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[Ash Housewares]

:lol :lol :lol
drunk posters are teh fun

really? I'll drink faster

 

[nitewulf]

i really am drunk. im just careful about typos.
i was dancing around to bootsy collins music like an hour ago.
AND NOW IM HORNY.
YEAH BABY, YEAH!

 

[Smiles and Cries]

If I did not have porn I would forget what pussy looks like

I hate long distance relationships!

 

[Mr Gump]

I just got an sms from a girl i met saturday night which reads "This is gonna sound really bad, but i really feel like fucking u right now.."

Me am win?

 

[tetsuoxb]

GAF reminds me of the old otaku/2ch saying:

The number of years I havent had a girlfriend is equal to the number of years I have been living.

If you invested as much time and effort into actually getting out there and meeting people as you guys do in bitching about the fact that you cant meet people... im convinced wilt would have nothing on you.

Alas, this is not the case, and the introverted masses on GAF would rather bitch about girls to other introverts instead of being extroverted and actually talking to women.

 

[tetsuoxb]

I just got an sms from a girl i met saturday night which reads "This is gonna sound really bad, but i really feel like fucking u right now.."

Me am win?

you am total win.... post pics when you get back.

 

[darlyn]

I was trying to think of what advice I could tell you about meeting people, but really there isn't anything that really helps. I believe that meeting someone is a combination of serendipity and a bit of courage.

As for bars, I don't really think meet someone at a bar is practical if you want a relationship. When I man approaches a woman at a bar she is automatically on the defensive. i' not saying it is impossible, but it is a very difficult starting point. I know that I've never given my number out at a bar.

So how have I met guys I've dated? School. Work. Friends of friends. This of course becomes difficult if you are no longer in school, limited as to work, and have a small circle of friends.. so recently since I was new to Chicago I didn't really date at all for quite a while.

That brings me to internet dating.. I'm pretty social, so I didn't think this would be for me, but I tried it as an easy to meet new people in the city. It is non-threatening because you can chat with someone first, and figure out if they're really trying to get to know you or only want to get in your pants. I tried a few dates.. all were OK, I have made some friends, and I definitely recommend online dating if you don't mind putting the time in. (I've recently been seeing someone I met on myspace).

Oh, and being a jerk does work - with women who have low self esteem and issues that would likely drive you crazy within a month. Up to you if that is the approach you want to take.

(Ok, I'm off to a museum.. more later)

 

[robertsan21]

I was trying to think of what advice I could tell you about meeting people, but really there isn't anything that really helps. I believe that meeting someone is a combination of serendipity and a bit of courage.

As for bars, I don't really think meet someone at a bar is practical if you want a relationship. When I man approaches a woman at a bar she is automatically on the defensive. i' not saying it is impossible, but it is a very difficult starting point. I know that I've never given my number out at a bar.

So how have I met guys I've dated? School. Work. Friends of friends. This of course becomes difficult if you are no longer in school, limited as to work, and have a small circle of friends.. so recently since I was new to Chicago I didn't really date at all for quite a while.

That brings me to internet dating.. I'm pretty social, so I didn't think this would be for me, but I tried it as an easy to meet new people in the city. It is non-threatening because you can chat with someone first, and figure out if they're really trying to get to know you or only want to get in your pants. I tried a few dates.. all were OK, I have made some friends, and I definitely recommend online dating if you don't mind putting the time in. (I've recently been seeing someone I met on myspace).

Oh, and being a jerk does work - with women who have low self esteem and issues that would likely drive you crazy within a month. Up to you if that is the approach you want to take.

(Ok, I'm off to a museum.. more later)

i do not know from what planet you guys are from but i cant belive my eyes when i read this

When I man approaches a woman at a bar she is automatically on the defensive.

i have never in my life met a woman that where on the defensiv at a bar!
its the most easiest place to pick up girls at.

 

[Days like these...]

I wonder what gets more pussy?

Robertsan's looks vs. Cubsfan 'cocky and funny'

Let's all ponder and pontifcate about it for awhile...


Ok done if i was a betting man... Well let's just say i got 5 on Robertsan.



Luckily I've one-upped Ned Flanders and am currently (not right now right now like while I'm posting) staminating a cute 17 yr old!

 

[darlyn]

i have never in my life met a woman that where on the defensiv at a bar!
its the most easiest place to pick up girls at.

I only refer to women of quality.

Yes, if all you want to do is get laid a bar is fine. But I was under the impression this thread concerned finding someont to have an actual relationship with.

 

[robertsan21]

I only refer to women of quality.

Yes, if all you want to do is get laid a bar is fine. But I was under the impression this thread concerned finding someont to have an actual relationship with.

so your saying that so called "women of quality that are GF material" does not go out partying once in a while?

all girls go to a bar/clubs when they party, where does your so called GF material girls hang out when they want to party?

dont get me wrong here its not like i only pick up girls at clubs and bars, no no Robertsan21 picks them up where he sees them, if its a store,on the bus,haridressers,beauticians,beach or the streets i get down to it no matter where i am.

i think guys that has problems getting girls should do the same,

 

[darlyn]

They do.. but when I go to a bar it is to hang out with friends and enjoy myself - not to pick up men.

And I actually take it back, from the sound of it, it does seem that you can find a girl that meets YOUR standards wherever - on a bus, at the hairderesser, in a gutter. Good for you.

I just don't think you can have any meaningful interaction with someone when you just walk up to them in a bar. Half the time you can hardly hear what they are saying. Other than a general physical overview of the person..you find out very little. But wit, intelligence, integrity, the things that make me want to go out with someone and get to know them are not often apparent in that setting.

(ok, now I'm really going to the museum.. bbl).

 

[robertsan21]

They do.. but when I go to a bar it is to hang out with friends and enjoy myself - not to pick up men.

And I actually take it back, from the sound of it, it does seem that you can find a girl that meets YOUR standards wherever - on a bus, at the hairderesser, in a gutter. Good for you.

I just don't think you can have any meaningful interaction with someone when you just walk up to them in a bar. Half the time you can hardly hear what they are saying. Other than a general physical overview of the person..you find out very little. But wit, intelligence, integrity, the things that make me want to go out with someone and get to know them are not often apparent in that setting.

(ok, now I'm really going to the museum.. bbl).

one night with robertsan21:

goes ot a club"not a crappy club but a very exklusive one!" i look around to check where the hottest girl in the club is standing and then i go up to her and talk to her, i dance and buy her drinks and just have fun with her, hopefully afterwards i get her nr and then i call her or message her the day/ or days later, to see if she wants to go on a date with me and then i get to know here at that time!

thats how you do it, its not like you meet a girl and during the same night you get to know her straight away!
she does not want that when she is in a club/bar, she is there to have fun and stuff.

 

[EclipseGST]

Indeed. I've actually gone out a fair amount this year, and *SHOCK AND AWE*, no womens have made themselves available to me. Stop saying that the solution is as simple as going out of the house, people

Don't be afraid to be cocky and funny.........speak to the girls

 

[Pimpwerx]

*sigh* I avoid these threads b/c they are a train wreck of depression. But let me try and add to some of the advice cubsfan offered. I know he gets shit, but when you look past the laughs, there's some truth to his words.

1. Ratio - it's in your favor. With the exception of some of saussage fests I attended in engineering school, for the most part, the guy:girl ratio will be in your favor. I'm not even talking about parties, I'm talking about daily life. I've had to ride the bus the last week while my car is being repaired. In that week, I can tell you that I've got a lot of interested glances on the bus from some hotties, and some uglies. But the point is that I'm just sitting there in my work clothes, looking tired as hell, and zoning out to some hip-hop, and there are women around me eager to know me. You're the prize, like cubsfan said. You gotta assume you have an "in" into any situation. But always remember, the ratio is in your favor, you WILL find someone for you.

2. Failure isn't an option...it's mandatory - I'm sorry to say it, you will be rejected. It's part of the fucking game, so pull up your skirt and get the fuck on with it. There are some women who'll turn up their nose in disgust if you approach them and don't look "right", but fuck 'em, they're usually worthless to talk to anyway. There are plenty of gorgeous women out there with the same social anxiety as you, hoping for someone to step up to the plate and talk to them. What's the worst that'll happen to you? She'll say no? What'll happen if you never approach her? No rejection, but no acceptance either. GROW SOME BALLS! GROW SOME BALLS! Again...GROW SOME FUCKING BALLS! Easier said than done, right? Let me relay an embarassing moment that happened not more than a few months ago:

I'm talking all this crap about growing balls, but I get to Ft. Lauderdale with a bro of mine, and we hit up this nightspot on Riverwalk. Pretty nice place I'd never been to, but the crowd seemed out of my league. I'm in jeans and Tims and clubbing shirt, but only b/c the rest of Riverwalk is that way. My boy dresses nicer than me b/c he didn't know what to expect, but he's dressed right for this place. So now I'm feeling like second-banana, but it's really just a state of mind. We get in and cruise the place, then he's like, "Dude, you gotta go over and talk to those chicks there. I'm gonna go over to this other broad." Some days I'm on, some not, and I hadn't drunk enough courage that night. So I look over at the ladies he's talking about, and indeed, they were looking over in my direction. But instead of using the 3-second rule to jump on the grenade, I grin sheepishly and tell my friend we should get another drink from the bar first. We do that, and I finally get the courage, but when I go over, the one I pick out of the group tells me, "I've got a boyfriend, blah blah blah." I really didn't hear another word past boyfriend, and it was probably a lie. The point is, these broads were interested, but if you show no spine, expect no pussy. So while I'm striking out with these chicks, my friend gets his girl to the dancefloor, then out to the parking lot for a quick fuck. He was just visiting for a few days, and when he got back he's like, "Dude, I just fucked that girl in my car." One guy gets the "I got a boyfriend" line, the other gets ass in a parking lot.

Now, this is one single incident. Rejection comes and goes, you gotta get the fuck over it. Women want to be approached. Even if they don't like you, some women will keep up the charade just for the attention. All you need to do is be aggressive with your approach, then be wary of her intentions. If she asks for a drink before she gives you her name, walk away. I mean just that too, walk the fuck away. If she says "boyfriend" or "husband" even once, you make like Houdini. There are other keywords like "baby" and "STD" that you avoid, but just keep aware and you won't have a problem. So I've had nights like the one I mentioned, and I've had nights like my friend's. The difference has always been my approach and my confidence. She'll want you if you come correct.

3. Be yourself - Yeah, witty/funny/cocky has to be a part of it. Women want a guy who's confident, but also one who'll make them laugh. Cubsfan simplifies it to cocky and funny, but it can be more than that. But besides the laughs and the showboating, you need to let yourself through. I'm a bit of an ass, so I let the girls know it. I'm selfish, for instance, so if I meet someone who wants to eat up my time, I'm just like, "sorry dear, I can't go with you tonight, I'm exhausted and need to take a nap." Meh, some women will never call back. Others will try and find something else for us to do. Keep the ones that can handle your moods/whims. You don't need to bend over backwards for her. But at the same time, show her you're well-raised (like opening doors for her, complimenting her on her appearance, and other stuff), and she'll forgive some of your peronsality flaws. This is really only if it's someone you want to spend time with, though. Lucky for me I'm strictly casual about my relationships since I don't have the time or money for a gf. I'd rather spend my money on me.

4. State your intentions clearly - Most important of all is stating your intentions clearly. Otherwise, you'll end up in the friendship zone. It's been said a million times, but it needs to be said again. If you want to fuck this woman, you cannot be her friend. Lay on the charm, the compliments, the romance...whatever. But don't be her friend. If it means pissing off a few women in the process, so be it. Conversations with female friends can be tedious, especially if they have some woman they hate at work (and they all do). That's all they'll use you for, to vent. Fuck 'em. Let her know you want to be her guy, her lover. Better to play it too hard than too soft IMO. Too hard and she'll think you're a jerk. Too soft and she'll play you for a chump.

My game recently has moved from the clubs/bars to the streets/work. I've developed enough confidence that if someone catches my eye, and I think she's interested, I can walk up to her and start talking about anything at all. If I keep her talking for 5 minutes, she's mine. Ask for the digits early IMO, and don't forget the name. If I had to put a number on it, I'd say I lose 10% of the girls I approach b/c I forgot their names. If you forget a name, you might as well turn and walk away at that point. If you ask her to repeat it, some women think you're not interested in them, and if you try guessing...let's just say you shouldn't try that at all. I guessed wrong once...*shudder*.

So that's my lame advice. There are more women than men, and in Miami, there are countless gorgeous women to choose from. If you come correct, the world is yours. PEACE.

 

[ChronoMagnus]

To find a girl is really easy.

First off, no matter how rich, poor, stupid, un-actractive looking, tall, fat, or any other thing you are, there is always a girl who likes you.

If you don't have a hobby, make one up. Photography is the king of all hobbies.
Just start taking random pictures and make a couple of portfolios. Go out to parks or wherever and if you find a attractive girl convince her to let you take her picture.. If she does let you take her picture then your in. Just compliment her and ask her out for a coffee so you can show her how the photos came out.

Even in a deep relationship girls need to know your interesting or semi-mysterious. If you look boring, girls will avoid you. If you are desperate, lots of girls can sense that. So dont be desperate, be determined.

And remember girls biggest weakness. Their sense of smell is incredible. They hug their boyfriends just so they can smell them. Good smells bring happy memories to girls. Go to any club and you'll find girls talking about that cute guy that smelled so good. So smell good and dress to impress. Make them smile and giggle, and always look into their eyes.

So just remember to be cool and not be afraid to talk to someone your interested in. If the girl you like is with a group of girls, go ahead and talk to her in front of her friends. You'll score major points for having the balls to do that. The worse that can happen is you getting turned down. But always remember that little phrase "If at first you don't succeed, try, try again".

 

[Senior Lurker]

I'm in my first completely shallow "fuck buddy" relationship and its really not all its cracked up to be. At the very least though, it's assuring to know that I was never meant for the glamorized "player" lifestyle that I was caught up in pursuing...even though my looks dont grant me the right to have genuinely considered it in the first place :lol Having a girl you can talk to is better then trivial sex. Most of the time.

I am curious to know how you started this fuck-buddy/friends-with-benefits relationship. One time I was so busy I couldn't bother with a relationship; just wanted an "intelligent" girl that will call me when she wants me and lets me call her when I want her . Going to the movies together, as friends, is ok too from time to time, as long as nothing serious comes up. Dinner as well for example. But a relationship completely dependant on sex: HOW??? (assuming we want regular non-freaky girls who are also busy but want to satisfy their needs).

 

[demon]

So how have I met guys I've dated? School. Work. Friends of friends.

Fuck, this just kills me. :-| le sigh...

 

[norinrad21]

Fuck, this just kills me. :-| le sigh...

Buy me a PSP and i`ll make you famous kid

 

[demon]

Buy me a PSP and i`ll make you famous kid

Somehow I get the feeling I'd just buy you a PSP and you'd run off without making me famous, so no thanks.

 

[whytemyke]

Here's new advice.

Go up to the hottest chick you can find. Grab her ass, then look her in the eyes and say, "THERE'S the cottage cheese! I've been looking all over!"

chicks dig it.

 

[kablooey]

I don't even have a woman, but I feel like I have a pretty good idea of what I'd need to do to get one. I'm just too busy right now, and have too many other issues to deal with. :/ Just hang around places where you feel comfortable, around things that you're interested/passionate about. Hopefully you'll find a girl there that shares your interest that you can click with. There're just as many girls out there looking for guys as there are guys looking for girls (er, well, that might not be completely true...but pretend it is, for your sanity's sake ).

Girls dig guys who can carry a conversation about something they're passionate about. Although if you all care about are games and porn, that's another problem...but I'm assuming boogie/demon/et al aren't quite in this boat.

 

[marsomega]

Here's new advice.

Go up to the hottest chick you can find. Grab her ass, then look her in the eyes and say, "THERE'S the cottage cheese! I've been looking all over!"

chicks dig it.

Anyone that tells someone else to quote Napoleon Dynamite as dating advice deserves a punch in the face by the person listening. From the looks of the people you are giving advice too, like Boogie, they are more the qualified to give you some good knuckle kisses.

Napoleon Dynamite... This and the people who claim this is the second coming of comedy need to DIE.

 

[demon]

Girls dig guys who can carry a conversation about something they're passionate about. Although if you all care about are games and porn, that's another problem...but I'm assuming boogie/demon/et al aren't quite in this boat.

That's kind of another problem. Boogie has his ass-kicking hobby, and that's cool. I kinda mess around with photography, just mess around with guitar (although for how much I've played I'm pretty good because of past musical experience), and I kinda know a little about art because of my art history degree. But I find it hard to find something to be "passionate" about. It's almost kind of a psychological catch-22...I feel like I need hobbies and 'passions' to meet people, but sometimes I just feel too depressed or unmotivated to really get serious about something because I'm too focused on how much I want to meet people/girls and have a regular social life for once. The way I spent the last several years really fucked me over. Ugh...life rox, ya no wut i'm sayinn?

Anyone that tells someone else to quote Napoleon Dynamite as dating advice deserves a punch in the face by the person listening. From the looks of the people you are giving advice too, like Boogie, they are more the qualified to give you some good knuckle kisses.

Napoleon Dynamite... This and the people who claim this is the second coming of comedy need to DIE.

Napoleon Dynamite is one of the greatest comedy masterpieces of all time. You, on the other hand, can go to hell and DIE!

 

[marsomega]

Napoleon Dynamite is one of the greatest comedy masterpieces of all time. You, on the other hand, can go to hell and DIE!

Just as I was starting to like you...

 

[demon]

Just as I was starting to like you...

I'm going to wear my Vote For Pedro t-shirt today....just for you!




not in public though...

 

[norinrad21]

Demon.

Doesnt your mom have friends whit hawt daughters she could hook you up with, the way i see it if theres no hope, you could always you the mom card to get a nice christian chick.

At least thats what i would do if i had problem meeting women, my mom knows shit loads of Jesus girls

 

[whytemyke]

Anyone that tells someone else to quote Napoleon Dynamite as dating advice deserves a punch in the face by the person listening. From the looks of the people you are giving advice too, like Boogie, they are more the qualified to give you some good knuckle kisses.

Napoleon Dynamite... This and the people who claim this is the second coming of comedy need to DIE.

Regardless of how unfunny Napoleon Dynamite is, chicks still dig it, and I know from first hand experience. You say a line from that stupid movie and they'll recognize it and laugh. And that's what you want.

I guess all I can say is this, really: when I throw a dog a bone, I don't give a fuck whether it tastes good or not. I'm not the one posting in a videogame forum about how hard it is to get laid.

 

[psycho_snake]

When you're at school, its so easy to get a date. Most people are very social and most of those people have friends outside of the school so there is really someone for everyone., Its just the matter of getting off your lazy ass, going out and meeting people. For some people, thats harder to do than for others, but that the only way you're going to get anywhere.

I actually dont mind getting off with someone and then they just forget what happened, but I feel much more satiesfied with a GF now.

I used to be someone who was shy and I used to have a problem of going upto someone I like and talk to them, I had very little self confidence. To increase my self confidence, I did much more exercise and now. Even now my self confidence isnt excellent, but Ive been going out more and getting to know people and Ive found someone that I really really like. My advice is just increase your self confidence.

 

[demon]

Demon.

Doesnt your mom have friends whit hawt daughters she could hook you up with, the way i see it if theres no hope, you could always you the mom card to get a nice christian chick.

At least thats what i would do if i had problem meeting women, my mom knows shit loads of Jesus girls

I honestly can't tell if you're serious or not. Not that it matters.....I live 300 miles away from my mom, and I seriously doubt she knows anybody.

When you're at school, its so easy to get a date.

THANK YOU FOR THAT ENLIGHTENING BIT OF INFORMATION!

 

[Boogie]

When you're at school, its so easy to get a date. Most people are very social and most of those people have friends outside of the school so there is really someone for everyone., Its just the matter of getting off your lazy ass, going out and meeting people. For some people, thats harder to do than for others, but that the only way you're going to get anywhere.

I actually dont mind getting off with someone and then they just forget what happened, but I feel much more satiesfied with a GF now.

I used to be someone who was shy and I used to have a problem of going upto someone I like and talk to them, I had very little self confidence. To increase my self confidence, I did much more exercise and now. Even now my self confidence isnt excellent, but Ive been going out more and getting to know people and Ive found someone that I really really like. My advice is just increase your self confidence.

I can never help but break out into absolute uncontrolled laughter when the experienced and wisened psycho_snake imparts his great wisdom and knowledge about life to us in these threads.

edit: dammit, beaten by demon
Short, exclamatory, capslock sarcasm > meandering, wordy sarcasm

 

[marsomega]

Regardless of how unfunny Napoleon Dynamite is, chicks still dig it, and I know from first hand experience. You say a line from that stupid movie and they'll recognize it and laugh. And that's what you want.

Guess the type of "chick" you get doesn't matter as along as the you like the tits and ass?
Figures you have guys damning the girl when they're really getting whats comming to them anyway. Guess I'm confused but why bother sorting out all the "want, needs, and gimme gimme gimme's".

What ever tickles your pickle...

 

[norinrad21]

Maybe you should give her a call about your situation, moms know people with cute daughters. Trust me

 

[psycho_snake]

I can never help but break out into absolute uncontrolled laughter when the experienced and wisened psycho_snake imparts his great wisdom and knowledge about life to us in these threads.

Thanks boogie, I know how much you enjoy reading my posts and how much they help you.

 

[demon]

Boogie, no shit.

My advice is just increase your self confidence.

WANT SOME ADVICE ON GETTING MORE SEX? PUT YOUR PENIS INTO MORE VAGINAS! YOU'LL BE GETTING MORE LAIDS IN NO TIME!

Maybe you should give her a call about your situation, moms know people with cute daughters. Trust me

My trust in you is fast waning. My mom doesn't know anybody aside from a few people I've already known about for years. She doesn't have a social lifestyle. And even if she did know somebody, what good would that do if I'M 300 MILES AWAY.

 

[Boogie]

Boogie, no shit. WANT SOME ADVICE ON GETTING MORE SEX? PUT YOUR PENIS INTO MORE VAGINAS! YOU'LL BE GETTING MORE LAIDS IN NO TIME!

:lol :lol

 

[norinrad21]

Would you be happy with a Russian bride then?

 

[whytemyke]

Guess the type of "chick" you get doesn't matter as along as the you like the tits and ass?
Figures you have guys damning the girl when they're really getting whats comming to them anyway. Guess I'm confused but why bother sorting out all the "want, needs, and gimme gimme gimme's".

What ever tickles your pickle...

Well, if the thread was titled "God i need to find true love", and not "God i need a woman", well then we could talk about finding GOOD women. As it is, I'm under the assumption that this thread is about getting laid, not finding your soul mate. So yes, the type of chick you get DOESNT matter as long as you like the tits and ass, and as long as she puts out.

 

[thefit]

Have you tried cocky and funny? If that don't work try fynny THEN cocky.

 

[Boogie]

Would you be happy with a Russian bride then?

I've actually talked to one before online, I think. :lol

 

[marsomega]

Well, if the thread was titled "God i need to find true love", and not "God i need a woman", well then we could talk about finding GOOD women. As it is, I'm under the assumption that this thread is about getting laid, not finding your soul mate. So yes, the type of chick you get DOESNT matter as long as you like the tits and ass, and as long as she puts out.

This just makes some aspects of this thread disturbing like....

Maybe you should give her a call about your situation, moms know people with cute daughters. Trust me

Using your mom to recommend girls with nice tits and ass... The hell...

 

[demon]

Would you be happy with a Russian bride then?

If you're still being serious, then no. I'm not going to buy my way into sex.

 

[fart]

That's kind of another problem. Boogie has his ass-kicking hobby, and that's cool. I kinda mess around with photography, just mess around with guitar (although for how much I've played I'm pretty good because of past musical experience), and I kinda know a little about art because of my art history degree.

I ONLY MADE IT TO HERE :lol

:lol :lol :lol

 

[demon]

I ONLY MADE IT TO HERE :lol

:lol :lol :lol

umm, ha?


oh, if you were referring to the way I made my "hobbies" sound compared to Boogie's, I didn't mean to downplay the significance of his "ass-kicking hobby". He's been taking martial arts for about a decade and it's a major part of his life. He can tell someone he's into martial arts and be able to actually back it up. Me, I'll tell people I'm into photography and guitar and art only in the hopes that there will be no follow-up questions, if ya know what I mean.

 

[kablooey]

That's kind of another problem. Boogie has his ass-kicking hobby, and that's cool. I kinda mess around with photography, just mess around with guitar (although for how much I've played I'm pretty good because of past musical experience), and I kinda know a little about art because of my art history degree. But I find it hard to find something to be "passionate" about. It's almost kind of a psychological catch-22...I feel like I need hobbies and 'passions' to meet people, but sometimes I just feel too depressed or unmotivated to really get serious about something because I'm too focused on how much I want to meet people/girls and have a regular social life for once. The way I spent the last several years really fucked me over. Ugh...life rox, ya no wut i'm sayinn?

Yes, I no wat u is seyin. I completely sympathize here...then I guess the first step is just to find things to do that make you happy. I know the cocky/funny types have hammered this into your head by now, but nobody wants to hang out with a desperate guy, whether they're a girl or a guy. I guess I'm lucky in that I have friends from high school and such that I can always use to make connections...so I'm maybe not much help in this respect.

Though you're into music and such too, right? Go to concerts. Always lots of people there, and when you start going often enough, you'll start noticing the same people around, and form your own little "scene". And then hopefully you can branch out from there.

 

[psycho_snake]

THANK YOU FOR THAT ENLIGHTENING BIT OF INFORMATION!

You make it sound as though you went on plently of dates at school but in every relationship thread you keep complaining about the lack of love you have received in your life since school til now.

 

[Koshiro]

Boogie and demon: Guys, just stop thinking about it, it isn't as bad as you seem to think. Stop reading these threads, stop posting in them, and stop thinking about how ultra life-changingly important it is to have sex. Despite what some will say on these boards, it isn't a big deal, and you don't have to play tricks to get it. Just chill out, live life as normal, and one day it'll happen, probably when you're not thinking about it at all.

 

[demon]

You make it sound as though you went on plently of dates at school but in every relationship thread you keep complaining about the lack of love you have received in your life since school til now.

Like I've said quite a few times, I was really depressed and apathetic towards life and lived a real hermit lifestyle throughout almost all of college. That changed towards the very end, but it was too late. Hell, during 8 weeks of summer school after my last full-time semester I met more people and had more "fun" than I did in the previous five years (too bad those people were ALL from other parts of the country....sigh). I won't say that it's not at least partially a matter of social skills, but at this point, my situation is undeniably a big factor.

Boogie and demon: Guys, just stop thinking about it, it isn't as bad as you seem to think. Stop reading these threads, stop posting in them, and stop thinking about how ultra life-changingly important it is to have sex. Despite what some will say on these boards, it isn't a big deal, and you don't have to play tricks to get it. Just chill out, live life as normal, and one day it'll happen, probably when you're not thinking about it at all.

It's not just about sex. It's about any kind of physical/intimate/romantic/whatever interaction with the opposite sex. I'm 23 and I've never, uhh....fill in the blank. You can't tell me that at this point in my life I should be able to just brush that off as an insignificant problem and not let it bother me.

 

[Boogie]

Boogie and demon: Guys, just stop thinking about it, it isn't as bad as you seem to think. Stop reading these threads, stop posting in them, and stop thinking about how ultra life-changingly important it is to have sex. Despite what some will say on these boards, it isn't a big deal, and you don't have to play tricks to get it. Just chill out, live life as normal, and one day it'll happen, probably when you're not thinking about it at all.

On the one hand, this is probably good advice, but unfortunately, I really don't know if I can bring myself to believe it.

If I just "stop thinking about it", I really do believe that I'll just end up living my life as I have now, with nothing ever changing. If I just decide to "live life as normal", I cannot foresee an opportunity for it to happen. I will continue to train in my martial arts, hang out with my small circle of friends, and just mind my own business and keep to myself otherwise, be it in school or whatever future career I may have.

I don't want to sound like some frustrating contrarian, and I appreciate and acknowledge what you've said, that is just how I feel about that idea.

 

[Boogie]

Although I probably do agree that in general, these threads are unhealthy for our attitudes on these matters.