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[NintendosBooger]

She acts goofy and weird when she's around me, which means she likes me, but I don't know how to respond to her advances. Why? Because her father works in the same office and is one of my superiors (although we're not in the same project team). Furthermore, her ex-boyfriend works here, too, and they're still close friends (they always go out to lunch together).

She's very attractive and nice. We both have the same major and have a lot to talk about.

How do I handle this without it getting too messy? Help me, GAF.

 

[Desperado]

cocky?

and funny?

 

[Matlock]

"Have you tried 'the menage?'"

 

[Richiban]

Quit your job.

Don't ever dip your pen in the company ink.

The fact that her father is one of your superiors makes this an even worse situation.

Having said that though, if you are both working in diffrerent departments, it might make things a little easier to get around, but I think it's just going to spell disaster for you if you persue this.

 

[NintendosBooger]

The thing is this...

Her father and I are cool, almost too cool. You see we used to talk about the Coors girls during football season, and I used to explain to him what I'd do if I had the weekend with them and stuff. We talked about porn and penthouse. I revealed my ugly side to this guy and I don't think he'll be pleased to know that I show any interest in his daughter.

 

[galeninjapan]

cocky?

and funny?

and no peeing in the shower.

 

[Kung Fu Jedi]

First question. How do you know she likes you? Acting goofy and weird is not a sign that she likes you.

That aside, if you like her, and it won't interfere with work, than go for it. Ask her out. See where it goes.

 

[Tamanon]

Definitely don't do anything then. DANGER!

 

[Desperado]

The thing is this...

Her father and I are cool, almost too cool. You see we used to talk about the Coors girls during football season, and I used to explain to him what I'd do if I had the weekend with them and stuff. We talked about porn and penthouse. I revealed my ugly side to this guy and I don't think he'll be pleased to know that I show any interest in his daughter.

:lol

you cockblocked yourself

 

[NintendosBooger]

First question. How do you know she likes you? Acting goofy and weird is not a sign that she likes you.

That aside, if you like her, and it won't interfere with work, than go for it. Ask her out. See where it goes.

Dude, I can tell. I wish I could explain it, but she acts "uncomfortable" and "uneasy" when she talks to me. She stutters and gets shy. I don't know how to explain it, but I sense the tension. You know it when you see it, and I know it.

 

[Instigator]

The thing is this...

Her father and I are cool, almost too cool. You see we used to talk about the Coors girls during football season, and I used to explain to him what I'd do if I had the weekend with them and stuff. We talked about porn and penthouse. I revealed my ugly side to this guy and I don't think he'll be pleased to know that I show any interest in his daughter.

:lol

But the father seems to have a bad side too.

 

[galeninjapan]

Dude, I can tell. I wish I could explain it, but she acts "uncomfortable" and "uneasy" when she talks to me. She stutters and gets shy. I don't know how to explain it, but I sense the tension. You know it when you see it, and I know it.

Then whats the big fucking deal. Ask her out and then kick her Ex in the nuts on the way out.

 

[J2 Cool]

Then whats the big fucking deal. Ask her out and then kick her Ex in the nuts on the way out.

:lol

 

[aoi tsuki]

Seriously, it's a trap. Work situations can go either way and are best handled on a case-by-case scenario. The ex situation could be problematic, but not that big an issue. But having the dad as your boss is the dealbreaker. If you two have a messy breakup, it ensures a messy termination.

Best advice i can give is, kill her dad and frame the ex. Be there to pick up there to pick up the pieces.

 

[Brannon]

To help you with work ladies, GAF cannot.
ShadowRed, you must seek.
Bad relations with some nookie, he had.
Advice, he can give.

 

[bjork]

Yeah, no. Don't do it.

 

[AeroGod]

No Ackbar "its a trap" picture yet? Tsk tsk tsk, GAF.

 

[Drozmight]

Spends a few weeks training rats to kill and THEN kill her dad...

 

[aparisi2274]

She acts goofy and weird when she's around me, which means she likes me, but I don't know how to respond to her advances. Why? Because her father works in the same office and is one of my superiors (although we're not in the same project team). Furthermore, her ex-boyfriend works here, too, and they're still close friends (they always go out to lunch together).

She's very attractive and nice. We both have the same major and have a lot to talk about.

How do I handle this without it getting too messy? Help me, GAF.

Let me give you some advice.

"Dont Shit where you eat"

What that means, is you in NO WAY want to get involved with a girl at work. If that happens, and it doesnt work out, you are going to be working in one of the most uncomfortable awkward work situations. TRUST ME!!!!!!

 

[Tazznum1]

And if you don't treat her like a princess, her dad and ex will beat the hell out of you and you'll be jobless.


Don't do it.

 

[NintendosBooger]

Thanks for the wonderful advice. I talked to a trusted co-worker and I’ve come to the conclusion that I just need to warm up to the father in a different way. No more talking about girls, in other words. I’m going to acknowledge them in a more positive light while in his presence, and maybe he’ll get the hint and think I’m a good, clean guy. Hopefully, he’ll feel that our earlier conversations of girls was just me bullshitting.

 

[Tazznum1]

Um, you talk to him about porn. No dad would forget that.

 

[GLoK]

If you give even a REMOTE shit about your job, you're a fucking idiot if you do it.

The only way it could possibly work out if things go south is if it's a big company, and there is the possibility you could just transfer somewhere, or avoid one another.

But her dad being your superior lends itself even MORE to not doing it..

If you can't not tap that shit, you better make fucking SURE you two end your relationship on a good note and can still talk afterwards, cause if not, your job is ruined.

 

[Drozmight]

Every post I read in here I keep imagining the Oxi Clean guy saying.

 

[whytemyke]

The thing is this...

Her father and I are cool, almost too cool. You see we used to talk about the Coors girls during football season, and I used to explain to him what I'd do if I had the weekend with them and stuff. We talked about porn and penthouse. I revealed my ugly side to this guy and I don't think he'll be pleased to know that I show any interest in his daughter.

:lol

Classic!

 

[Lonestar]

If you hate your job like I hate mine, roll up all in her and brag about it to her Dad. BURNING BRIDGES :lol

 

[Tazznum1]

What do you do and how much do you get paid for it?
Do you support yourself (i.e. you pay your own rent in your own apartment and pay your own utilities)?

 

[El_Victor]

KILL HER!!!

 

[Manics]

Um, you talk to him about porn. No dad would forget that.

Everytime he thinks of his daughter and you together porn music will start playing in his head: chicka bow chicka bow-wow. You're doomed. Go find another girl that looks like her.

 

[ToxicAdam]

 

[Tazznum1]

Everytime he thinks of his daughter and you together porn music will start playing in his head: chicka bow chicka bow-wow. You're doomed. Go find another girl that looks like her.

Yeah, like her sister.

 

[Wellington]

I am a bit sour on dating girls that are family members of friends or coworkers. Sunday I was all set to go out with this one girl who I had been out with before, and we clearly like each other, but she is one of my best friend's cousins. Saturday I was chillin' with him at his house and I had accidently hung up on her earlier in the evening on the phone... she called me up and just completely exploded. To the point where I feared for my life so I cancelled Sunday night.

Problem is that I was cool with my friend's whole family and her family, but now I am going to get trashed every time anyone in that family is around, knowing her (she is way overreacting, I seriously did accidently hang up on her). Kinda sucks since they are great people.

Moral of the story is: Don't shit where you eat/sleep. I'd avoid the thing entirely unless you really really like the girl.

 

[Tazznum1]

Or grow some balls.

 

[cubanb]

profess your love for her on a flyer on the office bulletin board and then kill her dad

once he has heard he cannot unhear!

oh and post the results

 

[Wellington]

Or grow some balls.

I would, but she's Dominican and would probably rip them right off. :/

 

[Boogie]

I would, but she's Dominican and would probably rip them right off. :/

Hehe, reminds me of the story of one of my friends and a prostitute in Cabarete on my trip last summer...

 

[DJ_Tet]

To help you with work ladies, GAF cannot.
ShadowRed, you must seek.
Bad relations with some nookie, he had.
Advice, he can give.

bad relations with some nookie, too funny :lol :lol :lol

 

[Ristamar]

Spends a few weeks training rats to kill and THEN kill her dad...

:lol

 

[Deleted member 4784]

To help you with work ladies, GAF cannot.
ShadowRed, you must seek.
Bad relations with some nookie, he had.
Advice, he can give.

:lol :lol :lol

IMO, you should never mix work with relationships; especially when your co-worker love interest is also the daughter of a superior. If things turn sour, your life will be a living HELL there. The worst mistake you made was in being so candid with her father, because he will not see an ounce of credibility in your intentions. You're lucky to have such a casual work environment as well as such a great repertoire with your superior(s): don't endanger it.

 

[Lonestar]

now, it is possible that she acts that way because she found out that you and her father are Pron Buddies, and she doesn't know how to handle that situation. Or wants in on the PB Clique.

 

[Dilbert]

1) You want to date someone at work...?

2) ...with her ex-boyfriend working in the same office...?

3) ...a girl who is the daughter of your boss...?

4) ...a guy whom you've discussed PR0N with...?

5) ...and you've told all this information to a "trusted co-worker?"

Dude, dude, DUDE. Nice knowing you.

 

[Manics]

No wait, have you told her dad about how you really love the facial scenes in those movies? Cause then you are SO IN.

 

[tedtropy]

Possibility percentage of this ending badly....TeH M3gaton!11 :lol

 

[NintendosBooger]

Guys, thanks for the advice. Really. I'm just going to pursue this thing and see where it leads me. I think the whole thing about dating the boss's daughter is cliche, along with all the nightmare stories associated with it. Who knows, she might learn to dislike me after a few get-togethers at lunch.

 

[Tazznum1]

:lol :lol :lol See the only place you'll be lead to the unemployment office. Cliches are true to a large degree. You cannot overcome that mere mortal.

 

[cubicle47b]

Did we ever hear what ShadowRed decided to do and how that worked out? I don't remember him replying after page 2.

 

[Cubsfan23]

Guys, thanks for the advice. Really. I'm just going to pursue this thing and see where it leads me

Famous last words

 

[Deleted member 4784]

Wow. I guess some guys really DO think with their dickpenis. :lol

 

[Boogie]

Wow. I guess some guys really DO think with their dickpenis. :lol

This wasn't already self-evident to you? :lol

 

[Chipopo]

Haha, this is just golden

SLOWLY BACK AWAY! DANGER! DANGER!

Guys, thanks for the advice. Really.





But I'm hittin' that shit.

I'll be looking forward to the follow up three weeks from now