of the world. It would have to depend on the circumstance. To err is human. Not everyone can be of such firm moral character as 99% of the responders to this thread. Shit happens and it depends on what it is worth to you.

 

[fortified_concept]

Since I'm an extremely revengeful person IMO dumping her is not enough. So if she cheats on you, tell her that you'll forgive her if she satisfies any particular kinky sexual desires you might have (everybody has, don't deny it). After the sex tell her that you forgive her. The next day call her on the phone and dump her. And please don't feel sorry for her, she deserves it. I know...

 

[sol5377]

I would like to think that I would never *ever* cheat on my significant other, but my body sometimes wants to do the wrong thing, if you know what I mean. I'm confident that I can control myself, but somewhere deep down inside you always think, "What if some random fine girl catches you off guard and is ready to pounce you?" Would you be strong enough to refuse?? *shudders* I think the concepts of 1) betrayal 2) sin 3) guilt 4) trust 5) love, etc. are strong enough to keep many people in check (me included), even in the face of wet poon and bouncing boobs. I think if you love someone and if they love you back, then you would never do that to them (or want them to do that to you).

Now I know my wife would never cheat on me, but I do worry sometimes because she's a sort of nympho who can't seem to get enough. I think I can keep her satisfied, but it's a lot of (fun) work! What if I'm on a business trip or we're apart for extended periods of time? I trust her 100%, but that drive of hers is something that worries me a tiny bit. If she cheated, I think I can forgive her, but I'd be DEVASTATED.

 

[Kintaro]

Nope, GTFO. Resentment would run very deep. Too deep. So, nah. She cheated, thus ending the relationship, and quickly move on to other fish in the sea.

Now, the real question is, if she cheated, and you two remained cool, but not in a relationship... would you hit it again? =O

 

[Koshiba]

After my last relationship, I don't think I would take someone back after cheating. Though it probably also depends on the level of cheating, the situation, the type of person they are, etc. But after what happened with my ex, I don't think I'd be able to have trust. I took him back a couple times and he kept doing it. Yes, very stupid of me. I've learned from my mistakes.

 

[ToxicAdam]

When I was younger I would have said 'no way'. But now, it's not really a big deal. As long as she comes forward with the information and is sincere about changing her ways, then I don't see a problem with it. It's only sex.

 

[OG_Original Gamer]

No, always a bad idea. If a women isn't in love with you, she'll break up with you or cheat. Most of the time they want you back because you are nice guy. The best thing to do when in a relationship is to be cautious the first 6 months, this is the period in which she may or may not continue to be sexually attracted to you.

If she starts to spend less time with you, thats when the light bulb should appear over your head.

 

[Musashi Wins!]

No, it never goes away. And they may never cheat again, but you must be a person of startling equanimity to let it go and not use it against them and let the poison fester.

I've never met a man who could let it go. I've met a couple women who have.

 

[Mr. Lemming]

Personally I think it would be difficult to give someone a second chance, but then again whenever this conversation topic comes up, I always think of this:

 

[Manics]

I was watching "Along Came Polly" earlier today and I was surprised and disgusted that Ruben's 'wife' Lisa came back to him after fucking that scuba instructor. She got some nerve. I'm glad that Ruben didn't fall for her shit.

Thanks for ruining Along Came Polly for me. That's another movie I'll never be able to watch now.

 

[Blacklion]

nah i wouldnt give it the chance... it's never the same..
then again if it's just a "thing" then treat it as such...
i go by the saying ...scuse the pun

&%CK me once shame on you...... %$CK me twice shame on me.

 

[Doth Togo]

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[Alucard]

Feeling lazy so I'm only replying to the subject heading. It depends under what circumstances the cheating took place IMO and how much you two actually care for/love eachother. You can say "she doesn't really love you if she did that" but I personally don't believe that. Despite the fact that you may love someone, you're still human and subject to temptations.

I dunno.

 

[MIMIC]

Thanks for ruining Along Came Polly for me. That's another movie I'll never be able to watch now.

:lol I spoiler tagged it at first, but I thought that since it was just one of those "regular" movies, no one would care.

 

[Ristamar]

Thanks for ruining Along Came Polly for me. That's another movie I'll never be able to watch now.

Heh. He probably did you a favor. Aside from Philip Seymour Hoffman (and two very minor roles played by Hank Azaria and Alec Baldwin), that movie sucked ass.

 

[MoxManiac]

Hell no!

 

[teh_pwn]

Sweet makeup sex then dump her.

 

[ScientificNinja]

Take her back? Not likely. I'm rather fond of this bit of dialogue from Closer:

Larry: Do you enjoy sucking him off?
Anna: Yes!
Larry: You like his cock?
Anna: I love it!
Larry: You like him coming in your face?
Anna: Yes!
Larry: What does it taste like?
Anna: It tastes like you but sweeter!
Larry: That's the spirit. Thank you. Thank you for your honesty. Now fuck off and die, you fucked up slag.

Thankyou Clive Owen. Thankyou for delivering that punchline with all the merciless hate that betrayal deserves.