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[always crazy bacon]

Yeah, kind of. I was opening the store yesterday with some of the other employees, and 2 of them apparently used to be in a gang, and were high fiving and laughing and yelling. Some of the other new employees thought this was just the most "dope" thing ever, and they were all laughing and yelling and telling jokes and stories that I just couldn't relate to. I just quietly minded my own business and did my work, but I felt incredibly awkward while doing so. My own interests, personality, background, and disposition are the complete opposite of 95% of the people that work here.

Good. Use this as an opertunity to get out of your social bubble and interact with people you would not usually have contact with. You're the "new guy" will take some time to get used to each other. Don't run away just becuse you can't go to your default topic conversation about anime (or whatever). It's a job after all, not a social club.

 

[Daffy Duck]

I'm intrigued to know what wavelength your co-workers are on that you aren't.

How old are you? Do you live alone or with parents? Do you need the money? What type of retail is it?

If I was living alone and needed the money I would stick at it until I could find something else, if I didn't need the money and I lived at home I would just quit.

Good. Use this as an opertunity to get out of your social bubble and interact with people you would not usually have contact with. You're the "new guy" will take some time to get used to each other. Don't run away just becuse you can't go to your default topic conversation about anime (or whatever). It's a job after all, not a social club.

Also, this this good advice whilst you are looking for a job, you never know these people might just become good friends of yours.

 

[Pineapple]

Couple of questions before I can offer any sort of advice:
-Do you have any certifications(foodsafe, First aid, risk management, etc.)?
-Do you speak any other languages/are you learning?
-What is your academic background?
-Most importantly: Are you making enough money that you'd have at least 100 left over at the end of each month after all your expenses?

- No certifications.
- Don't speak any other languages.
- B.S. from a state university.
- Yes.

 

[Wolfgunblood Garopa]

Try adapting. Instead of fighting against it, maybe kind of just play a part.

 

[Hoho for breakfast]

Why work somewhere you hate that much? Are you looking for something else? I'd bail.

I once worked at a place for 3 days. They put me in the middle of the floor doing something completely dumb, with all these other workers around me doing their own thing and nobody said a word to me. I don't remember 100% but I'm pretty sure I mean that literally from what I remember. It was awkward af.

I was going to be late on my 3rd day (car issues) and I just said fuck it, called in and said I wouldn't be back.

 

[Pineapple]

I'm intrigued to know what wavelength your co-workers are on that you aren't.

Just personality, disposition, past experiences, etc.. Everyone else is always high fiving, acting kind of rambunctious behind the scenes, telling crude jokes, etc. Many of them talk crudely and demeaningly about past experiences they've had with women, drugs, etc. It just makes me uncomfortable, and I just can't relate at all.

How old are you? Do you live alone or with parents? Do you need the money? What type of retail is it?

Late 20s. Live with a rommate. Don't need the money in the short term, as I have some saved up from previous jobs. High end grocery. I'm in grad school as well, so this was just something to bring in some extra money, and not a career type position by any means.

 

[dreams]

Honestly, if you hate it that bad, look for something else. But continue working until you have something new lined up. Like others have said, just leave this one off your resume. I've done this before and it didn't hurt my job prospects at all. If they ask about the gap, you can say you were traveling or something. You're too young to continue working at a job you absolutely hate like this.

 

[Hoho for breakfast]

Just personality, disposition, past experiences, etc.. Everyone else is always high fiving, acting kind of rambunctious behind the scenes, telling crude jokes, etc. Many of them talk crudely and demeaningly about past experiences they've had with women, drugs, etc. It just makes me uncomfortable, and I just can't relate at all.

Honestly I'm lower middle class and that's my experience with just about every guy I've worked with. Probably why I don't really have any friends lol. I don't like the crudeness and drug/alcohol talk either, but it seems like it's either that or cars, which I know nothing about.

Edit: basically what siddx says below.

 

[siddx]

You can certainly tell your boss this job hasn't been the right fit for you and quit, but your complaints about the job seem to stem from the social aspect which makes me wonder if this isn't going to just happen again until you learn to be more comfortable around others who aren't like you. Or learn to not care about it.

 

[One Eyed Willy]

Find another job first, then quit.

 

[OneLessIcon]

I think you already know this, but don't stick around, and don't feel bad about leaving. Something I've learned throughout my career is it's ok to put yourself first - because nobody else will.

 

[electr8r]

I'm practically in the same boat TC! I have a bachelors degree and I'm working in retail as a freight merchandiser. My coworkers are pretty cool though and managers are alright. There's one coworker who is on my level and we can always have an interesting conversation. That really helps a sucky retail job. I've been in a job where my coworkers were opposite. You have to adapt or either ignore them. This job isn't bad or good. It's something.

I quit my last job a few months ago because the main boss/owner was taking advantage of my music creativity. My job was totally something different and I was asked to create music in the meantime. I did that, but my boss put my music up on company website before I ever even signed a contract or had my ok. He even had the gall to not even credit me and in meantime was making a big deal about small things with my regular job. It was for a higher up educational company too. There was a lot more about him I couldn't stand. So I just quit one day without any notice. Fell back onto my retail job which is at least something and less stressful.

The things that will make me instantly quit a job are

- Horrible boss
- Actual physical pain or danger from job
- Morally conflicting with my standards

 

[always crazy bacon]

Honestly I'm lower middle class and that's my experience with just about every guy I've worked with. Probably why I don't really have any friends lol. I don't like the crudeness and drug/alcohol talk either, but it seems like it's either that or cars, which I know nothing about.

Beer, cars, big tits and football. Yup, typical safe topics for men in a group that don't know each other well. Here's the secret, many of them are just pretending to be like that to fit in.

 

[bennywhatever]

Real world answer:

-Start looking for other jobs, but keep this one. Expand your knowledge to try and pad your resume.
-You need to start figuring out a way to tolerate your job more. You got yourself in that position so instead of complaining and hating everything, figure out a way to make the best of it. Talk to customers. Continue trying to engage with coworkers to find some common ground. Take extra shifts to make extra money. You got yourself in this situation so make the best of it until you can find something else.

 

[Condom]

You might adapt to it automatically. I had the same reaction @ the social culture but apparently that was just because of how different it is compared to my previous job. Love my job now.

 

[electr8r]

I actually find my passion for music to go a long ways dealing with people. I love all genres of music so I can discuss music with practically any coworker/manager.

 

[DonShula]

Just personality, disposition, past experiences, etc.. Everyone else is always high fiving, acting kind of rambunctious behind the scenes, telling crude jokes, etc. Many of them talk crudely and demeaningly about past experiences they've had with women, drugs, etc. It just makes me uncomfortable, and I just can't relate at all.



Late 20s. Live with a rommate. Don't need the money in the short term, as I have some saved up from previous jobs. High end grocery. I'm in grad school as well, so this was just something to bring in some extra money, and not a career type position by any means.

Yeah just go ahead and quit. It's one thing if you need the money. But since this is part time and you're in grad school, what's the point? They aren't giving you the hours they promised anyway - that's your professional out. Just be polite on the way out the door.

 

[SomTervo]

If you're still in the trial period and go to your boss and say you don't feel like it's a good fit they'll completely understand.

 

[Jack The Nipper]

- No certifications.
- Don't speak any other languages.
- B.S. from a state university.
- Yes.

These questions dont matter. Quit or don't only you know you well and find a job.

 

[Kuroi Gogeta]

- No certifications.
- Don't speak any other languages.
- B.S. from a state university.
- Yes.

Best advice you'll get from people here is some variation of this:

Grit your teeth and bear it for at least a couple months, use the extra money you've been warning and get some certificates. Things like first aid or non violent crisis intervention can take a few hours or a day to receive and can be relatively cheap, any sort of computer related certs can really boost your resume. Download Duolingo or utilize one of the gaf language threads and start learning a second language such as Spanish, mandarin, or Japanese and indicate in your resume that you are at a beginner level for that language. You need to build your resume so you stand out more to other employers.

In the mean time though you need to practice some self care to keep yourself from going crazy at work. You can try meditation, you can try and mention your personal interests to customers, sometimes customers turn out to be gamers or sci Fi fans or whatever. A good conversation with a customer helps your interpersonal skills and makes it tolerable to work in that setting.